So here's the problem, I do love this lady to a degree, but I ain't going for that marriage stuff. Not yet, and definitely not with her. I told her my plans from the day we officially started dating and she was totally cool with it. only to suddenly go mafia and change everything and become super possessive and pester me for marriage after some months, in a "If u won't marry me then ENEMY mode activated!" kind of way. That's unfair na! I've not dated much but my last gf wasn't unreasonable na, she even loved me for being straightforward with her and we dated exclusively until I had to travel. Then i adviced her to move on with her life (tho it was a very hard decision cos she's an awesome person, beautiful too) but we're friends till date.


Anyway, so Im letting this lady go so she can find a proper husband, but I don't want her beef (she gets very hostile and vengeful whenever she feels slighted even for the best of reasons, no matter how much u try to reason with her) cos I still have some unfinished business with her and don't want her to ruin it. Shes the type that, if something isn't going her way then it is BAD no matter how great it has been. She has potential husbands (ex'es) and has quickly resorted to hooking up with one for marriage. I wish her well, but don't need the hostility now.


How does one deal with this? Wud it have been better to give her false hope, and then bail once I get my stuff out? Won't that be unfair to her? Are the majority of ladies selfish like this cos I always hear ladies cry "he jilted me bla bla bla"? because guys have learnt to be dishonest with them? Is there another way? Like Ive confessed, I haven't dated much, but I want to believe we don't all have to be bad.

What kind of unfinished business do you have with her?.

my people , i no tell u say i dy bust? more busting dy come by 8 , laveda love no blame me blame d crew u go join

Benita27:
What kind of unfinished business do you have with her?.

money stuff. Joint business kinda. Might take a couple of weeks to conclude it. So...that's the p.

Marriage is not by force!!!!!!! She should get her acts right

Charlentine:
money stuff. Joint business kinda. Might take a couple of weeks to conclude it. So...that's the p.

She seems to be very much in love with you but unfortunately you don't feel same. From the beginning the relationship was for fun.

The longer you're with her the more possessive she becomes. If you don't intend marring her then end the relationship after you're done with your business transaction. If you wouldn't then redefine the relationship to her and watch her attitude over time.

Lolz

Benita27:
She seems to be very much in love with you but unfortunately you don't feel same. From the beginning the relationship was for fun.

The longer you're with her the more possessive she becomes. If you don't intend marring her then end the relationship after you're done with your business transaction. If you wouldn't then redefine the relationship to her and watch her attitude over time.

I don't think I'd agree with this. You actually believe the HOSTILITY is born of...LOVE? I would think that a girl in love would feel sad and heartbroken if the relationship isn't going her way...not hostile and spiteful. Are a lot of ladies like that in relationships?

I don't know why guys keep dating women they can't marry. Its sheer wickedness.

Charlentine:
I don't think I'd agree with this. You actually believe the HOSTILITY is born of...LOVE? I would think that a girl in love would feel sad and heartbroken if the relationship isn't going her way...not hostile and spiteful. Are a lot of ladies like that in relationships?

People react differently when subjected to a certain condition.

Some other girl wouldn't ask you to marry her no matter the degree of love while another would.

Some other girl won't be possessive while another would. So it depends on individual.

Benita27:
People react differently when subjected to a certain condition.

Some other girl wouldn't ask you to marry her no matter the degree of love while another would.

Some other girl won't be possessive while another would. So it depends on individual.

well then i guess the best thing to do is exactly what I did; stay straightforward and prepare to take cover when the hostility bombs drop if she's the hostile type shey? Atleast I'd have a very clear conscience. Better than deceiving her.

ToriBlue:
I don't know why guys keep dating women the can't marry. Its sheer wickedness.

I don't know why any woman would AGREE to date casually if she knows she would later try to FORCE marriage on the guy. It's sheer wickedness.

its better you leave now if she finds out you were using here or the thing she had with you meant nothing but business to you eh guy, there will be serious problem. she will never be friends with you after you leave stamp that at the back of your mind.

Lol

How do you date someone you are not ready to marry if need be I'll just be on my own.

Guy you must marry her, that's the unfinished business you have

Charlentine:
So here's the problem, I do love this lady to a degree, but I ain't going for that marriage stuff. Not yet, and definitely not with her. I told her my plans from the day we officially started dating and she was totally cool with it. only to suddenly go mafia and change everything and become super possessive and pester me for marriage after some months, in a "If u won't marry me then ENEMY mode activated!" kind of way. That's unfair na! I've not dated much but my last gf wasn't unreasonable na, she even loved me for being straightforward with her and we dated exclusively until I had to travel. Then i adviced her to move on with her life (tho it was a very hard decision cos she's an awesome person, beautiful too) but we're friends till date.


Anyway, so Im letting this lady go so she can find a proper husband, but I don't want her beef (she gets very hostile and vengeful whenever she feels slighted even for the best of reasons, no matter how much u try to reason with her) cos I still have some unfinished business with her and don't want her to ruin it. Shes the type that, if something isn't going her way then it is BAD no matter how great it has been. She has potential husbands (ex'es) and has quickly resorted to hooking up with one for marriage. I wish her well, but don't need the hostility now.


How does one deal with this? Wud it have been better to give her false hope, and then bail once I get my stuff out? Won't that be unfair to her? Are the majority of ladies selfish like this cos I always hear ladies cry "he jilted me bla bla bla"? because guys have learnt to be dishonest with them? Is there another way? Like Ive confessed, I haven't dated much, but I want to believe we don't all have to be bad.

jeez are u a human being!!!!! so I never Bleep her wella for her to leave u

Some people dont fear "Acid" sha!!! Oga it seems you dont know that "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned", be here forming 'its your boy wizzy" "baba for the girls them", if she refer your case to the 'marine unit' or "Airforce unit' your life may never be the same again, for your own good its either you "enter fully" or "eject carefully" and stop trying to eat your cake and have it!!

It seems you never had feeling for her. And if you don't have any feeling for a gal, how did you end up dating her and making her your gf? This is where there is difference between mature guys and not so mature guys. If you are a smart guy, you would have limited the relationship to just friends. If she digs you, irrespective of being just ordinary friend, she will allow you to whip. By that time she knows you guys arent gonna get serious, she may even introduce you to her potential fiance as just a friend. But your greediness won't allow you to reason well. Because of what you want to eat, only God knows what you have done or said. So you think you're the smartest guy in the world by telling her you don't want anything serious but you just want to eat the honey pot, and you think she's the dumbest gal in the world by allowing you to eat the honey pot anyhow without having her own interior motive. My guy if you are smart, you better forfeit the unfinished business dealing you have with her and calmly tell her with maturity that the relationship can't work and let her move on with her life. Because to her she is on the losing side and you are winning, and trust me, no gal wanna lose.

Move on after the unfinished business.

Lolz...I like this film

Op beware of desperate chics

Could u do me a favour by hooking her with me?

Biko National Association of Nigerian Students(NANS) you guys should put your plans towards South African Telecom MTN to hold till my data subscription with them expires...Thanks.

God help you

na wa o...

ACID VICTIM LOADING AHAHAHHAHA

Let me be a bad boy for the boy code sake. Don't tell her off, be real nice and romantic till your money deal is done, then disappear.