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Marriage is not about pity. She will not change because a girl that is close to marriage that still two time will not stop after MARRIAGE.
You better take the difficult decision now rather than later and do yourself and children harm.

LET HER GO QED.

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bauer00:
I think you already know the answer.There is no assurance that she will or won't do that again,so why take the risk.Marriage is a lifetime agreement unless you are planning otherwise because if you go ahead with the wedding,you won't trust her,any slight change in her behaviour or actions will trigger you to start making assumptions....its a time bomb,defuse it now that you stil can.

neocortex:
In other words, if you become "ready" at that particular time by sheer luck
she will dump the "maga" for you.

A girl who marries you simply because her current boyfriend is not ready is
definitely a time bomb.

She didn't dump me and we where never dating, and even if we where why would you waste her time when your not sure you will settle with her or even making plans for that . Ladies worry about their future that way the earlier you understand the better for you.

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

Oga ,if I were to be a man, I'd dump her like hot potato..Don't allow your age force you into something that you may regret..Btw "two-timing " is the word, not "double dating"...

Obviously it looked as if Oops is considering forgiveness because of his age!!! Yes at 35 you really should settle down however My question is if u were 26 and this happens would u consider forgiveness as an option? If yes then forgive her after we all make mistakes if no then u guys should go ur separate way so u don't end up marrying her nd u keep tormenting her with her past even when she has changed or marrying her only to findout after marriage that she still cheats!


My people say an arrow a man sees come should ordinarily not kill the man.

Hillzy:
Dude sit her down n talk to her to find out wat are problem really is, before u take any decision. Cos some ladies are just very silly atimes them their self don really know wat they want

Dude, you can't be serious.

Sit down and talk to her, and then what?

Be honest, is that what you would do ?

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

. How do you met with her? Is it by divine guidance?

Wanna pin d rest of ur life down to shit hoke because u're 35 Show her d door and go take a shower my brother.......wash d rubbish down d toilet. Saver for u..... "sipping ma agbo".

Forgive her and trust her cos she'll not do it again
Afterall she has not said I DO to you.
But If this repeats itself after your wedding, she's looking for something else. shior

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

u didnt tell us "the whole truth" which the guy told you... how we wan take advise u?

OP, I know it's not easy, but first forgive her, but don't continue with the marriage, otherwise, u will be the most unhappiest man on earth.

better a failed relationship than a failed marriage.

Sometimes I wonder if the Nigerians I meet in real life are the same as the Nigerians I see online.

Your fiance takes your money, wires it to another guy whom you have confirmed is her boyfriend/ lover, and then you are here asking for what to do because you're 35yrs old ?
More like 15 yrs old.

More hilarious is that people are telling the guy to talk to her, give her some time, forgive her etc, etc.

Which universe is this, by the way?

[quote author=POWEROFPEACE post=46170587]My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.[/quote) U caught her send money to a guy doeesnt mean she is cheating and bro few months to wedding u say? We all clean our shelves b4 d D day so if she is open trust me u guys can work somefin out.

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

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I love it when people intentionally step on land mines.

It is always good to let children touch hot stuff...that way they will learn never to do it again.

Happy married life!

I hope you don't have life insurance because it will be cashed out for their wedding.
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herbie27:
From what you said, i can deduce she has something serious wit the other guy.

If few months to marriage she's still doing dat den when will she stop?.

bt u can take the risk of going on as planned.

exactly!

It's different if she's just cheating like sleeping with him


But sending him money says a lot

There's something deep going on


And to avoid story that touch

Just back out!

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

If you go ahead and marry her, you are OYO.

Better a broken relationship than a broken marriage. If she is cheating on you few months to her wedding, she will cheat after the marriage. Free her and pray to God to direct you to your wife. If she is the one, she will come back but this time, a much better person! Peace!

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

Did you also take time to ask her why she wire the money to the guy?

The guy might be trying to Black mail her for something that has transpired between them in the past.

Pls. Calm down and take time to find out what the truth really is before taking decision.

Remember, Nobody is perfect. To err is Human and to forgive is Divine.


I wish you a fruitful wedding.

God has opened your eyes to see what you are about to put yourself into. Believe me God loves you. If you wish to continue with her go ahead brother but the consequence___ you are on your own.

What are you still waiting for? Let her go, they never change.

plaetton:
Sometimes I wonder if the Nigerians I meet in real life are the same as the Nigerians I see online.

Your fiance takes your money, wires it to another guy whom you have confirmed is her boyfriend/ lover, and then you are here asking for what to do because you're 35yrs old ?
More like 15 yrs old.

More hilarious is that people are telling the guy to talk to her, give her some time, forgive her etc, etc.

Which universe is this, by the way?

Lol. I wonder. Like if the marriage fails, they'll be there to pat him on the shoulder.

@Op, may that not be your portion in Jesus name. Age is nothing o. One shouldn't treat lifetime issues with sentiments and then marry out of pity only to live up with regrets.

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

Honestly speaking she doesnt love you 1 bit. Relationship without d network of love ll just lead 2 automatic playing of games just like phone without network. Its left 4 u 2 decide ok. She's probably dating u becos u can pay her bills.

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

please I beg u...dont be one sided..u have heard from the guy...hear from your fiancee before u make any decisions...I know u myt feel you already have ur facts but still ask ur fiancee questions first..speaking from xperience, I have had facts some time but I listened to a one sided talk and judged from there..uptill now, I still regret it.my opinion bros

Abegi ee go ahead and marry her jare. Atleast after marriage you're free to be hers forever. But out of 5 children,I bet one or probably two will be yours.so the choice is yours choose.

firstEVA:
It would hurt no doubt, but I can't leave a man if I consider him fit for me in every aspect of life because he cheated at a point in time, once he is genuinely apologetic, I will forgive and go on with wedding plans.




Btw it shouldn't be news that women forgive easily, it's men that don't.

d obsession for marriage makes a lady the wrongest advicer on this thread.

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

Dump her as*s now? Some cheaters find it hard to change and some don't even care to change.

Don't marry simply because of your age or marry out of sympathy! Marry a woman because both of you love each other and are also faithful to each other.

A person who really loves you won't cheat on you. That's the truth! Your woman is a cheater and she doesn't love you. She loves the guy she gives your money to. That's one of the dark sides of a bad relationship.

I know because I had the same experience when I was in school, but on the other guy's side. I was in a relationship with a girl who was also dating a rich guy.

I didn't love her so didn't mind because she was keeping me financially comfortable with the guy's money. And she loved me more than the rich guy.

So dump her now while you can! A cheater can't be trusted! She's begging you now because she was caught!

POWEROFPEACE:
My fiancée took money from me one day only to wire it into another guys account. God so kind, she forgot the teller inside her bag and I saw it. I took the name and brows it on Facebook. I was very honest with the guy during our chats so that he told me the whole truth. I wish to quit the relationship even though she is begging but I don't know if that is the right decision because I will be 35 years in just few days from now. Your quality advice might just give way to meaning, Please.

Honey dear, can you please call your woman and ask her the reason she sent him that money

1.. Could be that this guy in question wants to black mail her.
2.. Could be a guy she still has something for,he asked her for some help and she felt she needs to do it.
3.. Could they are dating but she knows they can't get because of either finance,look or something.
4.. Could one of those silly things ladies do.

My guy, that thing she did is wrong at all levels. But call her and talk to her..this babe na your wife to be oo


What do I know sef

Obeenah:
Bros. Na you dey talk like this? If they were already married yes I would sit and talk but allowing this before marriage. Guy you wan turn to philosopher over night?

Lolz! Bro am not saying he should just forgive her like dat, but look d op did'nt say wat d order guy said to him, he only say d guy was plain wit him n d money part wich d bae send to him, which clearly we both know there is sometin going on between both of dem, so since d op has listen d part of d order guy he should also sit his financee down n talk to her cos dat nigga charms might just be to strong for her or if possible invite d order guy n let dem have a round table discussion to know where he stand before taking any decision, u too check am na all wat dey might have pass tru be4 he even coming to d point of marriage ehmm bros