Sorry

I understand where you are coming from you lost your mum and your gf was the best thing that has ever happened to you ever since your mum died...so u feel if you let her go u will finally let go of your mum...let me tell that's not so...ask yourself this question will your mum approve of the lady will approve of the lady treating her son as trash...guy just leave the lady there are other girls out there that will love u wholeheartedly

chidiandre:
I understand where you are coming from you lost your mum and your gf was the best thing that has ever happened to you ever since your mum died...so u feel if you let her go u will finally let go of your mum...let me tell that's not so...ask yourself this question will your mum approve of the lady will approve of the lady treating her son as trash...guy just leave the lady there are other girls out there that will love u wholeheartedly

I understand, thanks a lot for your advice

I have zero relationship experience but I still dey shame for you. What nonsense?

Ranchhoddas:
I have zero relationship experience but I still dey shame for you. What nonsense?

you can blame my nativity., we learn each day

amaraedec:
thanks a million

U welcom. We guys always hav dis illussion dat women can bring us happiness, contentment and satisfaction, and take away our sorrows and loneliness. But d bitter truth is dat women are not d angels we think dey are. Dey are selfish creatures who only care about demselves and dere happiness nothing more. Dey dont mind hurting pple to derive happiness. So stop sweating urself over women. D one dats meant for u will come naturally, u wont even sweat it.

amaraedec:
thanks so much. I greatly appreciate

No problems man. I want u to do me a favour please..

I want u to promise me u will not attempt to take your life even slightly again... Promise?

pennytration:
U welcom. We guys always hav dis illussion dat women can bring us happiness, contentment and satisfaction, and take away our sorrows and loneliness. But d bitter truth is dat women are not d angels we think dey are. Dey are selfish creatures who only care about demselves and dere happiness nothing more. Dey dont mind hurting pple to derive happiness. So stop sweating urself over women. D one dats meant for u will come naturally, u wont even sweat it.

you have said it all..

Richy4:


No problems man. I want u to do me a favour please..

I want u to promise me u will not attempt to take your life even slightly again... Promise?

It's a promise

amaraedec:
thanks so much. I greatly appreciate

No problems man. I kind of fancy it when they say Nigerian population is about 150Million. And in that population, it will not be fun without u in it.

Thanks for your promise.

amaraedec:
It's a promise

Thanks

amaraedec:
Thanks a lot, your advice is priceless

take practical steps:

1. change your phone number and make sure you delete hers.

2. delete your accounts on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and all social networking site where you can snoop on her and vice versa.

3. Burn all her pictures and delete all her pictures and messages on your phone and laptop.

4. destroy every and any reminder of her in your life, gifts, etc, as well as music you know will remind you of her.

5. Relocate ASAP to another state or country if you can.

6. Get a life, make new friends, male friends only for now.

7. Don't date or be close to any girl for at least two years. very important.

8.channel your extra curricular activities towards learning something new, a new language maybe, or a new skill like playing the guitar or keyboard.

9. Work on your self esteem. Nobody is worth dying for except maybe family members who are dear to you, after all, Jesus has died for all of us, right?

All the best.

Ioannes:


take practical steps:

1. change your phone number and make sure you delete hers.

2. delete your accounts on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and all social networking site where you can snoop on her and vice versa.

3. Burn all her pictures and delete all her pictures and messages on your phone and laptop.

4. destroy every and any reminder of her in your life, gifts, etc, as well as music you know will remind you of her.

5. Relocate ASAP to another state or country if you can.

6. Get a life, make new friends, male friends only for now.

7. Don't date or be close to any girl for at least two years. very important.

8.channel your extra curricular activities towards learning something new, a new language maybe, or a new skill like playing the guitar or keyboard.

9. Work on your self esteem. Nobody is worth dying for except maybe family members who are dear to you, after all, Jesus has died for all of us, right?

All the best.

wow.. Am speechless

GBAGAAUN:
Sorry

thanks a lot

I wont sugar coat it but tell u d blunt truth...u r d biggest living fool to even think of suicide over that cheap slut..why would u respect her privacy when she doesnt reciprocate it? Ur mom loves u n God in heaven loves u n u think ur mom would be happy if u ended up dead? Am not against luv bt am against guys like u who attach 2much emotions 2 these good 4 nuffin whores in disguise...see hw u almost ruined ur future! And u even gave her a 2nd chance!! Mhen what where u thinking dat she would luv u out of pity? Damn!! Of all d roads dat leads 2 a womans heart pity's the worst..4get dat b!atch n find someone who will luv n respect u! No woman can eva take my mom's place even tho she's alive n well..u should respect her memory by knwng dat n staying alive n smart..stop forming legbere 4 these nonesense gals joor! Date other gals but most importantly luv urself n treat urself special n knw that u r special n deserves sm1 special...and stop treating these hoez like they special when they aint,cos dat special sm1 would luv herself,respect herself,be true 2 herself n be honest wit herself...if to say u be my broda d drealing 4 u ehn! U even get liver go 2nd journey when kill Mungo Park...God dont like sissies read ur bible well dats why He put us in charge of all things..be a man about it n get a lil' wisdom

This too shall pass.

Go get yourself some gurls at the club. Make sure you get a new girl every other night for a week and you will be out of that depression and each time you remember your ex.....just call an escort and youd forget her eventually.

I am sorry there is no easier way out than that.

amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise

You don't need advice! What you need is a good slap that will reset your brain.. Why would you want to kill yourself because of common pvssy?

Youngpo413:
This too shall pass.

this too shall pass away

dairykidd:
I wont sugar coat it but tell u d blunt truth...u r d biggest living fool to even think of suicide over that cheap slut..why would u respect her privacy when she doesnt reciprocate it? Ur mom loves u n God in heaven loves u n u think ur mom would be happy if u ended up dead? Am not against luv bt am against guys like u who attach 2much emotions 2 these good 4 nuffin whores in disguise...see hw u almost ruined ur future! And u even gave her a 2nd chance!! Mhen what where u thinking dat she would luv u out of pity? Damn!! Of all d roads dat leads 2 a womans heart pity's the worst..4get dat b!atch n find someone who will luv n respect u! No woman can eva take my mom's place even tho she's alive n well..u should respect her memory by knwng dat n staying alive n smart..stop forming legbere 4 these nonesense gals joor! Date other gals but most importantly luv urself n treat urself special n knw that u r special n deserves sm1 special...and stop treating these hoez like they special when they aint,cos dat special sm1 would luv herself,respect herself,be true 2 herself n be honest wit herself...if to say u be my broda d drealing 4 u ehn! U even get liver go 2nd journey when kill Mungo Park...God dont like sissies read ur bible well dats why He put us in charge of all things..be a man about it n get a lil' wisdom

thanks Bro.. You said it all

pennytration:
U welcom. We guys always hav dis illussion dat women can bring us happiness, contentment and satisfaction, and take away our sorrows and loneliness. But d bitter truth is dat SOME women are not d angels we think dey are. Dey are selfish creatures who only care about demselves and dere happiness nothing more. Dey dont mind hurting pple to derive happiness. So stop sweating urself over women. D one dats meant for u will come naturally, u wont even sweat it.

Fixed......buh take it easy bro..

Sometimes we ladies don't know what we actually want.....

redgem:
Sometimes we ladies don't know what we actually want.....

Am just learning

amaraedec:
Am just learning

To forget someone you love ain't easy... I've gone through this path...

With time, you will definitely meet someone who will love and cherish you dearly... Don't pinch yourself too hard just to forget her, it's a gradual process... Just find something to do, like a hubby... Its going to be alright

redgem:


To forget someone you love ain't easy... I've gone through this path...

With time, you will definitely meet someone who will love and cherish you dearly... Don't pinch yourself too hard just to forget her, it's a gradual process... Just find something to do, like a hubby... Its going to be alright

thanks dear..may you find peace and happiness

Havabelle:

Fixed......buh take it easy bro..

Na true i talk na. I stopped taking women serious a long time ago due to their selfishness. By d way i dont hate women o. I believe dey behave dat way cos its in their dna.

I feel you bruv my guy of five years did the same thing to me but Mehn can't think of ending my life cause of a GUY hell is real bro it's been 5months now getin beter and accepting it's God's fate

HASSANAASIA:
I feel you bruv my guy of five years did the same thing to me but Mehn can't think of ending my life cause of a GUY hell is real bro it's been 5months now getin beter and accepting it's God's fate

thanks a million, really sorry for your loss

amaraedec:
thanks dear..may you find peace and happiness

Amen... Pray same for you dear

redgem:

Amen... Pray same for you dear

Amen

pennytration:
Na true i talk na. I stopped taking women serious a long time ago due to their selfishness. By d way i dont hate women o. I believe dey behave dat way cos its in their dna.

Lol....I understand you though....buh u sound like you've dated all the women in this world yeah I know its experience