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Where are the guys? Not shying away,I hope.

donbenedict:
so how u take knw say person neva toast am?

by their fruit. You shall know them

emusmith:
That's why I tenaciously hold the belief: Date a girl when you're ready for marriage.

Exactly if you aren't ready mentally, financially, spiritually why chase girls.
That's why immaturity will lead them into the hands of fast girls and when they use them they start shouting all girls are the same. I don't pity men like that at all o.

babyfaceafrica:
by their fruit. You shall know them

mchew...

Serious men and women praying and getting married; while unserious boys n girls throwing blame. When you are ready, nobody go tell u.

mployer:
emusmith Just want to win some female fans with This thread, nothing else.

Guys do the Chase, ladies do the selection. How is it a Guys fault that a lady refused to select from her numerous chasers

It is like blaming Customers for bad market, when You are the one that refused to sell.

Do you sell to debtors? No! There can be Bad Market because your customers are debtors.

Oliviaarims:
Where are the guys? Not shying away,I hope.

so wit ur big eyes u can't see us commenting ba?

emusmith:
Guys Are The Major Reason Most Ladies Are Still Single.


Don't tell me something else because I've had my share and chances and most I blew. I'm not proud saying these but as a note of warning to all other guys who derive pleasure casting blames on the female folks.

Back then in college, I knew of a Lady-friend who called me one night and said, "Smith, I'm about to say Yes to a guy"...waiting for me to say something, "life" got a solid grip on me as I sheepishly let her go.
I am very sure, if you're not a "big eye" or "ojukokoro", you would have had some girls around you who also want to hear you say, Ok, to their green lights.

It boils down to specs. There is nothing absurd if a girl doesn't like you. You are simply not her spec. Chin up and look elsewhere. There are some girls that you can't date too because they don't get to you. It's nature.

Guys Are The Reason Most Girls Are Single? How?

- Most Guys Are Greedy.

Get this right, your lady can't have the complete package. She can be pretty, with big ups and back but lack culinary skills. Some men can teach her and all will return to normalcy. Don't be greedy. No lady is an angel. Atinuke who is not so pretty and not busty, but well behaved/mannered, speaks well, intelligent and Godfearing is after your signature but the lustful part of you wants Samantha who is just the opposite. She is a player. She plays you and you call girls "how". C'mon!

- Most Guys Are Scared Of The Responsibility Marriage Brings.

Say the truth, "you just want a girl for "dating" and not for a "serious relationship". An average normal lady wants a serious relationship by the time she is heading for Year 3. That's when most guys wants to flex and test. There are many "good girls" around who won't give in to sex from unserious guys so they've resorted to "self-servicing". "Mr Right" is still busy counting how many girls he has slept with. SMH!

- Most Guys Are Insensitive

By being sensitive, I mean in being there for your woman all the time, without her asking. It can also be termed, "maturity". Money and diamond is not all a lady needs. Can I tell you now? It's in one word, CARE. She may scream "money"! After giving her the money, she'll scream, "You don't even care". Place "Care" before money and Love is born.


- Most Guys Are Still Broke!

I would not allow my sister marry a broke man! A broke man is not the man that earns 40-70k. It's a man who lacks money sense. It's a man who lacks confidence of the future. A guy should know how to use the salary he is receiving to better his life, his investments and others around him. If you smell broke, you are broke. If you are broke, no sensible girl should marry you. Take note: a jobless guy now, might not be broke.


- Most Guys Are Indecisive

Nothing puts a girl off like indecision. You have to be sure it's her you want in your life, her faults notwithstanding. You can't keep saying Yes, No, Yes, No...Time is of the essence.


PS: Everyone quickly blames a 30+ lady who is still single for messing up while she was younger. They wouldn't do if they had an elder sis or aunt in such predicament. GUYS ARE THE REASON LADIES ARE STILL SINGLE. You can date any girl you want to, if you know what price you are ready to pay. If you feel you can't maintain the relationship, don't go into it. You ask out a girl whose cream is half your salary and she (out of consideration) tells you No. Don't call her names. She just saved you. She's not your spec. Meanwhile, if she likes you and shows you that, then, you are confident that both of you can be responsible for the mobility of the relationship. Cut your coat according to your cloth: if you do, you will see you'll that you've been the one keeping ladies single.

Trashhhh!!! LAWMA come and do ur work!!

@Op, i dont agree with u at all on some of ur points! Anyway it is just ur opinion!

I use a dating app and 95% of girls on the app are 30 years above. And they are all single.

SOmething is wrong seriously.

3 people recently gave birth in my company. The sex of these babies are female.

Female baby everywhere..something is wrong.

And despite these, our female folks play hard to get. And most have no manner.

You want her curvy,busty,sexy infact she must keep turning u on anytime u set eyes oon her. She must also be strong chritisan and hav her own money bcs ur too stingy to spend ur own money on her. And you come here to say women are been picky and setting high standards when you as a man has set standards way higher than that of a woman. And if any woman longs for comfort even from a man wch isn't uncommon,you say she is greedy. I've never been rude here on NL before but in Francis Odega's voice"gherarahia mehn"
God bless u @op jare. Me I crave comfrt and the good things of life and it dsnt hav to be by force the man has to give me but if I'm a wife,isn't it a man's duty to see to me as his responsibilty and then anytin I bring as a support is secondary? Not all dis"morn food mony" or "aftanoon food mony"
A lot of factors are responsible for why women are single,some way beyond their power as it also applied to the male folks. Not because of standards.
Abg I'm talking too much jare,lol!
Una good afternoon o from the other side

KashyBaby:
All true OP... but plz add more most men are stubborn like kids, think like kids and act like kids...

We sabi una well well

When ladies say they want a mature man, they simple mean someone dundie enough to endure all their Bulls**t.

So if don't take sh*t, you're a kid

emusmith:
That's why I tenaciously hold the belief: Date a girl when you're ready for marriage.

...and also Date a girl you see yourself getting married to.

emusmith:
Long throat, you say? There are some that are ready to spend on you or not bother you for money but you don't want them...

Bros talk wetin you know. Where are they? Mention One. In fact, point her let me see

peeparty:
So on point emus my neighbor, but not totally true to some extent.Because na some of this gehs they do themselves.
for instance when a girl seems to" have it all mentality"
The following statement may be controversial, but it's also true . . . guys are NOT idiots. When a guy meets this "hot but single" that has her sh*t so together, he knows she is wife material. He can't find a laundry list of reasons to give her the fade away after two weeks. She has beauty, brains and a glowing personality to boot. Dating what could be a future wife can scare the living crap out of a guy. It forces the issue of whether he wants commitment anytime soon, or at all. So, unfortunately for this hot single girl, most of the guys she's dating aren't ready for this, so they feel forced to call it quits before it begins. They see the situation for what it is and bail wishing they could cross her path in fiveish years.

this is the core reason while points listed by the OP are factors under this core factor of " commitment" that seems to scare the sh*t out of most guys these days

Hahaha here's another one. Yesterday it was about ladies,today its about guys. maybe tomorrow it will be parents being the reason why ladies and guys are still single. OP who go marry,go marry.

nenergy:
We sabi una well well

When ladies say they want a mature man, they simple mean someone dundie enough to endure all their Bulls**t.

So if don't take sh*t, you're a kid

OK...let's start with u...

Matured mind won't think,it's all BS, unless ur a kid...

KashyBaby:
All true OP... but plz add more most men are stubborn like kids, think like kids and act like kids...

I know its only a female that will say such stupid thing you just said.... Hope your elder bro dey act like kid tooo

If I hear

godfrey01:
I know its only a female that will say such stupid thing you just said.... Hope your elder bro dey act like kid tooo

Simply bcoz u can't accept it that most men are nothing but juz kids like to roam around...and FYI I don't have "elder bro"...

donbenedict:
so wit ur big eyes u can't see us commenting ba?

Lol...Just leave my eyes out of this! I need to see more comments from different guys.

Exactly, most guys are so immature, men do not mature early that is even if the mature at all in their life time. Male role models such as the likes of davido and wiz kid who are nothing but juvenile deliquents and serial baby mamas with no sense of responsibility or maturation are known to go about having rampant se.x with multiple women and glorify their whorish behaviour aka male prostitutes. These are the people men emulate.

Likes of tu face who is seen as a major player in the music industry is the main culprit of infidelity and promiscuity among men, with his numerous bastard children being fathered by other men, and currently in a marriage where he is always associated with cheating and dishonour. It never ends.

Women these days are becoming more educated , enlightened and independent and do not need to belittle themselves and stoop so low to men that have no class or sense of responsibility which unfortunately make up 95% of the Nigerian male society.

On top of that black men especially Nigerians have little intelligence and big ego and that makes them unsupportive of their women, this means the man is continuously poor and the female friend/ wife is not allowed by the chauvinistic male partner to progress and this becomes a vicious cycle. Women decied to do without them and live happier lives with unlimited freedom to progress to greater height.

No Nigerian woman will settle for less, not stooping so low to an insure, immature infidel in the form of a man.

So increased singleness among women especially in Nigeria is as a result of extensive lack of husband materials in Nigeria, most of who are lazy, poor, cheats, and lack discipline.

KashyBaby:
OK...let's start with u...

Matured mind won't think,it's all BS, unless ur a kid...

Sure its not all BS. But when a lady feels most men are kids...well research has shown that she's usually full of BS

dollyjoy:
what surprises most is,a guy will know deep in his heart,that he is not ready for marriage due to financial probs or maybe not ready for commitment yet will keep leading a lady on,just to over stretch her body and dump her later.


What prevented the young men in the scenerio you gave above from dating at all since they are not ready for commitment.


Wicked species

Yea blame d guys d way APC is blaming GEJ, gals r saint n angels n we guys r wicked n devils. Keep it up

OP, lets assume you are right and guys are the reason why ladies are single, i missed the part where you explained how that is our problem?

donbenedict:
This is the very reason i'm always impressed with emusmith's posts... he is just the best..

You must be a matured guy. Pleasure meeting you

is only one dat make sense to me.. "Most guys r broke".. any oda tin na shit.

KashyBaby:
All true OP... but plz add more most men are stubborn like kids, think like kids and act like kids...

U can put the blame on me.....
but make una too stop aristoism and too much demands on the guyz...nor b dem born una

KashyBaby:
Simply bcoz u can't accept it that most men are nothing but juz kids like to roam around...and FYI I don't have "elder bro"...

Is there any female that does not roam around tooo.. Female have wired brain thats why they are indecisive... I wonder why that op said guys are indecisive... Its the female folk thats indecisive..... Just imagine a female telll me he don't know which one to choose among two guys....

Philpham:
Exactly, most guys are so immature, men do not mature early that is even if the mature at all in their life time. Male role models such as the likes of davido and wiz kid who are nothing but juvenile deliquents and serial baby mamas with no sense of responsibility or maturation are known to go about having rampant se.x with multiple women and glorify their whorish behaviour aka male prostitutes. These are the people men emulate.

Likes of tu face who is seen as a major player in the music industry is the main culprit of infidelity and promiscuity among men, with his numerous bastard children being fathered by other men, and currently in a marriage where he is always associated with cheating and dishonour. It never ends.

Women these days are becoming more educated , enlightened and independent and do not need to belittle themselves and stoop so low to men that have no class or sense of responsibility which unfortunately make up 95% of the Nigerian male society.

On top of that black men especially Nigerians have little intelligence and big ego and that makes them unsupportive of their women, this means the man is continuously poor and the female friend/ wife is not allowed by the chauvinistic male partner to progress and this becomes a vicious cycle. Women decied to do without them and live happier lives with unlimited freedom to progress to greater height.

No Nigerian woman will settle for less, not stooping so low to an insure, immature infidel in the form of a man.

So increased singleness among women especially in Nigeria is as a result of extensive lack of husband materials in Nigeria, most of who are lazy, poor, cheats, and lack discipline.

all this foul language just to prove a point? very mature of you sir...

nenergy:
Sure its not all BS. But when a lady feels most men are kids...well research has shown that she's usually full of BS

Who researched that? A kid, ryt? Unless u can support all ur allegations, feel free to drop those link... otherwise, u juz prove urself, ur one of them--- KIDS...