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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nobody: 12:15pm On Dec 23, 2015
gatb:
Mum-of-four Tracy was shocked to discover that hubby of 10yrs left his two kids to secretly marry another woman on Boxing Day

WHEN her hubby of ten years had to spend Christmas with his relatives in Nigeria, Tracy Akingbogun hoped he’d return with a special gift to make up for their time apart.

David, 43, had sorted out a present — for himself. He had secretly MARRIED another woman in Nigeria on Boxing Day.

Mum-of-four Tracy only discovered the shocking news through a friend months later — and kicked him out.

Heartbroken Tracy, also 43, says: “While I was at home with the kids missing him at Christmas, his present to himself was a new bride.

“I still can’t believe he did that to us after more than ten years together.

“I did some research and saw that the ceremony was a religious one and not a legal one. So he hadn’t committed bigamy.

“His dad had five wives during his lifetime, so I suppose David thought he could do that too.

“But not when he was living in the UK and not when he was married to me.”

Tracy, from Gravesend, Kent, adds: “This Christmas it will be just me and the children again, just like it was last year. But this time I’ll be over the moon that David isn’t with us.”

Tracy was a single mum to Cameron and Alysia — now 17 and 13 — when she met David in a nightclub while she was on a rare night out in March 2004.

She recalls: “I was watching a group of lads on the pull, but one of them wasn’t. He was just leaning against the bar enjoying himself. He saw me watching him and came over to chat.

“His name was David and he was really kind and gentle. He’d only arrived from Nigeria three months before.”

David moved into Tracy’s home just six weeks later and Tracy was delighted to discover she was pregnant.

Their son Kayodo, now 11, was born in December 2004 and they married two months later.

Tracy says: “It was a small ceremony with a few family and friends. David read out a poem and told me he really believed in me and our future together.

“From then on he called me ‘Wifey,’ his pet name for me.”

The next year the happy family went to Nigeria to meet David’s relatives.

Tracy says: “They were lovely to us and even went through the traditional ceremony of washing our feet when we arrived.”

Their second son Olalekan, now four, was born in December 2011.

Tracy busied herself bringing up her brood while David turned his hand to various businesses from buying and selling cars to running a market-stall. He also tried to set up an internet cafe.

But two years later she found messages between David and a Nigerian woman.

Tracy says: “One read: ‘When you were last here I wish I’d kissed you.’ I shouted at him, and wanted him to explain himself.

“He said she was someone he used to date before he came to the UK. He said it was nothing, they were just friends.

“I told David it was her or me. He said it was me, I was his wifey and that was that.

“Over the next few months he tried hard to show he meant it and we got back to normal.”

Then David announced he would have to go to Nigeria over the 2014 festive period. Tracy says: “I was furious. I told him he should be here for his sons — for our family. He kept insisting he had important family business.”

David flew out the day before Christmas Eve and Tracy was upset the family would be apart.

She says: “I was so angry with him, but I wasn’t going to let the children know that.

“It was Christmas so I was going to make it a good one.”

She messaged David, reminding him to call their boys on Christmas morning.

Tracy says: “David finally called at 9pm. I gave him an earful but let him speak to the children. I was so angry with him.

“On Boxing Day I didn’t hear from him, but I spoke to him and his family the next day and they were all friendly and normal.”

But, on David’s return, Tracy felt something had changed.

She says: “When he wasn’t away working he was on his laptop. He was hardly speaking to me or the boys. I would encourage him to spend time with them, but he’d snap at me and say he was busy.”

Tracy tried to make her family life as happy as possible but in May came a bolt out of the blue.

She got a message on Facebook from the partner of one of David’s friends in Nigeria, a woman Tracy had met when she visited.

She says: “The message read that he’d got married to another woman on Boxing Day — everyone knew apart from me. She didn’t think that was right.

“The world I loved had been whipped from beneath my feet. Tears streamed down my face. I’d known something was up.

“I confronted David but he denied it. He seemed so cool and calm. So I messaged her and said there must be a mistake.”

What came next wiped away any trace of doubt Tracy had.

Tearfully, she recalls: “She ended up sending me photos of the wedding ceremony via WhatsApp and confirmed it to me. There was no denying that.”

Shaking, Tracy managed to guess his Facebook password and logged in. There, she read messages between him and his new wife, the woman she’d caught him messaging two years before, who was also his ex-girlfriend.

Tracy says: “I was so angry I couldn’t speak. He couldn’t get married — he was my husband!

“I confronted him and he tried to deny it again but this time I told him I’d seen the photos and read the messages. I told him to pack his bags and get out.

“I don’t take calls from his family, as they were in on this and went to his wedding last Boxing Day while lying to me.

“He abandoned his children and me to get married to another woman. He’s made his choice and now he’s stuck with it.”

David said: “I can do what I want. It’s nobody’s business. What do you want me to do?”

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/real_life/6820040/Hubby-went-back-to-Nigeria-last-Christmas-to-marry-again.html

cc: lalasticlala

and it is his friends and country men that know this white woman that expose the secret with pic evidence.
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by edwife(f): 12:15pm On Dec 23, 2015
sad sad

This is heartless.The guy needed his papers and you were just his blessings.

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by femi4: 12:17pm On Dec 23, 2015
Pascal181:
Fear yoruba pipu o
Abi ori e gbe iso ni

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by dguizman(m): 12:17pm On Dec 23, 2015
God go purnish anybody wey advise me or tell me say make I marry oyinbo.....Black is beautiful.
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by KimBerlyie: 12:17pm On Dec 23, 2015
This man sure loves his women thick grin

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by lilmax(m): 12:18pm On Dec 23, 2015
Lying is a talent cheesy

Now i dont know who is more foolish between these two

The man clearly married the white ugly one for money and shelter,his big mistake is having children with her
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by dguizman(m): 12:18pm On Dec 23, 2015
femi4:
Abi ori e gbe iso ni
inkan ti o gbe ju iso gan lo.
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by zealot4me(f): 12:18pm On Dec 23, 2015
Ridiculous! like father like son
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by kings09(m): 12:19pm On Dec 23, 2015
Over-sharp de worry d guy. Killing 3birds wit 1stone grin
Blizzy9ja:
Of course he needs to secure his space in Nigeria... That woman and her kids can't come back home with him
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Aarenasbaba(m): 12:19pm On Dec 23, 2015
You can't eat your cake and have it
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by pickabeau1: 12:19pm On Dec 23, 2015
flawlesRebirth:
9JA MEN ALWAYS CHEAT...THE WOMAN SHA...I PITY HER

Another hater

cc: Mindfulness
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Mariecakes(f): 12:20pm On Dec 23, 2015
Eyyaaaaaaaaaa

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by loomer: 12:20pm On Dec 23, 2015
Nothing fit make me leave m oyibo wife dey come hustle nigerian one sha

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by oluwaSmith1(f): 12:20pm On Dec 23, 2015
eyaa
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by gbishman: 12:21pm On Dec 23, 2015
Don't be shocked lady. all frican men are polygamous by nature. U would get over it very soon.
U see that Amala and uwedu or Eba and eguisi can never be replaced.
Nor vex at least e leave u with pikin
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by sukkot: 12:21pm On Dec 23, 2015
this guy no well at all. you for at least upgrade na

and yes you can marry 2 wives. just the way he went about it though

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nicepoker(m): 12:22pm On Dec 23, 2015
Just look at the onyibo woman. The mad man married her so that the woman can accommodate her. Our brothers from w side of naija always crafty.

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by redcliff: 12:22pm On Dec 23, 2015
Blizzy9ja:
Of course he needs to secure his space in Nigeria... That woman and her kids can't come back home with him

You are very silly for this comment. What do you know about inter racial relationships. Please stfu

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by seunoni34(m): 12:24pm On Dec 23, 2015
kilode100:
The Man has very bad taste in women. He comot from one old cargo, enter another one.


There's love in sharing.. Abi na spirit go marry the remaining Aunty Gweggs?
Mean ass girl!

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by just2endowed: 12:24pm On Dec 23, 2015
the husband is simply ungrateful. sorry mrs

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nobody: 12:24pm On Dec 23, 2015
Two comments for the Tracy's of the world:

1) Stop being a child owner, they've cut the umbilical chord, so please stop saying silly things like he abandoned the children. You kicked him out, remember? If anything he abandoned you.

2) Why turn this into a tabloid pity party? Divorce him for reasons of irreconcilable differences and move on with your life and have two more kids with another man as is your modus operandi.
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by shubs(f): 12:24pm On Dec 23, 2015
ehya na one chance u don enter so o...pele..nija i hail o
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by djbenchilovsky: 12:25pm On Dec 23, 2015
Note: David is now a UK citizen... grin

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nobody: 12:27pm On Dec 23, 2015
pickabeau1:


Another hater

cc: Mindfulness

I think she had some bad experience and you know how people like to generalize.
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nobody: 12:27pm On Dec 23, 2015
sukkot:
this guy no well at all. you for at least upgrade na

and yes you can marry 2 wives. just the way he went about it though

Yeah. I don't understand all the lies. Totally not necessary in these day and age.
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by austynoh: 12:27pm On Dec 23, 2015
This is heartless mehn...Giving Naija men a bad name.
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nobody: 12:28pm On Dec 23, 2015
djbenchilovsky:
Note: David is now a UK citizen... grin

And he's smart because he didn't commit bigamy, I think.
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Officialkenshin(m): 12:28pm On Dec 23, 2015
dguizman:
God go purnish anybody wey advise me or tell me say make I marry oyinbo.....Black is beautiful.

If you see some white young girls you go forget black my guy.

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by pickabeau1: 12:28pm On Dec 23, 2015
Mindfulness:


I think she had some bad experience and you know how people like to generalize.

Why not say this particular fellow behaved badly and rather extend it to everyone? undecided
Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Nobody: 12:29pm On Dec 23, 2015
loomer:
Nothing fit make me leave m oyibo wife dey come hustle nigerian one sha

But naija honeypot is better dn oyibo one. I heard its d same in d mens department as well. Its because oyibo girls see sex as a hobby so its all loose and bleugh. Those in their 20's upwards. I heard.

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Re: My Husband Went Back To Nigeria Last Christmas To Wed A New Wife - UK Woman by Mandyjosh: 12:30pm On Dec 23, 2015
Its not a tribal tin,its about ones disposition.and to all of u encouragin dat guy,i pity u all.if dat oyinbo woman na ur relation uka,u go dey hapi

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