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Not knowing how to cook depends on what the guy eats.It could be that he eats one very very native food that she can't prepare and foods like rice is not in his list..then he says she can't cook. His mother might cook a kind of food in a different way that taste differently from that of his wife,and he says she cannot cook..

Marrying a lady who doesn't know how to cook is like buying a car without an engine.

Such family will subscribe monthly or yearly to MR BIGGS bundles.

It is un-African and an abomination

LaurelP:
Its a simple question. Can you marry a lady who only knows how to cook just indomie and boil water?

If that's about the only snag, yes I can. I can cook pretty well, so I'll fill in for a while, pending when she completes a practical tutelage from my mum.

dovelike:
Not knowing how to cook depends on what the guy eats.It could be that he eats one very very native food that she can't prepare and foods like rice is not in his list..then he says she can't cook. His mother might cook a kind of food in a different way that taste differently from that of his wife,and he says she cannot cook..

Yea...that's another way of looking at it.

Only few Naija men can marry a girl who cant cook. Moost of them be like 'cooking is her main responsibility nah, thats what i married her for' mtcheeew.

2buff:
When it comes to marriage, love is not enough.
And it is unwise to marry someone thinking "You will change them". It can only happen if they WANT the change.
You would have to marry her perfectly okay with the fact that whether she learns or not it changes nothing, or there will be problems.

Because what if you marry her finish only to realize that she doesn't know how because she doesn't WANT to learn? or that she finds it "de-meaning" (Yes, I have heard this from a girl's mouth before. sad).

Also, no respectable female of african decent past the age of 23 can even get away with that nonsense, unless she grew up as a princess in some palace, and even THEY don't slack when it comes to how to take care of things. She would have to be really really spoilt or ignorant to not know how.

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Yes

mayapop:
Is there any lady who knows how to cook only Indomie and nothing else, hmmm

trust me maam,there are...I was oppportuned to have met one...although she was a maestro at preparing indomie...that was just about all she could do in the kitchen.

mayapop:
Is there any lady who knows how to cook only Indomie and nothing else, hmmm

SURE... YOU, FOR EXAMPLE ..

Lordabas:


If a man really loves her woman, he wouldn't care if she can't cook or not



Besides,you can always eat her out

HMMM

ireneony:
I can't marry a guy that can't cook either

INSERIOSNESS..WHY WILL A MAN BE THE ONE TO COOK FOR YOU .. ARE YOU FROM THIS PLANET ATALL

adeitoro:
Marrying a lady who doesn't know how to cook is like buying a car without an engine.

Such family will subscribe monthly or yearly to MR BIGGS bundles.

It is un-African and an abomination

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Davidairmarshal:
INSERIOSNESS..WHY WILL A MAN BE THE ONE TO COOK FOR YOU .. ARE YOU FROM THIS PLANET ATALL

am not saying a man shud cook for me, but at least shud know how to cook.
what ur problem is it bad when a man cook.

mtchewww

Lordabas:


If a man really loves her woman, he wouldn't care if she can't cook or not



Besides,you can always eat her out

That would be rewarding bad behavior
What incentive will she now have to learn what her mates learnt years ago?

Her own can only be the dessert after she produces better main course from the kitchen.

I know for a fact that I can't marry a man who can't cook or who isn't willing to learn.

I suck @ cooking so it's very important he knows how to cook. You hv to think about stuff like, who is going to cook for the kids if we decide to have them?

It's not prudent, most especially not healthy to eat out everyday.

BananaBender:
I know for a fact that I can't marry a man who can't cook or who isn't willing to learn.

I suck @ cooking so it's very important he knows how to cook. You hv to think about stuff like, who is going to cook for the kids if we decide to have them?

It's not prudent, most especially not healthy to eat out everyday.

Ah yes, the feminist.
So, HE is the one that should learn abi? And you will continue to proudly remain in as profound a state of culinary ignorance as possible...because it's the feminist thing to do.

Well done. Best of luck finding that (white) man.
That, or You better be the main bread-winner of that house too.

2buff:
Ah yes, the feminist.
So, HE is the one that should learn abi? And you will continue to proudly/gladly remain in as profound a state of culinary ignorance as possible...because it's the feminist thing to do.

Well done. Best of luck finding that (white) man.
That, or You better be the main bread-winner of that house too.

Lol, come off that joor! There are many black men who willingly cook for their women and it's not that once in a blue moon kind of thing, "It's hunny, im hungry can you make me breakfast or cook some bolognese please" You don't need a white man for that.

2buff:
Ah yes, the feminist.
So, HE is the one that should learn abi? And you will continue to proudly/gladly remain in as profound a state of culinary ignorance as possible...because it's the feminist thing to do.

Well done. Best of luck finding that (white) man.
That, or You better be the main bread-winner of that house too.

"Not cooking" is the feminist thing to do? LMAO! How does me sucking @ cooking hv anything to do with feminism??

I won't marry a man that doesn't complement me. I am well aware of my strengths and weaknesses Mr.

I have no problem being the main bread-winner. What does that even mean?? If my man works, we combine our money together, there is no main, nor side bread-winner where I'm concerned.

I don't need the luck, keep it to yourself. I don't think that would be a problem, a lot of my Nigerian male friends know how to cook a bit and are not against learning. My bf tries, though I think he over-hypes his cooking abilities.

Davidairmarshal:
INSERIOSNESS..WHY WILL A MAN BE THE ONE TO COOK FOR YOU .. ARE YOU FROM THIS PLANET ATALL

INSERIOSNESS

Why can't a man cook for his wife?
Are there federal laws against it?
Are you from this planet at all?

kandiikane:
Lol, come off that joor! There are many black men who willingly cook for their women and it's not that once in a blue moon kind of thing, "It's hunny, im hungry can you make me breakfast or cook some bolognese please" You don't need a white man for that.

I'm not talking about that. I cook for my GF too, but that would be because she can do the same for me. I was addressing the sheer arrogance of this her implied statement.
i.e. "I don't/can't cook and I won't be learning how. If he doesn't know how, he must be the one to learn how to cook. I can't really be arsed with it."

2buff:
I'm not talking about that. I cook for my GF too, but that would be because she can do the same for me. I was addressing the sheer arrogance of this her implied statement.
i.e. "I don't/can't cook and I won't be learning how. The man must know how or be the one to learn how to cook. I can't really be arsed with it."

Oh right.... but maybe you are thinking that's what she meant because she is a feminist, to you, anything that comes out of her mouth would be anti-men even if she wrote blah?

kandiikane:
Oh right.... but maybe you are thinking that's what she meant because she is a feminist, to you, anything that comes out of her mouth would be anti-men even if she wrote blah?

I was addressing the arrogance. Her being a feminist is really just a minute detail of the actual matter.
Why did she not say "I suck at cooking, but I am also interested in learning". She instead relegated it as something her man will be doing, or more insultingly, must learn to do. Because she has just decided that she won't be learning it from her end as well.

BananaBender:
"Not cooking" is the feminist thing to do? LMAO! How does me sucking @ cooking hv anything to do with feminism??

I won't marry a man that doesn't complement me. I am well aware of my strengths and weaknesses Mr.

I have no problem being the main bread-winner. What does that even mean?? If my man works, we combine our money together, there is no main, nor side bread-winner where I'm concerned.

I don't need the luck, keep it to yourself. I don't think that would be a problem, a lot of my Nigerian male friends know how to cook a bit and are not against learning. My bf tries, though I think he over-hypes his cooking abilities.

And she has even managed to find a man that tries, yet she still has mouth to be judge...
Nansense

Zeemoor:
INSERIOSNESS

Why can't a man cook for his wife?
Are there federal laws against it?
Are you from this planet at all?

Zeemoorstic, Long time. Welcome to 2Buff's kitchen.
What would you like? Ofada rice with goat meat? Or something much more eloquent?

2buff:
I was addressing the arrogance. Her being a feminist is really just a minute detail of the actual matter.
Why did she not say "I suck at cooking, but I am also interested in learning". She instead relegated it as something her man will be doing, or must insultingly, must learn to do. Because she has just decided that she won't be learning how to do it too.

but that's her own opinion though. Everyone has things they want in their partner and one of hers is someone that can cook or willing to learn to cook. Now, let's be honest, if this was the other way round would you be calling her(if she was a guy) a chauvinist?

Personally, I don't see the big deal in this cooking issue because it is a skill that can be learnt and if both are too busy to learn, there are people out there who enjoy it and get paid to make it for you in your house. Why would I stress myself trying to cook meals for 9 people when I can have a professional chef in my home making us meals? There are better issues in this world to worry about than worrying about who should cook.

kandiikane:
but that's her own opinion though. Everyone has things they want in their partner and one of hers is someone that can cook or willing to learn to cook. Now, let's be honest, if this was the other way round would you be calling her(if she was a guy) a chauvinist?

Personally, I don't see the big deal in this cooking issue because it is a skill that can be learnt and if both are too busy to learn, there are people out there who enjoy it and get paid to make it for you in your house. Why would I stress myself trying to cook meals for 9 people when I can have a professional chef in my home making us meals? There are better issues in this world to worry about than worrying about who should cook.

Hmm, professional kini? babes, In this part of the world, just be sure you are pulling in the kind of CEO money to accommodate that lifestyle.
Cuz if you want to be doing that on normal salary, and think it's sustainable, you are on a long thing.

I know proudly lazy people will say everything possible to maintain their laziness, even if it is highly impractical.
Na una life sha.

2buff:
I was addressing the arrogance. Her being a feminist is really just a minute detail of the actual matter.
Why did she not say "I suck at cooking, but I am also interested in learning". She instead relegated it as something her man will be doing, or more insultingly, must learn to do. Because she has just decided that she won't be learning it from her end as well.

LoL, arrogance? Did u read the thread? A lot of people on here were mandating that their partners know how to cook. Why are u picking on me...... because I'm female?

Buffy the vampire slayer
Evening, sire

2buff:
Zeemoorstic, Long time.

Thanks but I don't eat out

Welcome to 2Buff's kitchen.
What would you like babes? Ofada rice with goat meat? Or something much more eloquent?

2buff:
Hmm, babes, in this part of the world, just be sure you are pulling in the kind of CEO money to accomodate that lifestyle.
Cuz if you want to do that on normal salary, and think it's sustainable, you are on a long thing.

I know proudly lazy people will say everything possible to maintain their laziness, even if it is highly impractical. Na dia life sha.

I think it is lazy people that use condition/situation as an excuse to stop themselves from working that hard to get such luxuries in life.
If one was ambitious, where you live shouldn't stop you from living such a lifestyle, It shouldn't even cross your mind.

There is a difference between laziness and determination.

eighTHREAD:
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Why are you calling out my name?

I can perfectly understand that he wants a wife who knows how to cook.

Zeemoor:
Buffy the vampire slayer
Evening, sire

Thanks but I don't eat out

Out keh? Oya make we go chop inside