ileobatojo:



That is quite some astounding hypocrisy.

Most Nigerians are.

macherie1:


Does killing the Woman make the man keep everything?Men who cant control their ego and temper will continue to end up in prison. Women should be smart enough to avoid them.

I wish I could warn every girl from getting entangled with the psychos from the get go
Telling the women to leave these dead end marriages doesn't often save their lives
Many of these maladjusted characters become more aggressive and more violent when she leaves and often times she is forced to go Into hiding and even at that many are still hunted down and killed for leaving
The best thing is weeding them out from the onset

ileobatojo:



That is quite some astounding hypocrisy.

I honestly don't know if I should hug her or slap her. She's been through hell and I don't think she got the professional help she needed. It's all a coping mechanism for her. Most people would have snapped. She never one day thought to kill that demon who did those things to her and yet she makes excuses for men who have not even dealt with half of that. She has PTSD in my opinion

ileobatojo:



That is quite some astounding hypocrisy.

get used to it. Most people will tell others to endure what they can't endure or advise their lives ones to endure.
Anything to get the 'likes' coming in

soulglo:


I honestly don't know if I should hug her or slap her. She's been through hell and I don't think she got the professional help she needed. It's all a coping mechanism for her. Most people would have snapped. She never one day thought to kill that demon who did those things to her and yet she makes excuses for men who have not even dealt with half of that. She has PTSD in my opinion

she said she prayed that God take his life sometimes.

I guess she's a gentle soul(I believe so ).
A more aggressive person would have acted on those thoughts

Moana:
in other words its okay for a man to be imperfect and accept the fact that he has failed in some aspects whereas a woman is expected to take responsiblity and correct her imperfections right?

I cited imperfection cos that's what makes us human. However, what makes a man is his ability to accept his mistakes, take responsibility, and be eager to always apologise and make corrections whenever he's wrong. And apart from the deadbeat guys and beta males emasculated by women - most men are naturally like that. It comes with the territory.

But women on the other hand are never wrong in their fish brains. You've to keep pandering to them and eulogising their faux perfection like kids. Ever wondered why the easiest way to get a chic is dependent on how well you can sell her a dream? Also, these days, they're just utterly confused about their sexuality, and who they actually want to be. On one hand they want to be like men - but the other hand they also want to enjoy all the privileges that come with being women and the victim-hood. Like seriously, who are you lot? - Hermaphrodites or aliens?

I'm not a relationship expert cos I deal with everything based on my own unique way. However, whenever there's a problem in a relationship/marriage that doesn't involve the man cheating or being a deadbeat - 8 out of 10 times it's always the woman's fault. But they're so manipulative that they'll turn it against you like the biblical Eve messed Adam's life up. Too many lives have been destroyed by women out here and I'm not even going to lie, if not puss.y, kids, and the natural sexual urge, dealing with women is basically pointless cos the overwhelming majority of them have absolutely nothing to contribute to your life - apart from illogical tripe induced by emotional impulses.

P.S: I know you're a woman - but I just like saying it as it's. The truth is bitter but you can't run from it and too many lives are getting destroyed daily cos of this madness.

carefreewannabe:


In developing countries, not developed.

Well, take a look at Japan. I think the Japanese and other Asian countries are not a poor nation.

The west is against marriage. I've heard of western men who tries to punish some men because they are "fools" marrying.

Nonso23:

Some people are paid just to think.

you call what goes on in your head, thinking?

seriously, I am not a man basher but when I meet people like you, I'm up to the task.

raumdeuter:


If she continues to pay the mortgage, The wife gets a 100k property for a discounted price of 70k.

If she fails to pay the mortgage, she has nothing to lose but the man loses his initial 30k investment in the house

you have such a simple worldview.

coogar:





there's no such statistic anywhere. children from stable homes cope quite well. obesity, suicide, child abuse, health problems, etc are common issues with children of divorce. they suffer it more than kids living with both parents.

did you see any of that in Obama?

I really hate when people parrot prejudice yet parade themselves as logical thinkers.

coogar:


he could be the step father? where's the real father? a woman committed an act of paternity fraud. husband discovers he's not the real father and went to court with his facts - and the family court insists he must pay, that's fair to you?

how come women are never forced to pay for a child that isn't theirs?

are you saying the judge is s.tupid or a man hater even though he is male?

why don't you post legal links to such cases so we can all look through them ourselves?

tpiah11:



you have such a simple worldview.

The world is not complex until we make it so

you are certainly making yours so.

coogar:


you mean a woman that accepted the proposal of a 49-year-old american citizen should be applauded?

she musta been blind not to know what she's getting into? maybe we should just agree women cannot handle responsibility. every time they err, the man gets blamed for it.

more like the other way round.


seems most of you like living in a fairytale where you refuse to face reality but instead do ostrich style and blame everyone but yourselves for your problems.

babyosisi:


And you end up on death row or locked up for life being serviced from the rear three times a day by a bigger man.
I hope that is a fair enough deal

This is a fact.....

I am only talking for the ones who are emotionally weak. Honestly speaking, If you leave someone like me with these ladies in question, they ll be d one carrying gun in order to kill me. You know why? I learn from history in every situation I find myself and make solution available for myself in preparation for any eventuality. I m too xtremely smart for any lady, born of any woman to mess up my life.....

You know what, I m too much for any lady to mess around with. There are million of gorgeous ladies out there who are looking for handsome dude(You don't even need to be handsome to build my happy lifestyle) like me to be with. Why on earth would I allow a lady to stop me from enjoying the next beautiful lady? Life is too beautiful to waste on any woman who is not ready to play my game according to my rules.

Let me make it clear to you, I m not one of those gentle and stupid guys who allow women to destroy their lives under the pretence of being a good, nice and gentle man.

I am glad this topix resurfaced and ive said more than three times. People change especially when the odds favors them,and most particularly women.

Dudes,wherever you are outside Nigeria,stop bringing your naija babe abroad or be prepared for the worst.It may sound harsh but its the cod truth.Save yourself the stress of the drastic changes our women would go through and turn around to become your bosses at home.

Leave them in Naija. Pick a "queen" abroad and settle.More than often ive seen our women turning to become far worse than foreign women in character.Especiallly those in Nursing.

Moana:

Instead of spending half the courtship period figuring out how you will dance shoki on top of him

make dem dance nah, I think most of the males here insist that's all there is to a woman or marriage.

There was a thread where a guy was criticizing females who to him, are not serious if they do not make boob job and butt augmentation a priority.

when he marries, he'll later come back to whine about this and that.

Be attentive and discover more about the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with.

should have thought that would go without saying.

cococandy:
she said she prayed that God take his life sometimes.

I guess she's a gentle soul(I believe so ).
A more aggressive person would have acted on those thoughts

But she did not act out on it yet she is excusing it in these men. I'm sure if you listened to her sister in laws discuss her, you would think she had set out to kill their brother. If he had killed her, people would have said she was disrespectful. The same way he r own husband accused her of being disrespectful. I read her posts sometimes and I truly feel sad. I'm traumatized by what she went through yet cannot and absolutely will call her out for her dangerous stance on issues.

soulglo:



But she did not act out on it yet she is excusing it in these men. I'm sure if you listened to her sister in laws discuss her, you would think she had set out to kill their brother. If he had killed her, people would have said she was disrespectful. The same way he r own husband accused her of being disrespectful. I read her posts sometimes and I truly feel sad. I'm traumatized by what she went through yet cannot and absolutely will call her out for her dangerous stance on issues.

quite confusing to me. I must say.
Although I'm not very comfortable discussing someone else's private life like this I guess it is ok since she put it out there herself.

But why go the extra length to make other women seem bad or evil for doing the same thing you would do if you were in their situation.?

One would think from her posts that she would bear all wrong doing and never leave a bad spouse going by how she tells other women to do so. She practically blames every woman who comes here with one issue or the other and never sees any wrong doing on the men's part. Whether cheating or physical abuse or murder (in this case.), she still found a way to make it the woman's fault.

I really did think she's not the kind to say enough is enough and walk out.

Now I'm more confused than ever.

cococandy:
get used to it. Most people will tell others to endure what they can't endure or advise their lives ones to endure.
Anything to get the 'likes' coming in

Honestly, my jaw is still on the floor. This revelation about that particular poster/persona is the number 1 most shocking thing I have ever read on NL. Ever.

Unbelievable.

enomakos:
why kill them?just divorced them and move on

after bringing her from a poor background and spend fortune to reshape her life only for her to turn devil on the man's head

ileobatojo:


Honestly, my jaw is still on the floor. This revelation about that particular poster/persona is the number 1 most shocking thing I have ever read on NL. Ever.

Unbelievable.

I am not shocked at all. Some people need attention online they cannot get offline. I can imagine why.

ileobatojo:


Honestly, my jaw is still on the floor. This revelation about that particular poster/persona is the number 1 most shocking thing I have ever read on NL. Ever.

Unbelievable.

well it is not much of a revelation since she put it on NL herself. Maybe it was quite long ago and her perspectives have changed. Happens as people get older. Or maybe she just has a different online persona.

Fhemmmy:
IT HAS BEEN FUN PEOPLE, AND WE WILL BE BACK AT IT TOMORROW OR LATER TONITE WHEN I GET HOME . . . TREAT THEM RIGHT AND YOU WILL SEE THE ANGEL IN THEM

These dude is a simp and a big time mangina.

Most of the ladies in the united states cause so much problem immediately they arrive. While in Nigeria they behave so well. Most of them are actually good while in nigeria but as soon as they come and realize that America gives more power to the women they trouble starts. It maybe one month, two years, but as soon as they realize that you can never beat them chikena.....
HHein america ones the lawyer of the woman gives the man the divorce paper....she automatically obtains police order that stops the man from coming into his own house that he bought and paid for....he can only take anything from the house while the police is there...he cannot talk to his kids until the court finalizes the divorce case......
There is nothing like a good wife in america....it is the man that cooks his own food here....the man cleans the house here and wash his own clothes....
I have seen lots of Nigerian men here weep before me.....it is that terrible....pastors are not exempted....even screening on your kids when they do something wrong here may land you in jail....the tendency that any wife you marry and bring her to america will change and start behaving badly is %90

Stress is dangerous, talk to your personal physician and gym up yourself.
I wonder what naija pastors are preaching every Sunday and at prayer meetings. Instead of church, go to the gym and work that stress out.

cococandy:
well it is not much of a revelation since she put it on NL herself. Maybe it was quite long ago and her perspectives have changed. Happens as people get older. Or maybe she just has a different online persona.

I hear you, but I meant revelation to me.

Mutter

continue being yourself and continue to advisw on family values
Those who hear will hear

Dont let the family section quest to malign every post and person counter to their mainstream views affect you

Digging up personal history to discredit is really something.... These ladies

You are not the first and will not be the last

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