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Mzflexydeeva:
@OP well said but getting into a wrong marriage because everyone is getting married isn't advisable. We should understand that marriage is a calling and some people don't have it.... I know a lot of ladies too make it impossible for themselves to hear the calling or even be called but if u look through your post, one word sums it all up...... maturity

Mzflexydeeva:
@OP well said but getting into a wrong marriage because everyone is getting married isn't advisable. We should understand that marriage is a calling and some people don't have it.... I know a lot of ladies too make it impossible for themselves to hear the calling or even be called but if u look through your post, one word sums it all up...... maturity

omonnakoda:
Go ye into the world and multiply is a commandment for a world of millions not billions of people.

RexKexMilann:
100% True.


Number 2 Especially.

Why will a Girl want a Man that Is "Cool & Caring" BUT when That man Comes He Gets the Tag; "He Is not "Manly"?.


& Girls should Stop "Claiming" That they want a "God-Fearing" Man Because they "apparently" Don't.

missyadorable:
Thank GOD I got married before the year turns over

Any thread insulting single ladies no longer my business

Now,I can walk around with pride,my respect is complete

I have gotten the most prestigious title a woman should have in Africa "Mrs"

Now,its to have a son to add more value to my existence

AyamConfidence:
lol...you bet but right now we running a cashless policy so we enter market to help move ministry till i ready...(hoping to confuse you...lol)

Oliviaarims:
U forgot to add this...
Thinking u're too Beautiful and Chic: As a girl, I know this quite well. I've had a number of friends who start misbehaving in their relationships and treating prospective suitors in a not-so-nice manner because they feel they are beautiful, classy and whatever else and as such can get any man they please, and then they set some near unrealistic targets. And the years just keep rolling by without a man to call their own.......

3. Unrealistic Financial Expectations

If he's not earning above 100k, I'm not interested. Heard that before? That's even the least. This days, just get an ok car and they're all over you. Who wan marry poor man? I get. Dangote once slept under a truck for months. If ladies truly have "eyes" to see which guy will be successful or not; while under the truck, politician's daughters would have been coming to say "Hi" to his rickety former self.
Moral Lesson: Still, follow a man for his vision. Not just for his BIG television.

tunjion:
Marriage is best not rushed. Nothing is pursuing you, take your time to get exactly your kind of man.


Dont jump becos everyone is doing it and marry a man that will kill you.


Obey your parents becos they love you and want the best for you.


Marry within the confines of your religion and people.


Dont be pressured to marry but marry becos you love and want to leave with the person forever.

Mzflexydeeva:
@OP well said but getting into a wrong marriage because everyone is getting married isn't advisable. We should understand that marriage is a calling and some people don't have it.... I know a lot of ladies too make it impossible for themselves to hear the calling or even be called but if u look through your post, one word sums it all up...... maturity

emusmith:
7 Obstacles That Might Have Kept Some Of Our Ladies From Getting Married In 2015


As the curtains of 2015 is coming to a majestic close, I want to congratulate those NL ladies who got wedded. Those who didn't, it doesn't matter. 2016 is around the corner, waiting to land you into your "valid" relationships or husband's houses. Amen!

However, there could have been some things you did or didn't do, as such, yours was delayed.

Every time, singles who wants to get married are asked to come out, I see a lot of girls- young and old. So, they are many and that makes this thread relevant to ALL except the babies among us

NOTE: I'm speaking from one angle. You can address the other. Thanks.

What are some hindrances that could have delayed the marriages of some of our qualified Ladies:


1. Traditional Embargo:

It beats my imagination how some folks still hold firmly to this; if he's not from my place, I dare not marry him. While, it's good to heed to parent's advice, its you who will stay single till 30, not them. Please, pray and watch. Be wise.


2. "Confused" Expectations In The Kind of guy she wants.

I need a faithful guy, handsome, tall, godly, macho, good with kids, he might drink socially,good cook...if you notice; what relationship has being GODLY and DRINKING alcohol share? My advice is, write what you really really need in him. A goal not written is a wish. Wishes aren't horses anymore...while writing, remember: If you want an 100% man, get clay and mould him yourself. Wanting a man that can cook just because you can't, is denying one of the core essence that makes you a mother, wife and a woman. Learn how to cook, better. Let him just be assisting. My advice.


3. Unrealistic Financial Expectations

If he's not earning above 100k, I'm not interested. Heard that before? That's even the least. This days, just get an ok car and they're all over you. Who wan marry poor man? I get. Dangote once slept under a truck for months. If ladies truly have "eyes" to see which guy will be successful or not; while under the truck, politician's daughters would have been coming to say "Hi" to his rickety former self.
Moral Lesson: Still, follow a man for his vision. Not just for his BIG television.


4. War between her and in-laws

If he truly loves me, he'll put me above his siblings. Some girls have not yet become part and parcel of the family and their character is already exposing them. Call it wisdom, not hypocrisy. In- laws deserve respect, why? They are humans like you. I'm not speaking for myself though. Place yourself in their shoes. A girl wants to marry your brother and she's acting all "rude" and "sensitive". You won't tell him, go ahead. Will you? Unless you're like her tho...


5. Immaturity in handling little matters

He forgot my birthday, he's not worth being my "ideal" boo. I broke up with him. Did you just say that? Its absolutely wrong to forget your girl's birthday but is that the only way of solving that ish? Is there no better way? I've had to call someone to call me and wish me a Happy Birthday, with smiles on. It's no big deal. I learnt it. We all can do same. Be flexible and not immature. Most times, her actions isn't stemming from his forgetting to call her but from many other things. I understand. You can break up with him, if you confirmed he's been cheating. But, be sure. Let me not derail. Next point will explain that...


6. Pride/Ego/Unforgiveness/Unnecessary "Forming"


I'm not perfect but I know that unforgiveness pulls one back and separates two lovebirds. If he cheated on you for the first time and he reports himself that it was a mistake- haba, you shouldn't break up. One more chance. Pride and ego are the most reasons some are still lonely. Ordinary PM, you dey form, "I don't do PMs, and you are single" I think, if you're searching, be open a bit. That guy might be the next Dangote...oops! I just pressed a button there... Some girls form too much. You play hard to get to someone you like as though there is not enough serious business in marriage already: do sharp sharp joor. When he turns away now, you'll blame point 7.



7. Spiritual Attacks

One man saw the devil crying, he asked him, Badoo, why you crying? He replied, "Every little thing, they blame me for it. They even lie on my head."
Well, spiritual attacks are real though. But I believe, "the curse causeless doesn't come". Ladies don't pray too much in church UNTIL the pastor mentions, "every devil blindfolding his eyes from seeing any single lady here, die!" Then, you'll see her in action. Onetime, I saw one pretty babe who told me how she went one a very long fasting and praying sessions to get her man. They pray, but the only issue is some don't watch. #I'm in a friendly mood today#

It's our prayer that God will locate every one of our single ladies in the house Next year, 2016. Amen!

missyadorable:
Thank GOD I got married before the year turns over

Any thread insulting single ladies no longer my business

Now,I can walk around with pride,my respect is complete

I have gotten the most prestigious title a woman should have in Africa "Mrs"

Now,its to have a son to add more value to my existence

missyadorable:
Thank GOD I got married before the year turns over

Any thread insulting single ladies no longer my business

Now,I can walk around with pride,my respect is complete

I have gotten the most prestigious title a woman should have in Africa "Mrs"

Now,its to have a son to add more value to my existence

delighttessy:
Amen....

catlova:
I even Know some that will tell you 300k isn't enough

follow a man for his vision. Not just for his BIG television - Quote of the Month

4rmthewest:
Its easier to trek from Lagos to Abuja than trying to
date a pretty girl in Nigeria
.
You are after her, 20 other guys want her, 10 Sugar
Daddies want her and the most annoying part is
that 15 lesbians also want her
.
Grab an ugly girl and be happy.

DebbyChris:
Amen

Vikings007:
emusmith, You missed the NOT from my church part. That's what's holding my "Gf".

AreaFada2:
How many of the girls are even God-fearing sef?
It's just a trend and en vogue now.

If in 20 years, "God-fearing" is perceived as old-fashioned and naff, they will start writing/saying "spiritual" and other such things. Just follow the history of the West and see how the change has been. 9ja is just only socially behind by about 100 to 150 years, never mind smartphones, consumerism and pretence at sophistication.

missyadorable:
Thank GOD I got married before the year turns over

Any thread insulting single ladies no longer my business

Now,I can walk around with pride,my respect is complete

I have gotten the most prestigious title a woman should have in Africa "Mrs"

Now,its to have a son to add more value to my existence

Youngpo413:
Hello brother,longest time.

fero07:

abi we ladies, or you one count yourself out

OTEGA1:
I can c ur reason for marriage is just to mock and look dowm on single ladies dat are not married even if they were ur senior ,u did not have a good reason to marry,u just saw it as a competition. I hope as u grow older common sense dats not so common will abide in your brain so dat ur hubby and singles around u will c good reasons to look forward to get married.Not this crap of urs................

OTEGA1:
I can c ur reason for marriage is just to mock and look dowm on single ladies dat are not married even if they were our senior ,u did not have a good reason to marry,u just saw it as a competition. I hope as u grow older common sense dats not so common will abide in your brain so dat ur hubby and singles around u will c good reasons to look forward to get married.Not this crap of urs................