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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by benzion72(m): 2:07am On Jun 25, 2016
Mummys pet cause you lost your mother and you are not man enough to bear your loss you need a new mother and found one in a girl. Sorry you now loose the girl and next thing is to kill yourself. You need to grow up emotionally. Stop being a boy become a man. Ther lots better lady outside there.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 2:13am On Jun 25, 2016
Pray for your late mum instead and move on
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by daclint(m): 2:25am On Jun 25, 2016
No just make me vex for u , imagine u wey dey Enugu dey misbehave like this , guy Enugu adi azo ndi mgbu.

U wan end your life cuz she cheated ,omo cheat on her too ,even with that her friend.

Make I comot here before I vex for u

Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Breadmaker: 2:33am On Jun 25, 2016
foolinlove:
You only have two choices.

1. Stay with her.
On the knowledge that she's a cheater and will do it again and again.

2. Move on.
Knowing that you will sleep easy as no one is cheating on you.

It is not an easy choice. She is your true love. No on can make that choice for you. Unfortunately, sometimes your true love doesn't love you back. I am testament to that. I have also tried to end my life over mu true love.

But if you choose option 2, you need to cut her off. The longer you have no contact with her the stronger you will be. Otherwise, she will be like a drug to you. You will crave her attention, when you get it you'll be high. So the best way is to cut off the "drug supply". Over time without her, the cravings will fade. You will move on.

Also, be honest in yout next relationship if you have one. Let the lady know that your ex is your true love. You need to be honest in everything, so that you don't pass on the hurt that has been done to you.

Bless and good luck.
Seems you saw hell in the hands of a brother
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by BluStreak(m): 2:42am On Jun 25, 2016
dobys:


PLEASE DONT EVER TRY DIS SHIT OF KILLING YOURSLF 4 SOME1. I KNW LOSSING SOME1 IS VERY HARD NOT TO TLK MORE OF A MOTHER.I PRAY GOD WILL GIVE YOU THE STRENGHT TO BEAR THIS HUGE LOSS. PLS FORGET ABT DT GIRL CUS ACCORDING TO UR STORY U DID NOTHING WRONG TO HER SOO SHES EVIL AND WICKED. U DID ALL A HUSBAND IS 2 DOO ESPECIALLY D PRIVACY STUFFS MEN DISREGARD DAT AND U GUYS ARE JST DATING. I KNW GOD WULD GIUE U SOME1 BETTER. TRY FOCUS ON GOD, BE WITH TRUE FRIENDS AND FAMILY DAT LOVE U, FOCUS ON UR JOB, BE CAREFUL DNT THINK ANY GIRL U CEE CAN REPLACE UR MUMS SPACE IN UR HEART.

Here lies the vulnerable port the girl got her access to take a hostage of your life; the bolded texts above. You found succour in her after the exit of your mum so she became more like a mirror mum to you which was the BIGGEST of mistakes to make. No one can take the place of ones mother.

Sorry about your pain. Just forgive the girl and move on. She sure will come running back to you as true/mature love is the rarest to find. Make sure you don't take her back when she does.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 2:54am On Jun 25, 2016
Pushas:
Op, take heart. First of all, no woman on earth can love you like your mother did let that stick in your head.
You were too invested in her, you were a nice guy which bored her and bro Pls have a life outside women. Do not make any Woman your life mission. Develop yourself. Get a hobby, join a Gym BE BUSY.
Let me tell you this she does not love you and she never loved you. You were just a meal ticket, maga, a source of free gifts. Always have options with women don't depend on one and bro LOVE DOES NOT EXIST. Don't overinvest in any woman. In any relationship always put yourself first. please make sure your happiness is not tied to any woman except your mother or family.
Lastly don't be a nice guy to women.

your advice is number one

he attached his life to women, i don't believe he has male friends order wise they would've put sense into him,

people like him who avoid male friends are always a victim to such ladies

so don't pity him experience have always remained the best ............
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by zubydave(m): 3:06am On Jun 25, 2016
A tiger does not change its stripes, neither does a leopard change its spots. Once a cheat, always a cheat unless the person becomes a true child of God. Now my advice to is this; don't see her fbk page, her new DP on WhatsApp, or BBM, don't read her old text, neither should you read the ones you sent to her- they kill slowly. Don't give a f**k who her new friends are or what it would have been like being with her. I know it ain't easy but you've got to try. Most ladies don't know what sacrifices mean in a relationship, they always go for "who's got the style now" , and style doesn't last. Sacrifice your heart for this one- you know what I mean. One last thing; act like you were doing her a favour being in a relationship with her. Do all these and trust me you will get over her easily. wish you well bro.
Bad b***h.

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by winivogue: 3:08am On Jun 25, 2016
LadyAimy:
Some ladies are truly lucky


That's the irony of life. Some girls are sincerely praying and looking for a guy to love dem dearly and they are pouring there entire heart to the relationship while the guy is misbehaving and toiling with there heart. And this story d reverse is just d case.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Orikinla(m): 3:16am On Jun 25, 2016
Smellymouth:
Realize that everything happens for a reason and the outcome is always good.

It's a battle with yourself.

You would have to be okay, somewhere in your mind.(I wouldn't say your heart simply because I do know it is hard).

Memories are dear, and you don't want to lose them. Alas, you need to know the bounderies of keeping memories dear, and clinging to them.

Take the good from the past relationships, reflect on it.
Take the bad from the past relationships, reflect on it.


Then make the perfect relationship with your past ones as your building blocks.

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by berrystunn(m): 3:22am On Jun 25, 2016
amaraedec:
I really appreciate Bro, I have got a job. I don't want this to affect my carreer.

08148114294, you can chat me up on WhatsApp

Love is scam.
Too many pass though it...
It's turn by turn.


It's going to take time for you to move on, but trust me you will be good.

Try and hook up another girl, as soon as possible.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by nefertitiram: 3:22am On Jun 25, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me a
t the moment.. I need a sincere advise

Your happiness should not be hingd on a human being. You cannot claim to love someone if you can't love yourself. Even the Bible said so.

Go to Dubai have fun and delete ds babe from ur life she is toxic
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by rummeh: 3:37am On Jun 25, 2016
Wiseandtrue:
undecideddoes such relationship/love still exist?
cheesy how should I know??.. Abi u love me??
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by miqos02(m): 3:40am On Jun 25, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

u want to kill ur self becos of woman?

REST IN PEACE
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Kenswitch(m): 3:41am On Jun 25, 2016
[quote author=ErnieSmallzz post=46877942][b][color=brown]hmmm this is why its not good to love wid all ur heart sad



op, just like what our Oga smellymouth said "BE STRONG"

the right woman for you would surely come. Dnt eva try to kill urself cos of her again, she doesn't worth ur death!


Gbam, u just said my mind
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Orikinla(m): 3:42am On Jun 25, 2016
OP, you must not give up.
You must not idolize anyone and anything in life.
Almighty God will save you once you don't idolize anyone or anything.
Love is not idolatry.
Love is to practice the Grace of God in the world.

Both you and your cheating girlfriend are yet to know true LOVE.
Until you experience true love, you will never know true happiness.
You are still immature and insecure.
She is also immature and insecure.
Only immature and insecure people cheat.

I always say QUIT and don't CHEAT.
Those who cheat are evil, because they can kill as they lie in evil deceit.
First Law of survival on earth, TRUST NO ONE ELSE, EXCEPT ONLY GOD.
Second Law, DON'T IDOLIZE ANYONE.
Only those who disobey these laws suffer on earth.

Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by greggng: 3:45am On Jun 25, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise


I can give u snippers for free. That way you can end ur misserble life within seconds without having to go on coma. In a nutshell any man that can poison himself is worst than the devil. The fact that u re educated surprises me. You need God in ur misserable life

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Orikinla(m): 3:48am On Jun 25, 2016
greggng:



I can give u snippers for free. That way you can end ur misserble life within seconds without having to go on coma. In a nutshell any man that can poison himself is worst than the devil. The fact that u re educated surprises me. You need God in ur misserable life

Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 3:48am On Jun 25, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise


chai!!! O boy you fall my hand o,

@this your prime time and you attached your self with one lady? "mbanu, this is the time you need to experiment with different Size's and shapes of gals then narrow it down when you feel like to settle down,

if you finally choose a wife out of many i promise you, you'll remain faithful to her because you've seen it all.

i know some people will not like to agree with me but that is the bitter truth
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by yommen: 3:52am On Jun 25, 2016
ebbybest:
My first advice to you is Never kill your self for something that will never make you make heaven at last.
I was inside a keke nepep reading your story and when i read you drank insecticide i shouted Jesus!, and every one in the keke looked at me.
Guy am a lady and i knw wat it takes for a lady to hurt a guy that loves her so much.
The same way a lady feels when a guy she loves so much hurts her.
Move on with your life, life is too beautifull to be cut short that way.
Many have died without expecting it, some died in accident, some died in a bomb balst and God gave you the previllage of been counted amoung the living you should be greatfull to God.
Your family expect so much from you in future.
Know this: " when the wrong people leave your life the right things start happening".
I knw its hard, but please move on and you will be glad you did.
Thank you.

You are beautiful, externally and most of all, internally.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Earngee(f): 3:53am On Jun 25, 2016
Don't worry God loves you,share wit God And reach me on 07034272059.. Share a burden with NG..(Whatsapp). God bless you
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 3:55am On Jun 25, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise

1. You don't love yourself for you to be spending much on q girl you are not married to.

2. You are too nice.

3. You need to grow up and get some sense.

4. If you die of such useless cause, nobody gives a Bleep apart from making your family sad and run unnecessary expenses.

So son, the is in ya court. Find another girl. Don't be stupid.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by UEDIBO: 4:01am On Jun 25, 2016
ErnieSmallzz:
hmmm this is why its not good to love wid all ur heart sad



op, just like what our Oga smellymouth said "BE STRONG"

the right woman for you would surely come. Dnt eva try to kill urself cos of her again, she doesn't worth ur death!


CAN YOU BE MY BABY MAMA?
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 4:05am On Jun 25, 2016
Earngee:
Don't worry God loves you,share wit God
And reach me on 07034272059.. Share a burden with NG..(Whatsapp). God bless you

* Share with God * and you drop your number

So you're now God?
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by MaziOmenuko: 4:26am On Jun 25, 2016
People are spending millions to keep their life; dialysis, kidney transplant, chemotherapy, major surgical operations etc, and you did what? My goodnes!!!!

Cant you afford a gun? A rope is even cheap, knot it and hang on a ceiling fan, why take insecticides that only damage your organs and create more problems for your family when it turns you to vegetables?

I am so furios right now!
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by GogetterMD(m): 4:43am On Jun 25, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise
OP, thing is obvious from your story. You have no friends, cause no friend played any role to helping you in all of this. You need to make good friends
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 4:43am On Jun 25, 2016
For your information, nobody is worth dying for...
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by gbengaol(m): 4:44am On Jun 25, 2016
Once bitten. twice shy. She has done it once, she will do it again undoubtedly.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by muymacho: 4:48am On Jun 25, 2016
Forget her entirely and never, ever take her back.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by victorjoe(m): 4:48am On Jun 25, 2016
I suppose slap u from where i de so if i had the power. With you or without you, life goes on. Immediately her friends told you she was having affairs, u should have recieved sense. Oh u want to die? She might get married to one rich dude and her life will go on to fullest. U will only be a memory and a lesson for others.

Guy go and hustle make money and a name for urself. u just got ur fingers burnt. There is someone out there with ur name boldly written on her forehead. Only u will see it. Some gurls r not loyal. Some are.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Heineken(m): 4:49am On Jun 25, 2016
amaraedec:
forgive my nativity brother, we all learn each day
My guy you no try at all.. You don't have correct guys as friends ni to advise you well then.. Why giving a girl things anyhow and depriving yourself? You're not sharp at all sorry to say.. You even mumu join wan kill yourself cos of girl... Nawao. Think about your mum na even as she Don die... Love sha.. I pray make I fit love like this.. My own na to nack girls.. Fvck love
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by osogwu(m): 4:50am On Jun 25, 2016
INSTEAD OF YOU TO THANK GOD FOR REVEALING THE WHOLE THING FOR YOU AT EALIER TIME,YOU ARE THERE COMPLANING.WHAT IF YOU HAVE MARIED THIS GIRL BEFORE YOU NOTICED THIS? WHAT WILL YOU SAY? YOUR PRAYER POINT SHOULD BE: GOD,IF THIS GIRL IS NOT FOR ME,LET THERE BE DISAPOINTMENT.IF YOU HAVE BEEN INTO THIS KIND OF PRAYER, NOW YOU WILL BE THANKING GOD FOR ANSWERING YOUR PRAYER.

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Heineken(m): 4:51am On Jun 25, 2016
GogetterMD:

OP, thing is obvious from your story. You have no friends, cause no friend played any role to helping you in all of this. You need to make good friends
may God bless you bro. That's he's problem seriously . He has no friends.. I trust my guys.. Them go advise you you go sharp.

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