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Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by OCHOdee(f): 6:13am On Jul 20, 2015 |
wisdomiskey: Nobody forced you to get married. There's a reason God made you the head of the family... I hope you understand 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by wisdomiskey(m): 6:16am On Jul 20, 2015 |
OCHOdee: wetin diz 1 dey tlk abeg yarn better yarn jor if yuh cant, den do a reverse park 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by wisdomiskey(m): 6:18am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Fxwarrior: 6:22am On Jul 20, 2015 |
bennyrazz: You think a full grown ass man doesn't know this? Do you want him to feel like she's dictating to him as a man and her husband because of money? How quickly you forget men have ego. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Fxwarrior: 6:28am On Jul 20, 2015 |
DukeNija: 'Family is a bigger achievement' than master's degree that will guarantee better future and income for the family? Guy to whom brain is given, sense is expected. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ugo227(m): 6:34am On Jul 20, 2015 |
FavorofGod: My advice to you is that you take the money and convert it to foreign currency either pounds, euros or dollars and save in a domiciliary account. You don't even need to hide it from him, but it would clear to him that this money is not available and it is clearly marked for a different purpose. Good luck |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Myself2(m): 6:36am On Jul 20, 2015 |
wisdomiskey: Ouchhhh 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ugo227(m): 6:36am On Jul 20, 2015 |
My advice to you is that you take the money and convert it to foreign currency either pounds, euros or dollars and save in a domiciliary account. You don't even need to hide it from him, but it would clear to him that this money is not available and it is clearly marked for a different purpose. Good luck |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Ifebazz(m): 6:39am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT:So are women worth it? |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by jaybee3(m): 6:43am On Jul 20, 2015 |
kilode100: Hi lover girl 3 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Ifebazz(m): 6:44am On Jul 20, 2015 |
OCHOdee:Okay, only on matters like this one you remember God made man head of the family. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by manie(m): 6:44am On Jul 20, 2015 |
FavorofGod: I will advice your family to have 3 accounts. 1. Joint account, where you and your husband will fund. This will be used to run the home and finance family investments/projects. 2. Your personal account, which you will use for your own personal investment, savings or project. 3. Your husband's personal account, which he can spend or invest as he wishes. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 6:47am On Jul 20, 2015 |
You are right to have barred him from dipping his hands into your account. Your spouse is too proud with your money. Try to have a secret account before he ends up killing your dreams. Wish you well. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by freeage7(m): 6:48am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT:U won put asunder abi? Baddest adviser. All the same na wetin she won hear u kuku tell her. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by texybaby(f): 6:52am On Jul 20, 2015 |
My dear there's nothing wrong with u been so open to ur hubby n there's nothing wrong with u telling him the truth about d financial issue also, sorry to say this but ur hubby doesn't seem to b interested or in support of that masters thing that's y he does all he can to spend up all the money so u won't have any savings to pay up n by that forfeit the program that action is typical of man who thinks this way..when I saw capital intensive projects my thots were yall were building ur house or setting up a business n shockingly it was a holiday to d village or a party, sorry that currently is of no financial benefit or value to u now..I advise u take ur stand n push through cz in d end it's still beneficial to d family. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Myself2(m): 6:52am On Jul 20, 2015 |
@ OP From your posts, it's easy to deduce you're a virtuous woman and dutiful wife, pls disregard the extreme "advice" of most female posters here who under normal circumstances are not fit to give you any kind of reasonable advice as they appear to be lower than you in possession of the qualities that makes a woman virtuous. So NEVER keep secrets from your husband.However do have a heart to heart with him about the need to put some money away for more important projects, encourage him to prioritise, whenever he wants to embark on unproductive expenditure, tell him that two of you should make an all-inclusive to do list of your personal needs and the family's needs, then prioritise jointly.Marriage is for life and usually requires a lot of patience, understanding, compromise etc from the husband and wife (by that I mean the man and woman as I don't subscribe to the perversion of homosexuality).Remember that whatever advice you decide to take from nairaland, no nlander will follow you home to enjoy the benefits or face the backlash/repercussions as the case may be, so be wise my virtuous sister. God bless you 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 6:56am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT: Solid comment! 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by bayulll01(m): 6:57am On Jul 20, 2015 |
DukeNija: Best advice so far,woman listen I will advice you to take it easy and make sure u guys talk about this,man generally are reckless when it comes to spending,talk to him calmly and make sure you don't bruise his Ego,we knows women are better managing the homes and finances,men are better in decisions making when its comes to the kids,is a small issues don't make it big 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Toks2008(m): 6:57am On Jul 20, 2015 |
jaybee3: Apparently you are getting it so twisted.A guy can suddenly ind himself broke and might just be fortunate to have a rich lady as a partner or spouse who may decide to help him bounce back. This is a different ball game from the guy depending on the lady for 10k,20k,5k and any responsible man will find this annoying. A lady can loan a guy huge sum for him to use purposefully and many guys have really become millionaires by the help of their wife for instance MKO Abiola and many more. Its one thing for a man to be aided by a financially buoyant spouse and another different ball game for the man to be a consistent demanding partner. As for me, its a NO NO to share my responsibilities with my wife,or depend on her finance for this and that,honestly its annoying demeaning and foolish. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by islandmoon: 6:58am On Jul 20, 2015 |
we men do enjoy bail out, but i dislike men who can not control their spending, if i am married and i have a wife like you, i rather guide you to using your money well, he's the head of the home and that doesn't mean he have free access to your money spending it lavishly. i do give my girl friend money, and sometimes if she notice am broke, she will just say, take this amount, i am borrowing you but sometimes i pay back and sometimes i don't pay back, but whenever i get big money, i do give her a reasonable amount to make up for the unpaid ones, i never tell her am paying her unpaid debt, i do not support you two living without saving, it is a very bad habit, your husband will react if he no longer have access to your money, the same reason he has not look for another source of income, if you have a GTB account, it is easy to operate current and saving along side, and have just one of the account linked to your ATM, that way, you can keep your saving in one and pocket money in the other account, that has given me rest of mind, even the bank can not tell me there is any atm fraud in my saving account and when ever i need money, i just transfer the amount i need into my saving account which is accessible by ATM, this has really helped me in saving because their is no excitement will make me spend more than i intend to, if i realise 570,000 for instance the 520,000 will go into my saving account ( no ATM access) and 50,000 will go into my current account ( with ATM Access) so, even if i hand my ATM card to anyone , he can not spend more than 50,000 and whenever i need money, i will go to the bank and tell them i want to transfer 20,000 from my saving to my current account which will only take a minute i can now have access to this 20,000 with my ATM card also i do not have online access to my saving account, no ATM, no Tech, so my bank can not tell me that someone stole my money with ATM card. it has really worked for me, you can use this method to limit the amount of your money your husband can access, am not saying you shouldnt support him! Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by bayulll01(m): 7:02am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT: The fact that u choose to fall in love with wrong men,who has battered,manhandled,deter ur hearth does not mean there is no good men outside,advice when next you fall in love choose to well |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by mrham03(m): 7:03am On Jul 20, 2015 |
o.p, what happened to for better for worst? |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Bugatie(m): 7:03am On Jul 20, 2015 |
FavorofGod: Nice one madam, but getting promoted later in the year and not telling him may not augur well whatever your intentions are, because he's likely to find out and feel bad, and am not sure you'll be happy if he does same to you. Still on your present income, have a discussion with him to open children's account for your kids and agree on how much you guys are to be throwing into the accounts monthly. This accounts will serve as your alternate savings account since it doesn't allow ATM or regular withdrawals. The mandate also should be you two to sign jointly(this will limit withdrawals on impulse). Do this and see how your savings will soar, even without a single sweat. Goodlucks* |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Laredojohn(m): 7:04am On Jul 20, 2015 |
FavorofGod:Op your a very right but. will advice u open a separate account and save there, so it will not look different to him, some men sha they like awoof....anyways just to. Save him feeling bad |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by omonnakoda: 7:05am On Jul 20, 2015 |
The fact that you are asking the question show thee degree to which you have been manipulated psychologically.This is 2015 |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Toks2008(m): 7:14am On Jul 20, 2015 |
bayulll01: And what is your definition of good men? Men who will withdraw indiscriminately from their spouse accounts? Men who dumbly sit down to freaking share financial responsibilities with their wives? Men who will be snoozing around their spouse because she makes 1billion naira monthly? Some things just don't make sense. A man should be a man and im not writing from wishful thinking but from experience. I practically stayed away from any form of relationship for about 3 years now because i believe i need to bounce back after a terrible down turn in my income about 3 years back and yes i have been meeting ladies who always say it does not matter but then i know it does because i can't imagine myself asking a lady for 5k,10k loan tarr! And if i must enter into any affair with any lady, she must be a working class NOT BECAUSE I WANT A DIME OF HER MONEY but because she will give me time to build back my finance without bothering me directly or indirectly with her salient financial needs which must comes up. A man must understand his place and take charge.NO WOMAN MUST BE COMPELLED TO CONTRIBUTE A DIME INTO ANY MARRIAGE,FAMILY UPKEEP IN ANYWAY.It should be left to her discretion and if she is the stingy type,even she will feel bad because she knows that when you really had,you spend judiciously on her and the family. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Toks2008(m): 7:16am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Laredojohn: This advice is offbeat because any attempt by her to save less than what she use to put into that account will jettison the marriage.Trust me on this. She is in this perpetual financial bondage already and the best she can do is sit her man down to have a real talk like the maximum any of them can withdraw in a month and stufs like that. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Laredojohn(m): 7:20am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Toks2008:U feel soo, men hardly agree, it will lead to stuffs like, is it because you have money more than I do bla bla bla...so she has to develop a means of having seperate savings for the later not necessarily now...i do not from time buy d idea of joint acct in any form though. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by drnoel: 7:21am On Jul 20, 2015 |
FavorofGod: Madam u did the right thing....Let no one tell u otherwise |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by jaybee3(m): 7:25am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Toks2008:You are not making any sense at it's obvious you aren't married. You need to get yourself outta the mindset of me me me in a marriage. There is no singular in marriage and all income earned should be for the marriage It's idiotic to be suggesting a man should loan money from the wife then share the proceeds as at when it yields results. I accept that circumstances are different and all as in you could be the sole earner or whatever but that doesn't mean you should still make yourself the superman without making her responsible for some family expenditures. What happens if God forbid you lose your source of income and the stupid pride has enabled you cultivate the singular culture in your marriage? You had better throw your mindset in the bin Unless you are already a wealthy man 3 Likes 1 Share |
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