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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Nobody: 5:07pm On Dec 31, 2014

harde2lah:
I would rather use my energy, resources and time to Chase money, better opportunities, or learn a new skill or hobby than chasing one lady up and down like say she be trophy. I hardly ask a lady out twice. Once is enough for me. I will only try again if she gives me a positive green light to push further. Guys should develop self esteem and stop forcing themselves on teenage or immature ladies. A lady does not need much time like that to make a decision if she is accepting your offer or not. Whatever rocks your boat sha stick with it. as for me, I gat no time for bullshitting. If its a yes, good for both of us and I play my part and if it's a no, I smile and walk away without saying anything nasty. That saves me lots of time and energy.

Best Post soo far!!!.....

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Nobody: 5:09pm On Dec 31, 2014

I'm single, so I wouldn't even know yet. All I know is, I'm not very patient like that. angry

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by kilokeys(m): 5:11pm On Dec 31, 2014

i once asked a girl to marry me. (23.. she was 18)

too much one tree hill sha..

i was way above her league.

but asking her such gave her hope..

all of a sudden she must have tot to herself..

if kilokeys wants me.. then i must be worth much more.. what if i wait for dbanj, tyler perry, davido, ryan gosling, john dumelo...

conclusion.. she is still single.. i bet i am happier

i now understand why its termed settling down.

dont be glad she chose u.. u were d best available. simple hard truth.

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Nobody: 5:11pm On Dec 31, 2014

See the yeye thread wey make fp.

Why is this informative thread not on fp? Mods abeg do the needful
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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by StoneColdBiceps(m): 5:12pm On Dec 31, 2014

Olutola88:
It is a popular belief amongst women that a Lady needs to give a guy a tough time before she dances to his beats. They claim such delay tactics is healthy as it will make the guy cherish her more. They also claim that the guy would appreciate better something he sweats to get.

Sincerely speaking, this their ideology is absolute trash to me. I don't have that time to be chasing a lady for 12 months, after all she isn't my “dream”.

I get easily discouraged when it comes to convincing a lady to be mine, maybe because I don't feel a lady is doing me a favour by accepting to be mine. Come to think it, “Is she doing me any favour”? Don't even talk about sex cos it's very cheap and I can get it without dating. More so, she won't be doing me any good because she might even enjoy it more ( I always put my partner's satisfaction first).

I get sick and tired when a lady gives me unnecessary tough time. In fact, most of them call me “Egotistical”. They think I'm proud because my orientation is different from that of most guys they've met. They feel I'm cocky because they don't know my background, they have no idea about my journey so far.

I've had just 3 Girlfriends all my life. The first, I didn't woo her. The second gave me a YES after 24hours and the third which was the most tasking accepted to be mine after 4days of declaring interest. Guess what? I had the shortest relationship with the one that gave me the toughest time, it lasted just 2 months.

I've been single since December 2012 mainly because I don't have that strength to keep pushing and pushing. Most of them tell me that I'm spoilt and that I don't even know how to woo *lmao*. They claim I'm always too casual when wooing them, they say I don't show sign of seriousness, they conclude I always feel I shouldn't work too hard to get them. Do they want me to kill cow to show my seriousness? Nevertheless, I feel I've not just met that person that'll make me break the rules, that one person that'll make my heart do giz giz, that person that'll have my “mumu button” *lol*.

You know the funniest thing? The ones you don't wanna date are the ones always stalking and readily available. As a good guy, you don't wanna woo dem, use dem and dump them. So, nigga just keeps it at the Friends With Benefits level. When you get tired of the FWB life and seek love again, you'll meet one girl that'll be giving you unnecessary tough time and you'll be like... “WTF! Some girls are praying I upgrade their status from FWB to official Girlfriend and this one is here forming one rubbish! Go To Hell jooor” *LMAO*

My Questions:

1. How long did you wait before she gave you a YES

2. How long can you wait to get a YES?

3. Ladies, wetin be una problem? Is giving a guy a tough time a guarantee he will treat you right?

4. Ladies, why must we chase you people like we chase money before you say YES? I think the love thing should be mutual na? Must you stress the hell outta our lives?

Guy i feel ur concern. But d way u value urself and life, some people also value themselves dat way...yes, most girls will want u stress a little sha but its alll mind game. D chick dat does dat to u prolly has her own reason and maybe fall into ur kind of life view.
Dis ur issue happens at times when ur relationship is new maybe one two years cos if its 5 years and above she go accept sharperly. Im dat kind of person dat also dnt like ladies uneccesarily delay me weda in toasting or otherwise, but onze ukno dat lady is worth it then its worthy u grab it.

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Nobody: 5:17pm On Dec 31, 2014

What a coincidence to have seen this because this is a serious matter o . I actually i asked a very good friend of mine out yesterday and the way she said no to me made me look as if i had committed a crime doing so because she said she wasn't expecting it from me and the worse now is that she doesn't reply my whatasapp messages anymore this was someone that trusted me so much to have even come to visit me but now i just feel i have lost my friendship because i wanted a relationship .......Don't understand girls anymore do they want us to be dating our enemies....Though i love her but i cherish her friendship too ......There is God o....

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Kk4(m): 5:22pm On Dec 31, 2014

MsPat:
What's wrong with a little chase? How will i be sure of what i'm getting myself into? Lemme paint two scenarios.....

For instance, u re a total stranger....we met at a random place......u chyke me....im supposed to think for 3 seconda and say yes??!! Swerve joor....no be by fine boy o, get ur pompous behind outta my face!!!

But if we've been friends before....ehn ehnn, no need for prolonging issues. Let d games begin!
My relationship started as normal friendship.....not knowin oga had other things in mind.....boys ehn?!

hahaha. Correct babe.

I think is healthy to start as friends, get to know her then every go fall in place.. Except you just wan knack clean mouth.

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by tayoxx(m): 5:31pm On Dec 31, 2014

Olutola88:
lol! Na Wait and Get?

yes o....I no dey for "its coming"

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Kk4(m): 5:31pm On Dec 31, 2014

KingsleyWhisky:
What a coincidence to have seen this because this is a serious matter o . I actually i asked a very good friend of mine out yesterday and the way she said no to me made me look as if i had committed a crime doing so because she said she wasn't expecting it from me and the worse now is that she doesn't reply my whatasapp messages anymore this was someone that trusted me so much to have even come to visit me but now i just feel i have lost my friendship because i wanted a relationship .......Don't understand girls anymore do they want us to be dating our enemies....Though i love her but i cherish her friendship too ......There is God o....

My advice for you is to give her some space. No text, no calls. You have told her how you feel about her and no be crime. She will come around, trust me.

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Nobody: 5:32pm On Dec 31, 2014

[quote author=Kk4 post=29372536]hahaha. Correct babe.

I think is healthy to start as friends, get to know her then every go fall in place.. Except you just wan knack clean

this is aserious matter o . I actually i asked a very good friend of
mine out yesterday and the way she said no to me made
me look as if i had committed a crime doing so because
she said she wasn't expecting it from me and the worse
now is that she doesn't reply my whatasapp messages
anymore this was someone that trusted me so much to
have even come to visit me but now i just feel i have lost
my friendship because i wanted a relationship .......Don't
understand girls anymore do they want us to be dating our
enemies....Though i love her but i cherish her friendship
too ......There is God o....

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by anthoniaz(f): 5:33pm On Dec 31, 2014

Lilimax:
My hubby proposed to me and I told him I'll think about it. I was still thinking about it but has finished my wedding both traditional and white wedding and has stopped giving birth as well Whenever I remember this, I'll start laughing

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Paschalp(m): 5:39pm On Dec 31, 2014

in my area here in calabar... girls ask guys out o... me I have not have before shaa...

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by yinkeys(m): 5:42pm On Dec 31, 2014

dovelike:
There has to be a spark.

Lol. Spark plug. Happy new year

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by chic2pimp(m): 5:43pm On Dec 31, 2014

MsPat:
What's wrong with a little chase? How will i be sure of what i'm getting myself into? Lemme paint two scenarios.....

You are totally right. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a little chase here and there. However just make sure YOU are doing the chasing not the other way around.

No be by fine gal alone. We need to know what else you bring to the table besides your pretty/average looking face. Substance matters alot abeg

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by ericiland: 5:44pm On Dec 31, 2014

dovelike:
There has to be a spark.

Like car b3 spark abi

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by koyyess: 5:44pm On Dec 31, 2014

Olutola88:
It is a popular belief amongst women that a Lady needs to give a guy a tough time before she dances to his beats. They claim such delay tactics is healthy as it will make the guy cherish her more. They also claim that the guy would appreciate better something he sweats to get.

Sincerely speaking, this their ideology is absolute trash to me. I don't have that time to be chasing a lady for 12 months, after all she isn't my “dream”.

I get easily discouraged when it comes to convincing a lady to be mine, maybe because I don't feel a lady is doing me a favour by accepting to be mine. Come to think it, “Is she doing me any favour”? Don't even talk about sex cos it's very cheap and I can get it without dating. More so, she won't be doing me any good because she might even enjoy it more ( I always put my partner's satisfaction first).

I get sick and tired when a lady gives me unnecessary tough time. In fact, most of them call me “Egotistical”. They think I'm proud because my orientation is different from that of most guys they've met. They feel I'm cocky because they don't know my background, they have no idea about my journey so far.

I've had just 3 Girlfriends all my life. The first, I didn't woo her. The second gave me a YES after 24hours and the third which was the most tasking accepted to be mine after 4days of declaring interest. Guess what? I had the shortest relationship with the one that gave me the toughest time, it lasted just 2 months.

I've been single since December 2012 mainly because I don't have that strength to keep pushing and pushing. Most of them tell me that I'm spoilt and that I don't even know how to woo *lmao*. They claim I'm always too casual when wooing them, they say I don't show sign of seriousness, they conclude I always feel I shouldn't work too hard to get them. Do they want me to kill cow to show my seriousness? Nevertheless, I feel I've not just met that person that'll make me break the rules, that one person that'll make my heart do giz giz, that person that'll have my “mumu button” *lol*.

You know the funniest thing? The ones you don't wanna date are the ones always stalking and readily available. As a good guy, you don't wanna woo dem, use dem and dump them. So, nigga just keeps it at the Friends With Benefits level. When you get tired of the FWB life and seek love again, you'll meet one girl that'll be giving you unnecessary tough time and you'll be like... “WTF! Some girls are praying I upgrade their status from FWB to official Girlfriend and this one is here forming one rubbish! Go To Hell jooor” *LMAO*

My Questions:

1. How long did you wait before she gave you a YES

2. How long can you wait to get a YES?

3. Ladies, wetin be una problem? Is giving a guy a tough time a guarantee he will treat you right?

4. Ladies, why must we chase you people like we chase money before you say YES? I think the love thing should be mutual na? Must you stress the hell outta our lives?

You sound gay.

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by thugward04: 5:45pm On Dec 31, 2014

Aitee1:
U two can lie oh

no mind dem Na wash men dem b nw

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by LewisO: 5:45pm On Dec 31, 2014

STENON:
Reading through all the comments.

No dp sef

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by deavicky(m): 5:47pm On Dec 31, 2014

Olutola88:
It is a popular belief amongst women that a Lady needs to give a guy a tough time before she dances to his beats. They claim such delay tactics is healthy as it will make the guy cherish her more. They also claim that the guy would appreciate better something he sweats to get.

Sincerely speaking, this their ideology is absolute trash to me. I don't have that time to be chasing a lady for 12 months, after all she isn't my “dream”.

I get easily discouraged when it comes to convincing a lady to be mine, maybe because I don't feel a lady is doing me a favour by accepting to be mine. Come to think it, “Is she doing me any favour”? Don't even talk about sex cos it's very cheap and I can get it without dating. More so, she won't be doing me any good because she might even enjoy it more ( I always put my partner's satisfaction first).

I get sick and tired when a lady gives me unnecessary tough time. In fact, most of them call me “Egotistical”. They think I'm proud because my orientation is different from that of most guys they've met. They feel I'm cocky because they don't know my background, they have no idea about my journey so far.

I've had just 3 Girlfriends all my life. The first, I didn't woo her. The second gave me a YES after 24hours and the third which was the most tasking accepted to be mine after 4days of declaring interest. Guess what? I had the shortest relationship with the one that gave me the toughest time, it lasted just 2 months.

I've been single since December 2012 mainly because I don't have that strength to keep pushing and pushing. Most of them tell me that I'm spoilt and that I don't even know how to woo *lmao*. They claim I'm always too casual when wooing them, they say I don't show sign of seriousness, they conclude I always feel I shouldn't work too hard to get them. Do they want me to kill cow to show my seriousness? Nevertheless, I feel I've not just met that person that'll make me break the rules, that one person that'll make my heart do giz giz, that person that'll have my “mumu button” *lol*.

You know the funniest thing? The ones you don't wanna date are the ones always stalking and readily available. As a good guy, you don't wanna woo dem, use dem and dump them. So, nigga just keeps it at the Friends With Benefits level. When you get tired of the FWB life and seek love again, you'll meet one girl that'll be giving you unnecessary tough time and you'll be like... “WTF! Some girls are praying I upgrade their status from FWB to official Girlfriend and this one is here forming one rubbish! Go To Hell jooor” *LMAO*

My Questions:

1. How long did you wait before she gave you a YES

2. How long can you wait to get a YES?

3. Ladies, wetin be una problem? Is giving a guy a tough time a guarantee he will treat you right?

4. Ladies, why must we chase you people like we chase money before you say YES? I think the love thing should be mutual na? Must you stress the hell outta our lives?

u no get sence

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Nobody: 5:49pm On Dec 31, 2014

Beliv this or not, it took her 10 years to say yes, buh until then I don butcher, slaughter, brutalize and demolish many Punny undecided

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by deloon(m): 5:50pm On Dec 31, 2014

I don't even have to ask.

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Nobody: 5:50pm On Dec 31, 2014

chic2pimp:
You are totally right. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a little chase here and there. However just make sure YOU are doing the chasing not the other way around.

No be by fine gal alone. We need to know what else you bring to the table besides your pretty/average looking face. Substance matters alot abeg

Nd how will u know what im bringing to the table if u dont get to know me? That is the chasing part.....being a friend while sending signals.....duh!!!

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Nobody: 5:51pm On Dec 31, 2014

LewisO:
No dp sef

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Rapsodee(m): 5:53pm On Dec 31, 2014

We started as very good friends....
one night,I asked her out,she told me clearly she has a bf already, pushed her the more,she gave me the same reply....then I noticed she was not ready to dance to my music,now I have made her realize I ve got plenty other choices and that I have moved on,all this happened within 2 months.

You don't need "YEARS" to wait and see if you have a chance with her or not,if you are a reasonable guy,you will know how far and take the required step.

#Rapsodee

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by LewisO: 5:56pm On Dec 31, 2014

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by LewisO: 6:00pm On Dec 31, 2014

STENON:
Reading through all the comments.

But let's be friend, because we are acquaintance, will like us to be a chum!

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Homguy(m): 6:01pm On Dec 31, 2014

1st gf - 2 years.

2nd gf- 1 month

3rd gf- 4daYs

4th gf. and current - 1 week and some days.

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by chic2pimp(m): 6:07pm On Dec 31, 2014

MsPat:
Nd how will u know what im bringing to the table if u dont get to know me? That is the chasing part.....being a friend while sending signals.....duh!!!

But why I should be the one who "Get's to know you"? Nothing wrong with you getting to know me too or is there?

Ehn ehn since when did subliminal signals become "Chasing"? I'm sorry I must have missed that part. When I say "Chase", I mean actually doing the leg work itself. This involves you Chatting him up, wooing or atleast trying to do so et al. Not just sitting on your bum sending mixed signals and what not.

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Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by PrettyGaby(f): 6:09pm On Dec 31, 2014

pxjosh:
happy birthday!

aw! Tnx

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by dechandel(f): 6:11pm On Dec 31, 2014

mencade4:
ours is next year.... Dont forget

Lol
Pls give up already

I am married!!!!!! grin

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by cctvwizard(m): 6:14pm On Dec 31, 2014

max of 2 week

Re: How Long Did You Wait Before She Gave You A “YES”? by Femsyn(m): 6:14pm On Dec 31, 2014

Some ladies may not like this:
From experience, intelligent ladies always wait for a "asking out" before you can be termed an item, no matter the closeness or "flowness", you must ask them out.
The other set are the less intelligent ladies. They are the ones you can easily sweet-mouth and off you go, without any form of proposal, which could be dangerous, because some guys may use the undefined foundation of the relationship as a reason not to take any responsibility or commitment.

@topic, almost immediately, cos there must've been some form of chemistry before hand. This strategy helps to drastically reduce the rate of "No" responses.

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