I've been wondering.....most women have this NO SEX ON FIRST DATE motto like it's the only criterion to ascertaining feminine decency. They say it gives the guy the impression that you're too cheap and he would definitely dump you easy.

But to me, it's not true. You can play the hard-to-get for a year and still get jilted. So, ladies, allow your mood determine for you. If you have to bang that guy, bang him! And who knows, it might result to true love and marriage.

Or what do you think, guys?

yup, it does.

Shortyy:
yup, it does.

Not true, sweetheart

[size=20pt]yes absolutely...abi make I give u points?[/size]

SPG4U:
[size=20pt]yes absolutely...abi make I give u points?[/size]

Please give

I Don't believe in a lady being "cheap"....because even the "expensive " ones still get heartbroken.. in fact I kinda respect them. I see them as people who see what they like/want and go for it straight up,no time to waste,but unfortunately, some foolish "boys" will always take advantage.... so no...I dont....but then again.. must sex define a relationship?

Not jst cheap,dirty, loosed, name it!!

zaragal:
Not jst cheap,dirty, loosed, name it!!

Yimu it's not a sin jo

It depends on wat ur definition of cheap is.

Forget about sex before marriage and cheapness, I'll do you one better...this I have to say, IT MAKES YOU VERY UNTRUSTWORTHY (believ me, u go loose trust pass as naira dey loose value). Your spouse will always doubt your chastity and faithfulness

Joromi1:
Not true, sweetheart

well, not to you, but to me, i wouldn't even sleep with you on the 3rd date.

Dats why our women are so inhibited ,

Even wen they like u on that first date and are dying to give u a kiss, they won't becos they need to shut off their emotions and act all stuck up, and that's how our naija men like it.

Or don't u remember the oyinbo girl dat was deceived by a naija boy in London, she spent the night at his house after their first date, though they have been chatting for over 3month.

Our pple here were mocking her, that she was cheap, she too like pri-ck , etc.

Then they will later come here and complain how their wives don't initiate sex, she is not romantic, not affectionate, bla bla bla.

Isn't that how u naija men like it??

Shortyy:

well, not to you, but to me, i wouldn't even sleep with you on the 3rd date.

Not if I'm handsome, rich and extremely romantic

Hahaha! Where's Coogar? I'd like to know his take on this

Joromi1:

Yimu it's not a sin jo

Continue...

bebe2:
Dats why our women are so inhibited ,

Even wen they like u on that first date and are dying to give u a kiss, they won't becos they need to shut off their emotions and act all stuck up, and that's how our naija men like it.

Or don't u remember the oyinbo girl dat was deceived by a naija boy in London, she spent the night at his house after their first date, though they have been chatting for over 3month.

Our pple here were mocking her, that she was cheap, she too like pri-ck , etc.

Then they will later come here and complain how their wives don't initiate sex, she is not romantic, not affectionate, bla bla bla.

Isn't that how u naija men like it??

My dear, this is where maturity and understanding play a huge role. U don't categorise every man as one. For the most part, real men don't look down on a lady who allowed her emotions speak for her. That she gave in for Abu doesn't mean she would do the same for Nnamdi

SuperSuave:
its our naija mentality. As for me, it depends on the kinda girl sha. If its a girl I've been lusting after or my mission is to just chop and clean mouth, I'll tag her "cheap"

Lmao!

Why won't it be cheap, when as a little girl growing up, all you hear is "stay away from boys, if he touches you, you are pregnant, sex is a sin before marriage and you'll burn in hell for it, God loves virgins and blesses them specially, your virginity is your pride" and more blah blah blah.

Then the men judge how decent you are by how long you can fend off their advances, give in on the first day and a prostitute is better than you(atleast she gets paid for it), play hard to get kwanu, you are a pretender. I just tire for this country people and their mentality.

freecocoa:
Why won't it be cheap, when as a little girl growing up, all you hear is "stay away from boys, if he touches you, you are pregnant, sex is a sin before marriage and you'll burn in hell for it, God loves virgins and blesses them specially, your virginity is your pride" and more blah blah blah.

Then the men judge how decent you are by how long you can fend off their advances, give in on the first day and a prostitute is better than you(atleast she gets paid for it), play hard to get kwanu, you are a pretender. I just tire for this country people and their mentality.

Anyway, I think it's relative to the society. The Naija mentality would term sex on first date improper but oyinbo people may not see anything wrong with it. Before a date, there must have been some interactions earlier on maybe via internet or phone call. So the sex issue might have been discussed, hence it won't seem any longer too strange

Joromi1:
Not if I'm handsome, rich and extremely romantic

sorry, i'm not moved by looks and wealth. i have dignity and self esteem.

Shortyy:

sorry, i'm not moved by looks and wealth. i have dignity and self esteem.

It does not make a lady look cheap!












IT MAKES HER CHEAP!!!

naaah. sex on the first date isn't encouraged by oyinbos. don't make it seem like Naija society's a saint while others are bad. with the way young pple talk about and know about sex on this site, i wouldn't be surprised if more pple have sex on the first date in Naija. it's just that pple obviously won't talk about it so you don't know. they don't want to be looked down on. look at the thread posted yesterday about the 17 old who had sex and the mother wants to know whether to flog her. she's probably not the only 17-yr old girl in Naija who's sexually active

the only part of your post i agree with is the " before a date " part. there're pple who're looking for sex on first meeting and both of them would've discussed it beforehand, that this is what they're after. other than that, going on a date with someone you want to get to know as a person but ending up having sex with them is def going to make you look cheap, both the man and woman. to each their own, pple can do whatever they want.

GbengaJimoh:
Anyway, I think it's relative to the society. The Naija mentality would term sex on first date improper but oyinbo people may not see anything wrong with it. Before a date, there must have been some interactions earlier on maybe via internet or phone call. So the sex issue might have been discussed, hence it won't seem any longer too strange

i've had only 8 girlfriends in my life. the ones that didn't last are the ones that refused to share kpomo with me. so keep hiding ur pvssy and think ur being prideful and preservative

watch 'find me my man' on tlc,availiable on dstv,there are many rules regarding a succesful date,and not having sex on the first date is one of many

Ladies should learn that there's more to value than vaagina...
@op, it depends on the circumstances.

if it feels right, by all means, go for it

It makes you look slutty,cheap *5,if you are playing hard to get play it till the end

NaYouGoTaya:
i've had only 8 girlfriends in my life. the ones that didn't last are the ones that refused to share kpomo with me. so keep hiding ur pvssy and think ur being prideful and preservative

For here kpomo na free no stress....Every fridays and sat,so why I go date self





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Of course. Infact prostitutes are better than osho free


difference. You meet on the first day negotiate price for sex. Whatever you think about her is your problem not hers


however the regular girl will just get thank you plus bad impression

Immorality and sex outside marriage makes all involved, whether men and women, boys and girls very cheap, vulnerable to diseases and to the devil, and ultimately damns the soul in eternal doom in hell fire.