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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by krak101(m): 8:19pm On Apr 15, 2016

This topic is a 2-edged sword in that the guy can dump the girl after the going gets good and vice versa. I won't start arguing which sex does it the most but the logical thing I believe is to know where you stand in your partners life at every point in time. That way your losses can be reduced or averted. You can't be a friend with benefits and want to complain when the other friend moves on. Know your place... It's that simple

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Vongsama(m): 8:19pm On Apr 15, 2016

cherry007:
I suffered with you, u pay me back with evil.though very painful but won't retaliate, but sit up for more and better open doors that will amaze the guy whenever he manages to set his eye on me.

You've really earned my respect, not that it matter though but I must say, u sound really thoughtful and mature. Nice qualities.

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by gidimasters(m): 8:22pm On Apr 15, 2016

cherry007:
Can't do dat @gidimasters.

lol

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Nobody: 8:26pm On Apr 15, 2016

lol. the worst thing a woman can do to herself is invest her time, resources and all forms of encouragement on a man instead of herself, cos by time his money arrives, he will realise he was blind all the while, and go after his real specs of big batty or big boobs etc, at this point, your life is crushed because you focused on developing another human being instead of yourself.

seriously ladies, if you want relationship advice, don't ask or listen to a lady or a broke struggling guy, listen to the focused ones who have built/or building thier career.

suffer with a guy my foot!

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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by realtalk19: 8:27pm On Apr 15, 2016

karma is merciless .u cant eat your cake and have it.xcept for health reasons or some unavoidable situations e g AS-AS e.t.c which may dissolve the relationship its relly not fair to dump someone who u ar in a serious relationship wit nd made positive impact to your life even through thick and thin.be it male or female.

on the other hand somethings happen for a reason.sometimes God allow some people to come into our lives for a reason nd some disappointments ends up as blessings in disguise.u were probably destined to be part of dat persons life for a reason nd when that is achieved he or she moves on or suddenly behaves funny.

God sees the end from the beginning dats why we need him to guide our steps and ways.life itself is a risk xcept you are guided by the spirit, relationship these days is try your luck.

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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Ptoocool(m): 8:27pm On Apr 15, 2016

Óh, so na dis Shade dump Adekunle Gold,,

God don catch her,, grin

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by cherry007(f): 8:28pm On Apr 15, 2016

Thanks a lot @vongsama but that is me for you.life goes on while history last.

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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by phanshark(m): 8:32pm On Apr 15, 2016

Toks2008:
Ok lets take a look at this scenario..Shade meets Tunde,a struggling dude and she remains with him,loves him and remains faithful to him and latter fortune smiles on Tunde and he becomes rich and leaves shade to start an affair with another lady...

In the world of most ladies especially of Nigeria descend,Tunde is not just a heart breaker but an ungrateful guy.

ok pause ladies,get a glass of cold water,sit on your sofa and take a chill pill then answer these questions?

1.When shade was dating the struggling tunde,was she so sure he was going to be rich one day?
2.Was Shade doing Tunde a favour by dating him in his struggling times or was it because of mutual love?
3.Is there a guaranty that if shade dates a made dude,he won't also dump her.

In-fact many ladies now use these words"Of what use is loving and staying with a struggling guy when he is likely to dump you if he becomes rich? abeg i no fit suffer with any man o"

Please this is not a female bashing thread but a pragmatic approach to this anomalous mindset many ladies have.Now get this straight and tell your friends to tell their friends this fact.

"If you want to stay with a man please do regardless of his status and if you have a struggling guy as a bae and you see another made man you desire please dump his ass and go your way" You are not doing any struggling guy a favor by dating him and you are never compelled to stay with a struggling guy...every affair is a risk

And please get this guy's code straight from me....That you suffer with a guy in his trying times may earn you his respect,undying love and most likely earn you a ring but will not always earn you his 100% sexual faithfulness and this in most cases is what many ladies term as ungratefulness which is not only funny but awkward.

I hope this makes sense.

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by ZeeAfrica(f): 8:35pm On Apr 15, 2016

Which is y i always preach dat ladies shud just also pursue their own wealth and not date someone becoz of finance. date out of love. Shud he leave, u wil b heartbroken yes, but u will not loose much coz u wil still b able to afford de life u wer living before

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Nobody: 8:40pm On Apr 15, 2016

A lot of ladies cannot hook a rich man (because in so many cases he is juggling multiple women)... they can only offer free pu*ssy... a lot of rich guys are smart, they just f*uck and marry whoever they want.

daretodiffer:
We are still saying the same thing

What use is marrying a poor man that might leave you when he becomes rick and a rich man that might also leave you too?

Easy Peasy
Life is easy

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Meetmeat(m): 8:46pm On Apr 15, 2016

the only reason I can dump such lady is when while with me she is not loyal

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Toks2008(op): 8:46pm On Apr 15, 2016

FemiFaniKayode:
you are becoming an embarrassment and a nuisance.

Why don't you spend more time with ground breaking formulas and derivations that will make an impact/invention rather
than these pooh you spend time concocting

Dude you just messed yourself up big time.

You have no idea who i am or what i do for a living but giving yourself headache over what i do to unwind my brain is indeed unfortunate.

Please grab a life and sttop constituting nuisance here.

My mates go drinking,hanging out in bars and some are busy chasing skirts about but i chose freelancing as a passion.

Abeg grow up

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by skywalker240(m): 8:49pm On Apr 15, 2016

Toks2008:
Anytime you talk about a lady loving an upwardly mobile guy,the next lyrics you hear is that "what if he dumps her when he becomes rich" can you just beat that funny mindset?

The supprising thing about it is that it has eaten alot deeply into their brains...just immagine two freinds discussing, ....take 4 example.,

Juliet : hello sarah, ive been receiving some calls and text from alhaji dantata lately, he is asking my hand in marraige..but my faincee jude is good and lovely though we are still struggling. And i love him.

Sarah : abegii ma hear word,..wetin make u think say im no go leave you if he don get money,..abi u neva hear say NA WHEN MAN GET MONEY NA IM HE CHARACTER DEY SHOW?
Dump dat bums ass and marry dantata now dat its not too late oo becos if jude is succesfull today, he wont care about you.

What makes sarah thinks dantata who is rich wont dump juliet too?

seriously, its beyond me.

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Toks2008(op): 8:50pm On Apr 15, 2016

Genea:
later u will come back here and say we are gold diggers looking for a made man, cos d summary of all u write most times depicts the superiority of men... please take a chill pill and stop bashing ladies. instead of u to caution men u r here typing rubbish accepting the fact that it is right to dump a lady who brave all odds to date and help a struggling guy. if ladies don't date d broke guys u will bash, if dey do u will still bash... abeg pick a struggle and take a stand... don't be all over d place biko.

Unfortunately all you just wrote makes no sense...please make reasonable contribution or keep mum.

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Toks2008(op): 8:52pm On Apr 15, 2016

skywalker240:
The supprising thing about it is that it has eaten alot deeply into their brains...just immagine two freinds discussing, ....take 4 example.,

Juliet : hello sarah, ive been receiving some calls and text from alhaji dantata lately, he is asking my hand in marraige..but my faincee jude is good and lovely though we are still struggling. And i love him.

Sarah : abegii ma hear word,..wetin make u think say im no go leave you if he don get money,..abi u neva hear say NA WHEN MAN GET MONEY NA IM HE CHARACTER DEY SHOW?
Dump dat bums ass and marry dantata now dat its not too late oo becos if jude is succesfull today, he wont care about you.

What makes sarah thinks dantata who is rich wont dump juliet too?

seriously, its beyond me.

So so beyond me.

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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by deturla: 9:02pm On Apr 15, 2016

As controversial as i find the OP's post. I think it has a ting of sarcasm laced around it. This is not to put away his premise and conclusion to be an element of his conviction.

We have all misinterpreted the concept of love to surround material things and that is why issues like this keep coming up. Ladies have now grown so fond of material things and guys have grown to adore batty and boobs more than the real deal. Moreso that the chase for physicalities have now gone on the rise, thereby relegating the basic elements of true love to the second tier.

Bottomline is we should love based on our convictions, love truly but be careful. If eventually you are dumped, cry a little and move on. If a woman believes in marrying a rich guy so that the wealth she stands to benefit will serve as the cushion for heartbreak, BIKO, leave her to it, and if some other prefers dating the not so rich. Na their convictions.

It is either a win win or a lose lose now in our relationship lives, so OP free them!

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Sexina148(f): 9:14pm On Apr 15, 2016

i think these guy Toks just has a problem with ladies generally.. i smell a gender racist here..

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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Adaeze003(f): 9:16pm On Apr 15, 2016

Lol... but for starters, what does "struggling with a guy" mean biko? Like you put money together to start a business? Or just dating him with maybe occasional sex when he had no fan? grin

Humans and explanations... because you date a guy when he's poor, you suddenly feel you're entitled when he has money?

Date because you want to and frankly, if it's money you want, date people who are already wealthy. There's no big deal there.

If you want to date a guy and he's struggling, do so and don't keep it in mind that one day he'll get rich and you'll be set for life. Struggle your own too! Find your own hustle, get busy!!! If he makes money and walks out, fine! If he stays, fine!!! It's life, no one owes you nothing!!! **unless of course you're married**

Make yourself an asset, appreciate yourself, have fun! If you're in a situation to help someone and you want to, do so, encourage who needs encouragement but don't tie yourself and your happiness(plus future happiness sef) to some dude you ain't even related to... same goes for the guys...

And yes, I was screaming...

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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by 1miccza: 9:39pm On Apr 15, 2016

Smellymouth:
Love is a myth..

Bros na your mouth dey smell like this?

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Genea(f): 9:48pm On Apr 15, 2016

Toks2008:
Unfortunately all you just wrote makes no sense...please make reasonable contribution or keep mum.

if u can't comprehend wat I wrote, then u r not as smart as I tot u were. ....

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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Abbeyunique2(m): 10:06pm On Apr 15, 2016

Pheals:
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I disagree, i have a banker aunt that love gaari. i'm talking abt any time of the day, night even midnight. and she frosh die

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Toks2008(op): 10:18pm On Apr 15, 2016

Adaeze003:
Lol... but for starters, what does "struggling with a guy" mean biko? Like you put money together to start a business? Or just dating him with maybe occasional sex when he had no fan?

Humans and explanations... because you date a guy when he's poor, you suddenly feel you're entitled when he has money?

Date because you want to and frankly, if it's money you want, date people who are already wealthy. There's no big deal there.

If you want to date a guy and he's struggling, do so and don't keep it in mind that one day he'll get rich and you'll be set for life. Struggle your own too! Find your own hustle, get busy!!! If he makes money and walks out, fine! If he stays, fine!!! It's life, no one owes you nothing!!! **unless of course you're married**

Make yourself an asset, appreciate yourself, have fun! If you're in a situation to help someone and you want to, do so, encourage who needs encouragement but don't tie yourself and your happiness(plus future happiness sef) to some dude you ain't even related to... same goes for the guys...

And yes, I was screaming...

This is intelligence...not some pepper seller comments that make no sense.

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by butanep(m): 10:22pm On Apr 15, 2016

rubsaphy:
love is a folklore

Love is pure Scam

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Toks2008(op): 10:24pm On Apr 15, 2016

Sexina148:
i think these guy Toks just has a problem with ladies generally.. i smell a gender racist here..

Illetrate pepper seller comment.

Aunty please try make sense like your fellow ladies or face the telemudo you are watching.

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by somehowpenis(m): 10:25pm On Apr 15, 2016

delishpot:
If reverse was the case would you say the same thing? If they reject a guy because he is poor, you come here to cry foul and say they don't see potential. If they follow the one with money, you cry that they are gold diggers. If they hang with broke on who finally gets rich, you say it was a gamble and they should not expect any reward for staying with him when he was poor rather they should have worked on themselves. Na wetin dem go do wey boys no go cry foul?
If a woman does this same thing, una go rain abuses on her.

Nonsense

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by bravitudenatura(f): 10:45pm On Apr 15, 2016

Toks2008:
Dude you just messed yourself up big time.

You have no idea who i am or what i do for a living but giving yourself headache over what i do to unwind my brain is indeed unfortunate.

Please grab a life and sttop constituting nuisance here.

My mates go drinking,hanging out in bars and some are busy chasing skirts about but i chose freelancing as a passion.

Abeg grow up

Freelancing to belittle/shade/and put women down? Issorite Life has enough nuisances already.men have their choices,let women make theirs too! Everyone will learn from their own mistakes!

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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by vchykp(m): 10:46pm On Apr 15, 2016

daretodiffer:
We are still saying the same thing

What use is marrying a poor man that might leave you when he becomes rick and a rich man that might also leave you too?

Easy Peasy
Life is easy

Guys r somtyms funny, buh the truth is that 90% cause of dumping her is her fault..#believeME

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Sunglow: 10:47pm On Apr 15, 2016

blessedfavoured:
Once I open a thread and see toks2.008, the way I reverse ehn...
Ain't nobody got time for stupid rules

If a guy dumps you because he made money overnight, simply move on to the next. He's suffering from new money syndrome, what the Yoruba's call ojuorolari.
The type of person I won't be caught dating anyway.

And most times they fall into the wrong hands.

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Nobody: 10:53pm On Apr 15, 2016

Bia Barman, fire this my guy six bottles of Hero Lagger

Toks2008:
Ok lets take a look at this scenario..Shade meets Tunde,a struggling dude and she remains with him,loves him and remains faithful to him and latter fortune smiles on Tunde and he becomes rich and leaves shade to start an affair with another lady...

In the world of most ladies especially of Nigeria descend,Tunde is not just a heart breaker but an ungrateful guy.

ok pause ladies,get a glass of cold water,sit on your sofa and take a chill pill then answer these questions?

1.When shade was dating the struggling tunde,was she so sure he was going to be rich one day?
2.Was Shade doing Tunde a favour by dating him in his struggling times or was it because of mutual love?
3.Is there a guaranty that if shade dates a made dude,he won't also dump her.

In-fact many ladies now use these words"Of what use is loving and staying with a struggling guy when he is likely to dump you if he becomes rich? abeg i no fit suffer with any man o"

Please this is not a female bashing thread but a pragmatic approach to this anomalous mindset many ladies have.Now get this straight and tell your friends to tell their friends this fact.

"If you want to stay with a man please do regardless of his status and if you have a struggling guy as a bae and you see another made man you desire please dump his ass and go your way" You are not doing any struggling guy a favor by dating him and you are never compelled to stay with a struggling guy...every affair is a risk

And please get this guy's code straight from me....That you suffer with a guy in his trying times may earn you his respect,undying love and most likely earn you a ring but will not always earn you his 100% sexual faithfulness and this in most cases is what many ladies term as ungratefulness which is not only funny but awkward.

I hope this makes sense.

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by vchykp(m): 10:54pm On Apr 15, 2016

We should not forget that their is a tick difference btw dating and marriage, dier are somethings a man can take in relationship that he can't take in marriage, so if he dumped her, probably she does not fit in because of one of her bad character.. #iRESTmyCASE

Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by SexyStrawberry(f): 11:06pm On Apr 15, 2016

delishpot:
If reverse was the case would you say the same thing? If they reject a guy because he is poor, you come here to cry foul and say they don't see potential. If they follow the one with money, you cry that they are gold diggers. If they hang with broke on who finally gets rich, you say it was a gamble and they should not expect any reward for staying with him when he was poor rather they should have worked on themselves. Na wetin dem go do wey boys no go cry foul?
If a woman does this same thing, una go rain abuses on her.

I tire o! everything seems to be the woman's fault!

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Re: When You Suffer With A Man And He latter Dumps You When He Becomes Rich. by Nobody: 11:34pm On Apr 15, 2016

A lady dates a rich guy and something goes wrong, he becomes poor,she leaves him and tells him that she can't suffer again.
When a guy is struggling in life and he meets a lady,they get aquatinted and the lady helps out in one way or the other.You know ladies and their bad mouth,they insult the guy and harass him even when they want to give him some helping money or they use their money for upkeep of the home maybe food and some small bills.They guy tolerates all the shit and keeps quiet.Then suddenly things get better and the guy starts living big.whats the tendency that the guy will not remember all the insults and embarrassments that the lady gave to him when he didn't have.Whats the tendency that the guy will not opt out considering the treatment he got when it was bad?And when it happens,the story is "After struggling with him,he used me and dumped me" and you forgot all the insults you were giving him when helping him out like "You are lazy,Your mates are out there struggling,That man with the Range Rover Envogue is your mate"

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