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Naughtysite:
Exactly

There are single able men that are clocking 30-35-40 yet no wife.

I see everything as grace. Secondly, our society wants to test everything. You see girls who dump good guys because the guy has not initiated sex. You also see guys dumping good girls who have refused to give in to sex before marriage. In this marriage thing, truth be told, its mostly sex driven. So the good girls will only break through by so much prayers.

It takes time to find someone on the same moral pedestal as you are.

well said. GOD bless you for looking at it from that perspective. This is almost always the truth. To all single christian men and ladies, I say keep the faith and don't let the seeming delay make u lose ur crown. I met a good guy, the attraction was mutual. He was ready to settle down and a gentle man. BUT, it didn't work out cos while he wanted sex while dating, I didn't cos of GOD's command on the issue. We talked things over, and decided to call it quits amicably. Though it broke my heart to let him go, but then, GOD's kingdom comes first. Hard for our generation to understand. It profits you nothing to lose your peace and salvation, no matter the pressure. May GOD help us all.

At this Junction they have to rebrand themselves. Every man likes a godly woman but we also want our wives to be classy and fashionably modest. Then they should focus on their career or whatever they're involved in. Men of these days prefer a working woman who can compliment the finances of the family... Not a full time house wife.. So they should be focus in preparation for the right man. For he might be watching already.

bizmogul:
I have a couple of female friends who have gotten to the " age of marriage" like they say. Between the age range of 28 - 30. Now, these chics as far as I know them are not miscreants ( you know like the kongo aso girls that sleep around). I am not saying they have not done or they don't do but they are good chics. Two weeks ago, I had a discussion with one of them and she practically broke down in tears.

Why can't I get a husband? All my friends are getting married; the annoying thing is that most of these friends of mine I know how they live their dirty lives. I am just here being the good girl, going to Church and at the end of the day, I end up with a guy that doesn't appreciate me. Why are you guys like this? I am tired, she yelled emotionally!

Now, that's just one of them and the other who said she was tired of being a good girl and doing all that relationship kind of thing, she just needs to man who would come to her and just say " let's get married"... I can go on and on with their stories but I was just thinking...

There are lots of ladies out there looking for husbands and it's crazy for these because Men now take advantage of their condition. Some guys even go as far as promising them marriage just to get the cookies. Guys sha! I was wondering, is it that these chics are not doing something they ought to be doing? Is it that they don't position themselves to get the exact kind of guys that they want in their life? Or is it that they have behavioral issues or something? But so far I know, they are good people.

When ladies get to this " age of marriage" period, it seems like they put themselves under intense pressure. Like when they see their friends getting married and family and friends asking " when are you getting married?" it makes them want to jump into any man and I tell you, a brother can see through desperation somehow! I think ladies should try as much as they can not to give into this pressure, maybe they should focus on doing something else, get involved in a Church project, activities, join a group, develop themselves further and in the course of this they could find the man of their dreams.


I really don't know, but what do you think?

Guy na wetin dey work you You no go leave them for us make we dey get free kpekus as we desire.

Amynature:
Pls let me ask u, wen d guy dnt ve job or any little tin doing to manage his self. Will u advice ur sister to marry such guy?

And this is wjy many Nigerian ladies will grow grey hair waiting gor a husband.

You spend nights with a strugggling guy in one room apartment,he screws u at will front and back in one room apartment, sometimes u cook for him and do his laundery yet u say he is not ready for marriage,he is jobless,u cant marry him in one room apartment...DUMB FOOL. Please what else does he want from a wife?

Most Nigerian ladies are so so dumb...the economy of this country no longer warrant the criteria of this job thing. Where is the Job sef?

What a lady needs is a man with vision,purposeful will and leave the rest to GOD.

Our ladies should also try to be fincially independent and allow this man space to achieve his dreams.

Another reason y many ladies will remain single for long is high cost of marriage ceremony and unfrtnately that one day event of gettin married is more important to ladies than staying married.

Most expensive wedding ceremonies we see are sponsored and not from the purse of the couple yet you start listing wedding arrangement that costs over 1m for a guy that is still finding his feet financially.

Until our ladies are ready to start life with a guy from the scratch i guess they are in for bigger problems.

The worst part now is that guys get free sex whether ready or not.

bizmogul:
I have a couple of female friends who have gotten to the " age of marriage" like they say. Between the age range of 28 - 30. Now, these chics as far as I know them are not miscreants ( you know like the kongo aso girls that sleep around). I am not saying they have not done or they don't do but they are good chics. Two weeks ago, I had a discussion with one of them and she practically broke down in tears.

Why can't I get a husband? All my friends are getting married; the annoying thing is that most of these friends of mine I know how they live their dirty lives. I am just here being the good girl, going to Church and at the end of the day, I end up with a guy that doesn't appreciate me. Why are you guys like this? I am tired, she yelled emotionally!

Now, that's just one of them and the other who said she was tired of being a good girl and doing all that relationship kind of thing, she just needs to man who would come to her and just say " let's get married"... I can go on and on with their stories but I was just thinking...

There are lots of ladies out there looking for husbands and it's crazy for these because Men now take advantage of their condition. Some guys even go as far as promising them marriage just to get the cookies. Guys sha! I was wondering, is it that these chics are not doing something they ought to be doing? Is it that they don't position themselves to get the exact kind of guys that they want in their life? Or is it that they have behavioral issues or something? But so far I know, they are good people.

When ladies get to this " age of marriage" period, it seems like they put themselves under intense pressure. Like when they see their friends getting married and family and friends asking " when are you getting married?" it makes them want to jump into any man and I tell you, a brother can see through desperation somehow! I think ladies should try as much as they can not to give into this pressure, maybe they should focus on doing something else, get involved in a Church project, activities, join a group, develop themselves further and in the course of this they could find the man of their dreams.


I really don't know, but what do you think?

The thing is some of these ladies wear their disappointment and frustration on their sleeves. There's a man for any woman and a woman 4 every man. Because you've not found yours does not mean you won't. Don't get too desperate and end up wishing that you'll have preferred to remain single than getting married. Cases are abound. For the ones that thinks that the bad girls get the right men, they should stick to the saying "if you are doing good, continue doing it, and if you are doing bad, continue, you'll be rewarded accordingly. They should persevere and continue praying they'll find their soul mate @ the right time!

abbey621:
Seriously how old are you? Can you guarantee if you marry a slim girl now that in 10 to 15 years she won't get fat? Out of all the qualities of a good woman, weight is only your concern? SMH

You are a deluded kiddo! Everybody has got their choices.. What is the difference btw him and a lady looking for a husband who has a car?? Why double standard?!

Well am single like Pringle, if they are ready let them talk to me( 5620AD65) BBM pin.

Decent ladies, my advise to all of you is that you should stop being too heavenly conscious thereby becoming too earthly useless. Do this by behaving like a mother anywhere you are.( LOVE and PLAY with CHILDREN, start putting some eatables inside your bags trust me, guys love this a lot, show respect, spend time with elderly women, never gossip, learn how to give some sassy jokes too.)

thecommunist:
hmmm, are you sure you can live with me in that type of plastic roof house? you sound to good to be true..i may just have found my wife.

so we can have enough money for bride price na

bizmogul:
I have a couple of female friends who have gotten to the " age of marriage" like they say. Between the age range of 28 - 30. Now, these chics as far as I know them are not miscreants ( you know like the kongo aso girls that sleep around). I am not saying they have not done or they don't do but they are good chics. Two weeks ago, I had a discussion with one of them and she practically broke down in tears.

Why can't I get a husband? All my friends are getting married; the annoying thing is that most of these friends of mine I know how they live their dirty lives. I am just here being the good girl, going to Church and at the end of the day, I end up with a guy that doesn't appreciate me. Why are you guys like this? I am tired, she yelled emotionally!

Now, that's just one of them and the other who said she was tired of being a good girl and doing all that relationship kind of thing, she just needs to man who would come to her and just say " let's get married"... I can go on and on with their stories but I was just thinking...

There are lots of ladies out there looking for husbands and it's crazy for these because Men now take advantage of their condition. Some guys even go as far as promising them marriage just to get the cookies. Guys sha! I was wondering, is it that these chics are not doing something they ought to be doing? Is it that they don't position themselves to get the exact kind of guys that they want in their life? Or is it that they have behavioral issues or something? But so far I know, they are good people.

When ladies get to this " age of marriage" period, it seems like they put themselves under intense pressure. Like when they see their friends getting married and family and friends asking " when are you getting married?" it makes them want to jump into any man and I tell you, a brother can see through desperation somehow! I think ladies should try as much as they can not to give into this pressure, maybe they should focus on doing something else, get involved in a Church project, activities, join a group, develop themselves further and in the course of this they could find the man of their dreams.


I really don't know, but what do you think?

Are these girls really good? If yes, i'm willing to talk with one of them.

umohmfonobong:
This happen to me too, a girl that have spent like 10 years with and i wanted to marry her come rain and shine left me because i did not have a good job for another man, for two year now i was still waiting for her to come back but she refuse, now i have undergone the second phase of marriage with a girl younger than her, but she has not even started, lately she came to tell me that i would have waited for her to reply me after i most have given her one week death line, the problem is lack of patience, forsight

Yours is mild..my ex wrote single on her cv despite the fact that we were legally married and all because my former business had issues.

this was a lady i hve bn with for 12years.

i keep saying it..most of these ladies are their own bane and this has made me lose faith in all Nigerian ladies cos it seems they all have that same psycological sickness.

DeeTus:
Are these girls really good? If yes, i'm willing to talk with one of them.

come on bro..... if everything was RIGHT/PROPER with these women, they wouldnt still be on the market? here is the question you should ask yourself: WHY DO ALL MEN THAT APPROACH THESE LADIES ONLY WANT SEX FROM THEM, AND NOTHING MORE?!

these are damaged goods, some way or another....whether it is their minds, their reputation or their expectations!

sorry for them. they gotta pray

nsiazu:
I think its ladies that usually cause themself not getting married coz they always want a guy that ends alot of money and have his land or car. The thing is that "A guy renting a house with a decent salary won't make him poor tomorrow". Ladies always look at a guy today and are forgetting that tomorrow is always better than today.
I've met great men and women and what they always tell me is that "They were very poor when they got married" but now they re damn rich coz they believed in each others dream.
Ladies of nairaland, please am begging you on my knees; God can send a poor guy to u n ask for marriage so please don't ignore and understand him and reason together with him so that u two can become rich together.

Word! Your words become clearer wen u read d comments of some girls on dose "PRE-WEDDING PICTURE" threads. It wl b obvios dt SOME wont opt for dt guy dts got hustle wt a FUTURE n can only handle jst d bare necessities of d consumation of d marriage NOW but wl drool dia lives away on how "som1 ws proposed to" n want same or "how beautiful d wedding pictures" are...witout knowin d HISTORY behind d lovely Pictures!

Ladies need to face reality!

For those ladies, I tink dy shdnt b consumed by dia prediicament...they shd socialise...get busy (work, church, bizness, school), Develop a personal relationship wt God in Prayer nt b jumpin frm one prophet to d odr...

saintfizzo:
Too much focus on becoming a wife... kinda myopic IMO... focus on ur career and be the best U can be... see how much attention u get from opposite sex afterwards, the real problem is mispriority

Trust me,being churchy doesn't guarantee shiiit

but y is it DAT every Saturday, Thursdays , there are weddings, introductions and engagements. there is virtually no Friday or Saturday DT more Dan 5 weddings won't take place.

MRBrownJ:
come on bro..... if everything was RIGHT/PROPER with these women, they wouldnt still be on the market? here is the question you should ask yourself: WHY DO ALL MEN THAT APPROACH THESE LADIES ONLY WANT SEX FROM THEM, AND NOTHING MORE?!

these are damaged goods, some way or another....whether it is their minds, their reputation or their expectations!

Ok but how did you know one another?

Toks2008:
And this is wjy many Nigerian ladies will grow grey hair waiting gor a husband.

You spend nights with a strugggling guy in one room apartment,he screws u at will front and back in one room apartment, sometimes u cook for him and do his laundery yet u say he is not ready for marriage,he is jobless,u cant marry him in one room apartment...DUMB FOOL. Please what else does he want from a wife?

Most Nigerian ladies are so so dumb...the economy of this country no longer warrant the criteria of this job thing. Where is the Job sef?

What a lady needs is a man with vision,purposeful will and leave the rest to GOD.

Our ladies should also try to be fincially independent and allow this man space to achieve his dreams.

Another reason y many ladies will remain single for long is high cost of marriage ceremony and unfrtnately that one day event of gettin married is more important to ladies than staying married.

Most expensive wedding ceremonies we see are sponsored and not from the purse of the couple yet you start listing wedding arrangement that costs over 1m for a guy that is still finding his feet financially.

Until our ladies are ready to start life with a guy from the scratch i guess they are in for bigger problems.

The worst part now is that guys get free sex whether ready or not.

true talk! Give this guy one bottle of Origin

Moana:
so we can have enough money for bride price na

hahaha, my own don better ....see, ive sent u a PM, lets carry our love somewhere private before bad belle ppl start screaming at us for derailing the topic.

thecommunist:
hahaha, my own don better ....see, ive sent u a PM, lets carry our love somewhere private before bad belle ppl start screaming at us for derailing the topic.

i no get PM o

saintfizzo:
Too much focus on becoming a wife... kinda myopic IMO... focus on ur career and be the best U can be... see how much attention u get from opposite sex afterwards, the real problem is mispriority

Trust me,being churchy doesn't guarantee shiiit

I get ur point but There are still thousands of successful single ladies out der looking for husband, my point is being successful is not a free pass to get a husband,
Attitude and so many other things matters

precisionindepth:
but y is it DAT every Saturday, Thursdays , there are weddings, introductions and engagements. there is virtually no Friday or Saturday DT more Dan 5 weddings won't take place.

cld U pls shed more light... I don't get the question

Raysly:
I'm in my late 20s I believe everybody has one or two things that attract an opposite sex to them, when I said she was fat I know what i mean it was later i get to understand that she was even taking pills that makes her fat and its not my ideal kind of woman
If she listens to you she will be ur best and amazing one for you

I get you now but seriously cut down your expectations, what will you do when you marry a slim girl and later on in life she ends up being fat? Will you leave her or consider her other attributes?

MrCork:
...correction...all men prefa lightskin females except the mechanic lookin men who lack self confident....every guy wants a lightskin female...truss me!

Somebody lied!!! *In Ice Prince's voice*

as it is with women so also with men too, pls don't get me wrong i was in a relationship for 6 years with a lady, she went for NYSC and just 3 months into her service she started acting strange, that is how 6 years went down the drain. i nearly died of heart break it took me a year and some months to get over the heart break and now i wish to get back on my feet.

@ Op please tell those your 2 female friends that they need 'Aka Uche' in their life,

b'cos Aka uche is better than Husband

Aka uche better than money

Aka uche better than house

Aka uche would give them wisdom

and lastly everyone needs aka uche for things to be better.

Only God can give them Aka uche, because it comes from the lord most high.

bizmogul:
I have a couple of female friends who have gotten to the " age of marriage" like they say. Between the age range of 28 - 30. Now, these chics as far as I know them are not miscreants ( you know like the kongo aso girls that sleep around). I am not saying they have not done or they don't do but they are good chics. Two weeks ago, I had a discussion with one of them and she practically broke down in tears.

Why can't I get a husband? All my friends are getting married; the annoying thing is that most of these friends of mine I know how they live their dirty lives. I am just here being the good girl, going to Church and at the end of the day, I end up with a guy that doesn't appreciate me. Why are you guys like this? I am tired, she yelled emotionally!

Now, that's just one of them and the other who said she was tired of being a good girl and doing all that relationship kind of thing, she just needs to man who would come to her and just say " let's get married"... I can go on and on with their stories but I was just thinking...

There are lots of ladies out there looking for husbands and it's crazy for these because Men now take advantage of their condition. Some guys even go as far as promising them marriage just to get the cookies. Guys sha! I was wondering, is it that these chics are not doing something they ought to be doing? Is it that they don't position themselves to get the exact kind of guys that they want in their life? Or is it that they have behavioral issues or something? But so far I know, they are good people.

When ladies get to this " age of marriage" period, it seems like they put themselves under intense pressure. Like when they see their friends getting married and family and friends asking " when are you getting married?" it makes them want to jump into any man and I tell you, a brother can see through desperation somehow! I think ladies should try as much as they can not to give into this pressure, maybe they should focus on doing something else, get involved in a Church project, activities, join a group, develop themselves further and in the course of this they could find the man of their dreams.


I really don't know, but what do you think?

...economy bad Na...which guy go wan marry when his pocket dey like NEPA light...if pepper dey guys go settle down..

Nigerian women can be very very very very boring, very very very selfish,very very very Demanding and very very very problematic, very very very fat,very very very pretentious and they carry a lot of baggages from their families like their parents, brothers and sisters plus cousins and aunties aĺl her folks you must carry along, just because you are married to one of their family member

adconline:
You are a deluded kiddo! Everybody has got their choices.. What is the difference btw him and a lady looking for a husband who has a car?? Why double standard?!

Stop using words in which you do not fully comprehend the meaning! I don't think my statement warrants being called delusional! Now to your point, you mentioned ladies looking for husband who has a car. I've personally dated ladies who were materialistic and I always gave them what they deserve, a real woman gets her own and don't need to rely on no man! Two wrongs don't make a right, if a guy marries a woman because of physical attributes, what then happens when those attributes fade? Divorce? Marital abuse? Polygamy? Life is about choices but some choices can make or break us!

Kassidy90:
I get ur point but There are still thousands of successful single ladies out der looking for husband, my point is being successful is not a free pass to get a husband,
Attitude and so many other things matters

"Its much more comfortable to cry in a BMW than cry on a bicycle"... heard that saying before? sometimes u can't change the situation but u can dress the circumstance....IMO

i get you guys can be annoying when it comes to ladies matter, but her case is over religious, she took it too personal, in as much as i would like to have her , i wouldnt wanna be with someone that think everything is spiritual when sometimes its a thing of common sense.

TheoneandOnlyMe:
Well then that's serious. Sin hanging out with a guy? If what you're saying is true, I think it's a psychological problem and the 'sin talk' is just an excuse she gives.
BTW you don't expect her to give her BB pin to any dude she sees, guys can be very annoying sometimes.

life is kind of mysterious. some ladies are married and still other men that they are committing adultery together while there some ladies that good and decent yet they have a man to themselves. what a life!

winie:
well said. GOD bless you for looking at it from that perspective. This is almost always the truth. To all single christian men and ladies, I say keep the faith and don't let the seeming delay make u lose ur crown. I met a good guy, the attraction was mutual. He was ready to settle down and a gentle man. BUT, it didn't work out cos while he wanted sex while dating, I didn't cos of GOD's command on the issue. We talked things over, and decided to call it quits amicably. Though it broke my heart to let him go, but then, GOD's kingdom comes first. Hard for our generation to understand. It profits you nothing to lose your peace and salvation, no matter the pressure. May GOD help us all.

so u never open shop?