standingtall:
I feel peace by just letting this out.this is a red.I don't know how to walk away from all the wedding preparations but I will walk away.I deserve to be happy.now I know why some women never want to get married. its too much work

I didn't want to post...just wanted reading comments and pass to the next thread... But, I'll want you to listen to me very well... I don't mean to be rude or callous with my quote.....


We all have one opportunity in life and you've been singled out of many desperate single ladies out there to stand before the altar and be married to a man you've been with for three years... Don't let this to slip off with your judgement...


Again, you're duty as a wife starts now! You'll never see a no-trouble husband out there... No man is perfect, likewise girls...

People will tag him all sorts of names and that'll make u feel u're sided! Mind you, many of them will settle their differnce without u knowing a thing!

My little point about ur dilemma is that... As a woman, you shld be happy u've had somfin to begin with... Now, look down on urself... How often do u have sex with him? Is he a sex-freak? How do u guys make out? With styles or just ordinary? If u must know! Sex contributes to a lot of divorce and broken homes...

You must ensure dat u give it to him, even when he's nt in the mood... So his mood will never come bck when he's sighting other girls out side there...


Again, what if he has a short coming on swerving from such habit months after his marriage? You wouldn't know if he's realy ready to do away with this acts...

A woman was once told about how her husband carry women around the city and how he flirts and club with these ladies... Her reply was that.... As far as he doesn't bring them home... She's certain he respects her that much... And she never jumped up on other men jst to retaliate the husband's acts... Like many girls would...


Please, take ur time to talk to him... Ensure that u monitor ur man oh... Doesn't mean u'll track him down... Jst set a good look on him... Study and read his speeches... Like now, my woman knows when I lie... And I tell you... The moment it comes... She will know... Except we're chattin... I could meander all d lies on whatsapp...but when I get home... I dnt dare it...coz she's knows and understand that part of me...

I'll say, u shld keep ur man... You wouldn't know! If marriage was dat easy that u'll turn down opportunities... A lot of men and women would've long been marrying and remarrying up to 5times or more... But it's very hard oh! Men will come if u lose dis chance...but will they come to marry you or to have you?

vision2050:
Man must protect himself, swear you don't have another person wey dey nack your kpekus. His is protecting himself from witches out there, after all you guys have not legally married. You self, you don't know maybe he will marry u. continue open hole, hole of hole.

...Nna U funnyiooh..Do u mean that she should keep on opening that sweet hole of all holes ?

...Habah...I laff in Fulani..

futurewise11:
Most of the ladies saying leave him are decieving you.

Firstly,they will gladly date him hoping for marriage immediately you quit.mostvof them are desperately looking for what you have.many of naija ladies are looking for who to propose and you here thinking of quiting,Please dont tow that lane.Condoms are not guns.its for protection.If he quit using condom due to your pressure,it might be counter productive

Even if you marry pastor or alfa, forget it my sister guys go still bang around if they want to.Use tuface as case study,Men are Men.

Have a serious discussion with him and dont under estimate the power of prayer.Its not easy but its doable.

How do you think gan self? She should opt for a bad marriage because her mates are without someone to propose to them? Anyway, OP, keep in mind that you deserve the best

missyadorable:

Stop lying na! haba! we all know u won't walk away except u are not a Nigerian lady.Marriage is d greatest n most important achievement for a woman here and All men are polygamous in nature.if you keep walking away cos a man decided to be a man,you will end up being insulted everytime like genevieve nnaji,linda ikeji,rita Dominic n other matured single ladies

It's so obvious you are a guy, please do the needful, change your moniker and be a man for God sake, what are you afraid of?

In my life I have seen many women who dump their finaces because of cheating or infidelity only for them to get married to another man and find out that he is also doing the same or even worse so be careful and think twice but before taking any decision.

missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

Wow
Do you mean its OK for her to do same too?
Interesting

I bet you haven't been in that relationship every lil lie hurts
I was like you
I never cared
Wasn't my business
But when I was with my perfect imperfection
I know say I no strong

Frankdamaxx:


Nah, am not. Promiscuity favours men no doubt but still doesn't change the fact that these girls ain't loyal.

Thank God for ur life. Ccos I knw if boko haram doesn't kill naija men soon, sex will.

menix:


My friend shut up, sorry I had to use that on you.

U know he will marry you nd u came here for advice..

Some galz b just reasoning wiv their as5..

So because he will marry her he should cheat?

Omo
The things I read on NL is a whiskey

maryhaam:
Hmmmm,ask the married ones,guys that will cheat will cheat,if he's using condom shake him he's protecting ur interest from preggy n infection.

Your signature says it all
Kudos

missyadorable:

Lol..even woman wrapper like you is also claiming to be an exception.

There's nothing special about kitty-cat. Only kids derive joy in bleeping various kitty-cat



Kitty-cat does not becloud the sense of reasoning of a matured dude me

missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

Are you sure you're a woman? If you are, then you should be the most intelligent, smartest, most objective and most considerate woman I've ever read her opinion in my entire life. God bless the man that will marry you. Truth be told, if there are men who remain faithful after marriage, they would not exceed 1% of the world's population. Most especially now that se.x is a cheap commodity. I have seen men, even pastors and very close relatives whom I would have vouched for, that they can't cheat on their wives conveniently and without remorse engage in extra-marital affairs. Men are moved by sight and thanks to the ladies of this generation, there are just more than enough to see everyday to arouse a man's se.xual desires. Sincerely, if 50% of the women in the world today have the understanding that you have, marriages will last longer. Cheers!

So now U're telling us that He never use CONDOM 4 ur Hole?

Anyss:


Thank God for ur life. Ccos I knw if boko haram doesn't kill naija men soon, sex will.

And if all the men are dead who will comfort you at that moment when its a man's touch you need. Well, you may be L...... Who knows?

SosaMontana:
My dear Usain bolt will be your portion in jesus name Amen

no dey joke wit dat name jor

standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

Doesnt he use them on you? And if not, then be thankful you now know he is cheating on you, break up and bail out, i dare u........ If i hear say naija girl bail out, too hungry for marriage

Anyss:
Omo dis world is wicked can u imagine? Guys be like; "u lucky he's using CD,he respects u", "it aint cheating cos u guys aint married" like seriously? Anoda anoying dude be like. " u sure no guy's also sexing u?" Christ. Is dis howw naija guys tink? And wwen dey catch or suspect a gal with a guy u here tins like "hoe" "ladies r all hooes" "ladies been cheating since 13ad". God help women from these demons called men. I swear if anyman tryme eeeh na dry fasting for im head ooh. Lolz

hmmmmm !

standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

Am d coping mechanism, #pm

standingtall:
I feel peace by just letting this out.this is a red.I don't know how to walk away from all the wedding preparations but I will walk away.I deserve to be happy.now I know why some women never want to get married. its too much work

lol...u will walk away? Mchhhheeeew.




I know u will still marry him, u will.

Don't worry, when u need our advice after marriage,we 'll be here, its not that easy walking away.

yanabasee:


I didn't want to post...just wanted reading comments and pass to the next thread... But, I'll want you to listen to me very well... I don't mean to be rude or callous with my quote.....


We all have one opportunity in life and you've been singled out of many desperate single ladies out there to stand before the altar and be married to a man you've been with for three years... Don't let this to slip off with your judgement...


Again, you're duty as a wife starts now! You'll never see a no-trouble husband out there... No man is perfect, likewise girls...

People will tag him all sorts of names and that'll make u feel u're sided! Mind you, many of them will settle their differnce without u knowing a thing!

My little point about ur dilemma is that... As a woman, you shld be happy u've had somfin to begin with... Now, look down on urself... How often do u have sex with him? Is he a sex-freak? How do u guys make out? With styles or just ordinary? If u must know! Sex contributes to a lot of divorce and broken homes...

You must ensure dat u give it to him, even when he's nt in the mood... So his mood will never come bck when he's sighting other girls out side there...


Again, what if he has a short coming on swerving from such habit months after his marriage? You wouldn't know if he's realy ready to do away with this acts...

A woman was once told about how her husband carry women around the city and how he flirts and club with these ladies... Her reply was that.... As far as he doesn't bring them home... She's certain he respects her that much... And she never jumped up on other men jst to retaliate the husband's acts... Like many girls would...


Please, take ur time to talk to him... Ensure that u monitor ur man oh... Doesn't mean u'll track him down... Jst set a good look on him... Study and read his speeches... Like now, my woman knows when I lie... And I tell you... The moment it comes... She will know... Except we're chattin... I could meander all d lies on whatsapp...but when I get home... I dnt dare it...coz she's knows and understand that part of me...

I'll say, u shld keep ur man... You wouldn't know! If marriage was dat easy that u'll turn down opportunities... A lot of men and women would've long been marrying and remarrying up to 5times or more... But it's very hard oh! Men will come if u lose dis chance...but will they come to marry you or to have you?

Wow
Wow
Wow
Marriage is an achievement
This is interesting

Pidggin:


It's so obvious you are a guy, please do the needful, change your moniker and be a man for God sake, what are you afraid of?

I am not a man,my dear..Nothing to be afraid of! I am a woman and being very realistic.Truth is bitter but it is better said.

Oliviaarims:
Very clear pointer he's cheating...if yhu decide to still marry him,don't come bk to NL looking 4 advise on how to deal with a promiscuous husband.
As 4 coping,well,put urself 2gether..d world hasn't come to an end. Just don't dwell on the issue. But sincerely,if u can't deal with infidelity,then don't marry him.

So true.

About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.
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@ emboldened, that line got me [size=18pt]laughing[/size] hard .. Boy!! Quite a cheap lie from him ..

standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me [size=15pt]he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.[/size]

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

[size=15pt]Lmaaao!!![/size]

like someone said on first page. marriage is the ultimate for naija girls so even 86million people advise OP to leave the man she's 99% most likely not to leave the man. so my advice is talk to him about it.

standingtall:
I feel peace by just letting this out.this is a red.I don't know how to walk away from all the wedding preparations but I will walk away.I deserve to be happy.now I know why some women never want to get married. its too much work

yur guy is doing last minute banging cos soon he will remain on a diet for life....so it normal we all had dsame experience....

All I know is that, only government officials retire, thieves don't. This rules also applies to someone who cheats in a relationship


An unfaithful fiance will always be an unfaithful husband. Only deliverance can make such a man desist from that act


OP, abeg use your brain ooooo.. This is to let you know that thieves don't retire. Use your head

Discuss with him. Tell him how worried you are about the recurrent discovery of CD in his pocket. Be assertive about it so that he will stop playing smart on you.

The guy pribably needed it for protection from diseases anytime he needs to self service.......

Op ur story isn't complete..... Tell us if you do the freaky? If you do why are u freaked about condoms........on the other hand if you dont, why the hell are you still freaked? Remember sex is not love so what is bad in him getting some action, since you have decided not to?

So wht make e no bang anoda possay..i beg u should be lucky he uses condoms I beg make person hear word you aare not the first

standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

You ought to be happy that he's protecting your health.

If he has failed you in your monogamist agenda then break up and move on.

Op. For u to be worried that u saw condoms in his bag suggests strongly that u have not had sex with him or u do body to body. U date a man for 3yrs nd u have done intro but without sex ND u think he won't cheat? Think again, sis. U probably told him u are a born again lady ND so no sexx b4 marriage, d sharp guy decided to play along while strafing a smallie by the corner.

Rumpelstiltskin:
Are you sure you're a woman? If you are, then you should be the most intelligent, smartest, most objective and most considerate woman I've ever read her opinion in my entire life. God bless the man that will marry you. Truth be told, if there are men who remain faithful after marriage, they would not exceed 1% of the world's population. Most especially now that se.x is a cheap commodity. I have seen men, even pastors and very close relatives whom I would have vouched for, that they can't cheat on their wives conveniently and without remorse engage in extra-marital affairs. Men are moved by sight and thanks to the ladies of this generation, there are just more than enough to see everyday to arouse a man's se.xual desires. Sincerely, if 50% of the women in the world today have the understanding that you have, marriages will last longer. Cheers!

Thank you very much..Whenever I make such comment,am seen as a devil.the same men who brag abt how many women they conquer will turn around to claim they are faithful...and the women folk? they cry foul and call me names.I have come to realize se.x is not love.one woman can never satisfy a man,he would want more n more till he dies.in the olden days when women were decent and se.x was sacred,men were still very much unfaithful.Fast forward to today where everything depicts se.x up to the air we breathe and food we eat.Getting a partner is just a click away, thanks to the various social media platforms and dating sites.The no of married men on these sites is alarming.It really baffles me when my fellow ladies expect a man to bleep only one woman n be faithful to them in this age and time..Personally,i just understand.I don't have a problem wt my man as long as he is playing safe.HIV/AIDS is the only challenge with adultery.

Pls don't vouch for anybody(male n female)on sexual morals.You will be utterly disappointed.