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Youngpo413:
For a lady to reach 30yrs without getting married is a clear indication that she is not a wife material,talkless of 35,before that age most will have numerous Ex boyfriends so if any of the uncountable Ex'es can't wife u,na your fault.

that's a hasty generalization, so if I choose to marry above ur stated age it means I am not a wife material Abi? nawa oo

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Are you sure you're even 35? Ladies never disclose their ages (even online).

At 43 three teenagers alresdy. Well possible if he married early tweenties or had twins/triplets. I want to believe he too must have adjusted his age.
Apologise for the lies sincerely and give him sometime meanwhile you can keep others at your radar.

U see despite all the jabs and good advice thrown at the OP...am impressed she replies calmly, displaying good humour, trying to respond to all, not rude as even younger chics would do...please OP having apologized and explained to this man, please give him space...you might not be married yet but he is really the 'tokunbo' with baggage having married before and even has 3kids..you will be the one to live with and tolerate all these....yes trust is an issue but he should cut u some slack, u haven't even met yet; he is supposed to just laugh it off even if he is still got it on his mind and be stylishly getting to know you deeply so you feel free to let out more, in that 'play' u would have even told him d whole truth, now he has almost created a perfect liar as he will only hear d things that are pleasant to his ear...u tolerate people cos someone else is also tolerating u...the late Bimbo Odukoya and most long married couples would say a marriage is just two forgivers living together...give this man a break and live your life to the fullest, mix and exhale...keep ya head up..let one who has never lied before cast d first stone....the last time I checked ,perfection isn't a human being...at his age and yours, all this drama ?..maturity is not a question of numbers after all.

Wake up dear. The chance of having him come back is slim. U may wish to ask how slim 22/78 in percentage. I will advise u revise this lesson notes pick up yourself and forge ahead. Next time when your heart is beginning to get involve present your real CV. For a guy that cares it hurts realising one has been banging out with a stranger. Good luck dear.

SaintHephzibah:
@ bellassimo please don't ever make such a deadly mistake of marrying a divorcee. It's against God's law, the Bible calls it adultery. God had joined him and his divorced wife together, let no man put asunder. Pray and God will give you your legal husband

Do you have an idea why he divorced his wife.

bellassimo:
I met a man online 5 weeks ago.As with online relationships, I withheld info and told him the age I have on my id and not my real age.I never expected the relationship to go anywhere, but we fell in love quickly we are even planning marriage. He has found out the truth about my age and is taking it badly.he compares me to his ex who he claims is a great liar and had refused to forgive me.He is doubting everything I ever told him about me and is ignoring me.I have apologized and explained to no avail.we are meeting for the first time next weekend, but he has changed totally. He ignores my calls and msgs and I can't eat or sleep. I love this man and want to be with him.I'd it fair that he has refused to accept my explanation? Its not as if I just picked the age from the air, its the age in my ids.how do I remedy this situation? Do I keep begging him? He doesn't even read msgs.this is his first on line relationship ( to the best of my knowledge) but this is not my first online relationship and I was just being cautious cos I have had my fingers burnt online before. What do i do? I am confused.He is a 43 yr old divorcee with 3 teenagers.I am turning 35 this yr( i don't look it though) i told him i was 32 yrs old.I need advice before I go crazy.why is this age issue such a big thing for him.has he got another woman? I am confused
We live in different places but I plan on going to see him next week .I am confused right now.Help!
P:s- it wasn't a random connection online, a mutual friend linked us up because he wants to settle down and I also want to settle down.She decided to connect both of us.We are going to meet and date face to face for sometime before getting married.
I am not desperate even at this age.I have had my fair share of heartbreaks. God makes everything beautiful in his time.this is not about the marriage, its about clearing my name first.Most people living outside Naija have "football" ages on their passports and other ids.I am not trying to justify myself but he found out the truth from me.I could have kept on lying if I really wanted to but seeing how serious we have become, I owned up when he asked.

OP practice dis wit ur next relationship...35 or 32 wats d difference self y lie ?

bellassimo:
I met a man online 5 weeks ago.As with online relationships, I withheld info and told him the age I have on my id and not my real age.I never expected the relationship to go anywhere, but we fell in love quickly we are even planning marriage. He has found out the truth about my age and is taking it badly.he compares me to his ex who he claims is a great liar and had refused to forgive me.He is doubting everything I ever told him about me and is ignoring me.I have apologized and explained to no avail.we are meeting for the first time next weekend, but he has changed totally. He ignores my calls and msgs and I can't eat or sleep. I love this man and want to be with him.I'd it fair that he has refused to accept my explanation? Its not as if I just picked the age from the air, its the age in my ids.how do I remedy this situation? Do I keep begging him? He doesn't even read msgs.this is his first on line relationship ( to the best of my knowledge) but this is not my first online relationship and I was just being cautious cos I have had my fingers burnt online before. What do i do? I am confused.He is a 43 yr old divorcee with 3 teenagers.I am turning 35 this yr( i don't look it though) i told him i was 32 yrs old.I need advice before I go crazy.why is this age issue such a big thing for him.has he got another woman? I am confused
We live in different places but I plan on going to see him next week .I am confused right now.Help!
P:s- it wasn't a random connection online, a mutual friend linked us up because he wants to settle down and I also want to settle down.She decided to connect both of us.We are going to meet and date face to face for sometime before getting married.
I am not desperate even at this age.I have had my fair share of heartbreaks. God makes everything beautiful in his time.this is not about the marriage, its about clearing my name first.Most people living outside Naija have "football" ages on their passports and other ids.I am not trying to justify myself but he found out the truth from me.I could have kept on lying if I really wanted to but seeing how serious we have become, I owned up when he asked.

this is rubbish, never go into this marriage if not. It won't go far. Yeye love.

bellassimo:
I met a man online 5 weeks ago.As with online relationships, I withheld info and told him the age I have on my id and not my real age.I never expected the relationship to go anywhere, but we fell in love quickly we are even planning marriage. He has found out the truth about my age and is taking it badly.he compares me to his ex who he claims is a great liar and had refused to forgive me.He is doubting everything I ever told him about me and is ignoring me.I have apologized and explained to no avail.we are meeting for the first time next weekend, but he has changed totally. He ignores my calls and msgs and I can't eat or sleep. I love this man and want to be with him.I'd it fair that he has refused to accept my explanation? Its not as if I just picked the age from the air, its the age in my ids.how do I remedy this situation? Do I keep begging him? He doesn't even read msgs.this is his first on line relationship ( to the best of my knowledge) but this is not my first online relationship and I was just being cautious cos I have had my fingers burnt online before. What do i do? I am confused.He is a 43 yr old divorcee with 3 teenagers.I am turning 35 this yr( i don't look it though) i told him i was 32 yrs old.I need advice before I go crazy.why is this age issue such a big thing for him.has he got another woman? I am confused
We live in different places but I plan on going to see him next week .I am confused right now.Help!
P:s- it wasn't a random connection online, a mutual friend linked us up because he wants to settle down and I also want to settle down.She decided to connect both of us.We are going to meet and date face to face for sometime before getting married.
I am not desperate even at this age.I have had my fair share of heartbreaks. God makes everything beautiful in his time.this is not about the marriage, its about clearing my name first.Most people living outside Naija have "football" ages on their passports and other ids.I am not trying to justify myself but he found out the truth from me.I could have kept on lying if I really wanted to but seeing how serious we have become, I owned up when he asked.

hw can u love some1 u r yet to meet?. Abi na e money dey confuse u

onoslove:
Do you have an idea why he divorced his wife.

do i care to know? Whatever crime the ex wife did can never justify the man's actions of removing his wife from her matrimonial home. When they exchanged the marital vows at the altar, didnt they affirmed "for better, for worse"
the husband must have a forgiving and a forbearing spirit so he'll be able to condone her wife's flaws.
If he divorced the first wife, it'll also be certain that he'll be inclined to put away the second wife also

Babacele:
hmmmm Bella ,sorry I can feel your pain. Your story is very clear . Only God can judge you ,so don't listen to any negative reactions from folks who don't know you and your previous experiences.

Yea your bf is bitter n it s understandable cos he had been bitten before meeting you. Absolutely I can tell you that it is not easy to deal with an insecured mate from a distance especially when doubts n fear is mixed.

It seems it isnt clear if he would still meet you as he isn't picking calls nor replying messages. But don't you worry.

Can you do the following:
1. Pray briefly that if it he s man for you, despite your sins which He has forgiven , may everything works fine.
2. Try to forgive yourself. it is important cos it helps to up your positive energies which will enhance your attracting positive things. know that no one but God is perfect ,so we all have flaws.

3. Imagine you n him together smiling ,happy n sharing love.

4. send him a text condemning yourself. like: "Baby I was stupid n fraudulent to have used that age. I don't know how to explain this mistake but if I were you, I would find it difficult to trust such a woman. I'm so sorry for the pains I have caused you, for betraying yr
trust . I m NOT doing this because of marriage but i feel I shouldn't be a source of pain to anyone. Regards." or whatever comes to your heart.

5. Try to forgive others too. n henceforth just b sincere with yourself.

6. Give thanks for a prayer answered n just be in your best mood. Whatever happens, just be calm. The above isn't a religious ritual but an exercise that is proven.
May your Rene Angelil come to you ,amen.

Ignore hime abeg. This advice still sounds desperate. He is trying to play her into submission. He would come back and Bella would feel he has done hime a favour. The harm is done. She might even be lucky it ended that way.

Nten:
that's a hasty generalization, so if I choose to marry above ur stated age it means I am not a wife material Abi? nawa oo

Nten how? Ake ekpat ukot Or efiaha ?

Youngpo413:
Nten how? Ake ekpat ukot Or efiaha ?

aman ison akpaniko kpupuru
speak english abeg

Really. A word of prayer for those who think its her fault to be unmarried @35, you won't experience such but if God says you should then would you know that the race is not for the swift and intelligence doesn't take u anywhere

[quote author=lakeside30 post=43297548][/quote]thanks bro. May your Rene Angelil come to you.

Another copy n paste ... All in the name of owning a thread to make fp..

kaziblake:
some are spiritual.

n some ain't . my sis got married at 34 a virgin last year n has a kid now. she plans to get a second kid next year n call it quits with childbearing. all fingers are not equal.

bellassimo:
Wow! Una get mouth sha.lol.Just to correct a few wrong impressions:
Its not about money or the fact that I saw wealth and am running after him.He is not rich(to the best of my knowledge)
I am not desperate.that is the truth.I am in love.at this age I should be able to tell love from lust.
It is possible to Fall in love in a week,a day or even a min .
I am not single because I am bad or ugly. Wish I can upload a pic.
I didn't meet him on a dating site.it was online though but we were introduced by a mutual friend.
What else did I read ooo*scratching my head*...yes
We are talking about marriage but all plans will be when we meet and see if we are compatible face to face.
May God let Una marry quick. All those insulting me...lol.if i had my way, I would have married when I was in my 20s but in life,s**t happens.
I have made a decision thanks to all of you.I am grateful.
Bissous.

lols

Age ..height ..weight is just a number ..if someone truly loves you non of that matter ..

Mimido2:
my dear he does not love u....he is just using d "lying issue" to get rid of u. Just forget about him.

Best post so far.

swaggprofessor:
hw can u love some1 u r yet to meet?. Abi na e money dey confuse u

its possible oo i will give you testemoni in cople of months when i marry my boo oo

Nina4u:
its possible oo i will give you testemoni in cople of months when i marry my boo oo

just tell us say u wan marry instead of ur long story

So what's da difference between 32 and 35... He's still older... Him b case n no wonder his 1st marriage failed... Very unforgiving spirit he has...yuck

bellassimo:
Wow! Una get mouth sha.lol.Just to correct a few wrong impressions:
Its not about money or the fact that I saw wealth and am running after him.He is not rich(to the best of my knowledge)
I am not desperate.that is the truth.I am in love.at this age I should be able to tell love from lust.
It is possible to Fall in love in a week,a day or even a min .
I am not single because I am bad or ugly. Wish I can upload a pic.
I didn't meet him on a dating site.it was online though but we were introduced by a mutual friend.
What else did I read ooo*scratching my head*...yes
We are talking about marriage but all plans will be when we meet and see if we are compatible face to face.
May God let Una marry quick. All those insulting me...lol.if i had my way, I would have married when I was in my 20s but in life,s**t happens.
I have made a decision thanks to all of you.I am grateful.
Bissous.

abeg I fit pm you to ask personal kweshion

Serves you right

Lexusgs430:
You meet him 5 weeks ago(online) and planning marriage, with someone you have not seen physically?

God help her.

nessacookey:
God help her.

Only God o. God too would ask her, why she went into the relationship, eyes and brain shut, while keeping the heart open.
They say the heart is dumb!!!!

is been their tradition..exactly what am gonna do soonest..she's got three yrs of birth and remembering what is been said

chiddyok:
The best way to get rid of someone is to catch them in a lie. That way u get to dump their *** and not feel guilty.

doskie:
she forgot to mention the part where he uploaded a dp with Gwagon on the background. girlss are fuullzzzz. you know sha.

alright...i get you

tiwiex:
Ignore hime abeg. This advice still sounds desperate. He is trying to play her into submission. He would come back and Bella would feel he has done hime a favour. The harm is done. She might even be lucky it ended that way.

but from d story, d guy wasn't misbehaving b4 d age debacle . we need to give him d benefit of fear of being bitten again. don't u think?

WHY are Nigerian ladies discreet about their AGE...I HAVE TRAVELED AROUND THE WORLD and i noticed especially in the western world and even some African countries that ladies easily and happily tell you their age....but i the moment you meet a naija gal asking after her age, its either she lies about it, tells u its private or she will ask you stupid question like: "what do you want with my age'..if i may ask please my naija sisters is their anything so special about the age that you keep it to yourself?...am sorry ma'am i wish i got a solution for you...i still believe in miracles though....