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vizkiz:
Most guys are spending too much time creating silly threads on nairaland

I can't believe you are actually gonna blame me because Cynthia living opposite my compound is yet to marry due to the fact that she is busy playing "hard to get" meanwhile me no even get time to dey pursue woman.

This thread stinks

KashyBaby:
Oohh yeah? What about u sit down Coz u don't get me...?


Fallacy my foot

ireneony:
why are your words always bitter towards women.
You probably smell broke
No lady like a loud mouth like you.

I don't smell broke, I am actually broke and Why do you even think I give a furck who likes me or not

emusmith:
Guys Are The Major Reason Most Ladies Are Still Single.


Don't tell me something else because I've had my share and chances and most I blew. I'm not proud saying these but as a note of warning to all other guys who derive pleasure casting blames on the female folks.

Back then in college, I knew of a Lady-friend who called me one night and said, "Smith, I'm about to say Yes to a guy"...waiting for me to say something, "life" got a solid grip on me as I sheepishly let her go.
I am very sure, if you're not a "big eye" or "ojukokoro", you would have had some girls around you who also want to hear you say, Ok, to their green lights.

It boils down to specs. There is nothing absurd if a girl doesn't like you. You are simply not her spec. Chin up and look elsewhere. There are some girls that you can't date too because they don't get to you. It's nature.

Guys Are The Reason Most Girls Are Single? How?

- Most Guys Are Greedy.

Get this right, your lady can't have the complete package. She can be pretty, with big ups and back but lack culinary skills. Some men can teach her and all will return to normalcy. Don't be greedy. No lady is an angel. Atinuke who is not so pretty and not busty, but well behaved/mannered, speaks well, intelligent and Godfearing is after your signature but the lustful part of you wants Samantha who is just the opposite. She is a player. She plays you and you call girls "how". C'mon!

- Most Guys Are Scared Of The Responsibility Marriage Brings.

Say the truth, "you just want a girl for "dating" and not for a "serious relationship". An average normal lady wants a serious relationship by the time she is heading for Year 3. That's when most guys wants to flex and test. There are many "good girls" around who won't give in to sex from unserious guys so they've resorted to "self-servicing". "Mr Right" is still busy counting how many girls he has slept with. SMH!

- Most Guys Are Insensitive

By being sensitive, I mean in being there for your woman all the time, without her asking. It can also be termed, "maturity". Money and diamond is not all a lady needs. Can I tell you now? It's in one word, CARE. She may scream "money"! After giving her the money, she'll scream, "You don't even care". Place "Care" before money and Love is born.


- Most Guys Are Still Broke!

I would not allow my sister marry a broke man! A broke man is not the man that earns 40-70k. It's a man who lacks money sense. It's a man who lacks confidence of the future. A guy should know how to use the salary he is receiving to better his life, his investments and others around him. If you smell broke, you are broke. If you are broke, no sensible girl should marry you. Take note: a jobless guy now, might not be broke.


- Most Guys Are Indecisive

Nothing puts a girl off like indecision. You have to be sure it's her you want in your life, her faults notwithstanding. You can't keep saying Yes, No, Yes, No...Time is of the essence.


PS: Everyone quickly blames a 30+ lady who is still single for messing up while she was younger. They wouldn't do if they had an elder sis or aunt in such predicament. GUYS ARE THE REASON LADIES ARE STILL SINGLE. You can date any girl you want to, if you know what price you are ready to pay. If you feel you can't maintain the relationship, don't go into it. You ask out a girl whose cream is half your salary and she (out of consideration) tells you No. Don't call her names. She just saved you. She's not your spec. Meanwhile, if she likes you and shows you that, then, you are confident that both of you can be responsible for the mobility of the relationship. Cut your coat according to your cloth: if you do, you will see you'll that you've been the one keeping ladies single.

emusmith:
FTC in a stinking thread: I hail you!

She is playing hard to get, you are too busy to ask her out. It's a fair game.

lol, abeg pass me the popcorn make I dey watch as these people dey bash me


It's a fair game then why would you blame for for that

juniorportland:
thank God u said some....that some should be like 3%

donbenedict:
I think the younger generation needs a re-orientation about marriage... because a good percentage of the youths think every factor they portray in the opposite sex must be met before they sign a life time commitment.

I shall take an example of myself.


No doubt and honestly I want a lady who is drop dead gorgeous, who is financially stable and who is respectful and has got great culinary skills


My projection of her is almost near perfect.


While

1. I find it hard to cook a simple soup


2. I no get six packs


3. I'm not entirely the kind of guy she projects too, dats if she has her list.



So having written abt that, inorder to solve that problem, we all need to re-order our way of thinking.. when handling matters with the opposite sex.

dollyjoy:
what surprises most is,a guy will know deep in his heart,that he is not ready for marriage due to financial probs or maybe not ready for commitment yet will keep leading a lady on,just to over stretch her body and dump her later.


What prevented the young men in the scenerio you gave above from dating at all since they are not ready for commitment.


Wicked species

mployer:
emusmith Just want to win some female fans with This thread, nothing else.

Guys do the Chase, ladies do the selection. How is it a Guys fault that a lady refused to select a Guy from her numerous chasers

It is like blaming Customers for bad market, when You are the one that refused to sell.

vizkiz:
Most guys are spending too much time creating silly threads on nairaland

I can't believe you are actually gonna blame me because Cynthia living opposite my compound is yet to marry due to the fact that she is busy playing "hard to get" meanwhile me no even get time to dey pursue woman.

This thread stinks. I think op wants to get laid by winning some ladies hearts

emusmith:
Don Benedict, my friend. Sometimes, we must align priorities after what really matters. You might see a girl you dream about and then, she doesn't fancy you coz she also has her expectation. However, there are many fishes in your swamp who are something near that image you have about your wife + they are even dying for you, which makes it easier. I have had a girl dare me to just propose if she won't say yes, I had to run away. Some other guy would buy all her friends suya to have her number. Such is life. Aim at the sun, if you don't get it, go for the stars. Don't blame the sun for being too Hot.

donbenedict:
you seem like you never read the post in between lines....

donbenedict:
true that... and I must admit i'v been making such mistakes a thousand times.. dropping the ones who really like me for the ones who I like.


And it comes to this.. whch is more important. Going for someone who likes u or the one who you like? Wat's your opinion abt that in terms of personal experience?

mployer:
I read every line and in between lines

You can't blame a Customer for a good You refused to sell. Every girl has a toaster, a serious and committed toaster.

vizkiz:
lol, abeg pass me the popcorn make I dey watch as these people dey bash me


It's a fair game then why would you blame for for that

emusmith:
No one! lol! The point is: A man is meant to go after the girl he wants. If she is playing hard to get still...she doesn't want you.

donbenedict:
nice one.....


But I beg to disagree, there are a lot of females in the world dat havnt been toasted ever in their lonely lives


Jokes apart

babyfaceafrica:
ladyf

dollyjoy:
So on point.

I know most guys wouldn't like this.

emusmith:
No one! lol! The point is: A man is meant to go after the girl he wants. If she is playing hard to get still...she doesn't want you.

donbenedict:
who is ladyf abeg?

emusmith:
Guys Are The Major Reason Most Ladies Are Still Single.


Don't tell me something else because I've had my share and chances and most I blew. I'm not proud saying these but as a note of warning to all other guys who derive pleasure casting blames on the female folks.

Back then in college, I knew of a Lady-friend who called me one night and said, "Smith, I'm about to say Yes to a guy"...waiting for me to say something, "life" got a solid grip on me as I sheepishly let her go.
I am very sure, if you're not a "big eye" or "ojukokoro", you would have had some girls around you who also want to hear you say, Ok, to their green lights.

It boils down to specs. There is nothing absurd if a girl doesn't like you. You are simply not her spec. Chin up and look elsewhere. There are some girls that you can't date too because they don't get to you. It's nature.

Guys Are The Reason Most Girls Are Single? How?

- Most Guys Are Greedy.

Get this right, your lady can't have the complete package. She can be pretty, with big ups and back but lack culinary skills. Some men can teach her and all will return to normalcy. Don't be greedy. No lady is an angel. Atinuke who is not so pretty and not busty, but well behaved/mannered, speaks well, intelligent and Godfearing is after your signature but the lustful part of you wants Samantha who is just the opposite. She is a player. She plays you and you call girls "how". C'mon!

- Most Guys Are Scared Of The Responsibility Marriage Brings.

Say the truth, "you just want a girl for "dating" and not for a "serious relationship". An average normal lady wants a serious relationship by the time she is heading for Year 3. That's when most guys wants to flex and test. There are many "good girls" around who won't give in to sex from unserious guys so they've resorted to "self-servicing". "Mr Right" is still busy counting how many girls he has slept with. SMH!

- Most Guys Are Insensitive

By being sensitive, I mean in being there for your woman all the time, without her asking. It can also be termed, "maturity". Money and diamond is not all a lady needs. Can I tell you now? It's in one word, CARE. She may scream "money"! After giving her the money, she'll scream, "You don't even care". Place "Care" before money and Love is born.


- Most Guys Are Still Broke!

I would not allow my sister marry a broke man! A broke man is not the man that earns 40-70k. It's a man who lacks money sense. It's a man who lacks confidence of the future. A guy should know how to use the salary he is receiving to better his life, his investments and others around him. If you smell broke, you are broke. If you are broke, no sensible girl should marry you. Take note: a jobless guy now, might not be broke.


- Most Guys Are Indecisive

Nothing puts a girl off like indecision. You have to be sure it's her you want in your life, her faults notwithstanding. You can't keep saying Yes, No, Yes, No...Time is of the essence.


PS: Everyone quickly blames a 30+ lady who is still single for messing up while she was younger. They wouldn't do if they had an elder sis or aunt in such predicament. GUYS ARE THE REASON LADIES ARE STILL SINGLE. You can date any girl you want to, if you know what price you are ready to pay. If you feel you can't maintain the relationship, don't go into it. You ask out a girl whose cream is half your salary and she (out of consideration) tells you No. Don't call her names. She just saved you. She's not your spec. Meanwhile, if she likes you and shows you that, then, you are confident that both of you can be responsible for the mobility of the relationship. Cut your coat according to your cloth: if you do, you will see you'll that you've been the one keeping ladies single.

babyfaceafrica:
ask around

emusmith:
Long throat, you say? There are some that are ready to spend on you or not bother you for money but you don't want them...