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Boyooosa:
Bro, I am not disputing your view nor approach but i swear my experience on dis particular issue is gr8a dan urs cos u were successful taking a risk but I wasnt and its still hunting me up till now. And I swear by the Creator of life, I just dropped the girl's call b4 I put on my system around 5:45 a.m dis morning, we spoke 4 more dan 50 mins, she was d 1 dat cald. It goes like dis... We met around May 2005 and we were in love. I loved her dat I agreed to wait till our wedding night (part of our discussion dis morning; I reminded her the day she was begging me for sexx in my room and I refused her because of our vows, she laffed and begged me not to mention it again and I stopped... this is not Nollywood, am telling you my experience as at dis morning, I swear wit all I AM in life). So my point is experience varies! Shorter story ... She gave in to another (smarter guy - lol) in the process and the guy helped me to dis-v her and dat spoil our relationship cos she couldnt come back to me with 'broken egg' and moreover she was LUST into that relationship. Unfortunately for her, the guy came up wit the animal in him and beat her severally b4 they broke up. She came back to me after their break up (she was confused, perplexed and helpless), we reconciled and I had my turn too (d reserved sexxx) but couldnt get along and broke up again for another 2 years. We reconciled recently and she told me about another guy who took advantage of her again within those two years we were off (I couldnt blame her cos somebody dat has tasted it can never stop). My Lesson: I was careless to have allowed her have her 'first' somewhere else. I love her and knows her background, she is not a cheap girl but I did not pay attention or I paid less attention when she needed me most and I allowed her to go wayward, she was 20 then and very tender, she was a V (the Virginn)then, but now, has lost the main V, the woman VALUE cos of dat error but I pray she doesnt loose it all, the most valued V, the VIRTUE. Summarily, it might work for you but might NOT work for the op, @ op but my perception according to my experience is dat, get closer to her, find money, do introduction, stay together and have big SEXX / BANG and probably impregnate her if you can afford for now and u r sure u love her and can stay wit her for the rest of ur life. Marriage might not be dat Compulsory most especially in this present economic situation in Nigeria... Introduction and formilization of ur relationship might be important (God will as well help u wit fantastic wedding.... Ceremony . God will bless you, call the girl NOW, have sexx wit her NOW and let her know why u r doing dat. Some boiz are desperately out there, masturbating now and expecting her to make the mistake u r pushing her to, if it happens u will blame urself later just like the way am blaming my self now cos I know that the value of the girl has drastically dropped and my love for her is casual, I hope she is not reading dis cos she will loose hope of getting married to someone she actually love. Sorry for my long story, just tryn to prove that I know wot am texting and av practical experience. U might be deceived by my first comment cos it was short, precise and delicate! safe Bro!

so its OP's fault if his bae decides to get sex outside their relationship even after they both agreed to "no sex" b4 marriage

what happened to "virtue and "value" the girl should be thankful dat op is willing to wait till dey get married b4 he starts "fetching water from her well"

women been making men feel guilty for the mistakes they "women" make.....

She gave in to another (smarter guy - lol) in the process and the guy helped me to dis-v her and dat spoil our relationship cos she couldnt come back to me with 'broken egg' and moreover she was LUST into that relationship. Unfortunately for her, the guy came up wit the animal in him and beat her severally b4 they broke up. She came back to me after their break up (she was confused, perplexed and helpless), we reconciled and I had my turn too (d reserved sexxx) but couldnt get along and broke up again for another 2 years.

according to ur story...... the woman stands to loose more......

Truckpusher:

As in better convincing prick wey dey make toto dey clap hand like choir mistress .

I dey tell you my brother



When better huge prick begin fccck the girl she go forget the okobo na

ifymagik:
Hello Everyone, I seriously need your advice on this issue because am very confused. Here is my Story. I am in love with this girl that I met during NYSC, although it took some time for her to accept me but she eventually did. I have studied her closely and I see the qualities that I want in a woman in her, and so I intend to settle with her but there is a challenge. I am strongly against Sex before marriage and so the relationship has been Sex-free. But recently she said she could no longer take it, she said she want us to hav sex or I should not blame her if she gets it elsewhere because according to her she has exceeded her endurance limit. I am Confused, I don't know what to do. I really love her and I don't wanna loose her but I can't go against my personal principle. Help a Brother plz I nid your advice.

Make her understand your reason. If she can't, RUN for your life.

Chosen1984:
And after the NACKING, WHAT NEXT?? U WIN GOLD, SILVER, BRONZE, CUP OR SPOON THERE IS NOTHING IN SEC. SEX IS AS FREE AS FREEDOM TODAY. ASK YOURSELF AFTER THE SEX WHAT NEXT?? EVEN IF U BE MIKE POWER, NACK WOMAN FOR 5-6HRS. WETIN HAPPEN AFTER DT?? SRX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE IS A DESTINY KILLER!!

guy forget that thing



Nothing dey happen

Op, you like her, you dnt want to loose her, u have ur principles... its left for u to chose, it's either u follow your principles and forget about her totally, definitely u will get someone else who will follow ur principle...she is merely a gf, so if she can't cope with u berra she goes and meet other guys who are ready to tear her, left, right and centre...

nnachukz:
Someone doesn't want to hear stories that touches after saying I DO. Many things are happening and she wants to test run the machine before making it permanently hers. I don't blame her. You either compromise your principle for her sake or stick to it and watch her go. In case you finally decide to give her what she wants just make sure you protect yourself.

wise saying

elantraceey:
Lmao, leave us to carry our cross ehn, not all men that chooses to abstain are like that, that we are not going to have sex doesn't mean we won't discuss it and our fantasies and at least I go see the thing

Hospitals are there for a reason, I'm not scared of that.

I thought the 'no sex before marriage' thing was due to one's Christian teachings and value system - How come you can talk about your fantasies and even see it ? Na wao !

Nigerian Christians sha, so what difference does it make then after all if you look at someone with lustful eyes , you've commited the sin of fornication and adultery. Which bible Una dry read again.
Abstinence due to religious conviction means total rejection of anything that will arouse your feelings under any circumstances - in fact you have to kill your feelings spiritually.

gamaliel121:
Well, it's your principle, live by it..and don't break it..


Based on my church mind...I think you should fuccck her...

but the right thing to do is that you shouldn't do it....she even threatened you....

She's the kind of girl that'll fuckkkk other men u guys marry....run away fron the bit-che

so true...

yemoxyl:
It is a ghen ghen something

it's so ghen ghen.

Give me her number let me speak sense into her...















Seriously the girl is a whõrē, if you eventually marry her and you're not around, she'd play away match. She's a devils agent sent to destroy your life and your self-control attribute. you'll live to regret it if you ever compromise on your stance...
@ ifymagik

[quote author=grad2012 post=41689496]Seriously I can't believe she's saying dat.well if she can't wait let her go cos dis one she is telling u that she will get it some where else, she sounds like a gal without self control and she might end up cheating on you.[/quoteWho knows if she get belle, she wan pin am on u, or she has one STD. Heed!

op in my opinion, please do not sleep with her. maintain your principle. If she loves u, she will wait, if not let her go.

I hope the machine is in a very good condition becos she no wan hear story that touch after marriage ooo if that is her reason for asking

Seriously, it's better the man ask for Sex than the lady, I use to think ladies are more elastic and her saying she could get it elsewhere should make u nervous bro. What then would happen if u go abroad for your Masters and come to Nigeria in spans of 6 Months. Self Control is paramount, I doubt she truly can hold herself and don't be surprised of her past except she would hide some. Principle matters, a man without Principle will fall for anything and eventually cause his own demise. A broken principle is a broken character, iT would be hard to fix. If U start it with her, u would continue it till before marriage, that's how she would tell u she wants flesh to flesh to feel the warmth, I hope u won't say no then, because u have caused it, from there, unwanted pregnancy and the likes. As long as I know, she would keep conditioning u till u fall for her demands. No Sex thing Should be mutual and not one sided, make her see your reasons and if she persists, just give yourselves break for a while to think and let her have a rethink but if u are not the too adherent to principles, u can help her. I've dated a girl that, 4 years we had no Sex until afterwards though. Trust&understanding are the most important.

U shouldnt break ur principles if u Knw u can bear it wen she get sex elsewhere or when she completely leave u for anoda man

ifymagik:
Hello Everyone, I seriously need your advice on this issue because am very confused. Here is my Story. I am in love with this girl that I met during NYSC, although it took some time for her to accept me but she eventually did. I have studied her closely and I see the qualities that I want in a woman in her, and so I intend to settle with her but there is a challenge. I am strongly against Sex before marriage and so the relationship has been Sex-free. But recently she said she could no longer take it, she said she want us to hav sex or I should not blame her if she gets it elsewhere because according to her she has exceeded her endurance limit. I am Confused, I don't know what to do. I really love her and I don't wanna loose her but I can't go against my personal principle. Help a Brother plz I nid your advice.

why do u people like to do copy n paste? After posting ur copied stories u won't respond to comments,so y bother?

@Post

You better dump her ASAP. She is the type that will screw other men once you are out of town or if you are sick. Don't invite demons into your life by engaging in pre-marital sex. Fornication is a sin against God. Maybe the girl na ogbanje self. I repeat, dump her.

Truckpusher:
I thought the 'no sex before marriage' thing was due to one's Christian teachings and value system - How come you can talk about your fantasies and even see it ? Na wao !

Nigerian Christians sha, so what difference does it make then after all if you look at someone with lustful eyes , you've commited the sin of fornication and adultery. Which bible Una dry read again.
Abstinence due to religious conviction means total rejection of anything that will arouse your feelings under any circumstances - in fact you have to kill your feelings spiritually.

Hahahaha, I expected this. There's barely any human that doesn't get aroused in this generation that you could see life porn in the street, all it boils down to is self-control, no wonder the Bible mentioned it as a fruit of the spirit signifying its importance.

That's where constant renewal of your mind comes into play, when we became born again it was just our spirits that was changed, we have to put our bodies under subjection and renew our minds.

So if you're thinking that Christians shouldn't or don't have sexual urges then you should have a rethink because it only reduces as you grow up spiritually.

the woman you really want to settle must be ready to support and follow your principle, to show she is going to stick with you for who you are and what you believe in because she loves you. If you give in to what she wants now, another day maybe she will ask you for another thing which contradicts your believe and if you don't, you know what will happen.

Oh boy. Don't dull yaa sef. Give d chick what she want men. After all,she is ur future wife.

elantraceey:
Hahahaha, I expected this. There's barely any human that doesn't get aroused in this generation that you could see life porn in the street, all it boils down to is self-control, no wonder the Bible mentioned it as a fruit of the spirit signifying its importance.

That's where constant renewal of your mind comes into play, when we became born again it was just our spirits that was changed, we have to put our bodies under subjection and renew our minds.

So if you're thinking that Christians shouldn't or don't have sexual urges then you should have a rethink because it only reduces as you grow up spiritually.

You've tactically avoided my question .
Having sexual urge is for every living thing that reproduces which you can't control 100% unless with time due to belief system and other unseen emotional problems or one is simply down below the belt.
Why would you want to see the peniss of your potential life partner and even talk about it thereby offending yourselves when you're not likely to indulge! - my question is : judging from biblical interpretation of sins that are sexual in nature - it is forbidden to do that and can be classified as perversion of course it is perversion and lust which the same bible hammered against .
If you truly believe in God and live by the principles of Jesus Christ your Lord and savior and wants to keep to his words then there would be no need looking at it or talking about it until you're ready to consummate your union. Why look and fantasize ? I hope you're aware that some fornicators do not indulge in any form of penetration - They are perverts that prefer to make their partner at that moment a sex object and this is a fact - I know a particular guy that pay girls to be running around stark nakedd in his house doing all forms of erotic moves and dances but he will never mount anyone of them till they go. This is another fact.
What is the difference between these type of guys I just mentioned and you that will look and talk about it without doing the deed?
Where is the difference ?

She is demonic,U better follow the bible standard n enjoy ur future marriage,God will not give u a girl dat ll demand for sex...is the devil in disguise..

ifymagik:
Hello Everyone, I seriously need your advice on this issue because am very confused. Here is my Story. I am in love with this girl that I met during NYSC, although it took some time for her to accept me but she eventually did. I have studied her closely and I see the qualities that I want in a woman in her, and so I intend to settle with her but there is a challenge. I am strongly against Sex before marriage and so the relationship has been Sex-free. But recently she said she could no longer take it, she said she want us to hav sex or I should not blame her if she gets it elsewhere because according to her she has exceeded her endurance limit. I am Confused, I don't know what to do. I really love her and I don't wanna loose her but I can't go against my personal principle. Help a Brother plz I nid your advice.

Op in ur case so many things evolve. It could be she has been doing it behind u and along the line gets pregnant, now she wants u to bear the responsibility of impregnating her. Im not judging her bt just predicting. Which ever decision u want to make dont disobey God to obey man. Sex b4 marriage is a sin against God, so decide wisely. Gud luck

Goodboiyy:
hehe.. this guy na freemanan type , omo chop that stuff.. but do you know her STD status ?

New year, New me... Lol

Send me her num lemme help u

Marriage is honourable and bed undefiled but whoremongers and fornicators God shall judge. Don't think twice on pre-marital sex brother, you will be better off and celebrated too. A lot of people want to be like you but just find it difficult to abstain, keep it up and you will be proud of yourself.

Hi bro just listen to me. I was there about a year ago and I want you to listen to me clearly. DO NOT DO IT. The girl I dated then was what you described as beauty personified. I really love her but cos I am against pre marital sex and encouraged her for us to wait and that if I have waited for 32 years we can just wait alittle more to our wedding. She later told me she can't wait any longer and I let her go. Now I was reliable informed that even why she was pretending to be waiting for me most of the nights I call her she was even sleeping with another guy who later called me to apologise that she was always with her when we talk on phone. She is serving now and I just hope per chance its not the same girl your talking about. Just stand firm and even if she walks be cool you will surely get who Worth's your time trust me. Conditional loves is not the best. My word my opinion. Cheers

ifymagik:
Hello Everyone, I seriously need your advice on this issue because am very confused. Here is my Story. I am in love with this girl that I met during NYSC, although it took some time for her to accept me but she eventually did. I have studied her closely and I see the qualities that I want in a woman in her, and so I intend to settle with her but there is a challenge. I am strongly against Sex before marriage and so the relationship has been Sex-free. But recently she said she could no longer take it, she said she want us to hav sex or I should not blame her if she gets it elsewhere because according to her she has exceeded her endurance limit. I am Confused, I don't know what to do. I really love her and I don't wanna loose her but I can't go against my personal principle. Help a Brother plz I nid your advice.

Abi your dick no dey work again ni

Truckpusher:
You've tactically avoided my question .
Having sexual urge is for every living thing that reproduces which you can't control 100% unless with time due to belief system and other unseen emotional problems or one is simply down below the belt.
Why would you want to see the peniss of your potential life partner and even talk about it thereby offending yourselves when you're not likely to indulge! - my question is : judging from biblical interpretation of sins that are sexual in nature - it is forbidden to do that and can be classified as perversion of course it is perversion and lust which the same bible hammered against .
If you truly believe in God and live by the principles of Jesus Christ your Lord and savior and wants to keep to his words then there would be no need looking at it or talking about it until you're ready to consummate your union. Why look and fantasize ? I hope you're aware that some fornicators do not indulge in any form of penetration - They are perverts that prefer to make their partner at that moment a sex object and this is a fact - I know a particular guy that pay girls to be running around stark nakedd in his house doing all forms of erotic moves and dances but he will never mount anyone of them till they go. This is another fact.
What is the difference between these type of guys I just mentioned and you that will look and talk about it without doing the deed?
Where is the difference ?

lol, let something first , when i said we talk about doesn't mean we'll talk explicitly about the act of lovemaking, it simply meant that we'll discuss some things we like and dislike for example, if He's fantasies about anal sex, I'll simply tell him I can never indulge in it, its just to gain common grounds to avoid unnecessary quarrels during marriage and as for checking it out , I was just kidding

And by the way its something that will most likely happen once and probably during courtship.

My heart bleeds just reading some people's comments here.I keep praying for God to personally reveal himself to every youth in my generation.If you are truly God's child you won't do the very things,he asks you not to do.OP,please go and read 1Thessalonians 4.Your decision not to have premarital sex shouldn't be based on morality but because God doesn't permit it.Sin seems to be sweet it has repercussions but God is sweeter.Mind you am a youth myself.Don't be deceived and join the bandwagon. I can boldly tell you that lady is not your rightful partner.Please do not succumb to temptation o.Run as fast as you can.please,make up your mind to obey God rather than please men.Insults will come,you will called old school but please I beg of you,don't go against God to please men.The end result of doing that will be very disastrous.Please,pardon me if this seems to be too long.

elantraceey:
lol, let something first , when i said we talk about doesn't mean we'll talk explicitly about the act of lovemaking, it simply meant that we'll discuss some things we like and dislike for example, if He's fantasies about anal sex, I'll simply tell him I can never indulge in it, its just to gain common grounds to avoid unnecessary quarrels during marriage and as for checking it out , I was just kidding

And by the way its something that will most likely happen once and probably during courtship.

Ok o .

NewSheriff:
_Fuck her. What's hard about that?

chop knuckle abeg!

To all those calling the supposed fiance or girl friend of the op a hoe because she asked for sex,you all are an unrepentant hypocrites,if u have not asked for sex before or rather indulge in sexual relationship,be the first to cast a stone.before u criticize her u must apply both logical reasoning and biblical auction.abraham maslow classified human need into hierachy of 3,which are primary,secondary and tertiary and in the primary need u find food,shelter,clothing and sex which must be satisfied.what more do u expect from a full grown woman who has tasted the forbideen fruit?pls op if u dont want to indulge in premarital sex no problem with that but dont mind those telling you that your woman is not a wife material she is only asking for something humanely possibly but a sin in the sight of the lord.if u ask me what i think, explain to her quoting the bible while it is wrong to do it but if she insist on doing it,just tell her u cant help her and if she goes ahead to cheat on you that will be the end of you guys.