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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by dollarlander: 2:22pm On May 17, 2015
freshvine:
An igbo girl from a Catholic background will find it difficult to marry her brother from the pentecostal family but will not hesitate to marry another tribe even if the lover is a Muslim.

Just in case you know, there is this unhealthy rivalry between Anambra and Imo state to the extent that females from the former hardly marry the later.


This marital stigma cut across religion, tribe and denomination.

Waho, I used to think this only happens in Yoruba land. An ijesha will not marry an ijebu or Abeokuta. There is this hatred across Yoruba people about where they marry from. Its so endemic.

For the church things, the best way that can stop is the government to regulate churches. The rate at which individuals spread church like mat is serious. No pastor wants to release his member, especially the female but a male is free to bring a girl from anywhere to the church, though to an extent.

Everything is about number and money. But OP needs to do more research, its not all church that does this e.g. RCCG. But in CEC, it is a taboo for you to go outside the church to marry, even at the top level of the church they are almost close to incest.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Paulv(m): 2:25pm On May 17, 2015
i want to read comment.YEAH!
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by cosby07: 2:26pm On May 17, 2015
My Bro na true talk ooooo....i experience that with a christ embassy lady, after formal introduction, for me to meet her pastor or cell leader or whatever they call it, i began to hear stories, she started with '' she cant leave her church for another'' dats how everything ends. Glory be to God i now ave peace like a river.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by omooba969(m): 2:28pm On May 17, 2015
Edusouls:
black man,black heart,black deeds,black ways, a race that choose the very unrighteous ways of life,greedy,very selfish, love lies a lot,and hate truth, thats why we are neglected by other races and constantly punished by nature..because all of our ways are wicked, leaders wicked, parents wicked, lecturers wicked,students wicked, goverment wicked, even clergies and man of God wicked..

Which way forward bro. cheesy

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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Ifebazz(m): 2:30pm On May 17, 2015
kelvyn7:
my pastor cannot even tell me not to marry a lady from another bible believing church

Please i'd like you to show me a Quoran believing church, i'd love to worship there. If not, you guys should stop deceiving yourselves.
Churches everywhere, still the prison never gets empty.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Dollyak(f): 2:30pm On May 17, 2015
omooba969:


Why or how ? Well, I think he was checking u out. wink
I meant WHY and not how. I already know how he did, but why he went there was the question. In the context, the reasoning behind such act is lost on me.
Just because 'How did you' is the norm, doesn't make 'why' the wrong English wink
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by fabulousdora(f): 2:34pm On May 17, 2015
soe:
see this guy.

By the way...i caused a nairalander to close his account. His name is rexxie. He kept on insulting me..and i gave him his name, age and place of work....the guy closed his NL account immediately... Hahahahah
my take a chill pill...u just dey para for nothing
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by darepoju(m): 2:36pm On May 17, 2015
olu77:
Bold lies
Catholic, Jehovah witness are separate religion on their own.
like seriously? different religions??
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Nobody: 2:36pm On May 17, 2015
This thread reeks of anger,ignorance and hatred. These are the same people who are supposed to be christ like in all their dealings. imagine a so called christian calling women of a certain age 'old cargoes'.Why on earth wouldn't christianity be divided? Really, what do your so called pastors teach you? What do you learn in your church? is it how to come to NL and speak ill of certain denominations so that atheists, pagans and people from other religions will join forces with you to bash them left and right simply because they have preferences? Op, have you asked any member of the denomination you've accused of the reason(s) behind their 'stand'? It's not about reduction in church membership or selfishness on the part of the pastors like some people have said. Infact, the people you accuse do not crave for membership growth or marriage They have other priorities in life. If you understand what marriage entails especially for true christians and not all these 'dust bible,go to church,clap hand and life continues kind of christians' , you wouldn't have created this thread in the first place.

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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Dollyak(f): 2:38pm On May 17, 2015
tranxo:
I guess you have been to mine and lacked the words to say anything about my picture. Hypocrite? Lol. Between the two of us, it is clear who is. You need help.
Tell me why your comment hold any value beyond a grain of pile it already is?
Welcome to my ignore-irrelevant list.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by uzolexis(f): 2:38pm On May 17, 2015
kelvyn7:
my pastor cannot even tell me not to marry a lady from another bible believing church

@the bolded, pls wc one is bible believing church again is there any church that doesnt believe in the bible
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by cirmuell(m): 2:45pm On May 17, 2015
freshvine:
An igbo girl from a Catholic background will find it difficult to marry her brother from the pentecostal family but will not hesitate to marry another tribe even if the lover is a Muslim.

Just in case you know, there is this unhealthy rivalry between Anambra and Imo state to the extent that females from the former hardly marry the later.

This marital stigma cut across religion, tribe and denomination.
Is this really true, the bolded is it true? shocked
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by mekadinho(f): 2:48pm On May 17, 2015
soe:
That is why we keep saying...islam is the way
ISLA.MQ IS THE WORST RELIGION, @LEAST I HVNT HEARD DAT A CATHOLIC KILLED A PENTECOSTAL, OR A PENTECOSTAL KILLED AN ANGELICAN... BUT SUNNI AND SHIA, DEY SLAUGHTER THEMSELVES EVERYDAY, ESP IN MIDDLE EAST... RUBBISH.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Thereishel: 2:52pm On May 17, 2015
I wonder whether the writer of this article is born again at all. Can two walk together except they agree? You shall not be unequal yoke with unbelievers, what does the temple of God have to do with the temple of beliar? These are the relevant scriptures for not going outside to marry because many of them are unbelievers. How do you want a saint to marry a drunkard, how can a believers marry an adulterer, and how can a born again marry a womanizer? Scripturally, they are not compatible and God does not want any marriage with Jezebel, Delilah or philistines.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by olu77(m): 2:54pm On May 17, 2015
darepoju:

like seriously?
different religions??

I am sorry bro. Actually the op is right to a large extent Christians leaders have divided the body of Christ to suit their selfish desires and I don't want to cause more havoc so I will edit that in my post.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by omojeesu(m): 2:57pm On May 17, 2015
YOU CAN MARRY ANYONE YOU LIKE AND WANTS TO MARRY YOU.

GOD TOLD JEWS TO MARRY JEWS

THE BIBLE SAYS CHRISTIANS SHOULD MARRY CHRISTIANS. THE QUESTION IS WHO IS A CHRISTIAN?

NOT ALL CHURCHES ARE CHRISTIAN CHURCHES

ALL WHO GO TO CHURCH ARE NOT CHRISTIANS

ALL TRUE CHRISTIANS LOVE TO GO AND GO TO CHURCH

TRUE CHRISTIANS ARE BORN AGAIN AND BY THAT BECOME GOD'S CHILDREN BUT ARE NOT PERFECT NOR SHOULD CLAIM PERFECTION. IT IS EXPECTED THAT THEY SHOULD MARY OTHER CHILDREN OF GOD, IRRESPECTIVE OF DENOMINATION.

MAY GOD GIVE US UNDERSTANDING!

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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by mbulela: 3:00pm On May 17, 2015
Syphax:
Pentecostalism is the worst thing to happen to Christainity.Luther is an agent of doom!
Myopic comment.
It is like saying water is the agent of doom because folks are getting killed in floods.
Afterall, Luther was used by God to liberate the church from the clutches of Vatican.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Nobody: 3:05pm On May 17, 2015
soe:
That is why we keep saying...islam is the way

Which way? To terrorism? Or to ISIS? Despite the many challenges facing the Body of Christ, it's a million times preferable to Islam.

Heard some of your folks bombed places and people to pieces a few days ago.

Islam? NO WAY! !!!! The freedom in Christianity alone!
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by goldtooth: 3:15pm On May 17, 2015
olu77:
Bold lies

I have sisters, cousins who have married catholic men and they still attend their husbands' church till date

3 years ago when I was about to marry, my wife was a catholic, her father a reputable member of the church and the community yet the priest told me that it's the doctrine of catholic church that any man marrying a female member of their church must make a vow to convert to catholic church. I told them I loved my wife to be but sorry I couldn't go to that extreme.

I still got married to her but in another pentecostal church not in the church her parents were established.

The op is right to a large extent Christians leaders have divided the body of Christ to suit their selfish desires

i am catholic and i must say the priest was not fair to you. i have attended a wedding of a catholic lady to a non catholic man and it held in a catholic church. The man's pastor was there. I must say that in your case the priest did the wrong thing. So i want you to know that it is not so all over catholic churches. i am a strong critic of different christian denominations acting superior to each other cos i know in heaven there will not be a separate place for catholic, winners, or christ embassy saints. All saints would be together without distinction of tribe or denomination.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Nobody: 3:17pm On May 17, 2015
@ Op I can feel your pain, I think all you need is a little patient to find out the about those you mentioned in your post and what bible said. Proverbs 14:15 said "The naive person believes every word, But the shrewd one ponders each step."

i) 2 Corinthians 6:14 said
Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what sharing does light have with darkness?

It is no news that those who call theirselfs christians today must live according to God's moral standards. Then, you need to ask yourself this question. How many Churches today teaches their follower God's moral standards ?, if you can answer that question then you should know that it would not be right for someone who have found the truth and willing to do God's will to marry an unbeliever.

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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by scarred9jan(m): 3:19pm On May 17, 2015
soe:
see this guy.

By the way...i caused a nairalander to close his account. His name is rexxie. He kept on insulting me..and i gave him his name, age and place of work....the guy closed his NL account immediately... Hahahahah

try me then
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by olu77(m): 3:19pm On May 17, 2015
goldtooth:


i am catholic and i must say the priest was not fair to you. i have attended a wedding of a catholic lady to a non catholic man and it held in a catholic church. The man's pastor was there. I must say that in your case the priest did the wrong thing. So i want you to know that it is not so all over catholic churches. i am a strong critic of different christian denominations acting superior to each other cos i know in heaven there will not be a separate place for catholic, winners, or christ embassy saints. All saints would be together without distinction of tribe or denomination.

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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Nobody: 3:23pm On May 17, 2015
VOICEOFTHEMASES:
Seriously this madness going on in the church has got to stop. What are we Nigerians turning the body of Christ into?

Why on earth will a Pentecostal Church not let its members to marry a Catholic person. The moment a wedding announcement is made in the church and one of the member is from a different church denomination, you start hearing murmuring going on. Seriously this rubbish has got to stop.

Look at a church like Jehovah witness, there is nothing on earth that will make them marry an outsider, never. The same thing with Deeper Life yet these same people want to come preach for you. Seriously, we have got to stop all this.

In the book of 1 Corinthians 12:27 & Romans 12:5, the bible talked about we being the body of Christ. So it is an error for any pastor to tell any member of his denomination not to marry an outsider. We must put an end to this madness for there is no where in the bible that says a person cannot marry outside his or her church. The bible never talked about denomination, the bible only talked about the church as the body of Christ.

And to you out there that wants to get married and you are letting this issue of church stop you, I sorry for you because you be original mumu.

In case you don't know, God will not judge you on judgement day based on the church you attended but he will judge you based on your works. So don't let anybody deceive you in the name of religion. Christianity is not a religion but a way of life.

So dear pastors make una talk the one una see.

VOM
Jacob made his servant swear to give Isaac a wife from his people. Rebecca was found from his people. Today, it is not bad to marry in the fold.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by olu77(m): 3:25pm On May 17, 2015
goldtooth:


i am catholic and i must say the priest was not fair to you. i have attended a wedding of a catholic lady to a non catholic man and it held in a catholic church. The man's pastor was there. I must say that in your case the priest did the wrong thing. So i want you to know that it is not so all over catholic churches. i am a strong critic of different christian denominations acting superior to each other cos i know in heaven there will not be a separate place for catholic, winners, or christ embassy saints. All saints would be together without distinction of tribe or denomination.

Thank you bro. You are right because it is like Pareto principle of 20-80 also applies here: only 20% of christian leaders that cut accross every church are giving the 80% of Christians bad name.

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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Nobody: 3:26pm On May 17, 2015
sochima1989:
. If only u are truly d son of lucifer.........this won't be ur comment......cos ur master knows better
That your God is a failure? A weak God killed by 3 nails?
Indeed, we know better. Keep worshipping the dead Jew.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by goldtooth: 3:30pm On May 17, 2015
soe:
That is why we keep saying...islam is the way

Is islam itself not divided? Dont we have shia and sunni muslims with different doctrines killing themselves in the middle east?

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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by tbaby534(f): 3:31pm On May 17, 2015
Syphax:
Pentecostalism is the worst thing to happen to Christainity.Luther is an agent of doom!

Did u read the topic at all?

Learn to love and stop discriminating

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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by neonet(m): 3:32pm On May 17, 2015

Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by gagewonda(m): 3:32pm On May 17, 2015
omooba969:


Eeyaaah...pele. cry
yea sadder dan I even expressed here sef
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by Hiploko(m): 3:33pm On May 17, 2015
The worst is whern a white garment guy wants to marry a girl from another church. It will seem like its a muslim or native doctor that's wants to marry her.
Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by davien(m): 3:34pm On May 17, 2015
koyyes:
This thread reeks of anger,ignorance and hatred. These are the same people who are supposed to be christ like in all their dealings. imagine a so called christian calling women of a certain age 'old cargoes'.Why on earth wouldn't christianity be divided? Really, what do your so called pastors teach you? What do you learn in your church? is it how to come to NL and speak ill of certain denominations so that atheists, pagans and people from other religions will join forces with you to bash them left and right simply because they have preferences? Op, have you asked any member of the denomination you've accused of the reason(s) behind their 'stand'? It's not about reduction in church membership or selfishness on the part of the pastors like some people have said. Infact, the people you accuse do not crave for membership growth or marriage They have other priorities in life. If you understand what marriage entails especially for true christians and not all these 'dust bible,go to church,clap hand and life continues kind of christians' , you wouldn't have created this thread in the first place.
Funny enough I'm sure you also would be picky....as we've seen you have a distinction for atheists and pagans....so would you marry anyone of them?

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Re: This Madness On Marriage Has Got To Stop In The Church. by djdoxxx(m): 3:35pm On May 17, 2015
no god is d way...live ur lifes according to the laws of ur land,love people,dont hate,do good,have good moral ethics,think and reflect on d consequences of actions b4 doing any...all these and so many good things u can do without being religious...to believe there is a god doesnt mean u r righteous but it is the biggest lie one would lie to oneself! dont u think if he exists,he would av never allowed these segregations in d 1st place?

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