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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by otiigba1(m): 6:41pm On Dec 25, 2014
@op ask her if she would like me to toast her tongue
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by saxtinz(m): 6:48pm On Dec 25, 2014
peeparty:
my sister tell her I said she should stop praying,fasting.or even bordering herself about the matter,tell her I said constant praise and applying kingdom principle is d deal
. WORD,yes,praises,true one,deep inside of her,let her praise God for who He is and for what He is making with her life,although might be unknown to us now.and to everyone here,praises praises praises,everytime,everywhere.hallelujah.....
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by red101(f): 6:51pm On Dec 25, 2014
She could maybe start kissing frogs until she meets the right person... doesn't sound glamorous but it's a step.
not every one is lucky enough to meet "the one" early in life and live a cinderella story.

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by otiigba1(m): 7:07pm On Dec 25, 2014
red101:
She could maybe start kissing frogs until she meets the right person... doesn't sound glamorous but it's a step.
not every one is lucky enough to meet "the one" early in life and live a cinderella story.
cheesy grin kissing frogs? Which frog? So men like me are frogs now eeh? tongue
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by specexcel: 7:50pm On Dec 25, 2014
Let her seach herself. Character and altitide if she is good then she shld pray more,she will find her own husband
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 7:52pm On Dec 25, 2014
tomzman:
You see what you get when you are too choosy when it comes to suitors. Except a lady is not fine or lacks good character or is lacking in assets wink or there are some spiritual forces following her, there is no way on earth guys wouldn't troop around her especially when she is between the age of 16-25. Anything after that age, the number tends to reduce drastically as most guys would consider her as old. It is very much unlikely that even a 37yr old unmarried man would decide to go for a 35yr old lady if he decides to get married. He would most likely prefer a much younger woman.

Well, at 35, only divine intervention is left. Let her be more prayerful and be a little more social. Let her go out more with friends and drop the introvert attitude. Though I have seen a woman of close to 40yrs get married in my church, it's not my prayer for any lady cos I know what the lady went through. So ladies, if you really desire to get married, dont be overchoosy (if there's any word like that) in your young age cos you'll end up regretting it.
Typical African mentality. You're not smart at all

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by cozy7(m): 8:00pm On Dec 25, 2014
ladymichael:
I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?
LET ME ADJUST HER DRESS CODE, BECOME MORE SOCIAL, FRIENDLY NOT CHEAP BUT EXTRA PRAYERFUL. LET HER NOT FEEL OR ACT DESPERATE.
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 8:00pm On Dec 25, 2014
lestat:
@ OP

The rate of over 30 unmarried ladies in Nigeria is so friggin high its mind boggling , but they mostly all fit one profile

1. Used to be really hot @ some point

2. Thought the world ought to bow at their feet

3. Proud, arrogant, and always acting all diva like etc

4. once they pass 32 they all started all of a sudden having good characters, humble, quiet and going to church three times a week

Solution?

Let her put up an AD on www.ngcareers.com for the role of Husband maybe she will get some great CV's from applicants
Not everyone is interested in marriage, get that into your smal head.
Secondly most men are becoming very lazy, they graduate at 24 and live with parents till they are 32years praying and fasting for a job and finally when they get one it takes them about 3years to settle in before they start thinking about marriage.
Lastly most available bachelors do not want to settle until they enjoy life to the fullest. Different girlfriends here and there or sometimes they do not see the need to keep a girlfriend. They can cook, wash clean and self-service when they are hot so they donot need a gf or wife.
Don't blame the girls, our boys are becoming more irresponsible.

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 8:04pm On Dec 25, 2014
ladymichael:
I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?

Nowadays, turning a guy into a husband is like asking a cat to shake hands with a mouse. Every lady's best chance for marriage is between 22 and 27. After this above period, you may now have to rely heavily on grace to secure a husband before you are 31. Op, what decisions did she make when every man wanted her like most American visa applicants fantasize about America? Her history has the answer. However digging up history won't change what she faces now, but a lesson from history won't be harmful at all.
Three things I'll recommend. One, she should pray (and do a light fast) for grace to meet someone who will pop the question and keep his word.
Two, she has to socialise. I don't mean getting flirty and naughty, otherwise randy fellas will just hit and run. To be safe, let her involve more in church youth activities, she could catch someone's eye if she does well in GOD'S sight. She also has to shake off her mousy disposition and get friendly and "noisy".
Three, tell her to cut down her husband requirement list. What some ladies want in a man actually makes them single forever!

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by ACM10: 8:06pm On Dec 25, 2014
ladymichael:


Chairman, your uncle don reach 48 and u still dey do tribalism.
Tribe no dey determine what maketh a wife. No, she no be ibo.

How does his uncle's choice make him a tribalist? I have a feeling that you are a closet tribalist

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 8:32pm On Dec 25, 2014
ACM10:


How does his uncle's choice make him a tribalist? I have a feeling that you are a closet tribalist
U misunderstood her. She was trying to say that at age 48, a man should not let tribe be a criteria in his search for the woman to fulfill his dreams. Someone pls correct me if am wrong.
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Rhozabeth(m): 8:40pm On Dec 25, 2014
If she does not have a toaster, then her problem is spiritual, what she needs is deliverance!
This may sound funny but I can beat my chest that wherever she goes that is what she will have to go thru before any other form of prayers! Then she shud be prayerful! Wish u luck!
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by tomzman: 8:43pm On Dec 25, 2014
3cycle:

Typical African mentality. You're not smart at all
So what continent do u live in Mr Smart

This is Africa Jack! and that's the way things work here.

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by tiwasiaife(m): 8:47pm On Dec 25, 2014
if she's is educated.,christian, good home training she should add me on 7F601948
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by passionate88: 8:59pm On Dec 25, 2014
ladymichael:


No dear, she's really nice and calm. Always keep to her self.

In the 2 years I have known her,have never had an issue with her
Some people are like that... Have you seen her when she's been approached by a guy?, hw she interact with members of the opposite sex and all that?. Is she the pompous/boastful type?, is she too choosy? (It's good to choose, but being TOO choosy is bad)
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by ACM10: 9:04pm On Dec 25, 2014
tosag:
U misunderstood her. She was trying to say that at age 48, a man should not let tribe be a criteria in his search for the woman to fulfill his dreams. Someone pls correct me if am wrong.

. . .because he is 48, he should not have strict criteria for his choice of partner.

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by gowaga68: 9:04pm On Dec 25, 2014
ladymichael:
I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by gowaga68: 9:06pm On Dec 25, 2014
otiigba1:
@op ask her if she would like me to toast her tongue
you bad o! Me sef no go mind toast her o
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by cegxie(m): 9:47pm On Dec 25, 2014
How can I meet with ur friend. Somehow I feel by divine revelations, she is the one I've been waiting for.. Silver and gold I do not have. But with God all things are possible. PM me for contact if you wish to talk further.
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 10:14pm On Dec 25, 2014
You are very uncultured and rude... look at your reply and reason properly!

KAYCEEJUNIOR:
SMH, your level of reasoning is extremely poor, well I thought you are sensitive never knew that you are such a jeck and gulible, are you the one looking for a wife? how does tribalism comes to ones choice of marriage? just wondering how some people reason through their nostril......
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by dwana91(m): 10:18pm On Dec 25, 2014
Really?
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 11:21pm On Dec 25, 2014
[quote author=ladymichael post=29180958] I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?
[am 35 too and single, i wil 2 kno her. Dis my number 08033583182]
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 11:23pm On Dec 25, 2014
[plz give ha ma no 08033583182] I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?
[am 35 too and single, i wil 2 kno her. Dis my number 08033583182]
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 11:25pm On Dec 25, 2014
am 35 too and single, i wil 2 kno her. Dis my number 08033583182
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by koyyess: 11:27pm On Dec 25, 2014
Op, I just like the mentality and composure of your friend. If I were you, I wouldn't pity her but rather admire her. Most ladies like her are either six feet under,breaking other women's homes or crying their eyes Out in their matrimonial homes every night all in the name of 'I must marry in my 20's'. Please ignore all the small boy comments on this thread..ost males on this thread feed from hand to mouth. Some can't afford house rent yet, they think they are experts in matters like this. You can secretely arrange some match making but ensure that the person in question is a responsible guy and not one mad man in a well Ironed suit. Never bring the marriage issue up when you are with her- because at this point, she should focus on making savings/investments for her future and that of her kids(whether biological or adopted). The Saying that women above a certain age have a slimmer chance of finding a partner is a big lie losers tell women. Her own man will come but till then,let her worship God while she lives and love life to the fullest.

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 11:28pm On Dec 25, 2014
Plz give me ha number

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by Nobody: 12:26am On Dec 26, 2014
3cycle:

Not everyone is interested in marriage, get that into your smal head.
Secondly most men are becoming very lazy, they graduate at 24 and live with parents till they are 32years praying and fasting for a job and finally when they get one it takes them about 3years to settle in before they start thinking about marriage.
Lastly most available bachelors do not want to settle until they enjoy life to the fullest. Different girlfriends here and there or sometimes they do not see the need to keep a girlfriend. They can cook, wash clean and self-service when they are hot so they donot need a gf or wife.
Don't blame the girls, our boys are becoming more irresponsible.

Small head? i take offence, my head is very big, i was known as the head buy back in the days grin

you raised some points, while mostly you where just being sentimental..

1. if the guy graduated at 24 and had to stay a while with his parents before getting a job , was that his fault? sadly most girls would avoid him because of this fact not knowing that he would later get a good job.

2. Your point about not every woman thinks about marriage is a joke "funny enough how come its only unmarried over 35 year old, women , way past their prime, who are saggy,& wrinkled everywhere..who have come to terms with the harsh reality that they wont be married by any regular guy in his senses, seem to be the ones who always say this, Ironic isn't it?

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by McSpark: 2:44am On Dec 26, 2014
Consequency of disrespecting Boyz and Men.
ladymichael:
I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by efficiencie(m): 3:29am On Dec 26, 2014
Dis tin no HARD @ all

Since i was born and now i'm grown i haven't seen the RIGHTEOUS forsaken nor his seed beg bread (Psalm 37:25)...If you cannot beg bread as CHRISTIAN then you shouln't beg for a husband...(afterall a husband is worth more than a bakery)

*Get to KNOW CHRIST!
*get SUPERNATURAL INFORMATION on the source of this problem-through PRAYER and FASTING.
*FIGHT in PRAYER with the new information.

and you are done...easier said than done you may say, but remember the LORD didn't promise a TRIBULATION FREE life but he promised a DEFEAT-FREE life...so FIGHT the good fight!
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by unmask: 5:48am On Dec 26, 2014
ladymichael:
I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?
she might be a lesbian and tell her to shed some weight

But seriously what does she need a husband for at quarter to men-o-pause
Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by tomzman: 5:58am On Dec 26, 2014
3cycle:

Not everyone is interested in marriage, get that into your smal head.
Secondly most men are becoming very lazy, they graduate at 24 and live with parents till they are 32years praying and fasting for a job and finally when they get one it takes them about 3years to settle in before they start thinking about marriage.
Lastly most available bachelors do not want to settle until they enjoy life to the fullest. Different girlfriends here and there or sometimes they do not see the need to keep a girlfriend. They can cook, wash clean and self-service when they are hot so they donot need a gf or wife.
Don't blame the girls, our boys are becoming more irresponsible.
I get your point here but it's shallow. Have you moved closer to ladies? I have quite a number of female friends and I have seen responsible, hardworking and promising young men being turned down by ladies because they don't have a car or they don't earn much or for some other shallow reasons.

I still maintain my submission. A lady shouldn't be too choosy in her younger years or she'll up regretting it.

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Re: Need Advise:she Is 35 And Doesn't Even Have Toasters by somcherry(f): 6:01am On Dec 26, 2014
Marc9:


Your IQ is very very low! Isn't it obvious u're the one reasoning with his nostril?!

You said... If she's igbo contact me. Now if u're sound enough, u wld realise u gave a condition which was clearly tribalistic.
Do u know why he said that? What if his uncle prefers an igbo.

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