Olarewajub:


I've been making conscious efforts to eradicate any iota of shyness from my personality.
I'm currently a Sunday School teacher (really benefited from this dept, still praying for God to help me ).

Current challenges :
Initiating a convo with both sexes.
Keeping contact among others

Wow! Derz no doubt abt dat. U'll surely benefit from being a Sunday school teacher.

Initiating a convo is abit easy if u start with greeting...e.g Hi/Hello.. I am bla bla.. what's ur name(wit a smile)?? Maintaining d convo is d major ish!

Abt keeping contact, I recently started dat. Infact almost all of my frnds knw nothing bout me nd I knw a whole lot bout dem.. I observe nd listen(common wit introverts I guess). Now I kinda dnt giv a sh*t And some re already saying I abandon dem.

Maybe u can text dem instead of calling/talking as a means of keeping in touch. Dat way.. u can type comfortably.

DharmyYinks:

Wow! Derz no doubt abt dat. U'll surely benefit from being a Sunday school teacher.

Initiating a convo is abit easy if u start with greeting...e.g Hi/Hello.. I am bla bla.. what's ur name(wit a smile)?? Maintaining d convo is d major ish!

Abt keeping contact, I recently started dat. Infact almost all of my frnds knw nothing bout me nd I knw a whole lot bout dem.. I observe nd listen(common wit introverts I guess). Now I kinda dnt giv a sh*t And some re already saying I abandon dem.

Maybe u can text dem instead of calling/talking as a means of keeping in touch. Dat way.. u can type comfortably.

Unilorite abi?

DharmyYinks:

Wow! Derz no doubt abt dat. U'll surely benefit from being a Sunday school teacher.

Initiating a convo is abit easy if u start with greeting...e.g Hi/Hello.. I am bla bla.. what's ur name(wit a smile)?? Maintaining d convo is d major ish!

Abt keeping contact, I recently started dat. Infact almost all of my frnds knw nothing bout me nd I knw a whole lot bout dem.. I observe nd listen(common wit introverts I guess). Now I kinda dnt giv a sh*t And some re already saying I abandon dem.

Maybe u can text dem instead of calling/talking as a means of keeping in touch. Dat way.. u can type comfortably.

Unilorite abi?

Olarewajub:




Do you answer questions willingly in public gatherings?

No,I don't.I'm kind of reserve when I'm in public but when I'm with friends I'm a chatter box

Allina:
No,I don't.I'm kind of reserve when I'm in public but when I'm with friends I'm a chatter box

Would you love to answer questions in public gatherings?

Olarewajub:


Would you love to answer questions in public gatherings?

yes if I'm very sure my answers are correct

ayokunlei:

Unilorite abi?

No.. Not yet a Unilorite. But dis year sha

Olarewajub:
#IntrovertFact.
Majority of introverts have hard time uploading their pics on social network.

GOD bless you! ...lolz

Olarewajub:
#IntrovertFact.
Majority of introverts have hard time uploading their pics on social network.

it is very rare, I mean very rare for me to upload myself as my dp, even if I don't have anything to put there, I'll use a plain white colour.

Thank God I found this thread. To think that snooping on some guy's profile got me here... hehe

OK... I can relate to most - but not all - of what's been said. I am terribly shy. I don't take pictures. I tell myself it's because I don't like the idea of having to pose; to be still in front of someone holding a camera. Photos of me are mostly 'captured stolen.' The other times when I have to look in the camera, the sheepish smile is sure to not be missing. I am supersensitive, my friends say I "jump into conclusions" but in the end I am almost always right. I can be very chatty online especially with people I know, but offline? uh-uh, but when push comes to shove and I try to start a convo with someone, I end up making a gaffe, most times it's a 'stab to English's neck.' I hate this!

When I walk, I feel all eyes are on me. I can be indoors for a whole month, especially if I have electricity supplied. And most people on here say they smile a lot? I don't think I do that o ...lolz. My default look is scary! Folks mistake this to mean that I'm snobbish. A course mate once needed my help, she had to go through an older mutual friend outside of the department. He said she had said she couldn't approach me cos she thought I might have shunned her. Today, she's the closest female friend I've ever had.

Also, when someone thinks he's a friend, I try not to make them feel otherwise and I end up making myself uncomfortable (I always do this)

I don't like talkative people very much, and I'm not talkative myself but I'm sorry for this... epistle, I get this expressive only in the cloud. I'm happy to relate.

PS. How many of you are perfectionists? Hehe... I am one

DharmyYinks:

Wow! Derz no doubt abt dat. U'll surely benefit from being a Sunday school teacher.

Initiating a convo is abit easy if u start with greeting...e.g Hi/Hello.. I am bla bla.. what's ur name(wit a smile)?? Maintaining d convo is d major ish!

Abt keeping contact, I recently started dat. Infact almost all of my frnds knw nothing bout me nd I knw a whole lot bout dem.. I observe nd listen(common wit introverts I guess). Now I kinda dnt giv a sh*t And some re already saying I abandon dem.

Maybe u can text dem instead of calling/talking as a means of keeping in touch. Dat way.. u can type comfortably.

I hardly call people! I prefer texting/chatting with them. Back then in school, when on hols, I hardly made calls or even texted colleagues; not because I didn't care or didn't want to know how they fared, I just... didn't always call. Of course I was accused, cos they called. There are just some things I do and don't have explanations for, not reprehensible ones at least.

Hi guys,just stumbled on this thread and loving it already

my case worst, i can fight the introvert aspect buh my stammerer killed everything, i look older than my age, am 18 yrs old buh even u op won't believe me, i have side beards, i look 26 yrs old, when someone sees me he will say this old man wants me to start a convention? If he can't then he should be ashame of himself, i look sick buh am not sick, is just my statute, i applied bleaching cream when i was 15, because i was too ugly and look sick, buh the chemist that sold me the cream, didn't tell me anything else, i asked any repercussion "NO" i was only 15, i knew nothing about it, i just heard about it, i bought it and started using it, while a months, it started showing, 2 months, i became fair, 3rd months omo see white, i throw it away changed cream, started applying vaseline, 1yr after, i changed up to 4 creams boils, rashes showed up in my face, i became a laughing stock, my friends avoided me, i went bk to the chemist, told him, sir i want to treat my face, he just gave me anyhow creams, buh it didn't work, parents warned their children to avoid me, i was laughed at, so four months after my mom pited me and took me to another chemist she gave me skineal cream and yellow small drugs like that, my face cleared after i had took the drug and applied the skin, i told my dad can we relocate to a new environment, he said no i was traumatized, my character changed, i stop greeting people because i think it doesn't change their opinion about u, now i look handsome with sign beards everybody expects me to be friends with them, especially girls, these were the girls that made me a laughing stock, everybody in umuahia knows am that guy that suffered from rashes and boils, am an introvert, i like staying alone buh hate staying alone too much, my co called church is like hell in earth for me, the leaders used me to preach even in my presence, i stopped attending the church, nowadays i don't greet anyhow, i greet people i like,

Signing in

for me, i'm a shy and geeky introvert. I'm always reserved and quiet when am around people i don't know much (for fear of judging my opinions?) but am quite a loud mouth around my closest friends.

i thinki i've improved on that a bit, but am working overcoming stage-fright. I was appointed by my coursemate to present our assignment project last month (i did all the web design work anyway). A week before the presentation date, i kept on thinking on how to face the crowd, what if i fall on stage, what if i don't use the right tenses or even stammer the all time?

on the day of the presentation, when i was connecting my laptop with the projector, a tiny wire got hung on my sleeve and while walking to the screen, it dragged some books/papers down, causing a loud noise in the lab and the damn wire dragged me back a bit almost making me stumble i saw different versions of laughs dat day including my lecturer, i felt like the floor should open; maybe they noticed me nervous thats why they laughed hard or did they? LOL. i just smiled and carried on with the presentation. While doing that, i noticed everyone was interested and really looking forward to what i'll say next, this encouraged me and i didn't even notice when i was 20mins gone.

It was really a good experience anyway, and my group scored the highest in that assignment still looking forward to other opportuinities to approach a full crowd (would be presenting my new CGPA Mangement System software to the entire faculty; the full house!)

sorry for the long epistle, how do you guys overcome stage-fright?

I am a good listener, not dependent on people, focused, easy to please and very observant. But I am super shy, always indoor. Find it hard to express myself and dis affects me most when I go for any interview. My conversations are always shallow ,I have few friends and prefer to do my things alone .

This page is quite a good read, introverts may just have a unique burden as it pertains to communication and intimacy. To counter this,Confidence and a bit of brashness, it has helped me to an extent.

Gud evening all. Pls as an introvert, how do you overcome low self esteem and learn to express yourself more among people?

I can relate with you.. It affected me alot while in school especially during exams.. oral exams to be precise. So far ive been reading books and doing other stuff..

baliqisb:
I am a good listener, not dependent on people, focused, easy to please and very observant. But I am super shy, always indoor. Find it hard to express myself and dis affects me most when I go for any interview. My conversations are always shallow ,I have few friends and prefer to do my things alone .

So we have a thread like this on NL Choi!!!
I am an introvert just like most people here, but I have been improving how I relate with people.
I attend parties now..
I can chat or hold conversation with people I know for hours.
I can answer questions in the public, though I gaffe sometimes.
.....but
I hardly keep contact with friends or family; even I rarely open chat with anybody on WhatsApp, BBM etc.

smallmufta:
Gud evening all. Pls as an introvert, how do you overcome low self esteem and learn to express yourself more among people?

Hi Smallmufta,
To overcome low self esteem, you need to understand why your self esteem is pretty low; maybe you feel you are short, ugly, dull etc.
Try to find solution (if it's something you can change) but if not, you just have positive self-image by considering some of the good things about you that others rarely have.
There are other things you can also do.

Olarewajub:
Must watch
www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4

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Hmmmm introvert melancholy,I am almost what all are saying about been very inwards, but I thank heavens today...I have grown all up, I can speak in the public(in fact, I am into public speaking as a profession now),I am a teacher by profession, and counselor, a minister and an entrepreneur. The hrry areas are very few, I talk when it is very necessary and educational, I still detest crowdy environment, I mostly enjoy quiet moment and solitary times.For instance I just returned from the office now and need to be alone,my family went for summer since march and yet to be back,guess!!!i am enjoying been alone !just reading ,singing ,listening to songs and watching videos .That's me.But been that I am a counselor, people like me a lot,they all wanna be around me,but for where, I love been alone o!.Then the biggest one is this....People live taking my softness and kindness for granted!!!!they cheat me, deceive me and bla bla bla !!!they know I won't raise voice, but will rather let it be and peace reign. That's the most annoying aspect of BEEN AN INTROVERT!!BUT GOD GO HELP US ALL.the best part of been an introvert is that;if you are brilliant and intelligent,you will know about lots of people,you will know their weakness es but they might know ishhh about you !!

opylas:
Thank God I found this thread. To think that snooping on some guy's profile got me here... hehe

OK... I can relate with most - but not all - of what's been said. I am terribly shy. I don't take pictures. I tell myself it's because I don't like the idea of having to pose; to be still in front of someone holding a camera. Photos of me are mostly 'captured stolen.' The other times when I have to look in the camera, the sheepish smile is sure to not be missing. I am supersensitive, my friends say I "jump into conclusions" but in the end I am almost always right. I can be very chatty online especially with people I know, but offline? uh-uh, but when push comes to shove and I try to start a convo with someone, I end up making a gaffe, most times it's a 'stab to English's neck.' I hate this!

When I walk, I feel all eyes are on me. I can be indoors for a whole month, especially if I have electricity supplied. And most people on here say they smile a lot? I don't think I do that o ...lolz. My default look is scary! Folks mistake this to mean that I'm snobbish. A course mate once needed my help, she had to go through an older mutual friend outside of the department. He said she had said she couldn't approach me cos she thought I might have shunned her. Today, she's the closest female friend I've ever had. When someone thinks he's a friend, I try not to make them feel otherwise and I end up making myself uncomfortable (I always do this)

I don't like talkative people very much, and I'm not talkative myself but I'm sorry for this... epistle, I get this expressive only in the cloud. I'm happy to relate.

PS. How many of you are perfectionists? hehe

hi,
LOL @ "my default look is scary."

Why do I have the feeling that It's my profile you snooped on?

Anyway, you said when you start a convo you end up making a gaffe (when speaking, I suppose) . This problem can easily be solved in two ways:

Firstly, you have to be aware of it before you get into any conversation. This way, you can prepare for it before hand. And how do you prepare for it before hand? By putting yourself on the spot before it happens -- envision yourself having that chat. Envisage a situation where you make a mistake then make fun of it. For example, you could think of yourself saying (out of nervousness/shyness), "I goes to school today," then Immediately correcting yourself by telling your chat partner, "did you catch that bullet?"

Secondly, work on your English. As a non-native English speaker, it is normal for you to make blunders when speaking -- millions of Nigerians are guilty of this. However, I can tell you never make a gaffe when you speak in your local dialect.
While others might make lots of verbal errors and be nonchallant, you cannot. That perfectionist-you is scared of not getting the words right. But if you have learnt to be so fluent that you don't have to think before uttering a good sentence, you'll be fine.

Having at the back of your mind that you're an eloquent speaker of the language should give you the courage to going into any conversation. Have fun

opylas:
Thank God I found this thread. To think that snooping on some guy's profile got me here... hehe

OK... I can relate with most - but not all - of what's been said. I am terribly shy. I don't take pictures. I tell myself it's because I don't like the idea of having to pose; to be still in front of someone holding a camera. Photos of me are mostly 'captured stolen.' The other times when I have to look in the camera, the sheepish smile is sure to not be missing. I am supersensitive, my friends say I "jump into conclusions" but in the end I am almost always right. I can be very chatty online especially with people I know, but offline? uh-uh, but when push comes to shove and I try to start a convo with someone, I end up making a gaffe, most times it's a 'stab to English's neck.' I hate this!

When I walk, I feel all eyes are on me. I can be indoors for a whole month, especially if I have electricity supplied. And most people on here say they smile a lot? I don't think I do that o ...lolz. My default look is scary! Folks mistake this to mean that I'm snobbish. A course mate once needed my help, she had to go through an older mutual friend outside of the department. He said she had said she couldn't approach me cos she thought I might have shunned her. Today, she's the closest female friend I've ever had. When someone thinks he's a friend, I try not to make them feel otherwise and I end up making myself uncomfortable (I always do this)

I don't like talkative people very much, and I'm not talkative myself but I'm sorry for this... epistle, I get this expressive only in the cloud. I'm happy to relate.

PS. How many of you are perfectionists? hehe

lol, you just described me

Am I an introvert?

Honestly speaking, I do not know.

So, help me reach the right conclusion.

Here goes...

I do not have any friend. All I have are colleagues who I only see at work on working days.

I spend almost the whole day by myself.

I spend most of my waking time in front of my laptop building my websites - right now I have over 10 of them.

I do not visit anyone from one day to the next, from one month to the next, year-in, year-out (unless absolutely necessary during occasions such as burials and marriages for close family and friends - I do not just have the time.

I do not spend time on the phone unless if it is for strictly business purpose.

I do not watch TV - I just do not have the time.

So, that about sums it up about me.

What's your take?

Am I an introvert

Knetpro:
Am I an introvert?

Honestly speaking, I do not know.

So, help me reach the right conclusion.

Here goes...

I do not have any friend. All I have are colleagues who I only see at work on working days.

I spend almost the whole day by myself.

I spend most of my waking time in front of my laptop building my websites - right now I have over 10 of them.

I do not visit anyone from one day to the next, from one month to the next, year-in, year-out (unless absolutely necessary during occasions such as burials and marriages for close family and friends - I do not just have the time.

I do not spend time on the phone unless if it is for strictly business purpose.

I do not watch TV - I just do not have the time.

So, that about sums it up about me.

What's your take?

Am I an introvert

My Brother, I am here to give you the good news..

You are a certified introvert!


Welcome to the club.

Geofavor:
hi,
LOL @ "my default look is scary."

Why do I have the feeling that It's my profile you snooped on?

Anyway, you said when you start a convo you end up making a gaffe (when speaking, I suppose) . This problem can easily be solved in two ways:

Firstly, you have to be aware of it before you get into any conversation. This way, you can prepare for it before hand. And how do you prepare for it before hand? By putting yourself on the spot before it happens -- envision yourself having that chat. Envisage a situation where you make a mistake then make fun of it. For example, you could think of yourself saying (out of nervousness/shyness), "I goes to school today," then Immediately correcting yourself by telling your chat partner, "did you catch that bullet?"

Secondly, work on your English. As a non-native English speaker, it is normal for you to make blunders when speaking -- millions of Nigerians are guilty of this. However, I can tell you never make a gaffe when you speak in your local dialect.
While others might make lots of verbal errors and be nonchallant, you cannot. That perfectionist-you is scared of not getting the words right. But if you have learnt to be so fluent that you don't have to think before uttering a good sentence, you'll be fine.

Having at the back of your mind that you're an eloquent speaker of the language should give you the courage to going into any conversation. Have fun

My prof

Geofavor:
hi,
LOL @ "my default look is scary."

Why do I have the feeling that It's my profile you snooped on?

Anyway, you said when you start a convo you end up making a gaffe (when speaking, I suppose) . This problem can easily be solved in two ways:

Firstly, you have to be aware of it before you get into any conversation. This way, you can prepare for it before hand. And how do you prepare for it before hand? By putting yourself on the spot before it happens -- envision yourself having that chat. Envisage a situation where you make a mistake then make fun of it. For example, you could think of yourself saying (out of nervousness/shyness), "I goes to school today," then Immediately correcting yourself by telling your chat partner, "did you catch that bullet?"

Secondly, work on your English. As a non-native English speaker, it is normal for you to make blunders when speaking -- millions of Nigerians are guilty of this. However, I can tell you never make a gaffe when you speak in your local dialect.
While others might make lots of verbal errors and be nonchallant, you cannot. That perfectionist-you is scared of not getting the words right. But if you have learnt to be so fluent that you don't have to think before uttering a good sentence, you'll be fine.

Having at the back of your mind that you're an eloquent speaker of the language should give you the courage to going into any conversation. Have fun

My prof .

gidjah:
Hmmmm introvert melancholy,I am almost what all are saying about been very inwards, but I thank heavens today...I have grown all up, I can speak in the public(in fact, I am into public speaking as a profession now),I am a teacher by profession, and counselor, a minister and an entrepreneur. The hrry areas are very few, I talk when it is very necessary and educational, I still detest crowdy environment, I mostly enjoy quiet moment and solitary times.For instance I just returned from the office now and need to be alone,my family went for summer since march and yet to be back,guess!!!i am enjoying been alone !just reading ,singing ,listening to songs and watching videos .That's me.But been that I am a counselor, people like me a lot,they all wanna be around me,but for where, I love been alone o!.Then the biggest one is this....People live taking my softness and kindness for granted!!!!they cheat me, deceive me and bla bla bla !!!they know I won't raise voice, but will rather let it be and peace reign. That's the most annoying aspect of BEEN AN INTROVERT!!BUT GOD GO HELP US ALL.the best part of been an introvert is that;if you are brilliant and intelligent,you will know about lots of people,you will know their weakness es but they might know ishhh about you !!

Happy birthday

smallmufta:
Gud evening all. Pls as an introvert, how do you overcome low self esteem and learn to express yourself more among people?

first of all my dear .....you should realise that evetything (shyness, low self est , confidence, etc) all start in the MIND. what you think about yourself becomes what you believe you are and ultimately how you. behave.
you have to keep telling ur self ur beautiful (girls with low self esteem believe they are ugly or fat). love ur self. remind yourself of incidents and past encounters with people that made you feel good. make up your mind that you won't be held down by silly low self esteem thoughts. etc.

Melsan:
Happy birthday

thanks good friend,really appreciate this ,Merci bouque!

Melsan:
Happy birthday

thanks a million friend ,God bless U sir