fishkaveli:
blatant lie

almost all post in romance section this days are all lies.

They do this to hit frontpage i guess, seun must hear this.

I do not even encourage sex out side marriage, so I can't help you.

You can still have sex with a Random guy,with no string attach.....

Amya:
Get some intimacy gadgets. It gives as much (or even more) pleasure than the real thing.

Hey cute, what da hell are you doing with gadget when I am available?

Answer to all, we all need jesus

diddydiva:
hmmmmmmm

am here to learn too

Queues behind U̶̲̥̅̊ we all here to learn.....

If I must comment on this, my advice goes like this : my dear, if that dude does not come home in the next 3 months or does not do something about you joining him. Forget him and move on. If he is in the kind of abroad I am, he sure would know that you don't pick your girlfriend to join you until you have legally marriedr her. So if he has been promising you of you coming to join him without talking about marriage, my dear, he is just deceiving you oo. Lots of dudes out here has got kids from foreign women while they keep promising a babe back home. That's what we call just in case. If I may ask, how old are you. If above 25, you have better moved on with your life and forget that chap. Enough said already. Take it or leave it.

buygala:
Please Cheat on him....






God will understand


Because I sense you already want to or have already started cheating. ... You just want us to give you emotional support


CARRY ON.... WE ARE STRONGLY BEHIND YOU

Weyrey ...looool

ohaleoghene:



I'm joining him this year

madam, cheating is not even an option for u. u hav waited for a year......few more months wuldnt kill u. self service if u must but dont cheat

buygala:
Please Cheat on him....






God will understand


Because I sense you already want to or have already started cheating. ... You just want us to give you emotional support


CARRY ON.... WE ARE STRONGLY BEHIND YOU

Kids like you make me detest public social media.

I wonder if nairaland is a social forum for kids. Most comments on the forum are childish.

Kids that are meant to concentrate on their primary growth are here cavorting and spilling rubbish!

buygala:
Please Cheat on him....






God will understand


Because I sense you already want to or have already started cheating. ... You just want us to give you emotional support


CARRY ON.... WE ARE STRONGLY BEHIND YOU

lmao, wicked comment

[quote author=StPete post=30460224]U have conditioned ur mind to feel masturbation is a sin and so it plays out every time u carry out the act.
For the record, masturbation is healthy, safe and free from any form of infection. If that's all u can do to keep ur self from cheating, then pls do[/quote
O_O

ohaleoghene:



I'm joining him this year

Ur joining him dis yr and ur complainibg.if u coukd wait dis long, den endure a bit

If anyone tells you that you can stay without sex for a long time is only deceiving you and there is no truth in that person. You also said you don't want to self service. My advice: had it been u have not done it before, it would have been a different thing but you have tasted it. That is why you are presently feeling it. You better self service yourself or find a young chat to grease the place for you. Make sure he uses a condom so that u will not be pregnant. Cos that is the only snag when he comes back. You need sex my dear. Don't be sex starved anymore. Okay?

ohaleoghene:
my fiancé and I has been dating for 6years now. met him after my high school. when he was around ,we had sex two to three times a week. now he has travelled abroad. and over a year I haven't had sex and I miss it. I sometimes self service but guilt kills me afterwards so I want to stop. any tips on how to over come sexual urge as I don't want to cheat or self service.

kindly walkout of the relationship. Thank God,you haven't married him yet. Instead of you to suffer, simply get marry here,and forget about him.I know of lady, whose fiance travelled abroad, as time went by i remember then all she does is to watch blue movies,which to me is simply an act of deception. The chances of your finance coming back here to marry you is very slim.

ohaleoghene:



no ,he doesn't have a gf abroad. I guarantee you that ,and he has been keeping himself too. we have been for six year and there is no case of cheating or lies

Story!

laidian:
Kai! It's good to be on Etisalat mast watching Romancelanders lying in 4.5D.

I have to stop you quick from joining him

ohaleoghene:



I'm joining him this year

If you feel bad about mastùrbation then i strongly suggest you use a sanctified equipment. Comes highly recommended even in the bible as evinced in Songs of Solomon 2:3 Like the finest apple tree in the orchard is my lover among other young men. I sit in his delightful shade and taste his delicious fruit.

ohaleoghene:



I'm joining him this year

then why are you seeking unnecessary help since your
salvation is in view

The list of “Qualities of a Perfect Girlfriend” below is not in any particular order of importance; see which of them are most applicable to your guy’s desires and preferences. There is always something your guy wants, but he is too shy to ask or tell you. Many of these things are in the list below.
1. Look Great for Him
A perfect girlfriend always gives her best to look beautiful for her man. Men are visual creatures. We like a woman that looks good, that’s obvious. So take care of your looks. You don’t have to look like a supermodel – not at all, just look the best you can, use body lotion, have soft, silky smooth skin that he wants to kiss day and night.
Keep things fresh, and stay as beautiful as you were when you just met – even better, work on yourself to become even more beautiful physically.
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cold:
If you feel bad about mastùrbation then i strongly suggest you use a sanctified equipment. Comes highly recommended even in the bible as evinced in Songs of Solomon 2:3 Like the finest apple tree in the orchard is my lover among other young men. I sit in his delightful shade and taste his delicious fruit.

you are mocking yourself, go ahead *clapping*

ohaleoghene:



I'm joining him this year

If you are joining him this year, then why are you disturbing yourself? I thought you guys Will never get to see again. My Advice: Just free your mind from sex. get more involve in church programmes and others physical activities, like going to gym or learning some new skills! sex is not food, so sex starvation can't kill you.

ohaleoghene:


I changed my location . the folks I'm staying with are born again. so I am a born again now. but u know the flesh won't let

Ehen!! So when you will join him over there, won't de urge be heartless than boko haram. Its better your relationship becomes marriage as soon as possible. If you join him over there, you go throw away "born again" ooo...

tit:
Are you in Lagos?
Come to Ojo barracks.
Plenti boys to help you out.

they have been helping u.

krall:
masturbating makes you feel guilty but fornicating doesnt?
i am lost here.

Lol I was thinking the same o

krall:
masturbating makes you feel guilty but fornicating doesnt?
i am lost here.

Abi ooo! Never knew u wud say d same!
It seems u dont really know wat u need!

ohaleoghene:
my fiancé and I has been dating for 6years now. met him after my high school. when he was around ,we had sex two to three times a week. now he has travelled abroad. and over a year I haven't had sex and I miss it. I sometimes self service but guilt kills me afterwards so I want to stop. any tips on how to over come sexual urge as I don't want to cheat or self service.

Sorry about your situation.... l know how it feels!
YOU CANT OVERCOME SEXUAL URGE, ITS A NORMAL THING AND PART OF OUR LIFE!
BUT YOU CAN CONTROL IT, WHEN THE URGE REARS ITS BEAUTIFUL HEAD

1.) make up your mind, as in DETERMINE YOU WONT CHEAT (I hope your guy is the type that appreciates a faithful woman?).
Most things achieved in the "physical", are first achieved in the realm of the "spiritual". Your mind is your "spirit realm".
It is where FAITH works on. Even when people talk about the "power of positive thinking", they are referring to "the mind".

Once you put that "determination not to cheat".... no matter what.... in YOUR MIND, the rest is easy! You will have won 55% of the battle.

2.) after winning that battle (simply by determining not to cheat! Its that simple), the next thing to do is to KEEP AWAY FROM SITUATIONS THAT MAY COMPROMISE SUCH DETERMINATION. Dont "isolate" yourself with a male friend or colleague or anyone of the opposite sex. The tendency to "FALL/FAIL" is higher in such 'atmosphere'. You simply dont create the "atmosphere" for such event.
For example, you cant have sex in the public or when others are present.....so by ensuring that you are never alone with someone of the opposite sex, you simply make cheating with such impossible to happen.

2b.) Avoid watching anything/film that has to do with "intimacy".
Self-servicing is not right but at times, it can provide a "temporary physical relief"! dont club yourself to death because of it, right now. You are a victim of circumstances and the fact that you dont like it, means you will easily drop it once things/circumstances change.
I dont encourage it but l am "practical enough" to know that you cant avoid it at times..... just ensure it does not become the norm or habit. Avoid it as much as possible, using spiritual strength.
Hypocrites will tell you it a sin but in your case, its just a tool to overcome something even worse (cheating). Take it easy on your conscience....at least for now.

3.) Draw strength from your guy: Talk to him a lot, use any social App liek Skype, Viber with Video, e.t.c, especially when that urge becomes too strong. Express your frustration to him but very important, LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU ARE DETERMINED NOT TO CHEAT ON HIM (I emphasised this because l dont want a situation where you "set-off alarms" in his head and he starts imagining whether you are already cheating and just trying to sound him out! I see that a few people have already followed that line of thinking, in their post! )
Tell him to give you words of encouragement, tell him to make your determination stronger. Ask him how he is also coping with such feelings......and together, if two of you are actually faithful to one another, you can pull your strength together to become stronger, for each other.
TWO PEOPLE, WHO ARE UNITED BY PURPOSE, ARE ALWAYS STRONGER THAN JUST ONE PERSON.

4.) Read your Bible/Quaran, especially those areas that speaks about chastity and rewards of a virtuous woman.
Pray a lot. Anytime your are feeling the "sexual urge", go on your knees and ask God to give you strength.
Tell God that you want to be strong and faithful for your would-be husband and you want spiritual strength (Dont go to anyone or any Pastor about this, they will simply TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU. Trust me on that.....at least you dont know me and l have no intention of knowing you either ).
Fast for a few hours at times. Dont become an "S.U" o! Moderation is what the Bible preaches.
Fast occasionally. Pray like three times daily. When you wake up, at your leisure in the afternoon and before you go to bed.

5.) Sex is a way of dissipating "energy" and those who dont have regular sex, have an abundance of excess energy.
Some channel the "excess energy" into nagging and snapping at anything within their reach!
Some become "S.U" and work in the church and become very rigid in life;
Some clean and "over clean" the house so much it becomes an annoying obsession, e.t.c

But l will encourage you to channel the "excess energy" into your work (work that earns you income).
If you are a student, study longer hours and focus more on attaining better grades.
If you are already working, let your boss see you do more and achieve more than your colleagues. Take up challenges within the office, that others would grumble about ..... but dont let your Male Boss use that to seek your sexual attention.
Dont discuss your "sexual frustrations" with anyone that knows you or can come into contact with you: They will use it against you and you will likely FALL!

Finally Let YOUR GOAL (MARRIAGE TO THE ONE YOU LOVE) MOTIVATE YOU: Everytime and everyday, imagine you are an athlete (Call yourself Usain Bolt) and you are running a race.
Your Trophy is a pure marriage to your man .........and the end of the race is the day you are joined with him.
So, tell yourself that each day you overcome the urge to cheat, you are getting closer to winning your GOLD MEDAL!
Tell yourself that "if Usain Bolt can do it, l can also do it! Let the race carry-on, since it has already began.

Remember, every journey that has a beginning, surely has an end..... no matter how long the journey is.
Your journey will end soon, and l pray it ends well.

Also remember, NOTHING IS HIDDEN UNDER THE SUN!.
If you cheat, it will never leave your conscience and you will be surprised to hear that our "spirit" has not only a way of exposing us, it also has a way of punishing us, even without the knowledge of the victim (an unsuspecting spouse).

If you can, l will encourage you to print "COPIES" of this post and stick it to the head of your bed and virtually anywhere you will be able to read it at a moment notice, so it can encourage you. Shre it with your 'guy' as well. it may help both of you.

#I am married to a woman who went through this process A FEW DECADES back. Back then, we dont even have all these Social apps and Phne call was a very long "whole day queue" at NITEL!
But she was strong and won the battle against temptation!
I treasure her till today, for remaining strong and l will always appreciate her till death do us apart.

Be open with your man and let him know you are fighting a battle as well as running a race...for your relationship.
Ask him if he wants to be your "running or jogging partner"!


TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL OBSTACLE.

I wish you well.
May it end well with you.

Lastpage!

The importance of side bf cannot be over emphasised

Just kidding

Hold on to God who is your first and best love