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Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by passionate88: 9:47am On Dec 25, 2015 |
kweenkong:Now I'm beginning to dread the idea of marriage |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 9:47am On Dec 25, 2015 |
VampireeM: There's nothing flimsy about this at all. It's very very good for single ladies to buy kitchen wares. I find investing in kitchen wares very attractive. It's like a man coming to your house to eat only to be served water with this coloured cups around! Hian! 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Evidence1000(m): 9:49am On Dec 25, 2015 |
charix: Best comment so far |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ojuolu(m): 9:50am On Dec 25, 2015 |
kweenkong:You are very correct. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by lordprosh(m): 9:50am On Dec 25, 2015 |
VampireeM: U must be dat kinda grl.. His reason shld b taken serious.. How is it a man's responsibility to furnish the kitchen.. If he assist its fine buh it shld be a woman's headache.. She one irresponsible girl.. Owanbe babe. Infact END TIME WIFE 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by kestino(m): 9:53am On Dec 25, 2015 |
This issue is really worth look at |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 9:53am On Dec 25, 2015 |
ogawisdom: best ever said....too much wisdom 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by kessel: 9:55am On Dec 25, 2015 |
lordprosh:It is actually a man's responsibility to furnish not just the house but the kitchen too but it's also the woman's duty to help the man.. ..the Bible calls her a help meet |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by searay(m): 9:57am On Dec 25, 2015 |
brunofarad:Because your nose is very big and younare related to LIE MOHHAMED |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 9:59am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Your brother has made a very good decision.My point is this: People don't change,expecially women.Telling her to change is simply asking her to start pretending.It's either he accepts her just the way she is or quit the relationship if her attitude pisses him off. Believe me,I've been through this same issue,she'll rather get worse than change.A stitch in time saves nine! 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Phrankin(m): 9:59am On Dec 25, 2015 |
shabbey09:Lol. And you didn't realise the reason he didn't want you to bring any of your stuff is for you not to be able to lay claim to any property in the house in case he wants to kick you out. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Kellyakon(f): 10:02am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Please i am available, responsible, homely, economical (i can manage money eh) i don't do jewelry, my make up is minimal, i don't scrap my eyebrow nor do contact lens and i need a husband. In summary tell your cousin that his spec is here. Any other interested NLder check my profile lets rock and roll. wwwkaycom 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by kessel: 10:02am On Dec 25, 2015 |
ogawisdom:Well spoken but if you scrutinize that write up very well you will discover that she has not been making a contribution at all with regards to their marriage which is to hold mid next year. That should get any Wright thinking guy worried. It's not just about buying microwaves or kitchen knives. I believe What this guy is trying to say is that the body language is not changing,she is not making adjustments to fit her soon to be status. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by kessel: 10:05am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Guy I honor your cousin or you anyone. You have virtue and dignity keep protecting it and never compromise because ladies with what you seek are few this days but will eventually hit the jackpot soon |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 10:06am On Dec 25, 2015 |
What you called flimsy excuse,is definitely a disaster-in-waiting. Let your pal satisfy himself. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by stonecoldcafe: 10:08am On Dec 25, 2015 |
wwwkaycom: He has a valid concern. He will struggle with this lady over monetary issues in marriage. She may be the type that wants to pitch in 5% while her husband brings in 95%. She will work and use her money for her personal needs or for her kids (perhaps not). Every other weighty thing will like rent, feeding, bills, health matter, fuel for gen, provision even her needs will rest on him. It will be even more painful for your cousin knowing fully well she earns something! Such behaviour is not feasible in this day and age. Since she has refused to change, your cousin has every right to move on. If he marries her tomorrow and does SOS appeal, the question we will all ask is "didn't you notice this behaviour before marriage?" This is what courtship is for, its a foretaste of marriage. Move on if you can't tolerate it in marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Nobody: 10:10am On Dec 25, 2015 |
wwwkaycom:Your cousin doesn't love this girl. He's only looking for reason or reasons to dump her and is really pitiful. This is one of the reasons I said previously that men are bad. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by devour129: 10:10am On Dec 25, 2015 |
ogawisdom:you have said all . Can't believe that some guys now want women to buy household properties for them . Truth be told some women can be funny , they will pretend and buy all those things but the day you guys will have problem that's when you will know the world also know all the things she has bought you.please man up n buy your own things to keep yourself respect. When she comes in she will do the little ones that way you still have control of your home. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Junior66(m): 10:11am On Dec 25, 2015 |
ogawisdom:from your comment i guess you are a Muslim. am i right? |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by aprilwise(m): 10:11am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Some ladies wife material no reach a trouser length. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by devour129: 10:13am On Dec 25, 2015 |
stonecoldcafe:are men no longer the head of the house ? The man giving 95 n the lady 5 is ok unless there's a problem then they both can do 50-50. We then wonder women are growing wings nowadays .its because they bring in 50 so they see no reason why they should be submissive .please go and work hard to take care of your families and stop doing things backwards. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ogawisdom(m): 10:15am On Dec 25, 2015 |
kessel: Agreed but it is sth to speak to her abt and possibly see if she changes no one is perfect u kw. Communication is key i dnt think he shld dictate to d lady hw to spend her money at this stage. He can persuade her on dt but nt force her. A woman is a helper and to help is discretionary. Real men shld nt carry women money for mind b4 marrying them. Calling off a wedding BC the lady u have not married is nt buying kitchen utensils is immature n a clear sign d man is nt ready for marriage. In marriage u will face bigger challenges even if u marry a saint, will u jst call it quit at d slightest provocation 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by kessel: 10:25am On Dec 25, 2015 |
ogawisdom:Am still saying it, it's not her not buying house things that is the problem from my understanding of the issue, she is not making adjustments to suit her soon to be status. The guy in question used not buying this things to drive his point home. Ask me how I know.. .i have found myself with this kind of ladies severally. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Ujulabelle: 10:26am On Dec 25, 2015 |
She served him and "one of his friends food with the stainless plate that they use in her home, he said he felt humbled when his friend politely turned down the food." Please, this isn't an excuse to call off a relationship. The guy doesn't love her any more. The girl might be saving money 4 her marriage but didn't want to tell the guy. Ur cousin sounds like he is looking 4 a lady whose money will be used in marriage. What is ur cousins responsiblilty as a husband? Is it the lady that will cater 4 his household? He shld ask men who married ladies who aren't working. Among the Igbo which I am part of, women are not compelled to buy cooking utensils 4 their would be husband. It is assumed that the man has set up his household b4 coming 4 d lady's hand in marriage. The lady is going there to enjoy her husband's wealth and not the man looking up 2 her 2 buy cooking utensils and save money 4 their marriage. Any man who is expecting a woman 2 save 4 their marriage is irresponsible. A woman helps her husband financially out of her own volition and not compulsion. SHALOM 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Laredojohn(m): 10:26am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Since they are not engaged yet, it's still a relationship, beta they have a broken relationship than a broken home....since he is soo skeptical of adjusting to her later. |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Mavor: 10:26am On Dec 25, 2015 |
A woman who doesn't know how to spend her money wisely will never spend her husband's own well. Imagine the lousy "Are you not the man" attitude..Please tell your cousin to run away from her. Love alone is never enough. 1 Like |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Ujulabelle: 10:30am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Kellyakon:You have one now in Jesus Name. Amen |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by stonecoldcafe: 10:34am On Dec 25, 2015 |
devour129: Nowhere in my earlier post did I advocate 50\50 but I believe a woman should help. Are you married mister? I take it you are not or you can provide ALL your family needs; if that is the case good for you. But allow me tell you the reality of the AVERAGE Nigerian man today. Unless your hubby is very wealthy, most men expect some sort of help. Each household would vary; it could be 20%, 10%, 30%. Can a man be earning 100k with 3kids in a place like Lagos and the wife is earning 70 -80k and refuses to lift a finger? Like really would that be fair? Do you know how much rent is in Lag? Whatever it is, its not too much helping out your own husband even if its just feeding. That's my take and that does not make me less a man. 2 Likes |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by Opiosko: 10:38am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Trunaijian:You are right to some extent, but i don't think you would expect someone to change immediately all the the time. It takes some time to get a reorientation and change your mind set. cc wwwkaycom |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ogawisdom(m): 10:42am On Dec 25, 2015 |
kessel: He overemphasized dt part then as if it is d main issue |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ogawisdom(m): 10:43am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Junior66: Christian |
Re: My Cousin Wants To Call Off His Wedding by ogawisdom(m): 10:44am On Dec 25, 2015 |
Junior66: Christian n dts wat d faith teaches |
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