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You have so many doubts which are all a making of your mindset. Sort yourself out first, know what you want and if you are ready for a relationship or not.

Stop the distance thing try getting closer to him, spend more time together I'm not saying you should give in its all in a bid to clear your doubts or confirm it.

jesse515:
Naija babes be givin u answers within dia thoughts. Mimzy tryin so hard to make u understand. (pls listen to dem o, a naija babe can smell fire from a thousand mile)

U keep talkin abt his work, av u seen him spend all des hours workin?

Bae m a guy n trust me, d guy already knows u ar head ova heels for him, d more he kips actin , no tym due to work, d more ur emotions keeps playin on u. Make more enquiries abt dis our nigerian bros, spend more tym wit him, say straight 3hrs afta wwork. For God's sake don't mess him yet.

(feelin terrible m burnin a brothers cable)

Lolzz

By now, you should have known Nigerians are the wrongest people to ask for these kind of advice.

jesse515:
Naija babes be givin u answers within dia thoughts. Mimzy tryin so hard to make u understand. (pls listen to dem o, a naija babe can smell fire from a thousand mile)

U keep talkin abt his work, av u seen him spend all des hours workin?

Bae m a guy n trust me, d guy already knows u ar head ova heels for him, d more he kips actin , no tym due to work, d more ur emotions keeps playin on u. Make more enquiries abt dis our nigerian bros, spend more tym wit him, say straight 3hrs afta wwork. For God's sake don't mess him yet.

(feelin terrible m burnin a brothers cable)

We video chat and I hear him working so he is working he texts me a lot so I don't know what to think

Phonefanatic:
You have so many doubts which are all a making of your mindset. Sort yourself out first, know what you want and if you are ready for a relationship or not.

Stop the distance thing try getting closer to him, spend more time together I'm not saying you should give in its all in a bid to clear your doubts or confirm it.

He wants me to come to Nigeria but I'm scared. He came here for 3 weeks but I refuse to see him fearing I would have sex with him

alobright17:
I found out he and his wife didn't live together but traveled to America together......as separated couples or business partners?you're divorced and he is separated

Meanwhile we Nigerians both male and female kept explaining the behavior of a typical Nigerian married man but your mind has been made up from your stance.

Meanwhile be ready to host him and that said separated wife in the nearest future and do not see him as a wicked person because you knew it from the onset that you're trading on a danger zone,don't feel shy to write how good or BAD the whole thing turn out to be.

In Lucky Dube's voice, IS NOT EASY TO UNDERSTAND IT SON.

Because of this conversation last night I sent him this text this morning I hope he just listen and I hope I'm not making a mistake: I'm too young for you okay. I can't have a sexual or emotional relationship without catching feelings and the fact that you encourage those feelings by telling me you love me is scary and evil why are you tryna ruin my life? You know you can't give me what I may want down the line so why play with me I thought we were becoming friends. I already feel negative again and it's been 3 days since we started back talking. Do you think I don't know how a real relationship go? Rather friendship or romantic relationship it's never one sided a person who is really interested shows intrest in the person life I don't know what I was thinking you are happily married i refuse to be reduced to a afterthought this time we are going to stop talking forever you have a good life okay I'm only looking for a friend not a booty call or secret relationship

I feel childish considering he told me they were separated and he is complicated single. I'm just tired honestly I have more important things to do then sit and think about this relationship. Do you guys think he put voodoo on me or something? Usually I'm a good decision maker right now I'm crying and feel so sad I really like him he fits me so well but my own suspensions led me here to ask these questions because I simply don't know what's going on with him and if he is lying to me but I do know he makes a good effort to communicate with me and since I'm so busy is no way I could stay on the phone with him all day but the fact that he does call me and talk to me and keep the relationship going even though he lives in Nigeria and I live in America shows me that he's putting forth the effort he also traveled here just to see me so I don't know

Abprettyneat:
Because of this conversation last night I sent him this text this morning I hope he just listen and I hope I'm not making a mistake: I'm too young for you okay. I can't have a sexual or emotional relationship without catching feelings and the fact that you encourage those feelings by telling me you love me is scary and evil why are you tryna ruin my life? You know you can't give me what I may want down the line so why play with me I thought we were becoming friends. I already feel negative again and it's been 3 days since we started back talking. Do you think I don't know how a real relationship go? Rather friendship or romantic relationship it's never one sided a person who is really interested shows intrest in the person life I don't know what I was thinking you are happily married i refuse to be reduced to a afterthought this time we are going to stop talking forever you have a good life okay I'm only looking for a friend not a booty call or secret relationship

Ok dear let's wait and see what the response will be, but you don't expect him to be negative on this he will always try to prove his innocent to you though which is what you wanted,anyway just keep faith dear it shall be well with you.

Abprettyneat:
He wants me to come to Nigeria but I'm scared. He came here for 3 weeks but I refuse to see him fearing I would have sex with him

What exactly are you scared of? You missed the chance when he visited . I mean you could have seen him in a public place.

You seem to have so much fear and doubts which isn't healthy for a foundation of a relationship. I guess you've had ugly experiences that made you a skeptic person..... In my honest opinion I will advise you not to get into any relationship just yet till you get yourself sorted.

Take a break.

Phonefanatic:
What exactly are you scared of? You missed the chance when he visited . I mean you could have seen him in a public place.

You seem to have so much fear and doubts which isn't healthy for a foundation of a relationship. I guess you've had ugly experiences that made you a skeptic person..... In my honest opinion I will advise you not to get into any relationship just yet till you get yourself sorted.

Take a break.

Coming from someone who insist that he just playing me I'm shocked that you now try to blame me we have met in public 3 times already and me hesitating is only bcuz he is separated and I'm trying to let time figure this out I'm sorted believe me I have been separated and celibate but it's just some about this man

Phonefanatic:
What exactly are you scared of? You missed the chance when he visited . I mean you could have seen him in a public place.

You seem to have so much fear and doubts which isn't healthy for a foundation of a relationship. I guess you've had ugly experiences that made you a skeptic person..... In my honest opinion I will advise you not to get into any relationship just yet till you get yourself sorted.

Take a break.

Boko whatever his name is kidnapping people no offense but nigeria seems uncivilized police are in the local pockets I just don't feel safe plus we only known each other for 2 months I'm not going to jump on a plane with a unknown man bcuz that's what he is

Abprettyneat:
Boko whatever his name is kidnapping people no offense but nigeria seems uncivilized police are in the local pockets I just don't feel safe plus we only known each other for 2 months I'm not going to jump on a plane with a unknown man bcuz that's what he is

Hahaha

I wish I could just respond to this... Hilarious

Abprettyneat:
Boko whatever his name is kidnapping people no offense but nigeria seems uncivilized police are in the local pockets I just don't feel safe plus we only known each other for 2 months I'm not going to jump on a plane with a unknown man bcuz that's what he is

lol I've had a lot to say but most times you seem to have the answers so... anyways boko kini is predominantly in the north so other areas are kool if you don't know the state he's in find out do all your research b4 you come Contact your embassy here they give gr8 advice. And since he's an unknown man get to know him there's d option of PI's.

truly wish you the best

Abprettyneat:
Boko whatever his name is kidnapping people no offense but nigeria seems uncivilized police are in the local pockets I just don't feel safe plus we only known each other for 2 months I'm not going to jump on a plane with a unknown man bcuz that's what he is

LOL now I'm very scared of visiting the States they are so many shootings going on there..... You've got endless doubts and fears I think you will be better off forgetting about him. Just save yourself the mental torture

alobright17:
Ok dear let's wait and see what the response will be, but you don't expect him to be negative on this he will always try to prove his innocent to you though which is what you wanted,anyway just keep faith dear it shall be well with you.

He sent me this: [6/14, 4:52 PM]: Hey u are behaving crazy again
[6/14, 4:52 PM]: Please don't do that to me

Phonefanatic:
LOL now I'm very scared of visiting the States they are so many shootings going on there..... You've got endless doubts and fears I think you will be better off forgetting about him. Just save yourself the mental torture

Right lol Lolo

Abprettyneat:
He sent me this: [6/14, 4:52 PM]: Hey u are behaving crazy again
[6/14, 4:52 PM]: Please don't do that to me

Pm me not everything we can talk here thanks

Abprettyneat:
Right lol Lolo

PM him at your own detriment!

my opinion; 90% of nigerian men in the US who re unsettled (you said he works a lot) and are in one previous
relationship but still looking for a side kick who is a native are mostly hustling for that green card noomsayin?
you need to be careful to avoid story that touches.