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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by mredwifeosband: 2:19pm On Jul 06, 2015
FrancisTony:

You are right: A married man sleeping with ladies should be blamed since he has made a vow with a woman.

In most cases, his partner is usually a single lady. Why blame them since they are still unmarried?

@Mredwifeosband, their bitterness is allowed...
let me serve food before this place turns to house of assembly where they are throwing chairs at each other and tearing each others agbada grin

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by pickabeau1: 2:19pm On Jul 06, 2015
mredwifeosband:
side chic of a single man who is just good for a spam donor not partner

ok.

So what if he wants the kid later in life

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by mredwifeosband: 2:21pm On Jul 06, 2015
pickabeau1:


ok.

So what if he wants the kid later in life

no be only want na wanted grin


do they want something that you have signed not to want. Shioor grin
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by pickabeau1: 2:24pm On Jul 06, 2015
mredwifeosband:
no be only want na wanted grin
do they want something that you have signed not to want. Shioor grin

ok

So you have deliberately had a kid that you do not want the father to be part of her life

Nkan nbe
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by mredwifeosband: 2:28pm On Jul 06, 2015
pickabeau1:


ok

So you have deliberately had a kid that you do not want the father to be part of her life

Nkan nbe
and what is wrong with that . must he be part of her life? Agreement is agreement. Raising such issues up is like going to the beehive unprotected and expecting bees not to sting. Let everyone face their issues and be happy. Full stop!

Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by pickabeau1: 2:29pm On Jul 06, 2015
mredwifeosband:
and what is wrong with that . must he be part of her life? Agreement is agreement. Raising such issues up is like going to the beehive unprotected and expecting bees not to sting. Let everyone face their issues and be happy. Full stop!

Period
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by mredwifeosband: 2:32pm On Jul 06, 2015
pickabeau1:


Period
exactly. Period!


Na so life be

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 2:34pm On Jul 06, 2015
edwife:


Frecoco if a girl you know from school sleeps around with married men and decides to get married to your brother,will you be okay with that?and why?
I personally don't think it's okay to be promiscuous, plus sleeping with a married man is not cool, I definitely will not be comfortable with my brother marrying someone like that, but that doesn't mean I get a say in how he decides to live his life, I will ofcourse let him in on what I know(the moment I'm aware they are dating because my brother likes "decent" girls) but if the lady is turned a new leaf, who am I to judge?

This is not about me btw, that statement is merely saying, there are ladies/people who don't care.

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by snakebeat: 2:36pm On Jul 06, 2015
coldHeat:
The man is the problem.

Its that simple.

A man is and must always be a symbol of strength and self-control. I cannot blame a woman for anything when a man is involved. As the head and fore-runner he is automatically responsible and irresponsible if any event occurs within the influence of his power and he falls short of the standard.

Only an animal would beat up his wife.
If he loved the mistress so much why not marry her?

I have always said as well that "women may be the source of all the problems of the world,but it is we men that are the problems of the world".

Do your research,any woman today that is happy or sad, or hurt or mad, it is a man that made her so and not another fellow woman.
We men are the architects of the misfortune that is come upon this world
. If we all can act mature for just 5 hours every day I am sure the world will be a much better place.

Imagine if every father was always at home (and not outside chasing another man's daughter in a bid to treat his male organ to a temporary, sensual venture only possible by the laws of oscillatory motion and lubrication found in physics) raising their daughters well to feel and know they are princesses and their sons to always cherish, respect women and treat them like queens, imagine how our society will evolve morally in a few years...

But no, all we have are children who think they are men (because they have large male copulatory organs or academic titles {MD, Phd, Msc, Bsc, MON, HIV,} ) and the world belongs to them living in sheer stupidity, fathering sons and daughters who will obviously out-do their own calculated acts of foolishness.
As men, the future of this world, this eternity, though spotless like a virgin awaiting her first sign of bleeding, is very much in our own hands.
All the emboldened are spurious & baseless! What do u mean by "raising their daughters well to feel and know they are princesses and their sons to always cherish, respect women and treat them like queens, imagine how our society will evolve morally in a few years"
God himself treated eve like a queen, what did he get in return? Eve was the first human to disobey God, was she not a woman? Samson treated delilah like a demigod, what did he get in return?

Trying to consign evil to men is most hypocrital display I have ever seen, when u know a woman is the founder of disobedience on earth.
Christ himself even affirmed this by asserting he only saw one man in the midst of multitude, but he couldn't find any woman, I've forgotten the verse though, that's to tell u how close to evil we are, & u come here to berate men, exonorating women(founder of disobedience)?

May God exorcise every puusssy spirit deposited in u from u. Say amin......

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by edwife(f): 2:40pm On Jul 06, 2015
freecocoa:
I personally don't think it's okay to be promiscuous, plus sleeping with a married man is not cool, I definitely will not be comfortable with my brother marrying someone like that, but that doesn't mean I get a say in how he decides to live his life, I will ofcourse let him in on what I know(the moment I'm aware they are dating because my brother likes "decent" girls) but if the lady is turned a new leaf, who am I to judge?

This is not about me btw, that statement is merely saying, there are ladies/people who don't care.

Thank you for your honesty,i know it is not about you-i know many people who don't care,as long as they have what they want.

Why I asked this question is because we seem to blame married men alone,but i do know that it takes two to tangle.

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 2:44pm On Jul 06, 2015
edwife:


Thank you for your honesty,i know it is not about you-i know many people who don't care,as long as they have what they want.

Why I asked this question is because we seem to blame married men alone,but i do know that it takes two to tangle.

It's not blaming them alone per se, but they took the vow and that comes with clear instructions as regards infidelity.

The single ladies are however free to live their lives however they deem fit, regardless of what you and I believe on morality.

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Nobody: 3:05pm On Jul 06, 2015
1) So much lies in one post.
Satan was the first person to disobey God not Eve and he was referred as "HE" not "SHE".

2) Solomon made that statement not God and we all know he isn't perfect. Eccl 7:28
Even Mary said from henceforth all generation shall call her blessed. Luke1:48 gringrin

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Nobody: 3:05pm On Jul 06, 2015
might be that she doesn't know he's married, it's possible. but maybe she does or he told her but still wants to date him anyway. any self-respecting woman won't date a married man 'cus if the tables were turned she wouldn't like it if it happened to her. this isn't even the question you should be asking, but... why do married men have side chicks? they're the ones going out to look for these women when they should be responsible, faithful and loving husband to their wives. if you know you can't keep your vows to your wife, why get married?


kliq:


Yeah but then the wise cheating-husbands don't just maintain a side-chic too cheesy...they keep a couple and call any when they need them to do the do wink ....why do girls date married men?

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 3:13pm On Jul 06, 2015
coldHeat:
The man is the problem.

Its that simple.

A man is and must always be a symbol of strength and self-control. I cannot blame a woman for anything when a man is involved. As the head and fore-runner he is automatically responsible and irresponsible if any event occurs within the influence of his power and he falls short of the standard.

Only an animal would beat up his wife.
If he loved the mistress so much why not marry her?

I have always said as well that "women may be the source of all the problems of the world, but it is we men that are the problems of the world".

Do your research, any woman today that is happy or sad, or hurt or mad, it is a man that made her so and not another fellow woman.
We men are the architects of the misfortune that is come upon this world. If we all can act mature for just 5 hours every day I am sure the world will be a much better place.


[s]Imagine if every father was always at home (and not outside chasing another man's daughter in a bid to treat his male organ to a temporary, sensual venture only possible by the laws of oscillatory motion and lubrication found in physics) raising their daughters well to feel and know they are princesses and their sons to always cherish, respect women and treat them like queens, imagine how our society will evolve morally in a few years...

But no, all we have are children who think they are men (because they have large male copulatory organs or academic titles {MD, Phd, Msc, Bsc, MON, HIV,} ) and the world belongs to them living in sheer stupidity, fathering sons and daughters who will obviously out-do their own calculated acts of foolishness.[/s]

As men, the future of this world, this eternity, though spotless like a virgin awaiting her first sign of bleeding, is very much in our own hands.



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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 3:20pm On Jul 06, 2015
freecocoa:
It's not blaming them alone per se, but they took the vow and that comes with clear instructions as regards infidelity.

The single ladies are however free to live their lives however they deem fit, regardless of what you and I believe on morality.
If the single ladies get a free pass in living their lives however they see fit, why don't the married men get one also regardless of what you and I believe on morality?

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 3:22pm On Jul 06, 2015
edwife:

Why I asked this question is because we seem to blame married men alone,but i do know that it takes two to tangle.

Why do you think I keep saying it's a man's world?.... and still 'they' keep catching feelings from this statement of truth gringrin

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by mredwifeosband: 3:22pm On Jul 06, 2015
cheesy grin grin

You don't know how much I'm enjoying this thread grin
FrancisTony:
1) So much lies in one post.
Satan was the first person to disobey God not Eve and he was referred as "HE" not "SHE".

2) Solomon made that statement not God and we all know he isn't perfect. Eccl 7:28
Even Mary said from henceforth all generation shall call her blessed. Luke1:48 gringrin
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 3:26pm On Jul 06, 2015
crackhaus:

If the single ladies get a free pass in living their lives however they see fit, why don't the married men get one also regardless of what you and I believe on morality?
Did you not read the first paragraph of that post?

Marriage comes with some responsibilities/rules. No?

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 3:32pm On Jul 06, 2015
freecocoa:
Did you not read the first paragraph of that post?

Marriage comes with some responsibilities/rules. No?
And single-hood comes with no responsibilities and rules? Yes?

Does morality kick-in only when one is married?

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Nobody: 3:35pm On Jul 06, 2015
mredwifeosband:
cheesy grin grin

You don't know how much I'm enjoying this thread grin
Who gave birth to Jesus? Mary - woman.

Who saw Jesus first on ressurrection? Mary Magadalene and other women.

Who condemned Jesus to death? Pontius Pilate - man.

Who betrayed Jesus? Judas Iscariot - man.

Tsk! Tsk!! gringrin

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by mredwifeosband: 3:37pm On Jul 06, 2015
grin grin grin
FrancisTony:

Who gave birth to Jesus? Mary - woman.

Who saw Jesus first on ressurrection? Mary Magadalene and other women.

Who condemned Jesus to death? Pontius Pilate - man.

Who betrayed Jesus? Judas Iscariot - man.

Tsk! Tsk!! gringrin
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 3:37pm On Jul 06, 2015
crackhaus:

And single-hood comes with no responsibilities and rules? Yes?

Does morality kick-in only when one is married?
I don't know any rules that comes with being single in this context. I'd be glad if you can help me with that.

Morality like I already said is subjective, married people remaining faithful to their partners is not about morality, as some married people swing.

This is about cheating, which I am yet to see anybody be okay with.

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 3:39pm On Jul 06, 2015
FrancisTony:
1) So much lies in one post.
Satan was the first person to disobey God not Eve and he was referred as "HE" not "SHE".
Not like I see the bearing of this as regards the topic, but you should read carefully next time before going off on a tangent.

This is what that poster typed:
God himself treated eve like a queen, what did he get in return? Eve was the first human to disobey God, was she not a woman? Samson treated Delilah like a demigod, what did he get in return?

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 3:52pm On Jul 06, 2015
freecocoa:
I don't know any rules that comes with being single in this context. I'd be glad if you can help me with that.

Morality like I already said is subjective, married people remaining faithful to their partners is not about morality, as some married people swing.

This is about cheating, which I am yet to see anybody be okay with.
A single girl dating and sleeping with a married man is a sin resulting from breaking two commandments (fornication and coveting another woman's property), is it not?

A married man cheating on his wife is also a sin resulting from breaking his marriage vows and the commandment against adultery, is it not?


Now my initial question to you which stemmed from your comment is this:
If the single girl gets a free pass because she's not bound by morality regardless what you and I think about it, why is the married man not getting a free pass also regardless what you and I think of his vows?

Is the sin of a single woman dating a married man lesser than that of the married man she's sleeping with?
Aren't both of them breaking commandments at the end of the day?

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by BABE3: 3:54pm On Jul 06, 2015
freecocoa:
It's not blaming them alone per se, but they took the vow and that comes with clear instructions as regards infidelity.

The single ladies are however free to live their lives however they deem fit, regardless of what you and I believe on morality

This is what's adding to the boldness of side chics nowadays... lack of accountability. Side chics were never this bold. Never, ever grin

lf we say single girls are free to do what they want, and married men must zip up, how long before the married men fall into temptation? Do you know the level of temptation a man is faced with in this day and age? In the day and age where pùssy has been liberated and women are as sexually aggressive as men? A day and age where you can now transfer fat from your waist to your bùtt for a token?

Even if the married man is Jesus, how long before he falls for the side chics? It's not easy abeg. Let's be practical. If these side chics are not stigmatized, their population will keep growing.

So far we keep "evolving", side chics, gáys and trannys are here to stay. Anything goes. cheesy

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by edwife(f): 3:56pm On Jul 06, 2015
crackhaus:

Why do you think I keep saying it's a man's world?.... and still 'they' keep catching feelings from this statement of truth gringrin

grin
Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 4:00pm On Jul 06, 2015
crackhaus:

A single girl dating and sleeping with a married man is a sin resulting from breaking two commandments (fornication and coveting another woman's property), is it not?

A married man cheating on his wife is also a sin resulting from breaking his marriage vows and the commandment against adultery, is it not?


Now my initial question to you which stemmed from your comment is this:
If the single girl gets a free pass because she's not bound by morality regardless what you and I think about it, why is the married man not getting a free pass also regardless what you and I think of his vows?

Is the sin of a single woman dating a married man lesser than that of the married man she's sleeping with?
Aren't both of them breaking commandments at the end of the day?
You still don't seem to get me.

Not everyone is a christian and I'm not one either so that your sin analogy is not applicable here.

Come up with something else.

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by freecocoa(f): 4:04pm On Jul 06, 2015
BABE3:


This is what's adding to the boldness of side chics nowadays... lack of accountability. Side chics were never this bold. Never, ever grin

lf we say single girls are free to do what they want, and married men must zip up, how long before the married men fall into temptation? Do you know the level of temptation a man is faced with in this day and age? In the day and age where pùssy has been liberated and women are as sexually aggressive as men? A day and age where you can now transfer fat from your waist to your bùtt for a token?

Even if the married man is Jesus, how long before he falls for the side chics? It's not easy abeg. Let's be practical. If these side chics are not stigmatized, their population will keep growing.

So far we keep "evolving", side chics, gáys and trannys are here to stay. Anything goes. cheesy
Oh really? So can a married woman also fall for temptation? Or are you of the opinion that married woman aren't also tempted?

You are saying that, that the ability to control oneself is dependant on another, no?

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by crackhaus: 4:13pm On Jul 06, 2015
freecocoa:
You still don't seem to get me.

Not everyone is a christian and I'm not one either so that your sin analogy is not applicable here.

Come up with something else.
Lol, cool off... seems you're getting agitated already.
I got you perfectly as sure as I know my own name, and that sin analogy is perfect...not that I expect you to agree.

So you know that not everyone is a Christian huh?
Then why do you assume the cheating married man to be a Christian who cares about his vows or commandments?



Clarify for me, so we don't antagonize each other:
You're of the opinion that the single woman (side-chic) may not be a Christian, and as such, not subject to morality or Biblical commandments... But the married man must be a Christian, and as such, is subject to keeping his marriage vows.
Isn't this what you're trying to imply?

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by BABE3: 4:18pm On Jul 06, 2015
freecocoa:
Oh really? So can a married woman also fall for temptation? Or are you of the opinion that married woman aren't also tempted?

You are saying that, that the ability to control oneself is dependant on another, no?

This topic is about side chics (not side guys) , right? Sweet!

The ability to control oneself partly depends on another.
No one has absolute self control. Let's try being practical and not so idealistic. We're humans, first.
For example, it'll be easy for a man to say he'll remain faithful when the caliber of women around him are mgbekes and nickels. If he's surrounded by the dimes, the Beyoncés and Rihannas, it's another story.
Yorubas have this saying that goes "eni ija o ba lo n pe ara e ni okunrin".
It's means "it's easy for a man that hasn't been to war to call himself a man".

I know cheating is a sensitive topic to most, but my dear, nothing is absolute. Our behavior, how we react to situations does depend on people around us.

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by edwife(f): 4:22pm On Jul 06, 2015
freecocoa:
Oh really? So can a married woman also fall for temptation? Or are you of the opinion that married woman aren't also tempted?
You are saying that, that the ability to control oneself is dependant on another, no?

@BABE3 i go with freecoco here.Do you know how many young men nowadays go after married women?They don't care anymore,there are no jobs,as long as she pays the bill.For how long do you think these women should keep avoiding them and not fall into temptation?

However what i wanted to understand is what crackhaus said.Why is that the young lady should not be blamed because she is not the one breaking the vow and may not be morally upright.What of a married man who is also not morally upright?should he still be blamed because he made the vow even when he is not a Christian?

What if he is not a Christian,not everyone going to church is a believer.
Quoting the bible is easy,but is it not the same bible instructing us to flee from fornication?married or not?

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Re: Why Men Treat Side-Chicks Better Than Wives by Nobody: 4:22pm On Jul 06, 2015
they're both sinning. neither of them should get a free pass but the man is the one who's married and is responsible not just to himself but his wife he took to the altar and children he brought into this world.


crackhaus:

A single girl dating and sleeping with a married man is a sin resulting from breaking two commandments (fornication and coveting another woman's property), is it not?

A married man cheating on his wife is also a sin resulting from breaking his marriage vows and the commandment against adultery, is it not?


Now my initial question to you which stemmed from your comment is this:
If the single girl gets a free pass because she's not bound by morality regardless what you and I think about it, why is the married man not getting a free pass also regardless what you and I think of his vows?

Is the sin of a single woman dating a married man lesser than that of the married man she's sleeping with?
Aren't both of them breaking commandments at the end of the day?

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