debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

Call me up... let m direct u what to do. U don't need to do abortion. 08036427254

Some guys can be irresponsible enh...
And to the ladies..plz always stay away from unprotected sex in other to avoid another story that touches the heart..
Truth is..guys will always promise u heaven and earth to lash..but moment after the lashing,ur name will be OYO..

To the OP,u only hav to do wat u think is best for you...irrespective of how tough it might be..

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

the bolded got me cracking, welcom to reality.


u got enof advice dan i can giv.
takare dear

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

let me help you raise the chorus.
In lyrics "Oh n0' had I No".
So dahs n0w ur special number huh??.

Wetin dem do hide make daddy and mummy nor know. Na daddy and mummy go later settle am.


Back to the topic girl, most people here dont really give a fvck about what you are going to do with your pregnancy. Was once in your shoes and i know how it feel. Buttom line is follow your heart cos that is what i did.

Sometimes a man gat to do what a man gat to do.

CaroLyner:
Lol........No

You're gonna like it. I promise

Kill the guy and abort.

You can employ me if you're in the east.

It's a cold world. Stay wise.

Sodiumdawg:


HAAARRSSSH!

How is it?

justwise:


@op, avoid this person ^

My dear, some nairalanders are demons in human flesh

lxyrul:

You're gonna like it. I promise

dude.Read Your Above Comment

Mintayo:
The earlier young peeps understand that bf and gf relationship is a scam the better.
Don't date someone who you are not willing to be committed to and who is not willing to be committed to you.
Op you should have thought about your action before you agreed to having sex with this your scam bf, now you have to dance to the music alone.
Yiu had better involve your parents and keep the kid.

thanks.

Oh! such a mistake but it's good you know and accept you made a mistake. This shouldn't be the end of the road for you but a great lesson for future purpose.

Hmmm! Abortion is not the answer to the solution friend. Seek the face of God in prayer, ask for forgiveness cause fornication is sinful and pray God to direct you. The best person's you should tell is either your Pastor who should be able to guide you rightly by the help of the Holy Spirit or tell your Mother who is in the position to understand the girl child better. Fear not about the scolding, the shouts and embarrassment but be rest assured that with time you will be proud about taking the right decision considering you don't want to be termed a murderer.

Let me say I appreciate the sincere approach of your write-up... It simply shows you seek to do the right thing. Stay away from pre-marital sex. Read good books and be more closer to Christ..
I pray the Good LORD see you through granting you the needed grace and strength Through JESUS CHRIST OUR LORD.

Code45:
The girl is dumb. Who have first sex at her age without protection when you ain't married?

I know,i made a mistake.

debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

A paternity test does not lie. Also try seeing your clergyman before talking to mum.

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debbysmyles:
I know,i made a mistake.

I hope everything later sort out peacefully.

When e dey sweet u, who u tell..abi u come here come tell us how ur bf dey lash u....dnt tell me sh!t

*When Momma telLs u to Neva have a b00' u wudn't listen,
*When Momma telLs u to abstain from sex u wudn't listen.
When Momma tolÐ u to keep ur virqinity u wudn't listen.
Ýou th0uqht u wer wiser dan Momma n0w u'v realised Momma's f00lishness is y0' wiseness.
I aÐvice u c0nsult Momma, cux she qat d best answer even in the worse proßlems of d chilÐ.

akankemi1:
since u ve ruled out abortion...grow up. u won't be d first person in dis situation. u ve to be strong

I think I will involve my mum sis.
Thanks.

I understand how bad u feel right now, would have loved to chat with you privately. Be strong dear. Add m on WhatsApp 07032427154

Please I need advice, a 21year old girl slept with a man and became pregnant. I want to ask her why she knows how to sleep with man but doesn't know what to do when pregnancy set in?

Code45:
I hope everything later sort out peacefully.

I Pray

CaroLyner:
first of all at 21 you dont know about condom
and aftermath pills? am not upto 21 but i know
all these things.ts

yung lady
the only thing u should know is total Abstinence dear, at ur age, u shouldn't know all these things.

add me on WhatsApp. 07032427154 lets chat

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

Honestly, I am as confused as you are. If I say abort, I am committing a sin against God and against humanity. If I say do not abort, your well being is at stake - your pride, your parents, the society, your education. The shocking thing is that you knew the consequences before now, yet you still went ahead to indulge your not only precious but short time on such act. Well, after all is said and done, I assure you that you wont make such stupid mistake again. Also, some years after this stigma, if you advise young girls of these dangers they wont listen to you just like you didnt listen to your elders and your pastor, and so the vicious and disgraceful circle continues over and over, again and again ad infinitum till the end of time. Sister take heart, I understand your unfortunate plight.

Gbyte:


My dear,
there is not smiling about this situation, but for us to have a conclusion, lets analyze whats on ground? How wealthy are you parent? Are they that comfortable enough to take care of the baby in a way that it won't affect your own life that much ? As for your boyfriend, the truth is many teenagers and youths (male) are afraid of having a baby, especially when they are not financially stable, from the looks of things your boyfriend is probably still been fed at home, and you are probably still in school also.

I would not tell you to abort and i won't tell you to keep the baby, but my dear, abortion is not as bad as it seems, many people would say you are killing a baby, I would say you are saving a life, especially if the pregnancy is still in its early stage. Many if not all of the people advising you to keep the baby would NEVER marry someone else's baby mama, so you get to face that for the rest of your life, even those that would marry a baby mama, their parents would give them headaches, plus, what the baby would go through growing up, this is only if your family is still struggling to train you and your siblings.

But sit, think through about it, a lady with a child gets stigmatized out there, yes, they'd love and kiss your baby, but ask them how many of them would marry a lady with another man's child, how many of us would approve of our son or brother coming with a lady who already has a child for someone else. All these things are what you need think through. So my dear, the decision is yours to take, but its better to save this baby from some experience, especially of not having a father and having a struggling mother, than to have the baby to please people and then live with that for the rest of your life. My dear, trust me, if your family is struggling, you'd have days you'd just sit in your room with your baby crying because you cannot provide for the child and there would be no husband to comfort you, and you'd wish you have done something different. But like I said, the choice is your.
If i'm asked, i would say, if your family is not struggling in taking care of you, talk to your parent about it, they'd most like tell you to keep the baby and they would love their grand child and support you, but if they are struggling think twice. Poverty na bastard, it makes people think in weird ways, thoughts like, "we are still struggling to feed ourselves and then we have this one to deal with also" would come to their head once in a while[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]

That the main problem,its only my mum and she is still struggling.

debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

summon d courage nd tell ur mum...dat's ur safest option ryt nw....pelee ehn, all izz well

teemy:

A paternity test does not lie. Also try seeing your clergyman before talking to mum.

thanks,i already told my mum sis that I'm coming to see her 2morrow.

Whatever you do, don't end up on a quack 's table so you don't ruin your entire world over a pregnancy. How old is this your boo?

Datazone:


Honestly, I am as confused as you are. If I say abort, I am committing a sin against God and against humanity. If I say do not abort, your well being is at stake - your pride, your parents, the society, your education. The shocking thing is that you knew the consequences before now, yet you still went ahead to indulge your not only precious but short time on such act. Well, after all is said and done, I assure you that you wont make such stupid mistake again. Also, some years after this stigma, if you advise young girls of these dangers they wont listen to you just like you didnt listen to your elders and your pastor, and so the vicious and disgraceful circle continues over and over, again and again ad infinitum till the end of time. Sister take heart, I understand your unfortunate plight.

you're smart.

Wait o. . U'r 21 4 cryinq out louÐ aven't u heard of the worÐ protecti0n durinq s*x.
2. U'r already due to living on your own. . .or din't u qo to sch00L??

please don't kill the child. This might sound crazy but i don't mind adopting the kid when he or she is born. If you have women who have been trying to get pregnant in marriage for some time around you, you will know the worth of a child. Look for someone who can help you talk to mum. your grandma or some elder person in the family she listens to. it's not the end of your world.