KingTom:
He can o The man Na real Man. Taking on a gang of 6 robbers earned him my respect for life, He reminds us each day of how his slaps helped us to become the men we are today, then we'll all chorus the "What was the last thing you saw before my igbati caused your blackout?" This would make him roll on the floor with laughter

My o my! Igbati of life.. Hahahaha

KingTom:
Very true, how can one wear over sized draws, deny her husband his conjugal rights

Lol hahaha funny

yorubadelta:



Lmao
I... just.. can't.

You just can't what?

bashydemy:
Lol hahaha funny

Na true Na

yorubadelta:



My o my! Igbati of life.. Hahahaha

bashydemy:
You just can't what?

Just can't argue any further because as much as I feel slightly offended, I can't seem to counter ur statement.. it definitely holds an element of truth. So like I said before, shine ur eyes before taking the leap.

yorubadelta:


Just can't argue any further because as much as I feel slightly offended, I can't seem to counter ur statement.. it definitely holds an element of truth. So like I said before, shine ur eyes before taking the leap.

Thanks for being honest... But i hope we can change someday..

If u feminists allow the Islamic injunction of marrying 4 wives be, there will be a great reduction in agbere (adultery)

in my opinion both parties are wrong. on a strictly serious note what the hell is side chick??a prostitute is a prostitute.a prostitute is any person be it male or female that indulges in sex solely for monetary gain.ladies these days prefer to keep their bad characters and still get maintanance allowance from adultrous men.these days they are littered everywhere especially in that demonic network called badoo.my point is married men should respect their wives, home and bodies.stick to the one thst loves,respects and prays for you.stick to the one that will be called a widow if the slut kills you with hiv.stick to the one thst washes your clothes,cleans the house cooks your meals and wishes you well. as for those smelly whores,i dont have their time in

KingTom:
Na you much o! E easy to be Yoruba and Delta at the same time? Na you and Herzumpther get title

Hahahaha. Me ke. Sha I be Yoruba and Delta at the same time Omo Delta ni mi o.

If ladies were decent, we won't hav dis problems.


And if married women were submissive too and adventurous.

5minsmadness:

Where was the term "side chic" coined from?
Who glamourised the term "Baby mama"? And made it such a thing of pride that our ladies started making headlines with it?
Are those African terms?

Sure we have always had mistresses and the philandering husband and secret wives but we didn't glamourise it. It was a thing of shame actually. Unfaithfulness occurs everywhere, even in your precious west. In fact it became so rampant in the West that laws had to be enacted to discourage such behaviour. Hence your "respectful" western men who are only respectful because they fear the law courts. It doesn't stop cheating though as evidenced by the TV series of "cheaters" I watch daily and the level of divorces still at an all time high in the US.

I know this might come as a rude shock to you but the US is a festering cesspool of unfaithful men and women. I know, I know, have a hankie



As per your example of men going after the girls sure that happens. But for you to deny that girls also go out of thier way to chase married men shows you being biased (as usual, nothing new here), or you must have gotten married really young and had innocent friends as well. There are frequent reports in my office of single girls throwing themselves kamikaze-like at married men whether or not they wear rings and it's really tasking and laborious trying to discourage them or push them away. These girls know the said target is married but are undeterred, in fact some have admitted it's a kind of turn-on for them as they view married men as more "responsible" and "matured".

All men have the tendency to be polygamous of they can get away with it, even your precious white men in the West. It's just the courts like you said that holds them back.

Bro 5mins,

Can you state specifically where the Bible says men are 'naturally' or 'have tendencies' to be polygamous?

I know you believe solely in the Bible, your submission thread pointed that out

Thanks

Herzumpther:
Hahahaha. Me ke. Sha I be Yoruba and Delta at the same time Omo Delta ni mi o.

You be Yoruba na Unto that level

Emmaville:
If ladies were decent, we won't hav dis problems.


And if married women were submissive too and adventurous.

I agree with you that if ladies were decent and if married women were submissive and adventurous, married men will not cheat.

Can you tell us what guys and married men should do to avoid wives cheating?

Thanks in advance

In my opinion,

100% lies on the feet of a husband who steps out of his marriage.

I hope the people apportioning % blames would post on tpia's counter tread.

When a married woman cheats with a single guy, what is the blame ratio?

dt coldheat no de ever make reasonable comment.

kliq:
"Some" men
[color=#000099

Real men put their wives and families first

truest talk!

bukatyne:


Bro 5mins,

Can you state specifically where the Bible says men are 'naturally' or 'have tendencies' to be polygamous?

I know you believe solely in the Bible, your submission thread pointed that out

Thanks

What has that got to do with anything?
It's not a bible principle that all men are polygamous, I was responding to what coco typed:

From blaming the girls, you've turned to blame the west. African men are no longer polygamous?

And no, I don't believe solely in the bible.

Let me re-follow this thread because someone is about to LIE.
There's no-where I was taught in my Catholic tradition that men are polygamous if he switches to the direction.

5minsmadness:

What has that got to do with anything?
It's not a bible principle that all men are polygamous, I was responding to what coco typed:



And no, I don't believe solely in the bible.

I am sure her post was tongue in cheek

Solely is the wrong word here...

You are a Christian? What part of the Bible says men have the 'tendency' to be polygamous.

crackhaus:

A single girl dating and sleeping with a married man is a sin resulting from breaking two commandments (fornication and coveting another woman's property), is it not?

A married man cheating on his wife is also a sin resulting from breaking his marriage vows and the commandment against adultery, is it not?


Now my initial question to you which stemmed from your comment is this:
If the single girl gets a free pass because she's not bound by morality regardless what you and I think about it, why is the married man not getting a free pass also regardless what you and I think of his vows?

Is the sin of a single woman dating a married man lesser than that of the married man she's sleeping with?
Aren't both of them breaking commandments at the end of the day?

Ur post is quiet funny the problem here is us african mixing tradition with religion generally African men are polygamous in natire is impossible for them to have sex with just 1 woman all their adult live that is the way they r mead by God even men of old in the bible don't have 1 wife
A man is no 1 woman property. If he marry the side chick like some alleged there will be war in the house , his property and accents will be shared so is even beta he is not married to a 2nd wife
Men seems to treat side chick beta cos they knw that's all they can get cos if they are gone every thing goes to the wife and kids
Besides some girl friend understand the man more than the wife cos most women esp the rich men wife spend most of their time grouping themselves discussing their husband shortcomings, arranging parties while side chicks play the role of real wife to the man . IF WOMEN TREAT THEIR husband the way they treat their sugar boys the man won't cheat so is a 2 way thing

coldHeat:
The man is the problem.

Its that simple.

A man is and must always be a symbol of strength and self-control. I cannot blame a woman for anything when a man is involved. As the head and fore-runner he is automatically responsible and irresponsible if any event occurs within the influence of his power and he falls short of the standard.

Only an animal would beat up his wife.
If he loved the mistress so much why not marry her?

I have always said as well that "women may be the source of all the problems of the world, but it is we men that are the problems of the world".

Do your research, any woman today that is happy or sad, or hurt or mad, it is a man that made her so and not another fellow woman.
We men are the architects of the misfortune that is come upon this world. If we all can act mature for just 5 hours every day I am sure the world will be a much better place.

Imagine if every father was always at home (and not outside chasing another man's daughter in a bid to treat his male organ to a temporary, sensual venture only possible by the laws of oscillatory motion and lubrication found in physics) raising their daughters well to feel and know they are princesses and their sons to always cherish, respect women and treat them like queens, imagine how our society will evolve morally in a few years...

But no, all we have are children who think they are men (because they have large male copulatory organs or academic titles {MD, Phd, Msc, Bsc, MON, HIV,} ) and the world belongs to them living in sheer stupidity, fathering sons and daughters who will obviously out-do their own calculated acts of foolishness.

As men, the future of this world, this eternity, though spotless like a virgin awaiting her first sign of bleeding, is very much in our own hands.

wise words...i envy your mother.

KingTom:
You be Yoruba na Unto that level

Lol.

bukatyne:


I am sure her post was tongue in cheek

Solely is the wrong word here...

You are a Christian? What part of the Bible says men have the 'tendency' to be polygamous.

None that i know of. What's ur point?

If i don't share my testimony then i will be selfish....stingy and an ungrateful woman.
Dr linto the great brought back joy...happiness...into my life and took away tears..sorrow by bring back my marriage of 10 years with my husband with just on come and go reunion spell.
i was a sad woman before i meet Dr Linto but it took him just 24 hrs to change everything now am happy again because my man is always by my side. sharing this testimony so other people who are suffering from relationship problem can know that there is still hope with people like dr linto around.
pls contact him directly on : Email: lintospelltemple@gmail.com, or +2348196722608.
Mr Sandra Westwood
U.S.A

bukatyne:
In my opinion,

100% lies on the feet of a husband who steps out of his marriage.

I hope the people apportioning % blames would post on tpia's counter tread.

When a married woman cheats with a single guy, what is the blame ratio?

Lmao, don't you know the gist yet? No matter the scenario the woman is to be blamed nairaland 101

FrancisTony:

Gone are no such days.

Proverb 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old, he will not depart from it.

If husband and wife, spend more times in teaching their children about morality, they'd never depart from it when they are of age.

Thank you!

True talk

adebisicutie:


Lmao, don't you know the gist yet? No matter the scenario the woman is to be blamed nairaland 101

BABE3:


which kind check? Chei coco... Upon all the checks and balance you'd think western men will be less shiesty. But surprise, surprise, Infidelity is still a leading cause of divorce in the west. If Infidelity is a leading cause of divorce, imagine the number of western wives that are still living with cheating husbands coz of the emotional stress of divorce....

Humans are the same everywhere. Yes there are laws here in the west compared to Africa but that's all on the surface. No difference between a modern african marriage and a western marriage; the bullshìt is just packaged differently.

The number of cheating men hasn't reduced because of those laws , btw. I can even argue that it has increased.
I've lived in the west for a while, I've never seen where a western wife divorced her husband coz he cheated once. The men usually get a pass; the women proceed to divorce if the man is unrepentant, or if he's rich, or if there are other issues apart from cheating.

Bottom line is, it's not all black and white. We (westerners and Africans) have more similarities than differences.

I just had to like and also quote.

I also used to think Western( white men to be precise ) were the epitome of Prince Charming

Human beings are human beings.

No matter how much Maria Shriver got in the divorce settlement I don't think it can account for the Hurt of knowing that your husband had a love child under your nose.

coldHeat:
The man is the problem.

Its that simple.

A man is and must always be a symbol of strength and self-control. I cannot blame a woman for anything when a man is involved. As the head and fore-runner he is automatically responsible and irresponsible if any event occurs within the influence of his power and he falls short of the standard.

Only an animal would beat up his wife.
If he loved the mistress so much why not marry her?

I have always said as well that "women may be the source of all the problems of the world, but it is we men that are the problems of the world".

Do your research, any woman today that is happy or sad, or hurt or mad, it is a man that made her so and not another fellow woman.
We men are the architects of the misfortune that is come upon this world. If we all can act mature for just 5 hours every day I am sure the world will be a much better place.

Imagine if every father was always at home (and not outside chasing another man's daughter in a bid to treat his male organ to a temporary, sensual venture only possible by the laws of oscillatory motion and lubrication found in physics) raising their daughters well to feel and know they are princesses and their sons to always cherish, respect women and treat them like queens, imagine how our society will evolve morally in a few years...

But no, all we have are children who think they are men (because they have large male copulatory organs or academic titles {MD, Phd, Msc, Bsc, MON, HIV,} ) and the world belongs to them living in sheer stupidity, fathering sons and daughters who will obviously out-do their own calculated acts of foolishness.

As men, the future of this world, this eternity, though spotless like a virgin awaiting her first sign of bleeding, is very much in our own hands.

Guy you've not met some women.
I tell you.

When you hear 'not tonite I have a headache' what comes to mind?

Or 'see I'm not in the mood'

Meanwhile the poor man must have been planning his smash all day from work only to come to this.
I'm not saying women are s3x slaves & only good for such but has a woman ever called you up whilst at work to please pick up some milk on your way home & you forgot? Everything I mean everything is practically out on hold, why?

I'm not justifying the act of maintaining side chics, kept women or whatever but like someone said earlier men are supposed to be stronger blah blah blah. for the guy he needs to get it when he wants it, the woman acting up with excuses such as the above meanwhile one smallie outside is prepared to give it to him at the drop of a hat, let's be honest where do you think he'll be spending his money eventually ?

Read recently all it takes to overcome the love you have for someone is to think fondly repeatedly of someone else. When the wife keeps behaving that way cos she feels she needs to ascertain her position for whatever reason the man will resort to an alternative no doubt & God help you if the alternative knows the workings of the processes better than the wife at home.

Another is when the wife spends all her dedication on religious programs & is always telling oga of how she's fasting more times than the sun comes up in a year.

Whoever contests why men do this does not understand the primal needs of men & how it operates trust me. konji na bastard & remarks such, as you think are for fun?

Women need to understand the needs of their husbands and I promise you once you're able to work your way round that, dude ain't going no where.

Think of it this way, in most cases where the marriage eventually breaks down & he moves in with the kept lady, how often do you see him leaving ?

A guy at first is prepared to give up so much for the woman at first, then she (probably) starts using s3x as a weapon. Its only natural he gets out of the line of fire.

It's no brainer that OP(Yorubadelta) is Lolaredvelvet and "delta" in her username further proves my allegation that she's an alternate moniker of newlyweded female in this section.

Chai, I can't continue with this girl.

To the topic:
Only an extremely fo..olish man will treat his who.re better than his wife.
..........

Apportioning blames wont solve any issue but will rather complicate things. Adam (the first human) was guilty of same blame-game & that cost him & his entire descendants the garden of bliss (Eden).

Lets all learn to accept responsibility for our actions & inactions, rather than pushing the blame to a 3rd party.

If you, as a husband or wife feel your love for your spouse does not exist anymore, or that it has greatly diminished, or that you have more love for your partner-in-infidelity than your spouse e.t.c; why not take the honourable step of divorcing the spouse you now disdain instead of subjecting him/her to constant worry & emotional pain?

To be candid, i'm tired of all these gender-competition going on in the family section on daily basis as if we all are kids with no sense of direction.

Superiority is not of man to claim, but of God alone (cos we are all His creation).
Or maybe we northerners are more considerate with our spouses I guess.