Olarewajub:
Hey Introverts! Lets try and share daily challenges as an introvert and possible way to overcome such problems.

Tirexy:
Hey buddies, I seem to be in the same party with you all.

Sard:
The thread is dying already. Let's share opinions views and challenges. We need to keep a rare thread like this alive.

Tirexy:
Hey buddies, I seem to be in the same party with you all.

pappyrose:


I think age and experience play a serious role in this. Another thing that I think contributed to mine was that people started insulting me for never taking anything serious. I made joke out of every issue either serious or trivial issues, I had to start learning how to 'couple'. I only catch fun with my inner caucus but when I'm in d midst of unfamiliar people, I play very safe cos I don't want to be embarrassed.

benELOHIM7:
You guys are hell of egocentrics. All I see is I, I and I.
my mum, some days ago said that she could count the number of words that I spoke daily. I am an extreme introvert. For 2months I have been indoors save for yesterday that I was forced to get groceries for myself down the street because my siblings were not around.
I wear glasses which makes my case worse as you'd readily take me for a psycho at first approach.

Olarewajub:
Hey! How do you guys handle eye contact? In today's world, one is expected to maintain eye contact when being talked to and this may seem to be a demanding task for introverts . For the guys, most ladies will see you to be weak if you are unable to maintain eye contact with them . How do you guys go about this?

whitecloth:

I will like to know you.

Well, introversion isn't cool as it can limit one's potential if not carefully managed.

I am one naturally gifted singer with above average sonorous voice... I mostly listen to boy2men and fine tunned my style to theirs.

But for years I battled with my in ability to sing at gathering and thereby almost letting the talent waste.

I know how many times people have commended my singing or voice when I sing alone o. At NYSC sef one dude would ask me to just sing so he could hear.

During later years at school, I told myself that I have to sing even if it's once. It got to that day and I reluctantly worked to my school fellowship president/pastor, almost to the end of the program. My pastor wasn't happy because he felt I didn't inform him... The guy start dey speak in tongues while I smiled and almost denied me of that opportunity but the head, who was and still is my very close friend and pal told him to let me sing.

I introduced myself and the title of the song... A gospel song.

Funny enough na Acapella I wan sing o. Who go back me up. I nor even care.

As God would have it, the 2 people behind me knew the chorus.

And so... Na so I start o.

Silence engulf the room while I processed the first 3 words in the first versed. I looked at the pastor that was warning me and even gave me one minute lol. Cold enter everybody body for inside that hall that day.

i relate to this completely. and how many times were you told "why you dey hide yourself". Where the thing come scatter my head na as e reach chorus... The 3 of us took it in unison and with the other dude taken Baritone. Damn!

na so I vex...

Finish work...

Church scatter that day... See clapp. na me be this?

My other pastor who knew me right from when we started school cos we were first neighbours and then roommates till we graduated... Was just nodding his head like when you say "yes"

just try to avoid that useless voice that creeps in when you need to face certain new faces, crowd etc. In fact, do the very opposite of what it tell you to do and gradually, it will die a natural death.

Well, introversion isn't cool as it can limit one's potential if not carefully managed.

I am one naturally gifted singer with above average sonorous voice... I mostly listen to boy2men and fine tunned my style to theirs.

But for years I battled with my in ability to sing at gathering and thereby almost letting the talent waste.

I know how many times people have commended my singing or voice when I sing alone o. At NYSC sef one dude would ask me to just sing so he could hear.

During later years at school, I told myself that I have to sing even if it's once. It got to that day and I reluctantly worked to my school fellowship president/pastor, almost to the end of the program. My pastor wasn't happy because he felt I didn't inform him... The guy start dey speak in tongues while I smiled and almost denied me of that opportunity but the head, who was and still is my very close friend and pal told him to let me sing.

I introduced myself and the title of the song... A gospel song.

Funny enough na Acapella I wan sing o. Who go back me up. I nor even care.

As God would have it, the 2 people behind me knew the chorus.

And so... Na so I start o.

Silence engulf the room while I processed the first 3 words in the first versed. I looked at the pastor that was warning me and even gave me one minute lol. Cold enter everybody body for inside that hall that day.

i relate to this completely. and how many times were you told "why you dey hide yourself". Where the thing come scatter my head na as e reach chorus... The 3 of us took it in unison and with the other dude taken Baritone. Damn!

na so I vex...

Finish work...

Church scatter that day... See clapp. na me be this?

My other pastor who knew me right from when we started school cos we were first neighbours and then roommates till we graduated... Was just nodding his head like when you say "yes"

just try to avoid that useless voice that creeps in when you need to face certain new faces, crowd etc. In fact, do the very opposite of what it tell you to do and gradually, it will die a natural death.

1b8m:
well, lets give it a try. i am Ben-elohim

whitecloth:

What a awesome biblical name you have there, am henry by name from Ondo state.

1b8m:
thank you henry. i am promise from ph

whitecloth:

OK, am a graduate, a physicist by profession, just finish serving in Anambra.
You?

Olarewajub:
@ Bidexluv

Sorry about your friendship that just ended with your friend. The truth is most people have little knowledge about introversion so they see introverts as people with some sort of psychological defect . Two people in a relationship are suppose to understand each others personality. I know you might be asking yourself how you are going to be close friends with somebody else, my advice for you is to be patient, you deserve to be with somebody that understand and appreciate your personality . Trust me, someday you're going to meet that friend you crave for.

No, your personal relationship with other people will not completely determine how your
relationship with future husband will be like but very important. What you need to do is to start relating with other people around you even though it will definitely be exhausting. .



On your second question, just try and raise your voice a little higher although the pitch of your voice may sound weird. Also, try waving your hands to the people your are greeting whilst smiling. Try to strike brief conversation with your neighbors when you have the opportunity. You gotta come out of your comfort zone.

About the smokers just try and greet them like "bros ona good afternoon" to show you acknowledge them . To me, greeting is overrated in this part of the world and should not be the only basis for showing respect. As advised, don't take their threat with levity.

Olarewajub:
Hey! How do you guys handle eye contact? In today's world, one is expected to maintain eye contact when being talked to and this may seem to be a demanding task for introverts . For the guys, most ladies will see you to be weak if you are unable to maintain eye contact with them . How do you guys go about this?

Tirexy:
Hey buddies, I seem to be in the same party with you all.

1b8m:
i studied chemical/petrochemical engineering. awaiting service

whitecloth:

Am nearly 6 feet tall, dark and slender, I love reading especially books in the line of Dan brown, but these day I hardly read, I use much of my time researching on agriculture and the way forward, myself is going for a training, my passion for agric is growing day by day.

Myhonor:
I used to admire introverts and I dated one but d problem with him is dat he is just too plain.. Sometimes he gets angry for no reason and just wants to be alone... I asked him if I got pregnant for him wat was he gonna do.. But he said he was gonna deny it since we're both students... anytime am very angry wen we're talking on phone, all he does is keep quiet while I talk den I'll ask if he is still there and his response will be yes or OK...he loves sleeping alot.. Loves reading novels.. he is also intelligent.. Prefare being indoors... ppl mistake him for a snub but he isn't.. he told him am expecting too much from him dat he is scared of disappointing me.. asked him if he has future plans for me he said he hasn't tot about such things b4...m thinking of breaking up with him bcus I feel he isn't ready to be in a relationship.. . I know he loves me and I love him too but he is just weird sometimes

bukiii:
uhm nice thread am here to meet my fellow introvert,guess what my own is extreme sometimes I get tired of myself.I have stayed at home for more than two months without making contact with friends.some people see me as saddist,being proud.I only talk when am with close friends and relatives.