its beta to do introduction twice than doo wedding twice. the latter comes with great trauma.

mimicious:




Don't get me wrong. It's my opinion, if u dont reason with it u can just ignore.

u don't have to justify ur stance. my question to Adaeze003 is, Are u d only woman in ur man's life? or rather more direct, Do u think that u r the only woman in ur man's life? wake up and face the realities.

the reason most of us r faithful isn't because if we r given d chance dt we won't do it, but simply because most of us r occupied to d point dt we don't even ve time to think abt it.

Dear, allow me to say this, if you truly love this guy stay with him, don't jump from fry pan to fire. Sorry he broke your heart learn to deal with, it's a normal these days. Stop checking his pockets so you wouldn't spoil your mood. Nobody is ready to marry now, keep your own, moreover he love and doesn't want to hurt you he is only stupid by forgetting things like that. Cheers.

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missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

Sorry to say, what you wrote up there is total crap. IMO.

Yu guys are dating and he is picking packs of condom from the floor,when he is finally married to you,he will throw decorum to the wind and pick packs from dustbin...you will wake up one day and see a whole collection of condom in the wardrobe and he will tell you...I'm working wit the waste management

Kick that dude to the curb#damn to early to be picking condom packs from the floor..

For him to be cheating on you while your wedding is two months from now is a bad sign. Dear he will cheat on you forever.
If you know you can't cope with this, just walk away and be happy. Never mind what ppl will say. You are not meant to live with a man who'll not make you happy.

@ OP, I really wish I could send you a mail. Some of these advice might destroy your life and some might be good for you. Is this a good platform to make such decision of who you want to spend your life with? Many pple here might be too youthful to understand, many don't even know what it is to be married, many are from a background of different orientation about marriage and will advice you based on their understanding, some are wounded & casualties of a failed relationships. Pls dear, you are the only one that will take responsibilities of your actions and the results thereafter, think twice....

Wish I could send you a mail...

Am so sorry Sister
i can see dat u luv money
searching his poxket wht his consent is pilferimg n he likes women
so u re birds of a feather cos both of u re culprit.
dnt tink of calin it quit cos u migt not find another one easily
or ve gotten another one wit huge cash in his pocket

adv
just go n report him to his mother n Sister
so dat dey xan talk sense into him
sure he ll resign his appointment fm olx esp if he is a shy type

standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

Dump his as*s now! He's a cheater and will always be a cheater.

If you continue dating him after all these, then you deserve everything he does to you.

Dyt:



A friend was preaching this to me last night
I almost appeared to her to knock off her teeth
No be only devil you know

If u had a problem with my comment u won't have quoted me. I only gave my opinion.

Tedassie:
;Dif i hear...thips person has more than account with diff moniker

hmmm...looking from afar

missyadorable:

He is not cheating on her.They are not married.Nobody owes anybody faithfulness in a fornicating relationship until married..Although I share your opinion it is nothing new.I wonder if she was expecting him to sleep with only her...who she be?

you must b a philosopher I so much like Ur school of thought

missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

You make ny weekend...your hubby is blessed.

U guys telling her to dump the guy, what's her are assurance that the next guy will be better. U guys should be truthful to ur selfsame. Many of us giving her that advice is even in a worse situation than her and we are still in dying in silence. My dear if this attitude still persist u can give the next guy a chance or better still double date. # my opinion

standingtall:
I feel peace by just letting this out.this is a red.I don't know how to walk away from all the wedding preparations but I will walk away.I deserve to be happy.now I know why some women never want to get married. its too much work

You are just disturbing yourself over nothing. More than 90% of married men cheat this days, INCLUDING PASTORS!
It does not mean they don't love their wives, just that puccy is readily available now. However, we like behaving like ostriches and refuse to admit the truth staring us in the face.

Go and conclude your wedding plans jare

missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

waoh! Your sense of reasoning is very sharp and matured.. Am not in anyway supporting cheaters of any kind but OP need to stand her duties as a lady. She said that d wedding is around the corner, now she is thinking of how to break up, after all the banging and other things since 3yrs, u will now fold hand and start crying.. She need to step up and fight what belongs to her, nothing good come easy. No man will be 100% perfect, help me tell her dat the guy loves her so much and also respect her.. You need to ask him in a gentle and polite way the use of the condom, moreover, there is somthing OP is not telling us, the guy will never tell her dat he love the colour of the condom.. OP pls u will not find already made man, make ur man the way u need him to be.. #funnyNation comedian coming soon!

Ray360:
Dear OP, it's ridiculous to know that a man you have been with for 3 years is a chronic philanderer with Zero modicum of regard for your feelings and worth as a prime woman. Is he Using those Condoms on you or on those harlots out there with no scintilla of woman virtue?
Call him to order and lay bare your grief at his Philandering Lifestyles, Your wedding is just months away and this doesn't bode well for you. cheers.

Michellla:
Dear OP, it's ridiculous to know that a man you have been with for 3 years is a chronic philanderer with Zero modicum of regard for your feelings and worth as a prime woman. Is he Using those Condoms on you or on those harlots out there with no scintilla of woman virtue?
Call him to order and lay bare your grief at his Philandering Lifestyles, Your wedding is just months away and this doesn't bode well for you. cheers.
exactly

Nawa who copied who?

this is why african women have the lowest self esteem. Our standards have been swept under the rug and our men treat our women like doormat.

Cheating is inexcusable. And "using condoms" doesn't automatically translate to respect.

mimicious:
My dear the devil u know is better than the angel u dont know. What of if he is not protecting himself, which will u have preferred? Tho m not in support of him cheating but he respects u if he is protecting himself. #my opinion

mimicious:
My dear the devil u know is better than the angel u dont know. What of if he is not protecting himself, which will u have preferred? Tho m not in support of him cheating but he respects u if he is protecting himself. #my opinion

op shuld fight for her right, you want to break up after three yrs of banging.. Make ur man d way u need him, don't look for already made.. God bless u sister for ur advice.. #funnyNation comedian coming soon

trapQ:
this is why african women have the lowest self esteem. Our standards have been swept under the rug and our men treat our women like doormat.

Cheating is inexcusable. And "using condoms" doesn't automatically translate to respect.

Don't get me wrong, like I said am not in support of him cheating but u guys are making it seem like it's a new thing. Don't the ladies cheat on their boy friend? Using a condom doesn't translate respect, U right but what's the assurance of the next guy? What will u say about married men that cheat on their wives, will u say they should divorce.

standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

You have gotten several advice but mine is my thought
Am hoping you find it useful



You have sacrificed 3years dating him,you have done the introduction,the point is that you must have noticed some changes even before the introduction but you went ahead with it that will mean you believe in this guy



if you claim that he changed not long ago , what changed.him? Have u tried confronting him with the issue ?
You also have been scared of telling h what you feel about what you found ,you said something that annoyed me , tho am a guy any lady that isn't courageous I dislike

"you said, because he was beginning to get annoyed" and then? no relationship is perfect and its time you talk to him without fear, its obvious you love him

Walking out of the wedding because he is cheating and you have not found time to talk or look him in the face may haunu forever

pls don't take decisions out of emotions take it out of reality

he want to protect you against disease

standingtall:
I feel peace by just letting this out.this is a red.I don't know how to walk away from all the wedding preparations but I will walk away.I deserve to be happy.now I know why some women never want to get married. its too much work

I don't think U wl ever find Mr. Right....
What matters in Marriage is LOVE....marry who u love and make sure he loves u too....
My dear even though u walk away it change nothing ....u wl never get that happiness u think is elsewhere...NO ONE IS PERFECT....advice ur MAN....
PLEASE no man is perfect,many pretend to be....

Mancity26:

op shuld fight for her right, you want to break up after three yrs of banging.. Make ur man d way u need him, don't look for already made.. God bless u sister for ur advice.. #funnyNation comedian coming soon

I understand the fact that op is not happy that's y she shared it here but she should put in mind there is no perfect man.

standingtall:
I feel peace by just letting this out.this is a red.I don't know how to walk away from all the wedding preparations but I will walk away.I deserve to be happy.now I know why some women never want to get married. its too much work

My dear, every marriage has challenges. EVERY ONE. If some couples share theirs with you, you'll realise yours isn't so bad. You don't walk away from every challenge life throws at you. Do you guys love each other? Are you guys happy when you're together? If yes then work things out. Build a family together in love. You will find peace and joy eventually. All the best.

missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

you're a club girl right?

Men sha,why can't they just be faithful, kilode,,is it an impossibility?
It's sad o,very sad cos cos no matter how strong a lady is and tries to ignore certain stuff,a lady just can't be happy knowing fully well that her man is f*** king other ladies,
Condom or no condom, fine he used protection, but the f### point is that he f****in f**** ed another woman, for crying out loud. he saw everything there is to see about another woman,he probably even f*** d her more than he ever could have f***** you and he is probably gonna continue f**// king other women.
Damn
And there's just gonna be a day he won't.even use condom with the other women.
Now imagine ur man having sex with a b1 tch without a condom.
* faints *
Men please be faithful now, men can drive one crazy

Thank you very much for this reply. I was so angry at her comment and was gonna use some provocative words but then I realised; she might not have a brain afterall

Girls like that never achieve as marriage to them is the highest achievement for a woman. Smh, science hasn't made anything if they've not invented artificial brains. Some people need it.

akike:


At least they can afford to stand tall and call out any man unlike women like you who end up being a slave to a man. A means to an end.

Women are also the same. Ask your mum if she never felt like having sex with another man after your father. What about women that also cheat?

You definitely need a brain transplant asap

Follow your heart because a broken relationship is far better than a broken marriage . Please just in case of next time don't always check a man's pocket or his phones cos what you will c might hurt you.All the best sis

Ray360:
Dear OP, it's ridiculous to know that a man you have been with for 3 years is a chronic philanderer with Zero modicum of regard for your feelings and worth as a prime woman. Is he Using those Condoms on you or on those harlots out there with no scintilla of woman virtue?
Call him to order and lay bare your grief at his Philandering Lifestyles, Your wedding is just months away and this doesn't bode well for you. cheers.

I dey feeleth u




I dey gbadyn my guy advice

Smart advice

Oliviaarims:
Very clear pointer he's cheating...if yhu decide to still marry him,don't come bk to NL looking 4 advise on how to deal with a promiscuous husband.
As 4 coping,well,put urself 2gether..d world hasn't come to an end. Just don't dwell on the issue. But sincerely,if u can't deal with infidelity,then don't marry him.

The decision is entirely yours.

But let me tell you, I am married and he will never change. He will keep cheating on you and by then ...you will be in the situation alone. Those people who will not be happy that you didn't get married in December wil be the first set of people to make mockery of you. You will cry alone every night and he will beat you also.

So the decision is yours.

All the best.