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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 1:25pm On Aug 20, 2015
Been fun reading from the first page to this very page. I must admit that some guys are very myopic in there thinking.

Take it or leave it; money CANNOT buy love! Period!

If you think otherwise, have your sister or close female friend sit you down and tell you the truth.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Atlantian: 1:26pm On Aug 20, 2015
Motivatore:

and you think Wise King Solomon didn't have all these when he said "vanity upon vanity is VANITY?
Wise up man... If you keep up with this kind of mentality, you'll die lonely and abandoned... Thats where true love comes in - they stay. They never leave, no matter the circumstances. Good health, bad health, rich, poor, shitting on yourself, crippled - they just never leave. You know why? They can't! And that's what money can't buy!
Wise King Solomon was called Wise in his generation. If King Solomon wakes up now, he will be one of the idiots. The man can not even use facebook and whatsapp. Someone who never flew in an airplane, never used a car, never used an iphone and never even slept on a tempur mattress said "vanity is vanity" over 6,000 years ago and you are quoting him over in the AD. Timidity is when you live in New York, but equip yourself with your great grandfather's ideology, who never visited any place outside his village, and hope to function in a 21st century periphery. You need structural mental adjustment. Sorry.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Ladycloud(f): 1:35pm On Aug 20, 2015
in this 21st century where over 50% of d women manage their homes... most women are not after y'all guyz money o..
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Motivatore: 1:41pm On Aug 20, 2015
Atlantian:
Wise King Solomon was called Wise in his generation. If King Solomon wakes up now, he will be one of the idiots. The man can not even use facebook and whatsapp. Someone who never flew in an airplane, never used a car, never used an iphone and never even slept on a tempur mattress said "vanity is vanity" over 6,000 years ago and you are quoting him over in the AD. Timidity is when you live in New York, but equip yourself with your great grandfather's ideology, who never visited any place outside his village, and hope to function in a 21st century periphery. You need structural mental adjustment. Sorry.
sorry bro, but seems you're a kid!
No offence. Otherwise, i can't reason why you think this way. Gussh! Whatsapp? Facebook? We're talking about relationship and not technology. Solomon married from virtually every tribe in the world, richer than Bill Gates 101 times - yet he died a sad man.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Kennedyiheme: 1:43pm On Aug 20, 2015
Atlantian:
Wise King Solomon was called Wise in his generation. If King Solomon wakes up now, he will be one of the idiots. The man can not even use facebook and whatsapp. Someone who never flew in an airplane, never used a car, never used an iphone and never even slept on a tempur mattress said "vanity is vanity" over 6,000 years ago and you are quoting him over in the AD. Timidity is when you live in New York, but equip yourself with your great grandfather's ideology, who never visited any place outside his village, and hope to function in a 21st century periphery. You need structural mental adjustment. Sorry.
mr man, there were things that excited them as of there time, do u knw how rich solomon was? do u knw hw many women was warming his bed? Over 1000 women, lol 60percent of internet users or iphone users go on the internet to hookup with a pretty girl or cute guy, if you form with ur iphone, solomon will flaunt with his money, gold, diamond, his beautiful wives, what else do you want? He still said all is vanity, you knw why? because your life matters the most, God gave solomon all the wealth he could ever think of, nd you are sayin he'll be the dumbest if he's in this generation? How old are you?

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Kennedyiheme: 1:45pm On Aug 20, 2015
Motivatore:

sorry bro, but seems you're a kid!
No offence. Otherwise, i can't reason why you think this way. Gussh! Whatsapp? Facebook? We're talking about relationship and not technology. Solomon married from virtually every tribe in the world, richer than Bill Gates 101 times - yet he died a sad man.
please ignore him, you can imagine the ignorant guy saying swimming pool and perfume gives love

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by SaviorJenvini(m): 1:55pm On Aug 20, 2015
The Wise would listen.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by EverestdeBliu(m): 1:56pm On Aug 20, 2015
#Straigh&Square
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by RAKITIC: 1:58pm On Aug 20, 2015
I pity guys that still believe in true love . The best love u can get from any human being is from ur parent, the rest are conditional love

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Skmoda360(m): 2:02pm On Aug 20, 2015
Rapmoney:
Ignore this post if you are too lazy to read, please!!!

In life, there are two types of people as regards human reasoning; the idealist and the realist. People who hold idealist view of life see events that happen around them as 'how things ought to be but are not' while people who hold realist view of life see events that happen around them as 'real facts or occurences' and should be accepted without pretending as if we didn't know that this is how things truly are!!!

With deep thoughts, I write this post. I am not afraid to face criticism; neither am I afraid to express my thoughts. I am a realist. I believe that events that happen around us as humans are real!!! Often times, things 'ought to be' in a particular way but in reality, they are not; so it becomes necessary to accept bitter and painful facts! Especially, when they are real!!!

We live in a material world and whether you like it or not, material things play a lot of important roles in our everyday life. As a struggling guy, loving only one girl whole-heartedly might end up leaving you with numerous emotional scars! wink. This is due to the high level of emotional pressure you would put in the relationship and the possible outcome of getting dumped, especially, when you don't have the resources to spice up the relationship. A struggling guy with low funds would find it difficult to spice up his relationship even when he has the intention to do that cool. In order not to lose the girl, he might start being too protective/desparate and pester the girl with phone calls, texts messages and numerous 'I love you's' in order to be assured that he is still loved! Common!!! That's trash! Are you begging to be loved? After displaying all these, she would dispise you and might even dump you because the truth remains the same...relationships without trips, surprises and outings are as boring as hell!!! Pretend at your own risk!!! cool. If truth be told, all young ladies want the good things in life, even those that put up what I call 'social media good face'. You cannot obtain total loyalty from a girl when you are lacking! Don't make the mistake of trying to force her to be loyal; you cannot!!!

Women, sometimes need to feel jealous that their man could be taken anytime by another woman. This can put them back on track when they 'backslide' romantically...but this can only be made easy when you have the resources. She knows fully well that ladies will not flock around you if she leaves you today or tomorrow. Don't love just one lady if you are still on 'struggling mode' wink. The love pressure you would mount on the relationship might make her get fed up quickly with you and eventually get your ass dumped painfully! Again, I am a realist and I am telling you that sooner than later, your ass will be dumped if you don't have the resources to 'oil' the machines of relationships!

As a struggling guy, you should buckle or lace your shoes and tighten your belt very well. You must set your priorities right. There is what economists call 'scale of preference'. What is on top of your scale of preference? Is it your education or career? Or is it trying to please a girl with your meagre earnings all in the name of seeing her pleased with you? Do you want to waste your youthful years trying to please a girl that might end up being married by another dude, who was probably hussling seriously, while you were doing your usual lovey-lovey? Book of Ecclesiastes says 'Money answereth all things'. Take note, 'all things' and not 'some things' cool. Take the pains now and strive to be comfortable and you will avoid the painful experience of trying to please a girl!!! The love between a man and a woman is not AGAPE LOVE, let us stop deceiving ourselves!!! It is not the type of love described in the Synoptic Gospels and in the Epistles of Apostle Paul...it is called EROS and it costs something!!! Yes, the eros love goes for something; it doesn't come with nothing and that's the bitter truth we all need to accept wink

Good morning everyone! cheesy
You are damn right....

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by goodgate: 2:03pm On Aug 20, 2015
Atlantian:
The Bible says, and I quote; "MONEY ANSWERS ALL THINGS". I do not need a woman to love me. I am a strong man. But when it comes to women loving me, I can say I am a butterfly with women. They love me, because I am enigma of some sort. My environs is welcoming, soothing and calm. I treat every guest as the queen of heaven, yet I am superficial and eccentric with the humility of a palm wine tapper. I pour the wines as a professional bar man. In the valley of the shadows of death, I make them fear no evil. I rob their hair with oil and their cups runs over with the wines. Their Goodness and mercy follows me all the way down the bed. In the valley of the shadows of their thighs, I fear no evil. My words, soothes their pains, and make light their worries. True love dies, real love is oiled by wealth. Go and hustle my friend.
BAD MAN!!! Are you in any way related to Dr. Mike Adenuga? You so sound so like someone who has been under his tutelage.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by basille(m): 2:07pm On Aug 20, 2015
This write up is so on point! And like someone else said, after making that money, find a good girl with the same status quo to spend that money with.

I'm sure no one wants to spend hard earned money on broke hoes!

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 2:07pm On Aug 20, 2015
Ephemmm:


Really! How much did your father had before he started screwing your mother if I may ask? Truth be told, money is needed in relationship, but not to the level the writer has exaggerated it. For instance, I have witnessed a scenario whereby the wife of a rich dude is using her rich husband money to finance/upgrade the activities of a broke dude.

The problem with we guys is that we don't have a clear-cut vision, direction, purpose and prospect: any lady can stay with an average guy with good vision, aims and objectives from my own opinion: get your fact right.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Atlantian: 2:12pm On Aug 20, 2015
Motivatore:

sorry bro, but seems you're a kid!
No offence. Otherwise, i can't reason why you think this way. Gussh! Whatsapp? Facebook? We're talking about relationship and not technology. Solomon married from virtually every tribe in the world, richer than Bill Gates 101 times - yet he died a sad man.
Solomon is not worth much in today's money. He was just some adventurous philanderer who could play women and write poems about it. The Book of Songs of Solomon if filled with his exploits. I respect that. But the fact is Solomon, the so-called wise man can not use an iphone, have never driven a car. That was why he proclaimed that all is vanity. Ressurect Solomon today, and he will change his statements. sorry

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Atlantian: 2:14pm On Aug 20, 2015
goodgate:
BAD MAN!!! Are you in any way related to Dr. Mike Adenuga? You so sound so like someone who has been under his tutelage.
No, I am not related to Mike Adenuga. I am anonymous.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Captainswag225(m): 2:16pm On Aug 20, 2015
sassybae.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by doskie(m): 2:16pm On Aug 20, 2015
Rapmoney:
Ignore this post if you are too lazy to read, please!!!

In life, there are two types of people as regards human reasoning; the idealist and the realist. People who hold idealist view of life see events that happen around them as 'how things ought to be but are not' while people who hold realist view of life see events that happen around them as 'real facts or occurences' and should be accepted without pretending as if we didn't know that this is how things truly are!!!

With deep thoughts, I write this post. I am not afraid to face criticism; neither am I afraid to express my thoughts. I am a realist. I believe that events that happen around us as humans are real!!! Often times, things 'ought to be' in a particular way but in reality, they are not; so it becomes necessary to accept bitter and painful facts! Especially, when they are real!!!

We live in a material world and whether you like it or not, material things play a lot of important roles in our everyday life. As a struggling guy, loving only one girl whole-heartedly might end up leaving you with numerous emotional scars! wink. This is due to the high level of emotional pressure you would put in the relationship and the possible outcome of getting dumped, especially, when you don't have the resources to spice up the relationship. A struggling guy with low funds would find it difficult to spice up his relationship even when he has the intention to do that cool. In order not to lose the girl, he might start being too protective/desparate and pester the girl with phone calls, texts messages and numerous 'I love you's' in order to be assured that he is still loved! Common!!! That's trash! Are you begging to be loved? After displaying all these, she would dispise you and might even dump you because the truth remains the same...relationships without trips, surprises and outings are as boring as hell!!! Pretend at your own risk!!! cool. If truth be told, all young ladies want the good things in life, even those that put up what I call 'social media good face'. You cannot obtain total loyalty from a girl when you are lacking! Don't make the mistake of trying to force her to be loyal; you cannot!!!

Women, sometimes need to feel jealous that their man could be taken anytime by another woman. This can put them back on track when they 'backslide' romantically...but this can only be made easy when you have the resources. She knows fully well that ladies will not flock around you if she leaves you today or tomorrow. Don't love just one lady if you are still on 'struggling mode' wink. The love pressure you would mount on the relationship might make her get fed up quickly with you and eventually get your ass dumped painfully! Again, I am a realist and I am telling you that sooner than later, your ass will be dumped if you don't have the resources to 'oil' the machines of relationships!

As a struggling guy, you should buckle or lace your shoes and tighten your belt very well. You must set your priorities right. There is what economists call 'scale of preference'. What is on top of your scale of preference? Is it your education or career? Or is it trying to please a girl with your meagre earnings all in the name of seeing her pleased with you? Do you want to waste your youthful years trying to please a girl that might end up being married by another dude, who was probably hussling seriously, while you were doing your usual lovey-lovey? Book of Ecclesiastes says 'Money answereth all things'. Take note, 'all things' and not 'some things' cool. Take the pains now and strive to be comfortable and you will avoid the painful experience of trying to please a girl!!! The love between a man and a woman is not AGAPE LOVE, let us stop deceiving ourselves!!! It is not the type of love described in the Synoptic Gospels and in the Epistles of Apostle Paul...it is called EROS and it costs something!!! Yes, the eros love goes for something; it doesn't come with nothing and that's the bitter truth we all need to accept wink

Good morning everyone! cheesy
nice piece.

but the bible got it twisted when it said money answers ALL things.

wrong mehn. there are some problems money cant solve you know?
the rich also cry. that was then even. now the rich commit suicide.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Cronnie7: 2:21pm On Aug 20, 2015
I think balance is key to everything in life and that includes a relationship. many fellows here seem to be on both sides of extremity ( the "money is all that is needed" people and "money is not needed people"). I think the picture the op is trying to paint is that of girls groveling at his feet, giving unfettered access to the "cookie jar" because he's got money. I don't believe that constitutes what love is. Hence broke guys can fall in love but they must try to improve their lot because money helps avoid unnecessary relationship strains.

Nice work tho op

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Atlantian: 2:22pm On Aug 20, 2015
Ladycloud:
in this 21st century where over 50% of d women manage their homes... most women are not after y'all guyz money o..
First off, your statistics that 50% of women manage homes is baseless, unproven and a mere guess stretched too far. I agree that women manage several homes, but 50% is a scary figure. There is no home that is managed by a woman by choice. No woman is ready to spend her money when the man can afford to foot bills. It is the failure of men to man up their responsibilities that force women into taking up those responsibilities. Infact, most runz girls on the streets of Lagos, hurstle diccks cos they need to pay their fees (failure of fathers), to feed their kid (failure of spouse), to pay their rents (failure of boyfriends or husbands) or even to take care of themselves (failure of partnership).

Please be guided.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by seyi072000(m): 2:23pm On Aug 20, 2015
All dese never set a place or room for konji. So we broke niggas shldnt av s*x becos we ar broke.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 2:24pm On Aug 20, 2015
Pathetic thread.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 2:31pm On Aug 20, 2015
Yea captain.
Captainswag225:
sassybae.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Captainswag225(m): 2:32pm On Aug 20, 2015
Sassybae:
Yea captain.
whats up?
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by doskie(m): 2:37pm On Aug 20, 2015
finditng:


Realistic post indeed...but let me pitch up this simple inverse to your post which you all similar writers, tend to forget...:

Cool...get money...keep your woman happy ....bla bla bla...now here's the turn...who the hell says the objective after making the money should be to please that woman?...why do women have to just slide in with love at that time...who says you as a guy, can't then decide...IF YOU DONT HAVE MY KIND OF MONEY, BOUNCE!..raise your standards boiz and stop giving these girls handouts....I have always said it....its OK when down as a guy..keep up the struggle...but if your woman don't stay...no wahala..but please, when made don't buy that bullshit love yarns if they ain't got your kind of money or a father that can give them same...simple....

Let's see which gender will weep last last cheesy...
Girls be scamming boiz with looks and surprisingly, they are all dying to become acceptable by these bunch of greedy, lazy, unambitious ladies....lol....

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE......upgrade your reasoning men!...
Don't let women toy with you via the "bought" presentation of love...because, really it is BOUGHT when you are made and a broke babe becomes faithful.....
bid higher...get one with similar status and not just looks....now let's see where all these hungry girls who demand things that their fathers can't afford them will run to... grin.....
unfortunately they constitute about 80% of the female population...

Small evidence: boiz already zoning into Angola, Zimbabwe, mauritius, e.t.c to marry.....lol
I endorse you as the father of internet this week.

I struggled believe me. more emotionally than physically. I had not a single female friend in school. I couldnt wear good clothes. infact I know some girls who used to pass me on the road then without even saying hi ao encouraging me to interact with them by their countenance. last month when I was praying. I wanted to thank God for how my life turned out within a year after service. I found no words to speak. I broke down in tears.
now one bitchh in my compound some days ago was fearlessly toasting me?? I wasnt responding. then she told me im boring.
I was like. ... wtf! why dyou think im under any obligation to entertain you. I dont want to have girls around me. I love kids. I just want to build a school and impact on humanity. no time for broke bittches any longer.

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by ascholani09(m): 2:38pm On Aug 20, 2015
I lafffffff
grin grin grin
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 2:39pm On Aug 20, 2015
Am good, just here reading comments.
How's your day going
Captainswag225:
whats up?
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Captainswag225(m): 2:43pm On Aug 20, 2015
Sassybae:
Am good, just here reading comments.
How's your day going
being in sanko is okay.... I hope u drop ur opinion after u are done reading the comments
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Captainswag225(m): 2:45pm On Aug 20, 2015
Ladycloud:
in this 21st century where over 50% of d women manage their homes... most women are not after y'all guyz money o..
tell them ooo,,, not all ladies are gold-diggers....

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 2:45pm On Aug 20, 2015
Lol, you've been released nah cheesy
Captainswag225:
being in sanko is okay.... I hope u drop ur opinion after u are done reading the comments
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Captainswag225(m): 2:48pm On Aug 20, 2015
Sassybae:
Lol, you've been released nah cheesy
not entirely, am left with one ban.
Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by finditng: 2:49pm On Aug 20, 2015
dopeJemi:



Somebody give this man a MEDAL!!!

Yaaay..thanks for the medal grin....i just couldn't hold back at the myopic representation of love and naivity that these girls thrive on

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Re: The Bitter Truth For Struggling Guys In Relationships by Nobody: 2:50pm On Aug 20, 2015
sonofananimal:
HAAA. LONGEST TIME.

WERE YOU GO HIDE NA.

Lol....nah u I suppose ask nah.....where hv u been? angry

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