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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Salligreen: 10:37pm On Apr 22, 2015
Arsenate:
wtf. has the world gone so bad that most of you think everyone out there have had an abortion? the fact that you do it often doesn't imply that everyone else does.
what is wrong with the world? immortality normal? fornication normal?abortion normal?
spits...
Arsenate:
wtf. has the world gone so bad that most of you think everyone out there have had an abortion? the fact that you do it often doesn't imply that everyone else does.
what is wrong with the world? immortality normal? fornication normal?abortion normal?
spits


I do support ur argument. I just felt it would be cruel to tell him outrightly to dump d lady. While I do not condone immorality. It does seem to be the norm as justified by most of d comments from the female folks on this thread. Guys re in trouble!
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by kritikali(m): 10:40pm On Apr 22, 2015
W
MrsChima:


If having kids is so important to you then you need to focus on a woman that can have kids but here is the thing....children are a blessing from God and God will not give you kids if you are not ready or destined to have kids.

You can get a virgin that has never been infected and still not have children. You need to be spiritually ready to receive children and be it the will of God.

You want the love foremost...why have children with someone you truly are not compatible or in love with? You will divorce and drag tour children from women to women as you finally find your rib.

People focus on things that are not important and neglected what is important . Once you do that everything else will fall in place.

What I'd more important to you? Children or true love and companionship?

Really Spritually ready to receive children, are u for real?

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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by jayedu108: 10:41pm On Apr 22, 2015
Majority of the girls here have done abortion before so it nt a new ting,wish there will be girl here who will be brave to tell us her experience here also.
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MrsChima(f): 10:42pm On Apr 22, 2015
kritikali:
W

Really Spritually ready to receive children, are u for real?

Yes.
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MrsChima(f): 10:44pm On Apr 22, 2015
jayedu108:
Majority of the girls here have done abortion before so it nt a new ting,wish there will be girl here who will be brave to tell us her experience here also.

I can't tell you anything personal about abortion because I had sense enough to practice safe sex.
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Fourwinds: 10:46pm On Apr 22, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Guys sha *smh*

Tell them the truth before marriage ......problem
Hide the truth till after marriage ......problem


Most Guys are so difficult to please ie guys like the poster undecided

Dude, pls stop looking for excuses and settle down with somebody. Most ladies pretend and lie a lot and you're lucky to have met a lady who isn't a liar undecided

God is the giver of children! I'm not saying kudos to the lady but you shouldn't judge her from her past/mistakes. We are all human so why not just forgive her and tell her to ask God for Mercy and move on with your wedding plans
do u know what it means for a woman not to give her husband child. dats y some girls are. so foolish dey play away deir life rite from teen age forgetting d future is dere. after several abortion dey come to square zero. who force legs. open. can dey keep deir legs. close. Nonsense
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by peedeeasobie(m): 10:47pm On Apr 22, 2015
ammyluv2002:
You don't get it! How about babes that will do such like 19 times yet act like saint


You actually deflected the answer! Will you give ur brother the same advice?
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 10:47pm On Apr 22, 2015
Bros! Its you and your problem. So solve it.

At the end of the day its only you can decide what you want.

Me and I don't want this kind of wahala and dilemma that's why I have decided to remain SINGLE for life.

This is the kind of unnecessary issues you encounter when you enter marriage these days.


But if am in your shoes the marriage has ended immediately, assuming no bride price has been paid yet.

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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 10:49pm On Apr 22, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Shey, because she told him? Do you know how many babes that have done worse yet they act like saints? See, what matters is the repentance and thatz what God is looking at too. Besides, do you know many times you have sin against God yet He's not mad at you. We ask God to forgive us our sins yet we are so harden to forgive those that have wronged us.
AMMYLUV U TOLD THE TRUTH. I LV U 4 DAT. KEEP IT UP. BUT LADIES U PPLE SHOULD STOP ALL THESE ROUGH PLAY NOW.
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 10:50pm On Apr 22, 2015
Everyone deserves a second chance,u might hav also impregnated a lady in d past and she also did an abortion but let bygones be bygones. Go ahead nd marry her.
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by madolapo10: 10:52pm On Apr 22, 2015
the reality is DAT we all have make one mistake or the other,if u love her continue or get her pregnant.. appreciate her for telling u before marriage because she believe u ought to know b4 marriage
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 10:53pm On Apr 22, 2015
Guy if u lv her pls go ahead with the marriage.
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Fourwinds: 10:54pm On Apr 22, 2015
Nursy:
As usual the men are now saints... #sigh#
did dey force d girls legs open or d girls willingly open d legs. don't forget it takes two to tangle. d guys are not saints but cannt girls say no.
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ammyluv2002(f): 10:57pm On Apr 22, 2015
INVINCIBLECSP:
AMMYLUV U TOLD THE TRUTH. I LV U 4 DAT. KEEP IT UP. BUT LADIES U PPLE SHOULD STOP ALL THESE ROUGH PLAY NOW.
grin
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by caseyhills(m): 11:01pm On Apr 22, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Shey, because she told him? Do you know how many babes that have done worse yet they act like saints? See, what matters is the repentance and thatz what God is looking at too. Besides, do you know many times you have sin against God yet He's not mad at you. We ask God to forgive us our sins yet we are so harden to forgive those that have wronged us.
Babe! bone this Gospel! she said the truth and so what! a criminal still get court sentence! even if he/she says the truth! let a Guy tell he was a high way robber! will you still go ahead and marry him knowing fully well that the past always come back knocking! "Anyway some! girls no get choice! I was excepting you to advice the young man for a test before marriage!

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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by jayedu108: 11:03pm On Apr 22, 2015
I tink from my own understanding and experience most ladies fall in love wit the wrong guy and also dey fall in love witout using dey brain but in love wit their heart and dose follish guys out there takes advantage of dis wich is part of the reason why some guys tend to reject the pregnancy wen d girl is pregnant and d foolish girls has got no option but to seek d alternative solutin wich is abortion.

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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Edusouls(m): 11:10pm On Apr 22, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Guys sha *smh*

Tell them the truth before marriage ......problem
Hide the truth till after marriage ......problem


Most Guys are so difficult to please ie guys like the poster undecided

Dude, pls stop looking for excuses and settle down with somebody. Most ladies pretend and lie a lot and you're lucky to have met a lady who isn't a liar undecided

God is the giver of children! I'm not saying kudos to the lady but you shouldn't judge her from her past/mistakes. We are all human so why not just forgive her and tell her to ask God for Mercy and move on with your wedding plans
shut up, u think abortion is just a deed,look at how u re saying it lightly,u endtime women of nowadays with dirty lifestyle,looking for whom to end up in their home, the blood of the innocent baby torments endlessly, so u girls are into a trouble out of this world, it rings with anger in the spirit world and the retalliation is fatal and torments till death, so go on and be aborting babies na una go dy hear am..

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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by corektchic: 11:10pm On Apr 22, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Guys sha *smh*

Tell them the truth before marriage ......problem
Hide the truth till after marriage ......problem


Most Guys are so difficult to please ie guys like the poster undecided

Dude, pls stop looking for excuses and settle down with somebody. Most ladies pretend and lie a lot and you're lucky to have met a lady who isn't a liar undecided

God is the giver of children! I'm not saying kudos to the lady but you shouldn't judge her from her past/mistakes. We are all human so why not just forgive her and tell her to ask God for Mercy and move on with your wedding plans
besides are u a Virgin? @poster. Are we not evn sure a gal too has done an abortion for u in d past? I knw pple who married virgins and after 5yrs r still childless, some were pregnant b4 wedding and had miscarriages after.. So my dear if d lady is honest ur lucky. Cos I doubt if I would have told u dat. It's GOD who gives children pls.
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Edusouls(m): 11:15pm On Apr 22, 2015
Babprosper20:
Atleast she didn't lie, though i know it's difficult to accept, bu tpray to God over it
pray to God to get over what? You go and marry that type of woman nahh, u think abortion is childsplay, noo the blood of the innocent baby rings revenge endlessly into Gods ear and the spirits will always torment that woman for a lifetime..
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 11:16pm On Apr 22, 2015
Mprex:
Op prolly that lady is just trying you. What lady in her right mind would tell you that after hearing your story.


Maybe she is just bieng sincere


all thesame, i will advice you to go on with the marriage


all those guys shouting ladies and abortions on this thread, thunder fire you JTs


whether those ladies took in through sachet water


All I knw I wunt marry a gal dtt has commited murder b4 not2 tllk of the one that takes postinor2 dt tin hs effects u knw??

Ur children willl grow up n strt takin soo much codein u wunt know it's origin
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by corektchic: 11:17pm On Apr 22, 2015
Edusouls:
shut up, u think abortion is just a deed,look at how u re saying it lightly,u endtime women of nowadays with dirty lifestyle,looking for whom to end up in their home, the blood of the innocent baby torments endlessly, so u girls are into a trouble out of this world, it rings with anger in the spirit world and the retalliation is fatal and torments till death, so go on and be aborting babies na una go dy hear am..
so d guys wey follow plant d pikin no go hear am abi? What abt cases where d lady is willing to keep d baby but d man says she's on her own. Wat abt pple who got pregnant out of ignorance n those who were threatened by the men to end their relationships if they dnt lie with dem and out of desperation gave in only to be disappointed by same men. I don see u na ur d Almighty that knows d heart of everyone. Don't seat n condemn when u dnt knw d person's story. That's y GOD is not man.
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by zzybaby: 11:20pm On Apr 22, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Guys sha *smh*

Tell them the truth before marriage ......problem
Hide the truth till after marriage ......problem


Most Guys are so difficult to please ie guys like the poster undecided

Dude, pls stop looking for excuses and settle down with somebody. Most ladies pretend and lie a lot and you're lucky to have met a lady who isn't a liar undecided

God is the giver of children! I'm not saying kudos to the lady but you shouldn't judge her from her past/mistakes. We are all human so why not just forgive her and tell her to ask God for Mercy and move on with your wedding plans
I seconded u biko
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ammyluv2002(f): 11:21pm On Apr 22, 2015
Edusouls:
shut up, u think abortion is just a deed,look at how u re saying it lightly,u endtime women of nowadays with dirty lifestyle,looking for whom to end up in their home, the blood of the innocent baby torments endlessly, so u girls are into a trouble out of this world, it rings with anger in the spirit world and the retalliation is fatal and torments till death, so go on and be aborting babies na una go dy hear am..
Biko, park well make i see better people mention undecided
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ammyluv2002(f): 11:22pm On Apr 22, 2015
zzybaby:
I seconded u biko
It's sad how sompe peeps reaon! "Get her pregnant" like is in the guy's power to give children. They haven't seen couples who are medical fit yet no kids *smh*
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by geekybabe(f): 11:23pm On Apr 22, 2015
Acidosis:
#Team virgin finders grin grin

Lols. acidosis where have u been?
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 11:29pm On Apr 22, 2015
nwachivis:


Sincerely speaking,,,, no girl has ever done an abortion for me.

then dont settle for less.

for those saying, she may be testing you,
no one plays with such sensitive issue
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Mprex(f): 11:36pm On Apr 22, 2015
ignis:

Thanks Honey
You took those words from me.
lol. it amazes me..

can you imagine all of the screaming ladies and abortions as if its not a man that made them pregnant. Some of them here, their girlfriends have done countless abortions for them yet they are coming here to show themselves smh!


You know, I really dont blame them. Its we ladies that i blame.

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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Obalende: 11:37pm On Apr 22, 2015
this is why i go for young girls that are still naive and attend deeper life. forget all these girls were don tear eye!
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by efficiencie(m): 11:38pm On Apr 22, 2015
nwachivis:
Please nairalanders help me out.I am not an expert when it comes to writing,but i will still manage to drive home my point to the best of my capacity.

I proposed marriage just of recent to my spouse and went ahead with the family introduction.I have ever since been making preparations for the wedding.

I had told her in our previous interactions that i cancelled the marriage preparations with my ex when she told me she had once aborted a baby for her ex,which made her bleed for days.she told me back then that she was scared her womb was damaged because the pregnancy was 3 months old when she carried out the abortion.she pleaded with me to still marry her,reminding me of God's ability to perform miracles,even though she admitted that it was a difficult thing for any african man to do.I immediately called it quit between the both of us and moved on to my current spouse.

Just yesterday in one of our outings,my fiancée opened up to me that she once had an abortion in the past.she begged me not to call it "quit” with her,assuring me that no damage was done.

Am confused here because i can't handle the trauma of childlessness and a lot has been going through my mind. I love her and she loves me too.

Please advice me.

Do i continue with the marriage ?
Do i accept that it is my destiny to settle down with
a lady that has done abortion in the past ?
Do i insist she get pregnant for me before our wedding ?
Do i just go ahead and marry her with a positive
mindset ?

Please help me out of this quagmire..

Bro marriage is a commitment to love irrespective of the circumstance! You are troubled about kids. What if you get married to a virgin, have a pair of twins suffering a terminal ailment. Would you throw the woman away? Bro that's a poor outlook on marriage you have there. Do you know God and how loving he is? If you do you'll love the way he does, unconditionally!

Don't marry because you want kids rather marry the Lord's choice and you'll weather the storm of life with ease!
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Akynzodeighbour(m): 11:39pm On Apr 22, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Guys sha *smh*

Tell them the truth before marriage ......problem
Hide the truth till after marriage ......problem


Most Guys are so difficult to please ie guys like the poster undecided

Dude, pls stop looking for excuses and settle down with somebody. Most ladies pretend and lie a lot and you're lucky to have met a lady who isn't a liar undecided

God is the giver of children! I'm not saying kudos to the lady but you shouldn't judge her from her past/mistakes. We are all human so why not just forgive her and tell her to ask God for Mercy and move on with your wedding plans
easier said than done, would you marry an ex rapist? Or an ex paedophile? Hypocrite

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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ammyluv2002(f): 11:42pm On Apr 22, 2015
Akynzodeighbour:
easier said than done, would you marry an ex rapist? Or an ex paedophile? Hypocrite
And what are you? Saint?
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 11:51pm On Apr 22, 2015
kendrick9:
i will advice you to get her pregnant first to be sure if she still has a womb.... girls like that most probably were cheap runs girl before u met her...
I will kick her out it was me tho...

The definition of Contradiction in HD, you would kick her out if she was but yet still will impregnate her. wink

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