Bugatie:


Your last sentence is very funny, so you think he(and other bankers) go to work very early and come back late cos they chose to? Na wa for some people o

Am telling you.

goldendainty:

just like me
Everyone thinks i should have a man in my life




I dunno what's wrong.....
Guys want ladies that won't depend on them,and yes i av a job of my own and i can afford anytin i want.



But i still dnt av a serious relationship.... pls HELP

Am here for you.

sihom:


By all means, talk to me I would like to learn about the three essential attitudes you mentioned.

I never claimed to be an English guru I just thought the OP could have made his post easier on the eyes that's all.

Holla back with this info you've got.

That's okay. Never mind! I was only trying to throw you off balance and see how you would react to that.

Do you really want to know these three interesting qualities?

Valeree:
Can I say I'm very impressed with the responses coming from guys.

can you... ?? emmmmm no u cant

sihom:


Hi remember I said two things well spoken and written English.

In a scenario like the one you've painted above, I'll pay attention to how he speaks.

Good English for me does not mean a fake British or American accent it means pronunciation of words are correct and sentences are well strung together to be meaningful.

For example - How has your day been? As opposed to how has been your day? The latter will have me silently grinding my teeth.

Will respond to your PM asap.

Can you just shut up, please? You are beginning to sound dumb.

Smile4mee01:
I am a little depressed now. i came here to seek counsel. i am 31 yr old male, works in a bank. have my own apartment and car, Quite comfortable. i am not and never have been in a very serious relationship. the few ones i tried never just works out. most times the ladies dont measure up, the few ones that did measure up were so much in a hurry to marry (maybe because they were older than i was sha)

my friends too wonder, they say with my status ladies should be all over me. they say i dont take them serious. i am not gay and wil never be.

i agree my job leaves me little room to go out because i work almost every day. in fact in a whole month i have just 2 free weekends. 2 days out of which i still go to work.

is there something i can do to be in a healthy relationship. i desire to have a balance.

Thanks in anticipation

I understand your plight , i suggest you try out the social media, but not dating sites. How about using facebook?

Just search facebook page of the friends of your friends of their friends friend for chics , Start with checking some of their photos, comments, educational background, estimated age, If you see what you like at least physically, send facebook friendship requests., weed of married or "in relationship with" from the pool you will send friend requests. They will accept, but not all, at least at the immediate. Then initiate conversations with no romantic tone, be economical with the truth when they ask how you knew them , you can say"i was searching out for a friend with your same surname bla bla,......." just gist ,and gist,......that way you get to know her, you can turn on the romantic tone, when you sense interest in her, and then you schedule a meeting.

Trust me, it works, it worked perfectly for my friend, who had a rich taste, and a somewhat narrow pool of quality of life partner. He is now happily married with the lady

sihom:
At Grahyt,

You quoted OP's post without saying anything at the end of it. Lol - sleep still dey catch you this morning?

At OP,

Check out a thread in the romance section titled ''If You Are 30+ and Single Let's Talk''. I think it might help.

Siamia a lady authored the thread and a WhatsApp chat group was created to enhance healthy friendships & romantic relationships in a safe, secure and be your brother's keeper kind of way.

Siamia vouches that members are authentic & sincere, well truth is she only said that about the men I don't know about my gender.

Read the thread first (the few pages you can) and then decide if you want to join the chat group and see where that leads to. No pressure ooo abeg just keep an open mind and explore the possibilities of friendships first.

Only tasteless and classless women will be all over you because of your job, apartment and car. Tasteful women with class (like moi ) will be more concerned with your manners, personal hygiene & grooming then your overall comportment as a man.

Me - I'm a sucker for

1. Neat men with shaved armpits, clean underwear and surroundings. That your apartment won't count if its messy & untidy.

2. Well spoken & written English which reveals a depth of intelligence (like that dude LordReed I am electronically attracted to him just for his written English too bad he's married).

3. Courteous & well mannered men amongst other things like

No offence meant bro, but I ain't really feeling your written English enough to gravitate towards you as a woman. It's good but could be better with punctuation marks where necessary. Just saying no offence meant.

**shake head untop ur mata**
no wonder u ar still single.
Too much terms and conditions dey worry u.
Shio!!

Captainswag225:
u cant keep her name out of ur mouth ryt? gay lunatic..... i always deal with u and u run away...when will u face me like a man?

the transgendered mofo keeps mentioning me all around the forum, I have ignored it since it created it's account, he frustration of being ignored manifestly evident in its rants.

Smile4mee01:
I am a little depressed now. i came here to seek counsel. i am 31 yr old male, works in a bank. have my own apartment and car, Quite comfortable. i am not and never have been in a very serious relationship. the few ones i tried never just works out. most times the ladies dont measure up, the few ones that did measure up were so much in a hurry to marry (maybe because they were older than i was sha)

my friends too wonder, they say with my status ladies should be all over me. they say i dont take them serious. i am not gay and wil never be.

i agree my job leaves me little room to go out because i work almost every day. in fact in a whole month i have just 2 free weekends. 2 days out of which i still go to work.

is there something i can do to be in a healthy relationship. i desire to have a balance.

Thanks in anticipation

Bro you and me both. Maybe it's because the character and attitude of ladies these days leaves a lot to be desired. The good ones are mostly introverts who dont come out of their homes.

Yomieluv:
You are ok,nothing is wrong.

U try. Perfect example of being ur bro's keeper.

See advice.

sihom:


You are welcome.

I've been feeling your insightful and wise contributions in the family section for a long time.

Thanks a lot.

I am blushing and shy...

On a second thought, why shall I be shy?

Smile4mee01:
I am a little depressed now. i came here to seek counsel. i am 31 yr old male, works in a bank. have my own apartment and car, Quite comfortable. i am not and never have been in a very serious relationship. the few ones i tried never just works out. most times the ladies dont measure up, the few ones that did measure up were so much in a hurry to marry (maybe because they were older than i was sha)

my friends too wonder, they say with my status ladies should be all over me. they say i dont take them serious. i am not gay and wil never be.

i agree my job leaves me little room to go out because i work almost every day. in fact in a whole month i have just 2 free weekends. 2 days out of which i still go to work.

is there something i can do to be in a healthy relationship. i desire to have a balance.

Thanks in anticipation

There is nothing one is going thru that another isn't encountering sha.

sihom:
At Grahyt,

You quoted OP's post without saying anything at the end of it. Lol - sleep still dey catch you this morning?

At OP,

Check out a thread in the romance section titled ''If You Are 30+ and Single Let's Talk''. I think it might help.

Siamia a lady authored the thread and a WhatsApp chat group was created to enhance healthy friendships & romantic relationships in a safe, secure and be your brother's keeper kind of way.

Siamia vouches that members are authentic & sincere, well truth is she only said that about the men I don't know about my gender.

Read the thread first (the few pages you can) and then decide if you want to join the chat group and see where that leads to. No pressure ooo abeg just keep an open mind and explore the possibilities of friendships first.

Only tasteless and classless women will be all over you because of your job, apartment and car. Tasteful women with class (like moi ) will be more concerned with your manners, personal hygiene & grooming then your overall comportment as a man.

Me - I'm a sucker for

1. Neat men with shaved armpits, clean underwear and surroundings. That your apartment won't count if its messy & untidy.

2. Well spoken & written English which reveals a depth of intelligence (like that dude LordReed I am electronically attracted to him just for his written English too bad he's married).

3. Courteous & well mannered men amongst other things like

No offence meant bro, but I ain't really feeling your written English enough to gravitate towards you as a woman. It's good but could be better with punctuation marks where necessary. Just saying no offence meant.

lady u want a Nigerian man that speaks and write polished English.hehehe I pray u don't get to start growing white hairs before u take that out from ur list of an ideal man.
Nigerian men speaks and write average English and that doesn't make them bad or worse.
am sure u must have spotted some flaws on my writings too,is definitely on purpose.is it some one that want to quickly sleep and think how next week work would be like,will start looking for symbols and capital letters on phone.
keep picking on our flaws,when others are gettin married every day.

sihom:


Gabrone Gabrone,

You made me laugh with the take your time part of your post.

I lay no claims to being an English expert but when you repeatedly see small letter i when it should be capital letter I, no commas or full stops your head begins to ache and your eyes tear up.

The part about not gravitating towards him is me simply saying - as appealing as any man thinks he is with his fine car, job & apartment those things do not necessarily rock a tasteful woman's world.

I still maintain this - no offence meant to him and none taken from you either. I am more amused than offended

The OP is better off without all those women,afterall there is nothing meaningful they will add to his already made life,he is disturbing himself ontop useless matter inwhich at the end it WON'T worth it.

go out and deliberately meet girls.

Bonapart:
Who serious relationship don help

I wonder o ...no decent ladies anymore and the guy is disturbing himself ontop B!tches matter.

safarigirl:
LOL @ "No lady can measure up"....if a lady with OP's CV hsd made same statement about guys, NL men would have skinned her alive and shouted 'menopause' as well as imagined all the pastors she would be visiting soon

OP, maybe you don't measure up in the eyes of the ladies that 'measure up' to your standards because the kind of lady you seem to prefer, isn't moved by your wealth or status.

oga, work on yourself

"measure up" means that they are hoes not wife material...its not about class,naija ladies are always moved by wealth and status.

Youngpo413:
"measure up" means that they are hoes not wife material...its not about class,naija ladies are always moved by wealth and status.

you attract what you are. Maybe OP is a hoe too.

BTW, there are more married hoes than decent girls....naija men prefer hoes, isn't pre-marital sex one of the conditions necessary to keep a naija man?

You must all think you're too morally sound to marry 'hoes' like say the women shag themselves

safarigirl:
you attract what you are. Maybe OP is a hoe too.

BTW, there are more married hoes than decent girls....naija men prefer hoes, isn't pre-marital sex one of the conditions necessary to keep a naija man?

You must all think you're too morally sound to marry 'hoes' like say the women shag themselves

yeah maybe.

sonofananimal:
as far as you are a man, there is nothing wrong for you to be single at that age. At least you can even pregnant a woman even at the age of 90. Our WOMEN of NOWADYs are animals

Did you want to enter a relationship with animals and don't have rest of mind for the remaining days of your life?

Live life the fullness and forget marrying with a NAIJA WOMEN, cos NOWADYs! You will be hearing a woman smash her husband testicles, WOMAN pour boiling water mix with pepper on husband body, WOMAN cut husband peni s, WOMAN KILL husband with a bottle.

You don't want to see this things happening to you, do you?

And you know that our NAIJA WOMEN ARE the most mentally unstable people on earth.

you are so on point

attah38:
Do you know how to kpekus ladies?

Ekpe itut!

realdee44:
At 31 years, I don't think you should worry yourself there are men who gets up to 34-37 before getting married.

Dem no born you well, so you go get mind wish dat to your brothers...

goldendainty:

just like me
Everyone thinks i should have a man in my life




I dunno what's wrong.....
Guys want ladies that won't depend on them,and yes i av a job of my own and i can afford anytin i want.



But i still dnt av a serious relationship.... pls HELP

you can merge with the OP....moreover relationship is not for everybody.

CleftEvents:
At that age you should be worried.

He is a man not a lady.

Youngpo413:
you are so on point

thanks boss!

sihom:
At Grahyt,

You quoted OP's post without saying anything at the end of it. Lol - sleep still dey catch you this morning?

At OP,

Check out a thread in the romance section titled ''If You Are 30+ and Single Let's Talk''. I think it might help.

Siamia a lady authored the thread and a WhatsApp chat group was created to enhance healthy friendships & romantic relationships in a safe, secure and be your brother's keeper kind of way.

Siamia vouches that members are authentic & sincere, well truth is she only said that about the men I don't know about my gender.

Read the thread first (the few pages you can) and then decide if you want to join the chat group and see where that leads to. No pressure ooo abeg just keep an open mind and explore the possibilities of friendships first.

Only tasteless and classless women will be all over you because of your job, apartment and car. Tasteful women with class (like moi ) will be more concerned with your manners, personal hygiene & grooming then your overall comportment as a man.

Me - I'm a sucker for

1. Neat men with shaved armpits, clean underwear and surroundings. That your apartment won't count if its messy & untidy.

2. Well spoken & written English which reveals a depth of intelligence (like that dude LordReed I am electronically attracted to him just for his written English too bad he's married).

3. Courteous & well mannered men amongst other things like

No offence meant bro, but I ain't really feeling your written English enough to gravitate towards you as a woman. It's good but could be better with punctuation marks where necessary. Just saying no offence meant.

Hahahahaha.... Nigerian Ladies will never cease to sound and act funny, DON'T WORRY! By the next 7yrs we'll see the "revised edition" of this Great and Mighty list of REQUIREMENTS and CRITERIA. Abeg try get us updated then o...

goldendainty:



Reasonable women/ladies are not particular about your money!!!
Just show us your undiluted love and create time for us,shikena

na today

mioltai:
The reason y u aint in a serious relationship is bcuz u lukn fr the perfect girl bro.if its nt her height datz an issue, its her complexion,behaviour or educational background.there is no such thing as a perfect lady u av to accept that and move foward.im very sure a lot of ladies out there are angling for u to notice them.u av just set the bar too high

Thanks for saying this. I 100% agree with you.

Look for a babe that works in the same bank with you and start dating first. After which you'll know what's up with time.

sihom:
At Grahyt,

You quoted OP's post without saying anything at the end of it. Lol - sleep still dey catch you this morning?

At OP,

Check out a thread in the romance section titled ''If You Are 30+ and Single Let's Talk''. I think it might help.

Siamia a lady authored the thread and a WhatsApp chat group was created to enhance healthy friendships & romantic relationships in a safe, secure and be your brother's keeper kind of way.

Siamia vouches that members are authentic & sincere, well truth is she only said that about the men I don't know about my gender.

Read the thread first (the few pages you can) and then decide if you want to join the chat group and see where that leads to. No pressure ooo abeg just keep an open mind and explore the possibilities of friendships first.

Only tasteless and classless women will be all over you because of your job, apartment and car. Tasteful women with class (like moi ) will be more concerned with your manners, personal hygiene & grooming then your overall comportment as a man.

Me - I'm a sucker for

1. Neat men with shaved armpits, clean underwear and surroundings. That your apartment won't count if its messy & untidy.

2. Well spoken & written English which reveals a depth of intelligence (like that dude LordReed I am electronically attracted to him just for his written English too bad he's married).

3. Courteous & well mannered men amongst other things like

No offence meant bro, but I ain't really feeling your written English enough to gravitate towards you as a woman. It's good but could be better with punctuation marks where necessary. Just saying no offence meant.

chia na english dis bae wan marry oooo bekeama don put ppl like us for k-leg ooo

osile2012:
[size=18pt]Your Problem is with your body Language .[/size]

Can you explain pls

...just try 1) drop your car for a month and use public transport. 2) apply for vacation and go to Enugu or Owerri... you'll realize that there is life after work and if the two did not work please visit your village