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Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by thorpido(m): 10:47am On Mar 09, 2015 |
blaizze:I believe you don't live together.It's not so hard to quit.Stop picking his calls and avoid seeing him.Tell him in clear terms that it is over. This guy is no good for you. 3 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by ladynice: 10:55am On Mar 09, 2015 |
I have enjoying a grt tym wit dis tread I learn alot from al of u God bless u al 4 taking ur tym 2 give counsel 2 we d intending bride by Gods grace my traditional wedding would b taking place in july I pray 2 God 2 give me a long lasting swt & loving memories wit my husband he is indeed a very nice person dat has d fear of God bt there r 2 issues we have nt discussed thoroughly which is giving me cos 4 concern no1 he strictly believe in no sex b4 marriage which I love too bt how 1 knw if a man is ok or impotent den secondly issue of finances hw do I raise question about it without making him feel am nt only interested in his money though he believe it is d responsibility of a man 2 take care of his wife & he always tell he would like me 2 b a good economist can a man tell his wife how much he is earning & wives can u ask ur husband 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Preternatura1(f): 10:55am On Mar 09, 2015 |
blaizze:No one is supposed to talk to or treat another person this way, you shouldn't let anyone walk all over you. Is your boyfriend mentally unstable? He is acting like a crazy person. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by goodheart4God: 12:50pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Preternatura1:But my dear it happens. He is not mentally unstable, he is just a possessive fellow. He isn't crazy at all. It is just his way of controlling to make him feel good about himself. I wonder what he is doing with the girl when he says he doesn't trust women. The girl will do herself a lot of good if she breaks up with him. At 20, there is still so much to achieve and while doing this you will meet great guys and may end up in marriage. Don't let her mortgage her future for some chocolate boys. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Idowuogbo(f): 1:30pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
@blaizze You are a dating a m0ron.Stick with humans not animals.Jump and pass this one o...hian! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by ekolina(m): 1:34pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
I have learned a great deal since coming across this tread, I have been reading all through since over two weeks now. Thanks to you all for your contributions thus far, you have saved a lot of marriages and intending ones. I just came back from canteen and I saw myself eating with caution so I wont make the chakam chakam noise though I don't eat with ma mouth open. Thanks so much Mrs Osisi for this trend and your openness to issues. 13 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by blaizze(f): 1:41pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
I laughed really hard . preternatural, he is not mentally unstable. just like great heart God said, he is just too possessive. I feel his insecurities stems from the fact that he is not yet in the university while am almost graduating. I feels I want someone better. He is a totally independent guy and works for his money and also acquired advanced certificate and diplomas but not a university degree. We don't live together. I have never even spent a night in his house before. I'm just tired of everything. He knows my house, my mum's shop and almost all my friends. He even knows my mum. whenever I say I want to break up he will start coming to all these places to look for me n start meeting all these people to help him talk to me. and will start making promises to change and all that. He always says that I have seen someone new that why I wnt to break up with him. Is it a must to be in a relationship. I just want to be alone for now. without all this boyfriend wahala will achieve more. I will just block his num and stop going out for now(my school is on strike). If I don see him and don't receive any calls I think he will get the message. No point talking to him about it cos it won't work. I just have to be firm. Thanks for your responses God bless u all. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by nwahmummy(f): 1:42pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
I need help, i dated this guy for a year now, i found out he was married though he told me he has been separated for the past four years, practically he is still married, i did love him then. but he is some one that does not talk about himself or his family, he told me he has a son but i saw three children in his CV. i dont know anything about his family and i have never met them. people are telling that he is still married which he claim they are lying. now i have met another guy who is serious about me though we are not planning marriage this new guy has never been married before, suddenly the old guy comes up that i he wants to introduce me to his family and this is the same man who has been stalling since. he is not aware that i have met some one else. i really want to give this new guy a chance, i really dont want to be a second wife no matter if i love the person. it doesnt sit well with me having step child/ren. what should i do. the more i try to pull away from him the closer he wants to be. i dont want to hurt him or part in a harsh way, pls help. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Preternatura1(f): 1:56pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
goodheart4God:Yea, I get that, but that's some sort of personality disorder right there. Possessive personality disorder to be precise. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Preternatura1(f): 2:02pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
blaizze:wow! I was certain he has a personality disorder. The signs are all over your posts, he even stalks you, that's creepy, and you have to not go out because of this? He needs counseling, you should talk to him about seeing someone, even if you succeed in freeing yourself from him, he is just going to do it to someone else, that's if he doesn't try to hurt you or himself, he can be helped. 2 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 2:22pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
ekolina:.. nice |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 2:30pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
nwahmummy:How sure are you he's been separated for four years?? hope no be person husband you dey date? Nevertheless, to me this is no hard choice... there are so many guys out there to settle for second hand... Besides, he's a liar too? how do you plan to cope? It's hard living with a liar because even his goodmorning may be a lie... 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 2:59pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
This i must confess is a wonderful thread, and i must say it has really engineered me to become a stronger man emotionally. Below are the excerpts i digested from the 46 pages i could read, and i think i should share them with u all. The meanings might be quite relative. Enjoy! 'you have to die to self and the flesh to succeed in marriage' by djon78 'marriage is tough especially the early years and there will be times you will feel like packing your bags and running' by babyosisi 'when hard marital current strikes, sometimes the sexual chemistry is what will take you over the hump, and if its lacking from day one, you may be swimming against the tide.' by babyosisi 'when one day does not go well or you are tired, tommorrow is a new day with new chances. If you aim for 100 and you get 50 you have something, but if you aim for zero and you get zero, you get nothing.' By mutter 'when we as humans hit rock bottom, the only way forward is up' by efemenaXY unless you fight u cannot be a winner. By moca singles in courtship waste time on irrelevancies instead of fprobing and addressing important things only to end up getting married and finding out it wont work, at the end the innocent children suffer. By Forexmarts 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Idowuogbo(f): 3:04pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
^Good student! |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by freecocoa(f): 3:10pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Idowuogbo:You see you abi? I hate you right now. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Idowuogbo(f): 3:12pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
[b][/b] freecocoa:girl, no fighting in class na... i will report you to senior cococandy o |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by freecocoa(f): 3:14pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
This thread can speed o. If after going through this thread and you still can't get your marriage to work, then not even God, Satan and their angels combined can help you, damn! These women are something else, I wonder how wise Solomon must have been to be the wisest ever(even though I dey use one eye dey look bible stories sha ), you guys rock, I can't help but say I love you all. 1 Like |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by freecocoa(f): 3:15pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Idowuogbo:Seriously? That's all you can say? I will tear your bra here walai. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Idowuogbo(f): 3:20pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Agbero |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by freecocoa(f): 3:21pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Btw, I see a serious ajebo on this thread. Personality disorder ke. The average Naija people go believe that one? The only counselling he's likely to get na serious deliverance sessions for mfm or cele. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Idowuogbo(f): 3:21pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
freecocoa:walaaaaaai |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by freecocoa(f): 3:22pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Idowuogbo:I miss you girlfriend, it's not fair for reals, where's the love na? |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Idowuogbo(f): 3:25pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
freecocoa:Oya chop it I'll buzz you later |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by sweetcocoa(f): 3:29pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Idowuogbo:Okay dear. That robotic thing wey dey ban people don ban freecocoalario. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by sweetcocoa(f): 3:39pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
blaizze:Please I beg you, continue to run for your life like you say you would. Your bf is emotionally abusive, it's only a matter of time before he becomes physical, give Usain Bolt a run for his money biko. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:45pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
nwahmummy: You dnt want to hurt him or part in a harsh way bla bla bla kwa. That sounds like you are begining to like this man inspite of all the red flags you are seeing already. How do you women do it? There is no way you would let someone go wihtout hurting the person. Whatever he would feel should not be any of your business or worry. Its not rocket science dear. He is very MARRIED. perhaps he is one of those men working in one state and living like a single man while his family are elsewhere. You know what you want, dnt you? This man dey hold you for neck? NO. so let this man go. Its not hard.focus on other men coming for you and shine your eyes well well. 5 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 3:54pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
blaizze: Blaizey blaize, you better run for your life! This isnt love. This is prison. I smell abuse coming from this guy. If you really wanna break up and make it believeable, all you have to do is avoid him at all cost. You already know what avoiding at all cost means. His type always go for your kind; Soft hearted women. Since this is your nature, try not to allow people override or control you. Avoid controlling men completely so you dnt keep ending up with his type repeatedly. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by blaizze(f): 5:16pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
personality disorder ke, maybe maybe not but u can make someone change unless they want to right. I got an app that blocks calls so I his calls today. I really want to be free abeg. The whole constant argument can drain ones energy I swear. I'm just going to keep avoiding. |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 6:06pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
blaizze: My thread was geared towards marriages or those leading to marriages and I doubt if your relationship would lead to that You are only 20 I don't fault this young man too much,he is only 24 He has a lot of maturing to do so I see this as a factor of his age and immaturity One thing you can learn from this and this thread is who not to be with especially when marriage comes 5 Likes |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 6:36pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Ok |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Idowuogbo(f): 6:49pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
^You need his permission for visits? Mehn I seeing things ee....wow! WO OOOW! !! |
Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by Nobody: 7:00pm On Mar 09, 2015 |
Idowuogbo:Yes. I know him for over 3years now, but we started dating some months ago. He moved to another state and I haven't gone to visit him there yet. |
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