Sard:
My Brother, I am here to give you the good news..
You are a certified introvert!

Welcome to the club.

thank you. Do I at least get a bottle of coke?

ayokunlei:

My prof .

prof keh. I remain humble, boss.

Knetpro:

thank you. Do I at least get a bottle of coke?

lmao.

Knetpro:

thank you. Do I at least get a bottle of coke?

You're getting something better. ...Orijin dey.

So sorry o!,didn't see any indication.thanks once again sis

Melsan:
Ma not sir

Melsan:
Ma not sir

OK o!Ema binu pupo, adupe gidigan .ojo wo ni ti yn gan?

gidjah:
OK o!Ema binu pupo, adupe gidigan .ojo wo ni ti yn gan?

o ti koja..o tun di otun to nbo

gidjah:
So sorry o!,didn't see any indication.thanks once again sis

Melsan:
o ti koja..o tun di otun to nbo

OK, try KO ran mi leti,nma ran ti e big time ,jeki emi pm lati GBA number e

gidjah:
OK, try KO ran mi leti,nma ran ti e big time ,jeki emi pm lati GBA number e

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Melsan:

gidjah:
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Rukkydelta:

I guess you're the kind of guy that stays indoor at times people won't know if you're around or not, won't contribute to a discussion but will download everything been said in a discuss into is brain, just say hi and walk pass his neighbours, kind of shy around the opposite sex, when their's no electricity and a book to read he gets kind of bored
Correct if me I'm wrong in any of the above

A very good description of ME

RICKYMARIO:
A very good description of ME

lol....We introverts are specially wired

My 3 gr8test challenges have been:stage fright, keping eye contact and initiating & maintaining conversations + other minor ones.
As for the stage fright i tried overcoming it by joining the choir{since i could sing} even when in the choir, i tried to hide @ the back, until the day i was to take my first ever responsorial psalm{singing the psalm on the altar infront of the whole congregation} i found out that facing the croud was no big deal{no body is going to eat you up}
As introverts, we have very unique talents,if only we could discover them, then we will be able to apprciate the more our true nature.

Rukkydelta:
lol....We introverts are specially wired

As in ehn... so so connected

pls can u send me the link for quiet by susan

RICKYMARIO:
pls can u send me the link for quiet by susan

www.google.com.ng/search?q=quiet+by+susan+cain+free+pdf+download+&client=ms-opera-mini-android&channel=new&gws_rd=cr&ei=3zwnV_yWOMHUaZ3rmKgK

Olarewajub:


www.google.com.ng/search?q=quiet+by+susan+cain+free+pdf+download+&client=ms-opera-mini-android&channel=new&gws_rd=cr&ei=3zwnV_yWOMHUaZ3rmKgK

thanks

Hi

JeffreyJamez:
Hi

Hello, how are you doing today?

J0nyb0y:

Hello, how are you doing today?

Fine.. and you?

After going through all the posts on this thread, I have realized that an introvert

I work in a grocery store as a cashier and I can talk with total strangers comfortably

I don’t think am a shy person since I can start a conversation with anybody male or female that comes through my checkout register, the only problem I have is how do I maintain the conversation for a long time because most times I run out of things to say

I think I’m a bit boring since I don’t participate in small talk and gossips. But the truth is I love to interact with people and make contributions, but I get tongue tied. My manager once complained that I am too quiet. Since then sometimes I leave my register and go to my coworker register to gist and laugh before going back to my register. I really envy my extroverted coworkers. Whenever I see my extroverted coworkers talking for so long I'm always thinking what could they be probably talking about? I also noticed that whenever I participate in small talk and gossips is always difficult for me to keep up because most times I run out of things to say

My coworkers also like me because I always happy and hardly get angry. They say I smile almost every time. But I also wish I can be able to develop a personal relationship with them instead of Hi and hello

Even when i go to church even though I would love to stay back and chat. Most times when the service is over I just greet a few people and leave. I hardly participate in small talk after service since is always difficult for me to keep up because most times I run out of things to say

I do take pictures but I don’t like to upload them on social media. Can you believe that since I created my facebook account I only have one picture on my profile.

I hardly call people just to ask how they are doing except something reasonable happens which makes me to call. My former girlfriend used to complain that I hardly call her but I normally brush it off. But other people have said same thing.

I have also noticed that I maintain a better relationship with girls I see maybe once or twice a week instead of everyday. When I see a girl everyday most times I run out of things to say but if I see her maybe once or twice a week I always have something to say and she will be the one begging me to stop talking.

It has been nearly four years since I had a girlfriend. Back in Secondary School I was always in a relationship. I remember dating three different girls in three different campuses at same time before my game was blown. Immediately after that I asked my senior to be my girlfriend and she said yes. She was older than me as She was in SS3 and I was in SS2. We continued dating until I left the country to further my studies. Somehow we reconnected through facebook and she asked for my picture and even sent her number to my inbox and asked me to call her. I have neither called her or sent my picture to her since then.

My friends tend to believe that I’m not an introvert when it comes to girls. They argue that introverts are shy around girls and generally lack the morale to approach girls. But my case is different. Because I come across girls of different shapes and sizes while working as a cashier is easy for me to start up a conversation with most of them. I usually complement their hair style and sometimes their glasses and gauge their responses. If there is a sexual vibe I normally go for the kill and tell them the look pretty/beautiful and have a nice ass/booty. If possible I ask for their numbers and sometimes they give it to me and sometimes they don’t.

I also don’t have any problem starting a conversation with a girl at the bus stop. I normally start off by asking what is the time and then go from there. My friends tend to believe that as an introvert I should find it difficult to start a conversion.

What I hate most is rejection. Especially after getting a girls numbers and after texting back and forth and you ask her out for lunch together and she says she has a boyfriend and she is sorry for creating a wrong impression. This explains the reason why I don’t want to ask my fellow coworker OR church member out because if she says no it creates awkwardness so you are forced to either quit the job or quit coming to work.

My friends might argue that I go after extremely beautiful girls most of whom they consider above my league maybe that is the reason I get turned down. They argue that I should start from maybe the average girls and then walk my way up. But the truth is that the ones that have shown interest in me either have a baby already or they are just average when it comes to beauty. I have dated very beautiful girls back home so is difficult for me to go after the not so beautiful ones.

Whenever my friends develop blue balls most times they hire an escort or go the club and pick up a girl. But for me I find it difficult to do. I always prefer to have sex with girls that I have an emotional connection with. I don’t really fancy the idea of sex in exchange for money. On two occasions I had the opportunity of sleeping with escorts after agreeing on the price I opted out on the last minute.

QUESTIONS
I really want to change my introvert nature and be able to improve my social interaction. I want to be able to talk to a person, and keep on talking, not just stop talking awkwardly when i have nothing to say. Is there any introvert in the house who has been able to overcome problem of maintaining conversation for long? It will be nice if you share how you were able to overcome this particular problem

I really want to be able to start dating again. I want to be able to develop a huge sense of humor and make people laugh especially when it comes to dealing with ladies. This month will make me 22 years old and am getting worried. Is there any introvert in the house who is currently in a relationship? Where did you meet your soul mate? How did you ask her out? Please remember I have a policy of not asking my coworkers and church members out. At this point I can’t afford to sacrifice my job or church just because of a girl

For Introverts in the house who are already in a relationship did you ask your girlfriend out or did you wait for her to signal some green light? I normally prefer to take the bull by the horn and ask her out instead of waiting till eternity. If she says no I can deal with the rejection since I don’t get to see her everyday
Also when a girl starts asking you what you are doing for the weekend does it mean she is interested in you?

And also I have girls asking me if I have kids and if I am in a relationship what is the best way to answer such questions and does it mean they are also interested in me? Being in a new culture everything seems so new and strange to me and am still trying to get my head around being in a relationship

Also for Introverts in the house who are not in a relationship how do you deal with blue balls. Do you just masturbate just to get rid of the sperm or you do you just hire an escort or go the club and pick up a girl to sleep with without any form of emotional connection.

LUCAS99:

Also for Introverts in the house who are not in a relationship how do you deal with blue balls. Do you just masturbate just to get rid of the sperm or you do you just hire an escort or go the club and pick up a girl to sleep with without any form of emotional connection.

First I don't know what you mean by blue balls o, but when it cones to having sexual urge as guy I think its normal, it reminds you that that thing is still functioning, but expulsion of the sperm, ah! that one I don't know o, I stay away from such friends and also bury myself in books, or come to NL to play, some post use to take ones mind from worrying, you Dont need to pick any girl in club either as you'll be guilty the next day.

Liamm:
I can easily start a conversation but maintaining it would be a heck of a job.

Same here,it's just that sometimes as an introvert,i crave a bit of outdoor fun....

I finally found my niche, I can relate with what everyone here has said.

I don't knw ow the timidity started but I knew I use to be a very playful and outgoing child but somewhere btw prepuberty and adulthood the shyness started, it got worse at some point but I think have been able to overcome some of it.

I have no qualms facing a crowd, answering questions in public (thanks to fellowship and medical sch. Training)
I have no prob. Meeting new people and striking conversatn With them it is the follow-up that's somewhat diff. And keeping in touch with old friends

hi

Happy Sunday

Long time.

Pls I really need an advice on these things
1. I have actually let go of a 3 year friendship as it seems to be that my friend never knew I am. Like never fully understand who I am and it is so painful so I decided to end the friendship though she is a good person in her heart. Someone told me that my personal relationship with people will determine how my relationship with future husband will be. How true?

2. I don't know anyone where I live as I am always indoor or not at home. I do greet but bin someone who is an introvert my voice is so low that they won't hear. that's actually the beginning of my troubles.
Anytime I go out or come in, I will be abused and be called names by people who are younger than I am but I never allowed that to get to me because my time is limited in the house. But today, as I walked into the compound, so guys who smoke alot started saying that they hate me and have plan for me.
I have bin shaking since I heard this.
Note: I don't know their names, faces and I have never insult anyone.

Good to be here .

Bidexluv:
hi
Someone told me that my personal relationship with people will determine how my relationship with future husband will be. How true?

your personal relationship with people might not determine your relationship with your future husband 100%,but it does help, in nurturing you for future expectations. I have also had to let go of a 5years old friendship for reason I can't even explain. I missed her, and wish her all the best. Life goes on.

2. I can totally relate to the part where you greet, and you are not been heard. In my case, I would go in and say 'Good Morning' to myself in the same tone I greeted whomever. I found a solution by raising my voice a lil higher so that when I am greeting Mr A, Mr D would hear and also respond

I have found out that the best way to be an introvert and not portray pride to the outside world is to Do as a Roman, in Rome. See, I can be in the house for 30days without my neighbors knowing. mine is so bad that with or without electricity, books or anything to interest me, I am fine. Just stock my kitchen Lobatan. But I noticed people were beginning to assume I am proud. So what I do is once in a while, I come outside whenever I am home, I throw one or two 'ah' and 'eh' in their general discussion, play with their kids but never step into their flats and quietly leave.

For the smoky guys, I would advise you make a report either to your landlord or the police. No threat is no be taken with levity .

Zidjay:
your personal relationship with people might not determine your relationship with your future husband 100%,but it does help, in nurturing you for future expectations. I have also had to let go of a 5years old friendship for reason I can't even explain. I missed her, and wish her all the best. Life goes on.

2. I can totally relate to the part where you greet, and you are not been heard. In my case, I would go in and say 'Good Morning' to myself in the same tone I greeted whomever. I found a solution by raising my voice a lil higher so that when I am greeting Mr A, Mr D would hear and also respond

I have found out that the best way to be an introvert and not portray pride to the outside world is to Do as a Roman, in Rome. See, I can be in the house for 30days without my neighbors knowing. mine is so bad that with or without electricity, books or anything to interest me, I am fine. Just stock my kitchen Lobatan. But I noticed people were beginning to assume I am proud. So what I do is once in a while, I come outside whenever I am home, I throw one or two 'ah' and 'eh' in their general discussion, play with their kids but never step into their flats and quietly leave.

For the smoky guys, I would advise you make a report either to your landlord or the police. No threat is no be taken with levity .

thanks

@ Bidexluv

Sorry about your friendship that just ended with your friend. The truth is most people have little knowledge about introversion so they see introverts as people with some sort of psychological defect . Two people in a relationship are suppose to understand each others personality. I know you might be asking yourself how you are going to be close friends with somebody else, my advice for you is to be patient, you deserve to be with somebody that understand and appreciate your personality . Trust me, someday you're going to meet that friend you crave for.

No, your personal relationship with other people will not completely determine how your
relationship with future husband will be like but very important. What you need to do is to start relating with other people around you even though it will definitely be exhausting. .



On your second question, just try and raise your voice a little higher although the pitch of your voice may sound weird. Also, try waving your hands to the people your are greeting whilst smiling. Try to strike brief conversation with your neighbors when you have the opportunity. You gotta come out of your comfort zone.

About the smokers just try and greet them like "bros ona good afternoon" to show you acknowledge them . To me, greeting is overrated in this part of the world and should not be the only basis for showing respect. As advised, don't take their threat with levity.