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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by bukatyne(f): 10:10pm On Mar 02, 2015
kilokeys:
kissed and pronounced healing

u are truly a miracle man..

u hv cured her from konji

His kind of ministry is epic!

Kissinger Ministries grin

@OP: pray about it and be led in confession & kissing ministry
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by 1miccza: 10:11pm On Mar 02, 2015
ibe9ja:


Oga miracle worker, if ur story na true then u need serious deliverance. How can u bulala person wey just newly do appendicitis? Dat means u fit bulala married woman ni. Beware of magun o

E be like say you no read well,the ex na married woman too now
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by bukatyne(f): 10:17pm On Mar 02, 2015
Mintayo:
kiss of life?
kiss of death?
kiss of betrayal?

Kiss of healing
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by shegsrules(m): 10:24pm On Mar 02, 2015
OP if u are to confess for your crime then go to God in prayers and tell him how sorry u are after which you go to ur wife and tell her. Even the holy bible says if u offend someone go back to them and make peace.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by IbkD: 10:27pm On Mar 02, 2015
gunnerman:

I kno its God who 4givs but then i was at d Redemption Camp wen pastor Adeboye said,he cheated on his wife,comfessed to God,but God told him to go and confess to his wife b4 He forgive him.
God doesn't always have to use the same correction method for everyone. Pastor Adeboye's relationship with God is different from yours. Talk to God to lead you. Everything after that should be according to his directives. I wish you the best.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by IbkD: 10:28pm On Mar 02, 2015
gunnerman:

I kno its God who 4givs but then i was at d Redemption Camp wen pastor Adeboye said,he cheated on his wife,comfessed to God,but God told him to go and confess to his wife b4 He forgive him.
God doesn't always have to use the same correction method for everyone. Pastor Adeboye's relationship with God is differnt from yours. Talk to God to lead you. Everything after that should be according to his directives. I wish you the best.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by koyyess: 10:30pm On Mar 02, 2015
You should be truthful, this is how the story began-The minute you heard your wife had a heart problem, you decided to have wavering eyes and look for ways to kill her faster. You joined forces with your stu*pid ex but the minute you saw that she had given you the worst, horrible std, your brain 'rebooted' now you are feeling guilty and giving us a born again background bull shiit. The bible carefully identified people like you - you are simply Stu*pid.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by sweetgala(m): 10:32pm On Mar 02, 2015
elantraceey:
I don't really want to disbelieve you but what help kissing an injured skin offer? I don't want to start pointing out your faults but I put it to you that you had thoughts of having sex with her before you went there and even at that , you had control of yourself before you penetrated her so I don't take that it just happened as an excuse.


The only person you have to confess to is your wife , it will hurt and injure her but I tell you these kind of things knows how to rear up their head latter in life and then it'll be too disasterous , look for a perfect moment and tell her but meanwhile if you're still waiting to be told before you break every communication from ex then you're not remorseful at all.

whatever you do ,ignore this woman

DO NOT TELL YOUR WIFE OR PASTOR

Some have advised , just speak to your God and resolve with him
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Weah96: 10:57pm On Mar 02, 2015
Born again means the license to do every bad deed imaginable. Just ask Jesus for forgiveness later, by opening your mouth and talking to the empty wind. He never fails.

This man coupled his morality to Jesus and now he wants to feel remorseful, only because of the fire. Be moral for it's own sake, not because someone has threatened to burn you up.

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Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by bigname90(m): 11:03pm On Mar 02, 2015
kilokeys:
kissed and pronounced healing

u are truly a miracle man..

u hv cured her from konji





NL una nor go kill me wit laff
miracle worker indeed
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 11:24pm On Mar 02, 2015
gunnerman:
In an
attempt to show how sympathetic I was, I knelt before her and kissed the affected part and pronounced healing on it
What the....

Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 11:33pm On Mar 02, 2015
1miccza:


That's called miracle kissing
lol,yaya kike?
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by OBlaize(f): 11:42pm On Mar 02, 2015
He also needs to confess to the elders in his church, its part of the bible's requirement for steps for atonement of sins, then he would be remmoved from being a pastor (that is if his church is really christ like) there's no way he would still poineer over the church after comitting such grave a sin. That I guess is the hardest part, the part where you will be suspended from leading a congregation, cos you have sinned against flesh and against God.
But you shaaaaaaa, a whole "pastor" I mean; duh, we all know its a taboo to communicate with an ex, not to talk of visiting her alone and giving her the "kiss of life" cheesy, but for you? "Come one, what were u thinking? I concore with the fellow who said you went there with the intention of doing exactly what you did; confess that one too, no go begin lie say "it was the devil"
jnrbayano:
The people you sinned against are the people you owe confession, they are also the people you expect forgiveness from.

Those people are your wife and God.

----Wife because she is your body. You belong to her and vice-versa.

----God because he is your God and he hates sin.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by andyanders: 11:45pm On Mar 02, 2015
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My one kobo,Some Pastors might end up using you as a reference point to their preaching one day.The pastor might discuss with his best friend or use it a reference during counselling. If you make an attempt to leave the church any day, it might turn out to be a reference point to why you left their church.
Confess to your creator and NEVER go back to it alone because only know your secret and whatever you make your wife know, can never be a secret again because she can use it on a day you least expected.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by 9jatatafo(m): 12:03am On Mar 03, 2015
OP na wa for you oo! You are a born again, you are married then you suddenly connected with your ex and exchanged numbers, she called you complaining of pains as a result of the appendectomy she had, you went to her place, she showed you the incision above or near her kpekus, you humbled yourself by kneeling down before her and kissed the place and you stood up and started kissing passionately and lustfully. Hmmm you are a big pervert and a cheat! Go on your kneels before God and your wife and asked for forgiveness.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Brush1: 12:05am On Mar 03, 2015
gunnerman:

I kno its God who 4givs but then i was at d Redemption Camp wen pastor Adeboye said,he cheated on his wife,comfessed to God,but God told him to go and confess to his wife b4 He forgive him.


Different strokes for different folks. Did GOD tell you to do same thing he demanded of your pastor?. He may decide to approach your problem differently from that of your pastor. If you are taking a clue from your pastor, why then did you decide to put this out on naira land?. I can't comprehend how people rationalize things. My recommendation is this, ask our (only father GOD) for forgiveness and be honest with your inner self of not repeating such behavior. Don't border telling your wife, it may hurt her more than you would imagine. Am sure you would be fine the very second you are forgiven by GOD, you would feel that peace of mind you seek. Good luck.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by HizMissy(f): 12:07am On Mar 03, 2015
gunnerman:

I kno its God who 4givs but then i was at d Redemption Camp wen pastor Adeboye said,he cheated on his wife,comfessed to God,but God told him to go and confess to his wife b4 He forgive him.

eheh? so y r u still seeking advice? go and do as he did

the heart problem is a silly excuse.
y didnt that thought stop u from cheating?
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by HizMissy(f): 12:10am On Mar 03, 2015
gunnerman:
In an attempt to show how simpathetic I
was,I knelt before her and kissed the affected part and
pronounced healing on it.
.
u shud av just gone straight down to where u had in mind.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by HizMissy(f): 12:19am On Mar 03, 2015
sweetgala:


whatever you do ,ignore this woman

DO NOT TELL YOUR WIFE OR PASTOR

Some have advised , just speak to your God and resolve with him


spoken like a true male.

@ op, the only reason u shud kip this from ur wife is if u r not sorry and wish to continue.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by HizMissy(f): 12:23am On Mar 03, 2015
Dragonking:


When ur wife cheats on u, I hope u won't be vexed when u find out from somewhere else? at least she confessed to God right?

you have a good head on those shoulders!
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by crackhouse(m): 4:40am On Mar 03, 2015
I know u will still kiss and pronounce healing again if u have the opportunity. And now u are seeking for advice after u had released and satisfy ur John Thomas. Abeg make i hear word jorr.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by October1960: 4:45am On Mar 03, 2015
Typical Naija Xtian - lots of noise, little substance. From the stealing Government officials to Politicians all fake in their religiousness. wink

As Karl Marx said:

"Religion is the sigh of the oppressed creature, the heart of a heartless world, just as it is the spirit of a spiritless situation. It is the opium of the people. The abolition of religion as the illusory happiness of the people is required for their real happiness".
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by 1miccza: 6:05am On Mar 03, 2015
Bunsky:
lol,yaya kike?

Lafiya kalau yaya harkokin? Ki na a whatsapp ko bbm ne?
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nelgenius4me(m): 6:46am On Mar 03, 2015
He that has never sin before let him cast the first stone. pls dear sender confess your sin first to GOD then to your wife -not any pastor. Your wife should be the one to be appease not a pastor who is a third party. You need to take her to a place where she can relax when opening up to her: it could b a vacation . You tell it to a pastor you may just find yourself being a topic for the church.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 6:51am On Mar 03, 2015
Evina:
Wow! I really don't like it when people go all "you ought to know better", but man of God, I can't help but point out your errors.

You saw the signs! Both the subtle and glaring signs, but you chose to satisfy the desires of your carnal nature! When you started calling and texting and enjoying the rush of excitement and excusing those feelings for something harmless and innocent and trusting in your ability to stay disciplined, it was clear that you had already embraced temptation.

Anyways, now that the sin is committed, search yourself deeply. Are you truly sorry? Do you truly desire repentance? Then genuinely confess your sins to God and apply the blood of Jesus over your error, because He is faithful and just to forgive and cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness.

Then, take steps to cease ALL forms of communication with that ex! I am not really a fan of confessing your sins to pastors, I mean, is it to get counselled or what?

As for wifey, I don't think it is wise to tell her because you will just open an endless tap of suspicion. Being that she is very emotional, it could lead to everlasting distrust.

Next time, tell her when you meet the ex. Be open about your relationships with others, that is one way to check yourself from falling.


the righteous man falls 7 times and rises up again
if we fall we have an advocate in Jesus christ

Christ is willing and able to forgive us if we confess our sins
confess your faults one to another

pastor if you really are one i have given you 4 different bible refs as seen above. tell God and Tell her.................................for truth will surely out.............. no 1 is perfect wont judge you but you should know better......................
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Minet16(m): 6:54am On Mar 03, 2015
omowumee:

ahan...dem dey pay for F.P post ni?


modified... And who told you that they don't pay
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Minet16(m): 6:55am On Mar 03, 2015
afolwalex20:


He made fp.. blaaaaaahh!! tongue


was only pulling his legs
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 6:55am On Mar 03, 2015
Evina:
Wow! I really don't like it when people go all "you ought to know better", but man of God, I can't help but point out your errors.

You saw the signs! Both the subtle and glaring signs, but you chose to satisfy the desires of your carnal nature! When you started calling and texting and enjoying the rush of excitement and excusing those feelings for something harmless and innocent and trusting in your ability to stay disciplined, it was clear that you had already embraced temptation.

Anyways, now that the sin is committed, search yourself deeply. Are you truly sorry? Do you truly desire repentance? Then genuinely confess your sins to God and apply the blood of Jesus over your error, because He is faithful and just to forgive and cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness.

Then, take steps to cease ALL forms of communication with that ex! I am not really a fan of confessing your sins to pastors, I mean, is it to get counselled or what?

As for wifey, I don't think it is wise to tell her because you will just open an endless tap of suspicion. Being that she is very emotional, it could lead to everlasting distrust.

Next time, tell her when you meet the ex. Be open about your relationships with others, that is one way to check yourself from falling.


two people need to be told in remorse
God and the wife

God should only hear after the wife has........................when you come to the temple to offer your sacrifice and have a issue with someone drop the sacrifice and go reconcile....................................
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Minet16(m): 6:56am On Mar 03, 2015
messpero90:
shame on u!!! its now on front page. destiny can b delayed but it can never be change.


may your destiny not be front page IJN
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 6:56am On Mar 03, 2015
elantraceey:
I don't really want to disbelieve you but what help kissing an injured skin offer? I don't want to start pointing out your faults but I put it to you that you had thoughts of having sex with her before you went there and even at that , you had control of yourself before you penetrated her so I don't take that it just happened as an excuse.


The only person you have to confess to is your wife , it will hurt and injure her but I tell you these kind of things knows how to rear up their head latter in life and then it'll be too disasterous , look for a perfect moment and tell her but meanwhile if you're still waiting to be told before you break every communication from ex then you're not remorseful at all.


we all have faults
most people only sin in their minds these days
so dont be harsh on him

telling the wife and God ..........right choice
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 7:00am On Mar 03, 2015
cococandy:
You don't have to confess to her.
And may not really help your marriage depending on the kind of wife you have.
Confessing to your pastor is enough.
The important thing is that you've made up your mind NEVER to do it again.

The repentance is the what earns you forgiveness in the sight of God even if you don't tell your pastor.
Just confession sort of unburdens the soul.



the only help his marriage will ever need is truth not dirty secrets
people divorce and home are broken when one partner finds out they were cheated on during courtship but confession solves a lot of problems. if one confesses and one pleads to change and one is still punished then the higher authority lacks tact and love........................ when apologies are made from a sincere heart justice ought to be tempered with mercy.
Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by Nobody: 7:01am On Mar 03, 2015
lolaredvelvet:
I don't believe this story. If its true then lipsrsealed



speak
guess youd do fine if you spill it out

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