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Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

DharmyYinks:
Be sincere to ursef... bfor any lady can leave a made guy for a broke/struggling guy... its hard. And even if she does.. one way or d other she would still dream of being wit a made guy. And I didnt generalize initially.

Like I said in my previous post... A lady should be valuable such that a guy won't wanna lose her. If TuFace didn't knw her 'worth', he wouldnt ve chosen her over his numerous baby mamas even tho shex not dat beautiful.

U used Dj Cuppy as example.. do u think she can date a broke guy who lives Ajegunle nd is struggling to get 3meal a day?? Nope! Never! Instead she will be looking for a rich dude.. who can match her status. Why do u think most popular female stars are still single? They dnt ve toasters? They do! They re not their type.

It's all bout the content bro... not the product!

HateU2:
pretty bawo
U wan make I go steal am ni
Se u knw 'omobaba'(aa comedian) We have d same face

Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.

Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.

DollyParton1:
I come back after a long time to see this kind of post. And broke guys masturbating all over the thread.

Toks2008:
I honestly can't shake the pity off my mind anytime i see how many ladies wallow in frustration simply because they are still single at very marriageable ages and this is why i decide to drop this thought provoking piece.[/b]fullfilment without a dream is nonsence

[b]The major reason many ladies are still single at very ripe age is HIGH EXPECTATION and below is a simple illustration to explain my point.

As a lady please get this straight;Good potential husbands are everywhere but your spec may not be readily available.An average Nigerian lady wants a cute,rich,caring guy and no matter how hard they try to shrug this off,they keep using this as a yardstick to be with a man but unfortunately 2 out of 10 guys are the specs of 8 out of every 10 ladies so these 8 ladies clamor to be with these 2 men but unfortunately these 2 guys can't marry more than a wife each.

My advice to many ladies is to understand that it is perfectly normal to seek for a "financially ok" guy to marry but no matter how hot you may be, it is easier to get a man to marry you when he is struggling than when he is made.Comfort,wealth and good life is not usually instantaneous but progressive.

Don't be fooled,many expensive wedding ceremony you see are sponsored by the bride or groom's family.As a lady,try your best to get something doing and lets just assume you meet a guy that makes as little as 40k a month and you also make like 40k a month,please start a life together and continue to build your lives together. You can always do an elaborate intro and engagement party and proceed to the registry and when you have money you can do a very big wedding ceremony.

This thread is not for the few ladies who are fortunate to find a rich dude but for countless number of Nigerian ladies who are on the other side of the divide.

Our ladies should Stop indulging in ultimate search contest with many other ladies for a rich guy and Until our ladies learn to look in the right direction,be financially independent,lower their expectation and be ready to build a life with a man without the negative preemptive mindset of what will happen after he becomes rich,i guess there will forever be an increase in aver-aged unmarried ladies.

Just trying to make sense.

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

Slapsticker:
your father would be proud of you.


And to the OP, would you want your daughter to marry a iman earning 40k a month?

joey150:
i dont get it..if you LOVED him, what stopped you from marrying him and still becoming your own doctor?? Marriage dosent end a woman's career. Tell us another reason for not marrying the dude.
This your gist no add up at all abeg.

Ladies better marry somebody that has sense..do whats best for you..or else na divorce in 1 year..wether struggling or made..be sure you are absolutely ok and sure u wanna spend your lifetime with that person.

Ruq:
Bros, I surprise ooh I think say n only me dey think am, and others were hailing her like its really an achievement. I mean who would end such relationship because you just want to prove a point of being independent. I would've enjoyed the story more if she said the guy was a jerk because he felt she couldn't be independent. These are the daftos that don't know the power they have as women.

clek:
40k a month should not be an issue as long as the lady is earning something. Nigerian girls always want the menn to provide everything for them without them adding to the growth of the family. Grow up ladies. Else, you will be singles for a long time.

amokeme:
the bold is wrong. The only future you can secure is the one YOU make for yourself. Because some guys dump the women that struggle with them all in the name of "upgrading"
So ill advise the ladies, work hard and secure that future you dream of for yourself. That is the only thing you are sure of.

Toks2008:
I honestly can't shake the pity off my mind anytime i see how many ladies wallow in frustration simply because they are still single at very marriageable ages and this is why i decide to drop this thought provoking piece.

The major reason many ladies are still single at very ripe age is HIGH EXPECTATION and below is a simple illustration to explain my point.

As a lady please get this straight;Good potential husbands are everywhere but your spec may not be readily available.An average Nigerian lady wants a cute,rich,caring guy and no matter how hard they try to shrug this off,they keep using this as a yardstick to be with a man but unfortunately 2 out of 10 guys are the specs of 8 out of every 10 ladies so these 8 ladies clamor to be with these 2 men but unfortunately these 2 guys can't marry more than a wife each.

My advice to many ladies is to understand that it is perfectly normal to seek for a "financially ok" guy to marry but no matter how hot you may be, it is easier to get a man to marry you when he is struggling than when he is made.Comfort,wealth and good life is not usually instantaneous but progressive.

Don't be fooled,many expensive wedding ceremony you see are sponsored by the bride or groom's family.As a lady,try your best to get something doing and lets just assume you meet a guy that makes as little as 40k a month and you also make like 40k a month,please start a life together and continue to build your lives together. You can always do an elaborate intro and engagement party and proceed to the registry and when you have money you can do a very big wedding ceremony.

This thread is not for the few ladies who are fortunate to find a rich dude but for countless number of Nigerian ladies who are on the other side of the divide.

Our ladies should Stop indulging in ultimate search contest with many other ladies for a rich guy and Until our ladies learn to look in the right direction,be financially independent,lower their expectation and be ready to build a life with a man without the negative preemptive mindset of what will happen after he becomes rich,i guess there will forever be an increase in aver-aged unmarried ladies.

Just trying to make sense.

missmalachi:
I concur with u.
I met my hubby as a fresh graduate who just finished serving n applying for job.i ws in my yr 1 then.i always support him wit d little moni my parent gv to me but cant even let my friends knw cos they will laugh at me for givin a man money.

The job that made him who he is today i gave him money to travel to lagos 4 the exam on getting back they called him for interview n no moni to go back i had to lie to my dad n go money again wc i gave him n he got he job wc ws an oil company.

Now the bobo adore me die.wen we play n gist abt d past i jokely tell him i knw him with one shoe n he will reply it ws 3 shoes ooo.

Am glad i started with him.

DollyParton1:
Lol. I know right
I am team independent lady and all... She probably made up the story.

DharmyYinks:
I would ve agreed with u totally but its nt only guys wu do d bolded. Women do it too nd not all guys will do dat. Example is d guy on frontpage yesterday wu wanted to marry a lady wu helped him.. his parents refused but he still went ahead.

Well said

Ruq:
I guess so, it's too big a gamble to let the assumed engaged 'mr right' go just like that. Plus a woman like that shouldn't have issues finding a 'mr right' that would stop her career just because she's married.

NobleAngell:
So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.

marshalcarter:
Ok..now...they're lookin in the lept direction kwo nd their exfectations are bery bery high faa

Ma priend...do you get puel in ya syd?? I leabe puel me go pyn kwo dey talk why yarinyas single kai mana..haba...je ka sie mana ankali faa



#WeedyGeneration

Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.




This story does not add up.

amokeme:
reason why i said SOME.
Basically everybody should have a standard they work with(men and women).

DharmyYinks:
Ofcourse... evry1 has a standard but we shouldn't place it too high. Sometimes... our standards needs to be modified.


Like ur style of argument... devoid of sarcastic insults nd self gender-based points.

Dnt go nd be blushing oo

NobleAngell:
So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.

amokeme:
Lol, blushing already . Thanks anyways

Yewandequeen:
just observing
#sleep I need uu

Pwhitelaw:
... Am here... The chest is broad enough to rest