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Reading this topic about wedding night sex

https://www.nairaland.com/2606915/what-excitement-wedding-night-when

got me reading up information on wedding night experiences. A large majority of the articles and testimonies I saw online and offline seem to confirm my original assumption; wedding night sex rarely happens and is almost never worth it (in terms of quality).

The article below treats the subject properly

https://mediastorage-lls.bauermedia.co.uk/99/8a55f/11428/e4a15/28797/e7421/af48f/Option%20A_620x349.jpg?1432206122

THE DEBRIEF: THERE'S NOTHING LESS SEXY THAN A WEDDING. SO WHY'S THAT THE DAY WHEN YOU'RE MEANT TO HAVE THE BEST SHAG OF YOUR LIFE?

PICTURE BY FRANCES SOUSA

As someone who is in the middle of organising one, I’m fairly sure that weddings are the antithesis of sex. There is nothing erotic about an event centred around formal paperwork and mass catering. I’m not thinking ‘Hey, introducing my boyfriend’s parents to my octogenarian Granny will really put me in the mood for a long, hard shag.’ The idea of getting my picture taken as I stand in front of everyone I know and cut a big cake does not give me the horn. Yet your wedding night is supposed to be the hottest night of your life. The weirdness of it all hit me when I was speaking to a lingerie PR. ‘And what are you, ah, going to be wearing on the big night? We’ve got some lovely silk slips in…’ ‘Um, I will have been wearing a long, lacy dress for eight hours. I was planning to change into the softest, comfiest thing I own, which is a Sonic Youth Goo tee with a coffee stain on the hem,’ I replied, silently adding ‘And I don’t think we’ll be having sex. We’ll be so tired that getting our genitals to meet would be like watching two old men trying to high five each other.’

When we were expected to wait until marriage, wedding night sex was a big deal. But now that most of us aren’t walking down the aisle as virgins, surely it’s a weird tradition to hold onto? My friend Tash, a 25 year old teacher tells me ‘We’re Christians, and we did wait until marriage! But at the end of our wedding day, I was so tired that I barely had the energy to take my dress off! My husband was wiped out too, and was really scared about letting me down – but when we decided to wait until morning, we were both so relieved! I talked to a couple of friends from church, and they admitted that their wedding nights had been similarly unsexy. It’s a relief, but I wish I’d known beforehand, so I didn’t put pressure on myself!’

Sex and relationship coach Guy Winters says ‘I’ve had clients ask me for advice about wedding night sex, and my one tip is always the same. “Don’t bother.” There’s so much pressure on the day, it’s tiring, intense and emotional, and chances are that you haven’t had a good night’s sleep for a few days. If it happens, it happens, but people often do it for the sake of tradition, and feel really disappointed and disconnected from their partners. If you can wait until you’re relaxed and rested, it means you’ll have happy memories of the first time you were intimate together as a married couple.’

If you can remember any of it, you’re doing well. My friend Rachel, 29, an accountant, reveals ‘I can’t remember my wedding night. Not because we were incredibly drunk, or because anything crazy went down. I was just that tired. We definitely did the morning after, and that was lovely. I know there’s no way my husband would have tried it if I wasn’t feeling it, but I feel like it would be massively unromantic to ask “Darling, do you know when we actually consummated our marriage?”’

Bridget, a 28 year old DJ, had a much more memorable wedding night. ‘I was quite excited about wedding sex. We had a beautiful hotel room, I’d got a negligee and I deliberately didn’t get too pissed during the day so I could enjoy it. My husband did not get the memo, and spent the night being sick in the bath. We eventually had make up sex two days later, because I spent the next day being really annoyed with him.’ Cara, 30 a make up artist says ‘Um, I got really drunk at my own wedding and passed out on a chair at some point. I woke up on a duvet on the floor of my parents’ hotel room.’ A friend who would prefer not to be named says she was so stressed that as soon as she’d signed the register, she spent the rest of the day on the toilet with an IBS flare up.

Ultimately, marriage means you’ve got the rest of your life to get lucky. Your wedding is hopefully just the first of many amazing parties you’ll get to attend together. Sex is supposed to bring you closer together, but I already feel close enough to my partner to know that neither of us are at our sexiest after planning an admin heavy event – we can wait for a while. We’re going to a friend’s wedding the week after ours. I’ve booked a posh B&B, and I’m hoping for an early night.

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sometimes i wonder if there are any virgins left?

I don't follow other people's norms or pratice

my wedding night will be as I dream of it

virgin or not virgin it is going to be romantic, exciting and a night to remember


let somebody shout 'yeah, yeah '

Diddyydiva:
I don't follow other people's norms or pratice

my wedding night will be as I dream of it

virgin or not virgin it is going to be romantic, exciting and a night to remember


let somebody shout 'yeah, yeah '

yeah

make the mood. mutual. dahs all

The rate at which sex post floods nairaland is disgusting,pls you guys should stop already.

I will shoot a movie that night with my wife "A night of two virgins".

Diddyydiva:
I don't follow other people's norms or pratice

my wedding night will be as I dream of it

virgin or not virgin it is going to be romantic, exciting and a night to remember


let somebody shout 'yeah, yeah '

how about being dead tired... Nigerian weddings are exhausting for the invitees more so the bride and groom

Obinnau:
sometimes i wonder if there are any virgins left?

there are sir

pet4ril:
yeah

That's it


but you said only one ' yeah '

My plan's to go back n hook up with one af d girls on my disvirgined list for marriage when i'm ready to . Simple !

tonyx4x44:
how about being dead tired... Nigerian weddings are exhausting for the invitees more so the bride and groom

I don't get you mister

Diddyydiva:


I don't get you mister

i know from experience that its almost impossible to have enjoyable intercourse when one is


tired
stressed
wasted

a typical nigerian marriage ceremony+traditional (usual a day before or simultaneously) ticks all the above boxes for the bride and groom


i find it hard to believe you can have the wedding night of your dreams in those conditions

tonyx4x44:
i know from experience that its almost impossible to have enjoyable intercourse when one is


tired
stressed
wasted

a typical nigerian marriage ceremony+traditional (usual a day before or simultaneously) ticks all the above boxes for the bride and groom


i find it hard to believe you can have the wedding night of your dreams in those conditions

And what if I don't have my Marriage in such way?

Leave the venue at 5:00pm ?

Am speaking for myself here and I don't expect anyone to agree or disagree with me


bye

Diddyydiva:
And what if I don't have my Marriage in such way?

Leave the venue at 5:00pm ?

Am speaking for myself here and I don't expect anyone to agree or disagree with me


bye

understood! i subscribe to that school of thought too... (I don't mind a wedding that lasts 2 hours or less)


just that the majority of the population doesn't

Mk i buy land here,whn e reach FP i go coment

sinaj:
there are sir

are you one?

Mtcheeeewww.. people wey don dey bang themselves for years.. wetin make wedding night own special?

https://i4.cdnds.net/13/41/618x418/wedding-night.jpg

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Totally not havn sex on my wedding night