Mindfulness:
Going by all the comments here, I suggest everyone stays in their house, husband in one, wife in another. This way, nobody can be thrown out.

But wait a moment, why don't they just build a FAMILY HOUSE TOGETHER?



I restrain myself from further comments because I do not feel like offending anyone or everyone here.

Memejem:
Nigerian men and thier wahala. If a woman doesn't build house she must hear him say "under my roof" "in my house" "I built this with my hard earned money" "you didn't contribute to this"

The woman goes and builds house, some will now say she is an enemy of progress against tradition. If she built it why must the house be in his name? Una never happy. If your wife builds a house it's "our house". But if man builds house its "his" house abi?

Marriage includes both parities. I don't see it as a bad thing. But only a cultured and educated Nigerian man will accept it. If a wife builds a house it's "thier" house. If husband builds a house it's "thier" house. Simple.

House building doesn't take away respect, or submission. That character. Nothing to do with structure.

Nixiepie:
Had this argument with my dad,and he said is a taboo for him to live in a house built by his wife,so I really want to find out why this decision of a woman to build a house is a crime against humanity............ Plz I need more opinions thanks

Izen:

And men are angels. Okay

Izen:


Should I honestly tell you guys why you are so scared? It is because you make us feel indebted to you for the things you do for us too. So you automatically assume that you would be treated the same way if the case was reversed. Change your views on your woman first, it is then you'll start building your true confidence such that it is not linked to your financial capability and yes, she would respect you all the same. I think this issue has more to do with your ego as men than we being disrespectful as women. The truth is a disrespectful woman is a disrespectful woman whether in your house or in hers. What usually happens in this scenario is that, you pick on things she does that you'd have probably overlooked if it was your house and tag her as starting to be disrespectful. When in the real sense, she was always that way. It is more about insecurity on your part really.

Memejem:
But when you build a house will you add you wifes name to the deed? If not then you a guilty of the same thing.

dayojags10:
I don't know what's wrong, especially we YORUBAs.... I see it as no biggie in as much as it won't lead her to giving me some type of attitude. My parents also had dis issue, I heard my mum bought her land before my Dad and she was already thinking of starting foundation.... Before her brother(my uncle) told her to stop working on it as it might raise tension amongst her husband's(my dad) family.... To cut the long story short, my mum joined hand with my dad to build his own house we the kids grew up to live in... Then after some years, some Government agency came around saying the land our property is on is a government owned land... That its either they resell the land to us or they demolish our house. It was really tough that year,but tank God we came out top at the end, my mum later built her own house(which we the kids so much love like ....) And my dad has his. My mum still under my dads roof. The problem why I think its Taboo is cos most of this women out here can't handle success, when their money start stacking up , they start to feel superior and egoism sets in. If my future wife can build her own house before me, its fine. Its more like a motivation for me to hustle even hard

Nixiepie:
Had this argument with my dad,and he said is a taboo for him to live in a house built by his wife,so I really want to find out why this decision of a woman to build a house is a crime against humanity............ Plz I need more opinions thanks

Izen:


Ego tripping? Lmaooo...... coming from a man? Nice try dude

dayojags10:
I don't know what's wrong, especially we YORUBAs.... I see it as no biggie in as much as it won't lead her to giving me some type of attitude. My parents also had dis issue, I heard my mum bought her land before my Dad and she was already thinking of starting foundation.... Before her brother(my uncle) told her to stop working on it as it might raise tension amongst her husband's(my dad) family.... To cut the long story short, my mum joined hand with my dad to build his own house we the kids grew up to live in... Then after some years, some Government agency came around saying the land our property is on is a government owned land... That its either they resell the land to us or they demolish our house. It was really tough that year,but tank God we came out top at the end, my mum later built her own house(which we the kids so much love like ....) And my dad has his. My mum still under my dads roof. The problem why I think its Taboo is cos most of this women out here can't handle success, when their money start stacking up , they start to feel superior and egoism sets in. If my future wife can build her own house before me, its fine. Its more like a motivation for me to hustle even hard

spill:
For me I don't see anything wrong living in a house built by your humble, respectful and well cultured wife.

But for the selfish wife without manners please don't live in a house built by her, because she will always frustrate your life with the "this house is my hard earned money", forgetting that wives are helpmates to their husbands.

sukkot:
how many men with houses have married women with nothing ? billions of men. how many women with houses have married broke men ? none. CASE CLOSED. LOLZ. you women cant handle success if you have a partner who is less fortunate than you. you cant control your egos

Nixiepie:
Had this argument with my dad,and he said is a taboo for him to live in a house built by his wife,so I really want to find out why this decision of a woman to build a house is a crime against humanity............ Plz I need more opinions thanks

Mindfulness:



What deeper issues? Trust issues, issues with happiness, issues with authority and so on!



Whose culture and tradition? I'm sure you are familiar with the culture and traditions of major tribes in Nigeria, if not educate yourself!

Really? Why then is the name of the wife seldom "on the deed"? This ties back to your previous question, men were made head by society, culture and even spirituality. It takes a very confident, mature man to not look at the risks and buy a property in his wife's name. This is why nowadays we have both names on the deed, it's not rare to see men with multiple houses, some in his wife's name, others in his children's name.

MissGdope:

Higher in brain ke? lwkmd
get your head outta your ass and stop being silly.
What's wrong in the woman building a house and staying in it with her husband? Yea there are SOME women who will use that as an excuse to be rude and disrespectful to their husband but the same goes for men. They can also act high and mighty just cos they own the house. Thats why you see useless men throwing their wives out of the house. Tbh I think the best solution is that a couple should buy a house together or build one together so there is equality. simple

sarutobie:

And you failed to see that the so called mentality is being propagated by a female? The question you replied to was made by a female.. And you turn around to say men have egos? Yes we have to keep our egos up because of women like the one you quoted..

abbey621:
What deeper issues? Trust issues, issues with happiness, issues with authority and so on!




Whose culture and tradition? I'm sure you are familiar with the culture and traditions of major tribes in Nigeria, if not educate yourself!

Really? Why then is the name of the wife seldom "on the deed"? This ties back to your previous question, men were made head by society, culture and even spirituality. It takes a very confident, mature man to not look at the risks and buy a property in his wife's name. This is why nowadays we have both names on the deed, it's not rare to see men with multiple houses, some in his wife's name, others in his children's name.

abbey621:


I've always believed that the best thing to do is to buy a house in your children's name but there's nothing wrong in putting your wife's name on the deed.

Memejem:
I need the statistics to your waste facts please. It is nothing more than an opinion. Have you met all the married couples in the world to know thier finances before marriage?

Facts only please. Stop with your sentimentality.

Flawlessangel:


but what if you wife is a very successful woman who lives in a mansion? Would you insist she come live with you instead?

Nixiepie:
Had this argument with my dad,and he said is a taboo for him to live in a house built by his wife,so I really want to find out why this decision of a woman to build a house is a crime against humanity............ Plz I need more opinions thanks