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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Nobody: 11:52am On Feb 28, 2015
Op nice one. Many thanks! smiley

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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by AJOT99(m): 11:52am On Feb 28, 2015
Nice one.

Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by iwezor1(m): 11:52am On Feb 28, 2015
What do u think of this pls?

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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by nortcentrallord(m): 11:52am On Feb 28, 2015
Ok, how about you don't date before marriage?

Don't marry before datting?

....i


With your list, I wonder what sincerity and trying to get better means in a relationship.
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Bitojoe(m): 11:53am On Feb 28, 2015
Testerfuze:

Can you buy a no-testing car for a large amount of money...and if the car no good there's no chance to change it again oo,how bout dat


there is an adage that says, "dont smell the food which you know that you will eat"
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by mytime24(f): 11:55am On Feb 28, 2015
Hmmm
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by wagazala: 12:00pm On Feb 28, 2015
I wonder why so many do's and dont's nowadays when it comes to relationships. People in love are too blinded to follow any guidelines, what works for A might not work for B. Enough all these guides as if following them guarantees a happy relationship.
Dog wey go.lost no go hear him master whistle.
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Nobody: 12:01pm On Feb 28, 2015
You shouldn't do any/most of these period undecided
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by MizMyColi(f): 12:01pm On Feb 28, 2015
stevewale:
Don't do these 8 things in a non-committal relationship because, though love is spontaneous and doesn’t hold back, it pays to be cautious, especially when there is no formal commitment from the so-called lover.

Love is sharing, caring and living for and with someone.

Most people will agree also that falling in love, finding love, is getting more and more difficult – with most people preferring to go for physical relationships of sex without emotions.

What this means is that staying in a relationship for long is almost a dream.

A few days of sex and seeming love end in bitterness and you’re in the love market again.

This is why, even when the relationship seems perfect, there are some things you must never do for that person — at least not until you’re wedded or there’s a binding document in place.

Love is about giving in and giving up a few things, but…

1. Don’t change your personality. Now, they say you should change for the one you love. Yes, that is true. But when the changing comes from you alone and it seems like you’re being re-manufactured, then something is wrong. No man or woman should attempt to change you entirely, unless you really have bad habits. Aside this, in the event that you’re separated, the hurt will be worsened by the fact you won’t recognise yourself. You’ll be nothing without that person. A person who loves you must accept the real you.

2. Don’t abandon your dreams: This is another one you should be careful about. Two people in love ca exist without killing each other’s dreams. It is a good thing for both of you to alter your careers and dreams to accommodate each other. But there is a limit. A true lover would aid your dream, ask you to abandon it. Work out a middle way. If you lose your dream for a relationship that is not yet solid, marriage especially, sorry will be your consolation when it ends.

3. Don’t abandon your friends and family. Hmmm, it really is sad that some people let love kill their relationships with kith and kin that they had before meeting their lover. They do not realise that friends are the only thing you can fall back to when you hit life’s road bumps. If a lover makes it a case to break your link to friends and family, please exit. They should find a way to accommodate your friends. If you lose your friends to that relationship, what happens if it ends?

4. Don’t set up businesses or share details of official information. Many people think it is love to expose their entire business plans and financial information to a supposed lover. But this is dangerous. A lot of people ‘love’ just to deceive and maybe swindle. If they have access to sensitive official details, like ATM card pins, internet bank passwords, property document details, etc, you are exposed to danger!

5. Don’t become a donor agency. Lovers should help each other, morally and financially. However, don’t be saddled to a leech, a tick who only feeds off you. You’re not a bank account or donor agency to anyone. As you give, make sure it’s reasonable, and for genuine needs. A lover who always returns for more is a gold-digger, a fraud that you don’t need. Small money gifts are cool, but should not become the norm and basis of love.

6. Don’t give unofficial loans, bad personal investments. Loans are relationship killers. If a lover wants huge sums of money from you, be wise and make it legal. At worst, make sure the money is deposited to his/her bank account, to leave a trail that can be used to retrieve it in case you guys fight. To withdraw N200,000 and give to your lover in cash as a loan is not wise. Instead, transfer via bank and write ‘loan’. If the money is big a signed IOU might be necessary. Also avoid foolish investments like setting up businesses or funding projects without legal documents. This may look rigid, but many people have killed ex-lovers because they could not retrieve their ‘investments’.

7. Don’t give unfettered access to private emails and social media accounts. In these modern times, social media accounts are very sensitive. It should be as personal as possible. Making it a public affair for a transient lover is bad, bad and bad. Imagine the damage they could do if you break up? He or she could for example lock you out of your own account or even send out compromising messages through your account.

8. Don’t reveal compromising information or damaging materials. When we fall in love, there is the temptation to talk too much, way too much than we need to. There should a lot of discussion between people in a relationship. But some things should never be said to some people who are not yet fully committed to a relationship. Sharing intimate secrets will put you up for future attacks. Ex-lovers are fond of sharing demining information, like nudes or private talks.


Love doesn’t hold back, it is spontaneous, it is forgiving and every other good thing.

But it pays to be cautious, especially when there is no formal commitment from so-called lover.

To be in love is to love with wisdom and caution…

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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Nobody: 12:02pm On Feb 28, 2015
iwezor1:
What do u think of this pls?

Thas the second coming right there! grin

He's cute.
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Vikky014(f): 12:04pm On Feb 28, 2015
Testerfuze:

They are more delicate than cars sef,once you get into it....they ent no goin back,without checkin her out I might actually get a partner who sexually we ent compartible I know most people here will be like "is it all about sex" no its not buh its also a fundamental thing which makes relationships last long together with trust,understanding and God then there's no way you'll fail



And to answer your question...no,girls aren't cars.
If the girl in question is a virgin nkowill you also test
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by seedorfg(m): 12:05pm On Feb 28, 2015
And what if i defy all this you ve stated? iranU
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Nickymezor(f): 12:09pm On Feb 28, 2015
*Yawning*
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Simplymeah: 12:10pm On Feb 28, 2015
Which eva way u choose 2 luk @ it,i feel OP is makin sense...n SEX lipsrsealed well its an individual decision
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by iwezor1(m): 12:11pm On Feb 28, 2015
EnlightenedSoul:


Thas the second coming, right there! grin

He's cute.
thanks for ur contribution

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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Nobody: 12:15pm On Feb 28, 2015
iwezor1:
thanks for ur contribution

On a more serious note, it's fun to look at but doesn't mean anything. That's just one of the many Western depictions of Christ, and a guy who happens to resemble one of them. Every depiction out there will have it's numerous look-alikes.
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by ochisman(m): 12:15pm On Feb 28, 2015
ur list is impossible if truly u r in love op,i dont think u v experienced true love, cos if u had, then u would v known that no one in love has his or her eyes wide open, except d fellow is pretending, anyone that loves u, would want to download his/her entire life to u, give u even the things dey didn't budget for, want to know every detail about ur life experiences, a man/ woman dat is in love has giving their partner all n has nothing to withhold. left to me, u r telling lovers to be fake,because a true lover must possess at least 80% of ur list.

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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Sanuzi(m): 12:15pm On Feb 28, 2015
wow

Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by emilo26(m): 12:15pm On Feb 28, 2015
Op
You are forgetting the most important point. Don't ever change ur religion believe or church for someone u r not married to yet
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by AdeniyiA(m): 12:16pm On Feb 28, 2015
In other words, use more of your head than your heart...

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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by johnsonsegxy: 12:17pm On Feb 28, 2015
searching4love:
undecided


OP I HOPE THOSE SILLY NIGERIAN GIRLS CAN READ AND UNDERSTAND YOUR THREAD. MOST OF THEM ARE THIEVES AND SEE RELATIONSHIP WITH SOME ONE NOT YET MARRIED TO THEM AS A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. NIGERIAN LADIES ARE THE MOST MONEY HUNGRY LADIES IN THE WORLD. THIS IS EVIDENT WITH THE RECENT DIVORCE RATE COS MANY MEN ARE BEGINNING TO SEE THAT GETTING MARRIED TO A NIGERIAN LADY IS A REAL SET BACK TO ONE'S PROGRESS IN LIFE

#TEAM FOREIGN GIRLS cool

You ehn! You're one funny dude... grin
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Nobody: 12:19pm On Feb 28, 2015
johnsonsegxy:


You ehn! You're one funny dude... grin


grin i lie!?

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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by iwezor1(m): 12:19pm On Feb 28, 2015
EnlightenedSoul:


On a serious note, it's fun to look at but doesn't mean anything. That's just one of the many Western depictions of Christ, and that guy just happens to resemble one of them. Every depiction out there will have it's numerous look-alikes.
that's nice and good to know; cos when been posted , many see it as real christ, but good to know some1 on NL sees it d way I do.
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Mourin(f): 12:21pm On Feb 28, 2015
noted, n most especially do nt cohabit
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by moneymachine007: 12:27pm On Feb 28, 2015
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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Adex097: 12:34pm On Feb 28, 2015
I might not even share 4,7 and 8 with my wife talk more of a lover undecided

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Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by otunbadan(m): 12:37pm On Feb 28, 2015
searching4love:
undecided


OP I HOPE THOSE SILLY NIGERIAN GIRLS CAN READ AND UNDERSTAND YOUR THREAD. MOST OF THEM ARE THIEVES AND SEE RELATIONSHIP WITH SOME ONE NOT YET MARRIED TO THEM AS A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. NIGERIAN LADIES ARE THE MOST MONEY HUNGRY LADIES IN THE WORLD. THIS IS EVIDENT WITH THE RECENT DIVORCE RATE COS MANY MEN ARE BEGINNING TO SEE THAT GETTING MARRIED TO A NIGERIAN LADY IS A REAL SET BACK TO ONE'S PROGRESS IN LIFE

#TEAM FOREIGN GIRLS cool

This stupid child you again
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Bachelor101: 12:39pm On Feb 28, 2015
2 and 3 embarassed.... Damn me, So bleeped up rite now still can't get over ther breakup, Even wen she got married just a week after we ended it.. Feel so betrayed and anger and hate is so consuming me.. Still waiting to wake up from dis nightmare..Lolzzz
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Nobody: 12:44pm On Feb 28, 2015
MizMyColi:


Bookmarked!

Mumuyi
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by Nobody: 12:51pm On Feb 28, 2015
iwezor1:
that's nice and good to know; cos when been posted , many see it as real christ, but good to know some1 on NL sees it d way I do.

Of course not. I just think it's hilarious that he took a selfie with his look-alike Jesus portrait hanging on his bedroom wall, lol.
Re: 8 Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married by iwezor1(m): 12:56pm On Feb 28, 2015
EnlightenedSoul:


Of course not. I just think it's hilarious that he took a selfie with his look-alike Jesus portrait hanging on his bedroom wall, lol.
sure it is ; hope u don't mind if I add u up on bbm? (Are u on bbm or whatsaap?)

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