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omooba969:
Most igbo chicks r LAZY & INCONSIDERATE , so if u c dis traits while dating BIKO think twice. Itz typical of dem & I can't wrap my head round it.

Research is on-going though to establish why dis is coming frm our SE chicks.

But think twice abeg.

Bro na lie....
I have had an Igbo babe.....
She is Nt 4rm a wealthy background, but the girl d hardworking die....very considerate....she make sense die...I won't generalise sha!!!...but most Igbo girls I have met r Excellent...I fit even marry dat side

midolian:
First of all..Ask yaself these questions again. Are u sure u truly luv her? I mean do you know her truly and deeply? This is because igbo grls know how to show men love o!(They may even be pretending)..if they show u five minutes luv, you ll begin to make promises you can't fulfil like mtn.."Baby, I ll buy u aeroplane","I will build aso rock for you","I will do this and that"..

WELL, lemme assume your answer is yes...

Since you are ready to jump the major hurdle(paying the bride price), All you need do is convince her more..if you can pluck out your eyes for her, do it to show you are not marrying anoda wife after her.. Igbo babes are sweet. Don't miss this opportunity. Ayam typing from xperience..



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Haaa!!! Oga! Na u dey talk dis tin?!

boobookitty:
You are not serious, he is not ugly and smelly, and whats so wrong about it. They love each other.

Nawa for you oo, I'm sure you are Igbo sef

They dont love each other they are lost not love a sane igbo woman can never settle for juju polygamous tribe call yoruba i bet you her people will be warning her every second of the day

Neplusultra:
Haaa!!! Oga! Na u dey talk dis tin?!

but I no lie na

oga ride on jare even d one am abt to marry is an igbo and am yoruba by tribe

tonychristopher:
pls I have been asking this question


WHY DO YORUBA MEN FIND THE YORUBA WOMEN UNDESIRABLE?

THIS IS A POSER

Lolz!! U get mouth I swear!!! I don't know y, i feel notting but pity for any igbo girl marrying a Yoruba guy, maybe it's cos of one incident I witnessed, Dis igbo lady was working in a bank with a Yoruba colleague, one tin led to d oda and dey fell for each other, d guy loves her like Kilode and was pushing for marriage, Dis guy came from a Muslim home, but he claimed he was a christain and wuld neva be a moslem, d girl's family vehemently refused but she went ahead and married him anyway, now as am talking to you, d guy has converted back to Islam with d three children dey had and dey even wear hijab, dat wasn't enough, he married another Muslim lady and told Chioma dat she can go to he'll if she wont accept it!

FrancisTony:
Is the man a muslim or christian?
I haven't seen a christian yoruba man marrying a second wife and most times, the muslim ones don't venture into polygamy when they marry a Christian woman.

My advice; they should follow their heart not people's own.

yoruba culture allows to marry even a million if you can

since when has Religion come before culture? it's not like the hebrews of the bible weren't polygamous

tonychristopher:
lord bless u

but why dont u get along with them bro


there must be a reason

Lmao!!! Tony stop being mischievous

Neplusultra:
Lolz!! U get mouth I swear!!! I don't know y, i feel notting but pity for any igbo girl marrying a Yoruba guy, maybe it's cos of one incident I witnessed, Dis igbo lady was working in a bank with a Yoruba colleague, one tin led to d oda and dey fell for each other, d guy loves her like Kilode and was pushing for marriage, Dis guy came from a Muslim home, but he claimed he was a christain and wuld neva be a moslem, d girl's family vehemently refused but she went ahead and married him anyway, now as am talking to you, d guy has converted back to Islam with d three children dey had and dey even wear hijab, dat wasn't enough, he married another Muslim lady and told Chioma dat she can go to he'll if she wont accept it!

After what happened to my beautiful cousin I wont advise my Igbos sisters to marry a yoruba man.... has nothing to do with religion, except that that home is too sophisticated and "real" christians that practics that bible, otherwise you will live a hateful life till you dies.... My cousin suffered and died at a young age of 32 just 5 yrs of marriage to this yoruba man that love her but his family never love her and they sufferd her till she died.

africanusvu:
O be candid wit u,Igbo and Yoruba marriage is one relationship that hav failed to survive despite all efforts,We can only pretend in such marriage but it never goes to a happy ending,May be wit time but for now,hold it or u marry and pretend u ar married

You are very right!!! Iv seen so many cases and dey are just pretending dat all is well, Igbo Yoruba marriages DONT WORK!!!! Simple!!! Except one of d spouses has to be d patient person and bear all d shit!!! I repeat!! It DOESNT WORK!!!!

airmark:
Yoruba educated chics most times dey form too much and hard nut to crack. I remember when in east it was different ball game. One thing is if you get a decent igbo lady, she can remove her eye ball for you to eat. Igbo girls love yoruba guys more. Some of them confirmed to me that their dudes are over-possesive full of ego. @ Op , if you have prayed over it and you both truely love each other and the chic is not from mbaise , no think anything just go. I have mine with me.

Am impressed...they rock

boobookitty:
Are you ready to die?

we all get to die someday, buh mine aint today

CaptainOjemba:
You hardly see an Igbo man na majijiji ilu awon yoruba. See them here seeking to marry an Igbo woman. I will advise yoloba boys to look out for people ilike ilekeh who is approaching 55 to marry. Ndi ara, tomorrow you mofos will start abusing Igbo.

Hahahaha!!! Onye isi nkuka!!

CHESSBOARD:
After what happened to my beautiful cousin I wont advise my Igbos sisters to marry a yoruba man.... has nothing to do with religion, except that that home is too sophisticated and "real" christians that practics that bible, otherwise you will live a hateful life till you dies.... My cousin suffered and died at a young age of 32 just 5 yrs of marriage to this yoruba man that love her but his family never love her and they sufferd her till she died.

Ohhh!!! Soo Sad!! Sorry about dat!!! I feel notting but PITY,I repeat! PITY!!! for any igbo lady marrying Yoruba, I think Iv seen enough to draw dat conclusion!!! It just doesn't work, I don't know y, well, d tin is she or he who has an ear let him hear, it always ends in regret unless d lady na strong woman!!

Whats the big deal? U wan still carry politics enter marriage?

Neplusultra:
Lolz!! U get mouth I swear!!! I don't know y, i feel notting but pity for any igbo girl marrying a Yoruba guy, maybe it's cos of one incident I witnessed, Dis igbo lady was working in a bank with a Yoruba colleague, one tin led to d oda and dey fell for each other, d guy loves her like Kilode and was pushing for marriage, Dis guy came from a Muslim home, but he claimed he was a christain and wuld neva be a moslem, d girl's family vehemently refused but she went ahead and married him anyway, now as am talking to you, d guy has converted back to Islam with d three children dey had and dey even wear hijab, dat wasn't enough, he married another Muslim lady and told Chioma dat she can go to he'll if she wont accept it!

awww too bad for chioma, that is where spirituality comes into play. the guy definately pretended all thru just to get Chioma, she was probably blinded by love and didn't really get to dig deep to find hez religious roots enough. there will always be telling signs if she had taken time to study him well, a muslim can't pretend to be a christian for too long and vice versa...at one point in time you will always know.

may God console her

backtosender:
They dont love each other they are lost not love a sane igbo woman can never settle for juju polygamous tribe call yoruba i bet you her people will be warning her every second of the day

Oga hope you know im yoruba, see how you are badmouthing the tribe. Hian!

No wonder igbo girls keep falling for yoruba guys.

This is a typical example.

#Turnoff

ritzytbabs:
awww too bad for chioma, that is where spirituality comes into play. the guy definately pretended all thru just to get Chioma, she was probably blinded by love and didn't really get to dig deep to find hez religious roots enough. there will always be telling signs if she had taken time to study him well, a muslim can't pretend to be a christian for too long and vice versa...at one point in time you will always know.

may God console her

I don't pity her!! She made her bed, she shud lie on it!!! Most times we tend to tink we know more dan dese elders and parents but u just won't see wot dey are seeing!!! Plus all dis rubbish modernisation and global village tins dat deceive pple!!! Personally, I hate mixing bloods,I'm an advocate for tribes marrying from deir tribe, it's not bad, it saves a whole lot of tins!!!

ritzytbabs:
awww too bad for chioma, that is where spirituality comes into play. the guy definately pretended all thru just to get Chioma, she was probably blinded by love and didn't really get to dig deep to find hez religious roots enough. there will always be telling signs if she had taken time to study him well, a muslim can't pretend to be a christian for too long and vice versa...at one point in time you will always know.

may God console her

Am sorry but I don't feel sorry for Chioma, you should not go against the advice of parents all in the name of love. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, you need to soak the union in prayer first before you go ahead. Maybe he wasn't God's will for her.HE wasn't the bone of her bone. God has a Perfect will for each person, and also a Permissive will, don't choose for Him. Let Him do the choosing

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The blessings and support of your family matters alot. Marriages with the support of both parties don't find it easy talkless of when the families themselves decides to be the devil/headache in the family. I have seen countless cases where in the long run, the man marries another yoruba woman just to appease the family. Ive seen cases where the man claimed he was seduced while drunk and being a very calculated incident, the woman got pregnant. Inter-tribal marriages aren't easy talkless of when one or both parties don't support. Look beyond today.

PreciousBro:
Well, as much as I don't like inter-marriage,we have to accept that things are/and have changed. Its no longer a thing of pride to stay loyal to your kins men, Nigerian women are all looking for husbands and they'd take anyone that comes now.

I'd always advise that people should marry from their tribe or at most,their region and neighbouring ethnicity for better cultural and traditional understanding.

Quality is a thing that cannot stay hidden and for some reason Igbo girls seem to be at the mention of most wanted marital-wise.

To me, Igbo guys have taste ,its no wonder they hardly look outside their region and hence tribe,because they see that the quality lies within,why look else where, Yoruba guys seem to be at the rising of every ethnicity because they accept anything and anyone

I hate to say this but, I don't like igbo girls marrying non-igbo. {{{Quality Depletion}}}

Tribal Disloyalty ,un patriotism and carelessness to marital justice are what this Igbos marrying non -igbos are to me.

F•ck you if you think I'm sentimental and bigoted. We all are in this f^cked up corpse of a country we all drive fictitious preach for unity and oneness . We are not one, we are not the same. Deal with it and stick to your moderf•cking tribe.

Dats all!!! You no hate am reach me!! Tainting bloodline with any tribe at all!! I hate it!!!

tonychristopher:
BUT WHY DON'T YORUBA MEN MARRY THEIR WOMEN


SOMETHING IS AMISS

Because Yoruba women are busy with their studies and pursuing there career ( marriage is d least on their list) and Igbo ladies are many outside there engaging in there self made business ( olosho or ashawo whareva) because their Men can't afford the price tag....so Yoruba men are helping them out reducing the population of unmarried night walkers...shikeena, I think I answered u?

babyosisi:
The main reason Igbos fear for their daughters marrying a Yoruba man is the legendary promiscuity of Yoruba men
Many of them never fail to go outside the marriage to father numerous other kids
Many of them come from complicated family settings
That is the primary fear
There are others

For instance if the man is from Ijebu ode,your parents may disown you.Ijebu ode is synonymous with juju and all things fetish ,that is a no go area for NdiIgbo

All dese and many more!!! It just doesn't work!!

incrediblestev:
As much as I want to advise you to follow your heart, many igbo families oppose their daughters marrying a Yoruba man because they believe that they don't take marriages seriously like igbo men, many married Yoruba men still act as if they are unmarried, they keep multiple girlfriends and even bring them home some times with family support. If there is one thing most igbo women can not stand it is the thought of their husbands bringing another woman home or learning about a love child from another woman upon the man's death. Igbo women don't know how to share their husbands, most of them grew up in a Nuclear family structure.

My point is this, if you are going to marry a Yoruba man as an Igbo woman, look at his family members, his own parents, are they together or divorced, his elder brothers or sisters are they married and very close to their wives. How do they take care of their wives and kids, do they just make money available to them but spend very little time with them even though they are always available. Stuff like that. Trust me, any Yoruba man from a polygamous family is likely to take a second wife or at least keep a relationship outside, the same goes for a Muslim Yoruba family.

Unless the Yoruba guy is a serious Christian from a Christian family that takes family values seriously, I won't advise any Igbo woman to marry any other Yoruba man.

I almost got married to a Yoruba guy immediately after my youth service. The guy was cool headed guy, a true committed
Christian that love God with all his heart. The day I introduced him to my parents was the day trouble began. ? My mother on getting to know he was a Yoruba guy developed a cold feet towards the whole thing... As for my father he was so indifferent...
My mum did not hide her feeling...I tried convincing her that Segun was a nice guy but she did not want to listen. One thing she said was that Yoruba's are polygamous in nature; that Segun will end up marrying a 2nd wife in the future and that Christianity will not stop them from doing so? I tried everything I could for them to accept the relationship, no way. After much persuasion, we had to call it a quit cos I wouldn't want to venture into a marriage that I will not receive my parent's blessing. Thank God today, I'm happily married but sadly Segun died in a ghastly motor accident 2 days after my wedding on his way back from Redemption camp.

Neplusultra:
I don't pity her!! She made her bed, she shud lie on it!!! Most times we tend to tink we know more dan dese elders and parents but u just won't see wot dey are seeing!!! Plus all dis rubbish modernisation and global village tins dat deceive pple!!! Personally, I hate mixing bloods,I'm an advocate for tribes marrying from deir tribe, it's not bad, it saves a whole lot of tins!!!

i can agree with you, sometimes if not most times elders/parents advice go a long way in determining the success of the union

(i know of a family the mother advised the 2nd daughter not to marry this guy not from their tribe, she intentionally took in for him, got wedded to him finally and he passed away 3years later....when the first daughter was to get married too, out of fear of what happened to her younger sis cause she disobeyed her mother..she married from their tribe and 6yrs counting there is no issues...the family of the said husband from the same tribe made life so miserable for her...sadly she passed away early this year)

what do you say about that?

am not against tribes marrying from there tribes, buh what if the parents/elders will ain't actually the will of God for that individual.

sometimes this things work well and sometimes they don't. one just have to be prayerful about it.

Oga oya don't marry a Nigerian woman then, Marry a white woman.

That one no get too much wahala.

babyosisi:
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If you haven't walked down the aisle,anything can be changed
Where is Toshmann
Okorobia di nma

Lmao!!!! Babyosisi!! Kee ije nwanyioma?!

ritzytbabs:
i can agree with you, sometimes if not most times elders/parents advice go a long way in determining the success of the union

(i know of a family the mother advised the 2nd daughter not to marry this guy not from their tribe, she intentionally took in for him, got wedded to him finally and he passed away 3years later....when the first daughter was to get married too, out of fear of what happened to her younger sis cause she disobeyed her mother..she married from their tribe and 6yrs counting there is no issues...the family of the said husband from the same tribe made life so miserable for her...sadly she passed away early this year)

what do you say about that?

am not against tribes marrying from there tribes, buh what if the parents/elders will ain't actually the will of God for that individual.

sometimes this things work well and sometimes they don't. one just have to be prayerful about it.

true.

italo:
That is why the Hausas and Yorubas don't want them to secede from Nigeria and have their own country.


Like it counted against Emeka Anyaoku, Chinua Achebe, Chimamanda Adichie etc.



E.g Tinubu



E.g Obasanjo



E.g TB Joshua, Oyedepo etc.

All I see is envy of Igbos in display.

Epic!!!

italo:
Obasanjo, Ebenezer Obey and countless other Yoruba Christians are polygamous.

Look at these hypocritical clowns talking as if being Polygamous is a disease when in actual fact most of them are "frequent flyer" members in various Hotels they go to commit harlotry while still married to a Spouse at home!

I would rather a man marry a second wife and take care of both wife, each knowing each other, than be one who takes various women to phuck in Hotels, brings disease to the one at home (of course he would never agree he is the reason) and on his burial day, various "Now our Daddy" Children show-up with their first time Mothers!

As a matter of fact, man is polygamous by nature only that "economics and modernisation" from being subservient to White man's culture has "toned it down" to the point which, like Homosexuality, it is becoming acceptable and tending to the norm.

How many times do you see Yoruba "teenagers" hopping on the next bus to another tribes neighbourhood to "hustle" and sell in traffic, abandoning education to only their girls?
It is because their parents(in general terms) pay more attention to them and their education, something quite unique to Yorubas since time immemorial..... despite their "open" Polygamy.

I have never seen a people so "self-delusional" and gloating about it at the same time.
You peeps know ow to insult others very well but when insults are thrown at you, you will be the first to start whinning and shouting Marginalisation, if not Genocide!

RESULTS! RESULTS!! and RESULT!!! ..... is what we can based our people's "historical actions" upon
.....and judging by "Historical Events" since Nigeria became a country, we al know which Tribe has the wrong and raw end of the stick, even in the just concluded election!

Like some will say, "innate abilities" are different from things you learn.


We are all Nigerians and we know ourselves and who we are, "deep down", despite all these "posturings and feel good posts" flying around on Nairaland.
Leave matta.


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Is it not even comical that it is only the "sad stories" that these peeps are reporting here?
What happened to the thousands of successful inter-tribal marriages? I know more than quite a few!
Gosh, "herd mentality" is not a good thing at all.

BTW: Let me add that it is NATURAL for "each to stick to their own". It is a survival instinct.

Black people when they come abroad for the first time (irrespective of where they come from), ALWAYS seek out a Black person first, for friendship, assistance and grounding.

But as you become more "grounded, confident and mentally sophisticated", you are confident to "MOVE OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE", MIX WITH AND ACCEPT OTHERS.

In the "Evolutionary Tree" of Tribes in Nigeria, it is this level of "Mental Sophistication, being Grounded and Confident" that our Brothers and Sisters in the East are yet to "evolve" up to and hence their preference to REMAIN IN THEIR COMFORT ZONE!
It takes "a lot of gut and commitment, coupled with mental sophistication", to marry across tribal lines, same as a White person marrying a black person!
This is the SIMPLE TRUTH.... al other reasons are just what they are: PUERILE EXCUSES.

Calm down and think about it without your usual "We Vs. Then" mentality and delusion of grandeur... and you will see l am right.


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