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tosyne2much:
My mom normally say, never sniff what you know you won't eat, and that's an average sizable number of our ladies normally do


She expected you to be stalking her both online and offline just to make her special, hence, making it look like she wants to do you a favour by dating you

Now is the time to do shakara

Homguy:
Exactly! Op.

BTW, what's waiting for 2 minutes before replying? You should either ignore her chats occasionally or reply the next day even when you are online. If you want to get half a shot at getting this lady, starve her of your attention. 2mins is a mad rush!

Also, I do not think its about answering her harshly rather its by having your own opinions, and expressing your self without seeking her endorsement.

Cc: Holyfield1

Holyfield1:
I met her 5 years ago through her brother who happened to be my mentor,We became friends and shared alot of thoughts together,Just 3 months ago I asked her out and she declined telling me ''We're just friends'',''I can't date you'' and all that,I was so sore hearted because I was expecting an affirmative since we are so close,A very close friend of mine tried to convince her but she stood her ground,She would send me ''Hi'' first on Whatsapp and FB and I'd wait for like 2 minutes before replying her even after I might have read the message,She keep chatting me up and I reply harshly most times,Now I'm really confused because she was not like that before,She would send me greetings,like and even comment on my statuses which she doesn't do before and so many signs,Now I'm really confused ''Could she be tripping for me''?

kellyJames5:
Believe you me

If he starves her his attention as regards to replying her chats or leaving it till next day.


It will only take a matter of days or highest weeks for her to get rid of the affection she has developed for him(if any though)


Don't forget,love/feelings can be grown so also hate.

Homguy:
I agree. Nothing should be over done. There should be a balance. Personally, even if I ignore a particular lady, I sometimes do start up chats with them, but cut it off at my own timings.

What I think is wrong is giving the impression you can't live without her, the impression that you are not busy, rushing to reply her messages and begging her to reply like some guys do. Those IMO are counter productive.

I also think once in a while Op should find lighter /jovial/funny ways of teasing her and passing his message across. Not that serious business like mode some guys tune into when they want to pop the question.


These are my opinions tho, peace.

Harbosede02:
Op mayb she just likes you....no strings attached,can't u think of it dah way ni??

tosyne2much:
See as I just dey look you

pretydiva:
U don't just xpect her 2 say yes instantly. She gast form n do some shakara ..now dat she has giving u d green light,u can now make ur move