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RichYoungNigger:
Thunder fire your mouth there.
What will you tell me ??
Stop invading people's private life.

He left him because he had no money, how do you think your words can convince her ??

Use your brain, son

Trulie:
wow! guy I feel ur pain. And I mean it when i say I feel your pain. Years ago I was in the same position as u are now. At the point I thought life was void, empty, and a charade without HER. I loved her so much in ways the word 'luv' cannot fully define. So, like u, I thought it's done, am done. Days turn to month and months to years and am still here. still breathing, still living, still smiling, looking happier, and grateful. You see my dear, I found love again when I least expect. She has all the qualities my EX lacked. My guy, give urself time, am sure in few years time u will see the stupidity in wanting to end ur meaningful life for a less meaningful reason. Life is beautiful! Don't waste ur life for Nothingness.

crackhouse:
chai this dude don change everything to suite heartbreak including email. guy where u dey is far. I pray u come back. I put u in my prayers tonight.

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.
........Hello...This is exactly how i feel now...U can read my topics..is all about my guy that left me for more rich woman and woman that can give him documents to stay in Europe coz i was not able to give him that...n i been with him for 5 years when he was so broke...I know how i feel....And also for me is so hard to accept that there is such people..But this ur girl is selfish..she only looking her own interest...Me i been with my guy WHEN HE HAD NOTHING..If this your girl realy loved u.she would stay..trust me...or maybe she does love u but she loves more herself....write me about anything or ask.me

Icekyng:
baba abeg ur contacts too
I av sumtn similar I want to discuss

kaziblake:
you are not the only one.
I have made up my mind that I will never fall in love again.

Justdulla:
Forget crocodile tears and winning her back jare, your matter done dey vex me, are you God? Did you create your condition intentionally? Sha had the audacity to move on without giving a damn simply because Your Alert never soar and your talking of true love my foot, even 2 face when sing true love sef no true.... Dont be blindfolded by emotions and tears wake up man, I bet you in a week or 2 now those tears would stop she go come change hand for you, move on with your lifeshe couldnt stand the heat so she left the kitchen...... If I see you lamenting again, I go flog you koboko

therealMcCain:
your Falling in love has been the issue. Stop falling in love.

let your head do most of the work & not your heart

Always examine your status at every time T i.e always ask yourself if you have become better since you have been with a guy or if you we're lagging behind. If the answers is bad, it becomes easy for you to pull out on the grounds that ur heart is not the driver

Most importantly, ALWAYS start out as friends, this eliminates or reduces pretense

Then examine yourself, you attract who you are, who are you? What is your value system? Who are your friends?

If you can truly do this, there are people you won't even listen to, not to talk of dating

Work on yourself, read books(you will be amazed on the ton of info you can get online be it audio, video, books) evaluate all your past relationships(where did you miss it, what would you have done differently)

The above will help you in spotting Red flag/dangers on time eliminating the need for trial by error or let see how it goes

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.

swiffy:
Similar 2 Mine,same 7yrs.can't believe I can still Move On with life without him but tank goodness 4 everything though still finding it difficult 2 Love again. My advice is try not 2 be idle always keep ur self busy either by spending ur free time with good friends or reading ur bible, will prefer reading ur bible most especially before bed time I believe with dat,U wnt find it difficult 2 sleep at night n will also help U 2 tinkless at night. I knw its a very difficult task cus I can still remember d hell I went tru den,if not 4 God n my Loved Ones. I wuld av been history by now. so just try n 4get about her she does not deserve ur tears. A well deserved person will come ur way God's willing just b strong n wait 4 God's plan 4 U 2 manifest. take care

andromida:
No wonder the fuel attendant chic fled from you. You want to use her so you don marry.

mimibright:
no dey can't trust me. Except she use juju.

scantee:
@op check out my last thread on Nairaland, i understands how you feel right now because mine just happend last month...few months to our Traditional Marriage, just be a man and ignore her for weeks, don't call her, if she does call ans her @ times...if she ask about your activites don't update her let her know ur always busy these days, she will start wondering what ur up to lately, she will start trying to figure it out by coming more closer to you, then you will start feeling more better & on top of ur world. That will help you get over it asap...jst take her as a friend whenever she calls and do not let her know you still feel hurt, pretends as if you no send am again. Mine is over me now begging me to take her back, but she has given me the opportunity to notice that there are more beautiful gals out there. NO ROOM FOR BUSHIT AGAIN.

omron:
Brother, the choice of your girlfriend does not worth your blood, you are a man and whatever happens to man in life should be accepted in good faith, okay let's assume she got married to you and she had an accident and died(God forbid) but what will you do?
Everybody just saying you should leave her and move on its not easy to forget someone you have been together for long I understand your plight but to make the matter easier
Let me ask you some questions
1.do any of her family member knows you?

2.do u any of your own family member knows her and knows you both together?

If yes it would be the best way to solve the issue

Send someone to her to talk to her and the person should let her knows how much you love her from your action and that you could not eat since she broke the news to you
She will feel remorse for you
But if she doesn't then leave her on her own
May be you both are not meant to be together
U know what I mean?
Destiny will take its course
See there are millions better ladies outside there better than her
Killing your self is not an option
If you die she will leave her life and you become a looser.....
While she becomes a winner
And many women will step on your grave
.....
My advice for you still try your luck but if she insist pls and pls don't beg her... She will belittle you.....

Let me share my own past with you..

There was this lady I was dating 6 years back
She loves me so much that at times she sacrifice a lot to make sure I get what I don't have, she is a lady from a rich background and one day she told me it's over
Not that I don't love her but when she told me I accepted it and didn't even go to her doorstep to beg her. I only call her on phone why she decided like that and she said she prefer someone with job to date and I said OK that I wish her well
Today
After 6 years from that time
She is married and am married
But what I have now her husband does not possess.....
I pray God gives u good job
And she will regret later for her Bleep up
Stay calm okay

pcguru1:
Temporarily your own will find you soon. For all you know you might have already met him. All the best

kaziblake:
so you finally walk away.

Thank God for you.

firstking01:
I wonder why a woman will tell a man i 've found somebody else and the next thing the man will do is start begging ....for me that's bullshit....


Op, proof her wrong by getting a high paying job, i'm sure you'd get it....and when she comes back kneeling before you and sheding crocodile tears, push her away and bang the door behind her...don't come here and be asking us if you should accept her back...



This is why i'm tempted to join the league of team foreign girls....rubbish

scantee:
my dear it was'nt easy @all..but i feel very much better now. Btw: to be single is very cool, i am now answerable to myself alone..

freshvine:
President Barack Obama took his wife to a local restaurant to eat. Before the could settle down to their food, the restaurant owner pleaded with the security officials with them to have audience privately with Michelle Obama. After conferring with the first couple of United States, the request was granted and Michelle move to hear what the restaurant owner has to say.

Few minutes later, Michele was back with Obama and they settled to their food. Obama out of curiosity asked his wife, "what is it about?" and Michelle told him the man has been crushing on her since she was growing up and wish he had the opportunity to propose before she moved to another town where she met him.

Obama laughed and tease her, "that means you would've been the wife of a restaurant owner"?
Michelle look at him and replied,"No, he would've have been the president and you'd probably be no body compare to him ... I didn't marry you a president.


There's a wisdom in this true story

kaziblake:
Lol@juju.
True love's never die.

mimibright:
lol, they can if the fault isn't from any, example distance maybe they where separated from childhood, or lost of communication ( maybe a natural disaster). But if she left him cause he was broke hmmmm. A guy will forgive u but never fully return to you, he might have fun with u but won't settle down you. It's only possible in nollywood movies.. It can happen sha but chances are very slim, am speaking from experience. My ex is so broke that I just don't understand why God keeps putting her in situations that requires my help. Usually I do but no amount of begging can bring us back together and yea I loved her soo darn much....

kunlejazz:
Don't see much sense in the story. All I see is wit. Michelle obviously has a way with words and that's all there is to it.

She is DEFINITELY NOT the reason Obama is President of the United States. Read Obama's story, you'll know he's always had it in him.

kaziblake:
Eeyah,Forgive and forget.
Life is too short bro.

mimibright:
I forgave her a long time ago, i was faithful to her to the core introduced her to mom and family. but because I was hustling then she dumbed my broke a$$ . If my mom hear say I accept her back hmmmm.. Na die by fire she go pray for one month.