menix:
Abeg I get 1 queshion..

Will her name be inscribed on the building for public to see

If NO, who gives a fork about the builder..

Once had a female colleague, who has 3 building in lagos nd she lives with his husband peacefully in one of the house she built....

sorry to say but it's like you don't have experience when it comes to women...... Try it and see. Only 1 out of 100 women will never brag or try to control you simply because you are under her own roof. Even if she is tour Mum, she must try to colonize you talk more of WIFE... hmmmmm

Over my dead body would such thing happen to me..its a taboo in yoruba's culture

Over my dead body would such thing happen to me..its a taboo in yoruba's culture..except its built in my own name as husband concern and at d same time made my own impact in it

Apparently the problem seems to be with culture and tradition. Marriage is a power relationship with the woman taking the inferior role, and the man on top.

If the question was if a man could live in another man's house -- no problem, all men are equal. But in a woman's house, it is a curse to receive charity from an inferior being. Herein lies the problem -- women are inferior!

Unfortunately even women think they are inferior. Classic case of self indoctrination. And some men prefer their wives failing when they are unable to succeed financially.

Nixiepie:
Had this argument with my dad,and he said is a taboo for him to live in a house built by his wife,so I really want to find out why this decision of a woman to build a house is a crime against humanity............ Plz I need more opinions thanks

That's a big no boy and hey your Papa correct 1000,000 %. when you grow up u go understand

sukkot:
how many men with houses have married women with nothing ? billions of men. how many women with houses have married broke men ? none. CASE CLOSED. LOLZ. you women cant handle success if you have a partner who is less fortunate than you. you cant control your egos

I didn't cone here to argue with you o. I just found your comment ironic. So women are not allowed to have egos, it becomes a crime. But men are allowed to. Issorai.

Kay17:
Apparently the problem seems to be with culture and tradition. Marriage is a power relationship with the woman taking the inferior role, and the man on top.

If the question was if a man could live in another man's house -- no problem, all men are equal. But in a woman's house, it is a curse to receive charity from an inferior being. Herein lies the problem -- women are inferior!

Unfortunately even women think they are inferior. Classic case of self indoctrination. And some men prefer their wives failing when they are unable to succeed financially.

So you think women are not inferior bah

Engrpj:



sorry to say but it's like you don't have experience when it comes to women...... Try it and see. Only 1 out of 100 women will never brag or try to control you simply because you are under her own roof. Even if she is tour Mum, she must try to colonize you talk more of WIFE... hmmmmm

I ve loads of experience about em, i will say again marriage aint a do or die affair..

The truth is that if the man is good to go financially, u will be in control...

RadicallyBlunt:
That's for man weh no know woman. Well its a taboo for me. Dem dey live house weh we men build sef, dem wan use wahala kill person. A man's relative no go get peace for him brother house bcus of wife let alone living in a woman's house

Its a wrong formation to me. God has made a man higher in brain than a woman. They may be richer though, but there's just this thing about men they'll never seem to understand.

No matter how nice they are, they're still women and they can't stop acting funny. Their best position is to have a man to look up to especially on shelter issue. They can change anytime and their use of power pass man own. Even if dem no change suddenly, they'll gradually manipulate u to always see wrong in urself and family and u won't be conscious of it

I've seen a family where the woman packed everything in d house including car and dog bcus of quarrel with her husband. Thank God say na d man build the house; the embarassment was all over town. It was later discovered she had a richer lover; a business partner or so. Women are always women. I prefer her support as wife living in my house and not me living in her house.

You are are joke, higher in brain but she's richer than you? He he he what did you use your mumu brain for? You are also higher in brain than your female superior or boss abi? The girls that beat you hands down in school nko? Be deceiving yourself. Higher brain ko

Many thanks throw their wives but of the house so why would a women not be able to do the same? The sam way you have rude rich men is the way you have rude rich women. You guys need to grow up

Taah alu..house wey i no sabi whether she got part of d money 4rm men(women can do anytin jst to achieve a silly goal)..moreova,a woman being d sole provider depreciates a man spiritually/otherwise

menix:


The only time she will turn a dictator is if the man ain't providing basic need with exemption to the housing..

If after providing, she still flaunts her Ego, for fork sake marriage ain't a do or die affair..

I am very very sure you are still a single man. Get married, know women and their ways and comment later

Ravenna:

Na poverty and ego dey worry those men weh no wan better thing for their wife.
Smh.

It's not about not wanting a better life/world for your wife. Note- no matter how humble a woman is, she would still exhibit the woeman in her in one way or the other. They are naturally wired to act so.

Fanirandele:


You are are joke, higher in brain but she's richer than you? He he he what did you use your mumu brain for? You are also higher in brain than your female superior or boss abi? The girls that beat you hands down in school nko? Be deceiving yourself. Higher brain ko

Many thanks throw their wives but of the house so why would a women not be able to do the same? The sam way you have rude rich men is the way you have rude rich women. You guys need to grow up

Its you that needs to grow up. With ur one liner interpretation and myopic view. I talked for myself and those who know what I mean know it. Ode

knackz:
if a woman did some thing stupid in respect to the house issue, you will know the difference btw wasup and hw far

Correct talk knackz

Izen:


Even if she is respectful you will still see the slightest thing she does as her being disrespectful. Something you wouldn't care about if it was your house. And what helpmate has got to do with building house is what I don't get. Men and their ego.

Ego and Men dey follow from bible so na normal thing

awoluyi:
. Your idea is the reality of what actually happened in my life. We lived in my house built in town A where I was working, when I was transfered to town B we stayed in the house owned by my wife. I didn't see anything wrong in this since the two us believe that whatever we have belong to our children. While living in this house, I started another building project in town C and with amazing co-operation and support from wife the project was concluded. It's unfortunate that many have allowed tradition, sentiment and fear to hold them down. While I don't pray that satan should break up our marriage, if it happens where to lay my head is not a problem.

I get wat u trying to say, u said u hav ur house she has her own, and u even building anoda, she wunt try shit wit u coz u hav urs too. now just imagine u dnt hav a house and u depended on her

please let ask u girls can u eat food ur husband cook....

Fanirandele:


You are are joke, higher in brain but she's richer than you? He he he what did you use your mumu brain for? You are also higher in brain than your female superior or boss abi? The girls that beat you hands down in school nko? Be deceiving yourself. Higher brain ko

Many thanks throw their wives but of the house so why would a women not be able to do the same? The sam way you have rude rich men is the way you have rude rich women. You guys need to grow up

God bless you jare. Too many deluded weak men in Nigeria . Better brain ko, better brain ni

Orlarmie:

Ego and Men dey follow from bible so na normal thing

In any human being Ego is a flaw. Rich people have egos no matter the sex. It's okay for you to kick your wife out and say thinks like don't bring that woman into my house for maybe her friends you don't like abi yet you think it's strange when a woman does the same? Many , many women have better brains than you and that's a fact of life

Nixiepie:
Had this argument with my dad,and he said is a taboo for him to live in a house built by his wife,so I really want to find out why this decision of a woman to build a house is a crime against humanity............ Plz I need more opinions thanks

can u eat food way ur husband cook

Memejem:
I'm not trying to argue with you. Just trying to have an articulate discussion with you. The majority of MY colleagues at work are Canadian citizens by birth. They were not sponsored by any husband. I don't know why you're unwilling to acknowledge that there a families out there who are able to live peacefully despite the woman earning more than the man.

I never said in nigeria men throw women out of a house the woman built. I said "matrimonial home". The family home. Traditionally, men in nigeria have built the house. When there is a quarrel at times some men get angry and send the wife away I.e "kicking her out of the matrimonial home". He feels it is ok to do so because he built it so therefore he owns it. If a woman builds a house and does the same to her spouse it is it not the same behaviour that men display. It has nothing to do with being inherently male or female. But has everything to do with anger in the moment. Though I don't condone throwing any spouse out of a house.

Not every woman is the same. Just because your friend is dealing with a woman who is lying to the police doesn't mean that all women do that. At the end of the day an investigation will be carried out. And the truth will prevail. If your friend is telling you the truth he will come out on top. The woman will pay the price for her despicable behaviour.

Your point that if you let people fund everything some can use it over you applies to both husband and wife. Whether it's house or car, food supplies, children's school fees. It's all the same. A marriage is more than a house.

Meme j, I like your mature response. Of course many families live peacelly, even Iya Suleman, Nne Nkechi hawking fish to feed and pay rent for her kids and her jobless hubby. Chasing sway your wife wasn't really that easy in traditional societies without very good reason until about 25 years ago. The inlaws often waded in to settle the matter. I still witnessed lot of that growing up.
At the end of the day, we should all be concerned by the increasing level of marital discord among Africans both at home and in diaspora. Especially some killing their spouse. It seems our freedom to chose own partner isn't necessarily doing the trick. I hope my friends eventually gets justice. Another friend of mine got no justice until he suddenly died. Despite his being Vought redhanded commuting adultery while pregnant for my late friend.

By the way, I am not more pessimistic than the average person out there. Have a nice day.

AreaFada2:
Meme j, I like your mature response. Of course many families live peacelly, even Iya Suleman, Nne Nkechi hawking fish to feed and pay rent for her kids and her jobless hubby. Chasing sway your wife wasn't really that easy in traditional societies without very good reason until about 25 years ago. The inlaws often waded in to settle the matter. I still witnessed lot of that growing up.
At the end of the day, we should all be concerned by the increasing level of marital discord among Africans both at home and in diaspora. Especially some killing their spouse. It seems our freedom to chose own partner isn't necessarily doing the trick. I hope my friends eventually gets justice. Another friend of mine got no justice until he suddenly died. Despite his being Vought redhanded commuting adultery while pregnant for my late friend.

By the way, I am not more pessimistic than the average person out there. Have a nice day.

And your friends are saints abi? I am sure if the women tell their side you'll be shocked. Both parties are at fault it's just always easy to pick the side of one's friend or family

This is not a new thing
It happens in my parent home
My mum built a 5 room apartment at somewhere in lagos and during the time she was building the house she carried my dad along and because of love relationship that exist between them they always go to the site together for site development
So it got to a stage where the house has been completed.
It was not eazy for my dad to follow her to the place he thought it looks somehow and degrading to him so he ask my mum and we the children to go there and live while he remained at the rented apartment where he married our mum...
My mum and my other sister planned for him since he said he won't follow us go new site so hey packed all the property bought by my father to the new house without his consent when my father came back from work he was curious he came to the new site with Fuel and matches and set the house ablaze but thank God neighbors came to our rescue the whole house would have been consumed by fire it is a memory that will linger in my mind till the end of time though after much persuasion from people and families they begged my dad to come to the new site with us and after like a year he came to the site to leave with is peacefully for like 11 years before he died
And my mum has never for once raised the issue of who build the house or not during any argument and I remembered a day my dad locked my mum outside the house and my mum was begging my dad to open the door.....
She didn't because it's her own house talk to my dad anyhow
I think for that kind of situation to work
There must be understanding and genuine love between the two parties
Then the woman must be someone who can control her mouth even when angry
That is it
But for me I dnt pray such tins happens to me I can't say if I will follow the woman there oooo
Cos as a man u shud shelter ur woman and not your woman sheltering you
Though my dad built his own house sha before he died

Orlarmie:

Ego and Men dey follow from bible so na normal thing

Please guy, that is a heresy. There is nothing like ego in the bible. The bible only talks about pride and we all know how God feels about it. Please for your sake, don't say what you don't know.

omron:
This is not a new thing
It happens in my parent home
My mum built a 5 room apartment at somewhere in lagos and during the time she was building the house she carried my dad along and because of love relationship that exist between them they always go to the site together for site development
So it got to a stage where the house has been completed.
It was not eazy for my dad to follow her to the place he thought it looks somehow and degrading to him so he ask my mum and we the children to go there and live while he remained at the rented apartment where he married our mum...
My mum and my other sister planned for him since he said he won't follow us go new site so hey packed all the property bought by my father to the new house without his consent when my father came back from work he was curious he came to the new site with Fuel and matches and set the house ablaze but thank God neighbors came to our rescue the whole house would have been consumed by fire it is a memory that will linger in my mind till the end of time though after much persuasion from people and families they begged my dad to come to the new site with us and after like a year he came to the site to leave with is peacefully for like 11 years before he died
And my mum has never for once raised the issue of who build the house or not during any argument and I remembered a day my dad locked my mum outside the house and my mum was begging my dad to open the door.....
She didn't because it's her own house talk to my dad anyhow
I think for that kind of situation to work
There must be understanding and genuine love between the two parties
Then the woman must be someone who can control her mouth even when angry
That is it
But for me I dnt pray such tins happens to me I can't say if I will follow the woman there oooo
Cos as a man u shud shelter ur woman and not your woman sheltering you
Though my dad built his own house sha before he died

What?! What exactly is your advice? That we should be like your mom? We should keep quiet like her while being treated with such disrespect just to respect our husband so that peace can reign and we can stay married? I'm sorry but what did your mum gain at the end of the day? Her house being set ablaze or her getting locked out of her home? You sound like you agree with how your dad treated your mum. I see no genuine love and understanding here, I'm sorry. Chai! Good help us women.

Nixiepie:
Had this argument with my dad,and he said is a taboo for him to live in a house built by his wife,so I really want to find out why this decision of a woman to build a house is a crime against humanity............ Plz I need more opinions thanks

Op buildba house, then come nd marry me and see if I'll agree or not....











Let's be experimental!

These end time friends you have that just keep having marital problems up and down all over the globe. I pray it doesn't reach you ooo. Just joking.

Are you saying you think arranged marriages are better?

AreaFada2:
Meme j, I like your mature response. Of course many families live peacelly, even Iya Suleman, Nne Nkechi hawking fish to feed and pay rent for her kids and her jobless hubby. Chasing sway your wife wasn't really that easy in traditional societies without very good reason until about 25 years ago. The inlaws often waded in to settle the matter. I still witnessed lot of that growing up.
At the end of the day, we should all be concerned by the increasing level of marital discord among Africans both at home and in diaspora. Especially some killing their spouse. It seems our freedom to chose own partner isn't necessarily doing the trick. I hope my friends eventually gets justice. Another friend of mine got no justice until he suddenly died. Despite his being Vought redhanded commuting adultery while pregnant for my late friend.

By the way, I am not more pessimistic than the average person out there. Have a nice day.

Tolatutu:


In any human being Ego is a flaw. Rich people have egos no matter the sex. It's okay for you to kick your wife out and say thinks like don't bring that woman into my house for maybe her friends you don't like abi yet you think it's strange when a woman does the same? Many , many women have better brains than you and that's a fact of life

Kilagbe kileju woeman

Izen:


What?! What exactly is your advice? That we should be like your mom? We should keep quiet like her while being treated with such disrespect just to respect our husband so that peace can reign and we can stay married? I'm sorry but what did your mum gain at the end of the day? Her house being set ablaze or her getting locked out of her home? You sound like you agree with how your dad treated your mum. I see no genuine love and understanding here, I'm sorry. Chai! Good help us women.

My dear a woman dat want 2 build a good home buy it, at all cost nt by merit

Nixiepie:
Had this argument with my dad,and he said is a taboo for him to live in a house built by his wife,so I really want to find out why this decision of a woman to build a house is a crime against humanity............ Plz I need more opinions thanks

Men and their chauvinistic thought process. You can entrust your wife to carry your baby for you in her womb for 9 months, but you cannot live in 'her' house. Irony of our warped way of analyzing issues.
Anyway, if indeed she is your wife and two has become one, then it shouldn't matter who built which house. Even if it were her house before marriage, your marriage should make the house both yours (unless of course you signed a pre-nuptial agreement).

Hmm ko tun walo je ijebu.. mogbe oo. abeg no ijebu lady kom attack mi here o.

What type of marriage exist between you?
Whatever belongs to d husband belongs to the wife and vice versa
So who builds d house does not matter.