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Good day everyone, who else among the guys here on NL has experienced this..?!

For the past 6yrs that I've been on the dating scene, I've experienced a lot of misses rather than hits in my dating game, this is not due to the fact I lacked the looks, charm, smarts etc. I noticed a scenario that always repeated itself, which was when ever I approached a girl, we would click instantly, she would flash all the green lights flashable, we would have a lot in common & get along really well, then whenever I finally ask her for us to be "exculsive".... The horror film begins...

They never tell me No or a yes.. I'm not friendzoned neither am I in the dating zone, I more than a friend to her but less than a BF, when I ask them why they can't give me an answer, they give all manner of reasons such as; you are too good for me, I like you a lot but I don't love, let's be more than friends but I can't date you ( WTF ), I don't know what I feel towards you...let's keep what we have....and blah blah blah...


Most times I give them time to sort out their feelings coming back again to ask hoping to get a good answer but their emotions are still in a state of flux.. I'll give up and move on ( when I move on I move on totally no looking back ), only for this ladies who seemly had nothing for me to come back (vengeful) when they see me hooking up with another chick, then they start all manner of theatrics....then I begin to wonder is it not the same girl who had "Nothing" for me...

This scenario as played out more than 5 times with me... I'll like to know if other guys here have experienced this or are also experiencing this....

Sorry for the long essay..

"when I move on I move on totally no looking back ), only for this ladies who seemly had nothing for me to come back (vengeful) when they see me hooking up with another chick, then they start all manner of theatrics"

Bros dis tin simple na...

nxt time don't move on totally since u know she's coming back.. simple!

Topestbilly:

Why are you showing us yur 32

hmmmmm it happens a lot ......you have two options when it happens 1. take advantage of her or

2.friend zone her if you are in a serious relationship at that time.

falconey:
hmmmmm it happens a lot ......you have two options when it happens 1. take advantage of her or friend zone her if you are in a serious relationship as at that time.

From experience I've learnt oo.... Most ladies want to eat their cake and have it also.....

I don't even listen to them again....

MrDojo:
Why are you showing us yur 32

Na 64 me get oo

I don't understand all the things you wrote up there but from what I can see, is obvious you have been friendzoned..funny part is once a girl friendzone a guy she still wants him around..more or less like eating your cake n having it back

Lol yeye pikin

Topestbilly:
Na 64 me get oo

Like I said I've "NOT" been friendzoned by the ladies....I think I'm exp enough to know the zone...

schumastic:
I don't understand all the things you wrote up there but from what I can see, is obvious you have been friendzoned..funny part is once a girl friendzone a guy she still wants him around..more or less like eating your cake n having it back

That shit is in their trait,

MrDojo:
Like I said I've "NOT" been friendzoned by the ladies....I think I'm exp enough to know the zone...

is that what you think, ok just one ?. have you had sex with any of the said ladies honestly? if yes you have not been friend zoned and if you my bro you have been friend zoned

mrdojo, its either you're actually too good for the ladies and you are always meeting them at the wrong time. Or maybe you make the wrong moves, or probably......

There are a thousand and one reasons for that specific behaviour so if you can be more precise in your story, we might be able to decipher where the problem lies

schumastic:
is that what you think, ok just one ?. have you had sex with any of the said ladies honestly? if yes you have not been friend zoned and if you my bro you have been friend zoned

Haba bros... So its until I've had sex with them b4 I know my status....haba well the answer Is no... let's agree to disagree

I thought I was making the wrong moves after it happened the 2 time, as some with sense I changed my approach only to notice the same outcome...it became a "nonsense" pattern...it took years for me to know it wasn't me but it was actually the ladies who didn't know what they wanted...

Mprex:
mrdojo, its either you're actually too good for the ladies and you are always meeting them at the wrong time. Or maybe you make the wrong moves, or probably......

There are a thousand and one reasons for that specific behaviour so if you can be more precise in your story, we might be able to decipher where the problem lies

Abi, some of them are just too confused...

collitexnaira:
That shit is in their trait,

MrDojo:
I thought I was making the wrong moves after it happened the 2 time, as some with sense I changed my approach only to notice the same outcome...it became a "nonsense" pattern...it took years for me to know it wasn't me but it was actually the ladies who didn't know what they wanted...

OK. why not try a different approach. Cut out the friendship for a while before dating stage and just ask her out straight up. That might work for you

Hmmmm

ok

I see.

sometimes women no understand themselves

Stop being a "nice guy". This is the best thread for someone like you.

www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman

[size=13pt]Bab your hair of bad luck..... just my take.... if not the hustle is still real for you......[/size]

This story doesn't make any sense whatsoever.

Ok.

You always get too close before you woo them get close but not too close

MrDojo:
I thought I was making the wrong moves after it happened the 2 time, as some with sense I changed my approach only to notice the same outcome...it became a "nonsense" pattern...it took years for me to know it wasn't me but it was actually the ladies who didn't know what they wanted...

maybe you've been toasting the wrong girls or approaching the right girls the wrong way.

I vote, you've been toasting the wrong girls and need to cast your net further

Take heart

Oyo

And they still don't appreciate.