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Sai Buhari...amazing thread

Marriage is meant for unlucky fellows

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KanwuliaJara:
Happy and married!
Not happily-married!

Big DIFFERENCE!

this you will only know when you send your child to montessori instead of public school.

LET ME TAKE MY SEAT

maestroz:


this you will only know when you send your child to montessori instead of public school.

Exactly!

What of those that are Happily in a relationship, should they share their story as well?

I've been married for 10years now. The first 4 were hell!
My marriage is like a fine wine. It gets better with time. I can say I'm very happy I endured and stayed.
My spouse also did a lot of enduring.
We thank God each day for where we are and knowing it will only get better

There is really no manual, basics; communication, understanding, sacrifices and lastly love among other things.

Being happily married should be based on the number of years as the parameter, if after 10 years or 15 years the happiness is still in the marriage, then surely the couple is happily married. Marriage should be measured on long-term, not short-term.

When marriages were enjoyed were dayz when women don't know the difference between Big nd small prick, they enjoy what the man has...

But today, if u say hi to a lady, her 1st queshion is can u handle me

Reading

Seriously waiting for that special someone.

lily12:
My dear Nairalanders,

I don tire for this situation.


Please, ladies and gentlemen of Nairaland, there must be some happy marriages amongst us. If you have a good wife, please tell us why and how she is amazing. If you have a good husband, please share why and how he is amazing. If you have a good marriage, please take a moment to share your story here.

Let’s start 2016 on a positive note.

May the Lord restore the marriages of those who are currently facing crises, in Jesus’ Name.

Happy new year.

So nice to have this post. I am happily married by God's grace to my friend, mother, sister and love. We got married 12/13/14 i.e. 13th of December 2014.

You might say we are still young as a couple, but one thing I have come to learn is... your marriage is a product of the two persons involved(who you are).

To the glory of God, my wife and I love God and we desire to please Him. We also make it our priority not to sleep with anger... In other words, we have misunderstanding and don't talk to each other for hours but it doesn't get to the next day.

Things that helped us and still helping us are

1. God: we made Him the head of our relationship from the first time we started.

2. We avoided having sex. We kissed on two different occasions - we realized that God wasn't pleased, we asked for forgiveness and we moved on.

3. We were open to each other. Money wise inclusive. She knows my salary and I know hers.

4. I read books on marriage and personal development (Christian literatures) and also attended seminars.

5. We sought advice from our parents on conflict management and other issues.

6. We formed the habit of buying gifts for one another. Mind you, it didn't matter the amount.

7. We prayed together both mornings and evenings since we got married.

praxisnetworks:
happiness is a state which you're unconscious of..... Once you become conscious that you are happy.... You cease to be happy

Sorry o but I disagree with you. If you are happy you know you are happy. Maybe we can say it is a subjective experience. Something only the one who is happy is conscious of, another cannot access you mental and psychological state and thus cannot relate to your emotion to know whether you are happy or not. However the one who is happy knows he/she is happy, else he/she is either mentally deranged or dead.

Hoyehdayg:


So nice to have this post. I am happily married by God's grace to my friend, mother, sister and love. We got married 12/13/14 i.e. 13th of December 2014.

You might say we are still young as a couple, but one thing I have come to learn is... your marriage is a product of the two persons involved(who you are).

To the glory of God, my wife and I love God and we desire to please Him. We also make it our priority not to sleep with anger... In other words, we have misunderstanding and don't talk to each other for hours but it doesn't get to the next day.

Things that helped us and still helping us are

1. God: we made Him the head of our relationship from the first time we started.

2. We avoided having sex. We kissed on two different occasions - we realized that God wasn't pleased, we asked for forgiveness and we moved on.

3. We were open to each other. Money wise inclusive. She knows my salary and I know hers.

4. I read books on marriage and personal development (Christian literatures) and also attended seminars.

5. We sought advice from our parents on conflict management and other issues.

6. We formed the habit of buying gifts for one another. Mind you, it didn't matter the amount.

7. We prayed together both mornings and evenings since we got married.

Please o, you avoided sex as married couple because it displeases God. Can you please expantiate?

My Story

maestroz:


this you will only know when you send your child to montessori instead of public school.

My happy marriage secret is just GOD . It is hardwork though with consistent working on myself because nobody is perfect at first i always complain about her but later i discover i cant change her except i change my approach i adopt a method that i will bear all the pain and be a good husband and it worked, you can't give what you don't have and you can't get what you can't give. I make sure I listen to my wife no matter what happened, even if what shes talking to me about does not interest me I concentrate and support her decision even if I will adjust it later I make myself happy then gradually she realize it and get along. The one I appreciate most about my approach to my happy marriage is I make sure I raise an alter in my house "PRAYER IS A MUST DAILY. My Brethren with God all things are possible Luke 1:37. And finally you can't experience what you don't imagine so start developing happy marriage from your heart.
Thanks.

I am happily married because I said YES to the right guy that accepted me the way I am. In the first three years of the marriage it was ups and down but we tolerated each other and I later realised it was our learning phase. Prayerfully we overcame that stage and today we are the best of friends. We cannot do without each other. Not even the kids can put asunder

lily12:
My dear Nairalanders,

I don tire for this situation.

I have read Nairaland posts for years as a guest. Every single post we see about marriage lately seems to be negative. I am not belittling the foolishness of cheating men when I say this: I am shocked that women can cheat so blatantly these days. I think it's tme to revive the hopes of those men who add two years to their marriage date when they see threads about disloyal "wives"... time to spare single women from the headache of being banded together with all these disloyal women, keeping them single even longer... let's restore the reputation of the institution of marriage as a blessing, a source of favour and a worthy calling that need not be delayed out of fear.

Please, ladies and gentlemen of Nairaland, there must be some happy marriages amongst us. If you have a good wife, please tell us why and how she is amazing. If you have a good husband, please share why and how he is amazing. If you have a good marriage, please take a moment to share your story here.

Let’s start 2016 on a positive note.

May the Lord restore the marriages of those who are currently facing crises, in Jesus’ Name.

Happy new year.

marriage is not something to play with or just jump into it without clear understanding,

But unfortunately our WOMEN see marriage as their gate way to eradicate POVERTY

Am happily married to my best friend. Not that we don't have issues a times but we make sure it doesn't exit a day.

taryour:
Nice thread,here is what works for me.
Firstly I went into my relationship with a statement on my mind(if my mum can remain with my dad with all the challenges they had which I also witnessed,then I can do better)
Ability to communicate effectively, while dating and up till now in marriage with 2 kids our communication has remained very very solid.
Communication has really helped my relationship a lot,it helps us both trash our differences amicably,there are somethings I can't say to my hubby face(cause I know I might not present it well and I don't want to be rude) so I put it into a chat and he understands me perfectly well. Each time we have our arguments,we make sure we apologise n trash it out before the end of the day.we do not go to bed in anger.
I have also learnt not to argue so much with my hubby,whenever he is angry with me am quite and let his anger subside then I apologise(even if deep down in my heart I know I wasn't wrong)I still apologise,I know how angry my hubby can get and I know better than to push further,we both have a bad temper but there can only be one leader,outside my home you don't dare mess with me,I will dish it to you very hot and spicy. I am the very aggressive type but hubby isn't,he is more calm than I am. I argue a lot too but not with hubby except in cases when we are gisting and having fun. Hubby loves football but I hate it with everything but what can I do I simply got used to it,my first son already took after him as a football fan.
We both understand ourselves perfectly,we have been together for over 10years now. We have had our ups and downs which has taught us to be more united and understand ourselves better.
Our sex life might not be has active as when we where still single cause of kids but we have both been active,we have fun anywhere in the house(of course when kids are asleep or in school).we try out new things and I sure don't forget my bowl of ice-cream when I want to give a special treat(call me a dirty woman/raw woman/sex freak/whatever) I care less,his my man.
We have remained each others best friends,we share gifts,watch movies together,shop together,hubby goes to market for me at times and cook as well, we gossip together and share news with each other. We are both social media fans(we actually meet on a social forum and started as friends before dating which led to our marriage). We don't hide anything from each other. He introduced me to nairaland and he is also a active member on nairaland.
We do not encourage 3rd parties into our affairs,it has never and will never happen. What ever happens within our walls die within our walls.we both help ourselves to remain strong in work life and business life. We support ourselves in every possible way we can with the help of God and for once I have never regretted meeting my hubby. If there is a next life,I would chose the same man all over again.
My marriage is not perfect cause there is no perfect marriage but I tell you,marriage is fun and am loving it all the way.

so sweet. hw i wish my mum is a Nairalander i so much love her marriage

ups n down... but it ended HAPPILY EVER AFTER





NOTE: I will be happily married in the future! but am still single...




#passionz

Hoyehdayg:


So nice to have this post. I am happily married by God's grace to my friend, mother, sister and love. We got married 12/13/14 i.e. 13th of December 2014.

You might say we are still young as a couple, but one thing I have come to learn is... your marriage is a product of the two persons involved(who you are).

To the glory of God, my wife and I love God and we desire to please Him. We also make it our priority not to sleep with anger... In other words, we have misunderstanding and don't talk to each other for hours but it doesn't get to the next day.

Things that helped us and still helping us are

1. God: we made Him the head of our relationship from the first time we started.

2. We avoided having sex. We kissed on two different occasions - we realized that God wasn't pleased, we asked for forgiveness and we moved on.

3. We were open to each other. Money wise inclusive. She knows my salary and I know hers.

4. I read books on marriage and personal development (Christian literatures) and also attended seminars.

5. We sought advice from our parents on conflict management and other issues.

6. We formed the habit of buying gifts for one another. Mind you, it didn't matter the amount.

7. We prayed together both mornings and evenings since we got married.

why did you avoid having sex with your wife and why will God be displease with your sex life?

gracious God!!! am so so happy DAT dere are still marriages DAT stood d test of time.....I never believed in marriage, cos most of d families I knw has broken up...it all seem as if marriage was only meant for my parents cos dey av been married for many yrs nw buh dey still act like a newly married couple....I rememberd vividly wen my uncle ones chased his wife with a gun......infact I almost wanted to go to seminary school in order to be a Reverend sister....buh I was dissuaded by my parents as dere only daughter.......buh Fank God dere is still hope for some marriages today cos today's marriages is only bent on money and beauty...may God help us all...

in my imagination, I'm happily married

praxisnetworks:
happiness is a state which you're unconscious of..... Once you become conscious that you are happy.... You cease to be happy

I am trying to understand if this makes sense.
Can you try and expatiate? Please.

Happily married oshi..Does that even exist?..I'm 21 now and I'm yet to see a couple that lives happily...Even the ones that act all cozy and warmy outside are lying and pretending!..My house(it's not a home for me) is a living hell,I was born into it and until this moment,nothing has changed..Same goes for all the families I've ever come across..Do not be decieved,marry only when you've learnt taekwando like my mum and boxing like my dad..That is all there is to marriage,nothing more!

confun:
Marriage is sweet my brother if it is based on love not money, looks or whatever....
Married for less dan 5 yrs and I must tell u, it keeps getting sweeter by d day...
I love my hubby, I cherish him, i don't disrespect him, it never gets into my head to talk anyhow to him..,God forbid, funny enough he in turn loves me so much, he doesn't disrespect me too...we talk, we gist, we pray together, we get involved in church activities together etc
He makes money, I make money, he has access to my ATM and other passwords, i av access to his own too, no dragging of money or unnecessary matters...we are best of friends...
To him, life is not hard, to me too, life is easy...
So, OP, dir is hope for you, many marriages are sweet bt seems d crashing ones are more. May God help you.....

wow so sweet

op thank u for this thread

Realberry:
Happily married oshi..Does that even exist?..I'm 21 now and I'm yet to see a couple that lives happily...Even the ones that act all cozy and warmy outside are lying and pretending!..My house(it's not a home for me) is a living hell,I was born into it and until this moment,nothing has changed..Same goes for all the families I've ever come across..Do not be decieved,marry only when you've learnt taekwando like my mum and boxing like my dad..That is all there is to marriage,nothing more!

MY PARENTS ARE HAPPILY MARRIED SWTHRT. JST DNT ALLOW UR HME TO INFLUENCE UR VIEW ABT MARRIAGE