Mixty:
@amaraedec
You are a rookie. Only a rookie will fall "helplessly" in love with a girl and give her everything she asks or requests for. You became desperate
When you give a lady all she requests for without noticing corresponding loyalty from her, her interest in you will naturally wane.

As a guy, you have to learn the art of making a lady yearn for you. Becoming too available by always being there at a beck and call will make her lose 9interest. You should have maintained a balance. You became a conquered territory. It's only natural for her to lose interest.

Now my advice...

Maintain a distance from her for a while till you regain control of your emotions. It's for your own good. It might be for weeks or even months. Stay away till you take charge of your emotions. I understand you love her. But extremities are not good. You almost killed yourself because you became hopelessly and helplessly attached to her. It's very important as a man to think with both your head and heart in matters of love. For now, you think only with your heart. Your brain is currently in the cooler. Once you regain emotional control, you will think clearly and make the right decisions for your future, whether to stay or not.
Of course, I know what I am asking you to do is hard. You will most likely take the easy way out - flowing with your current emotional attachmenmts to her. But you will only subject yourself to morej hurt in the future.


In the meantime, relate with other ladies to spread the emotions. Occupy yourself with other activities you love. Spend time with friends and family too. That will take your mind off the pain gradually.

Best advice ever. Had a similar experience with the op, this measure gave me my sanity.

But you know what? It has a bit of negative side effect.
1. You find it hard to love a lady deeply again
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2. You give your whole time to the new thing that catches your interest...I mean 97% of your time

3. No lady is extremely special to you anymore

4. May think any lady can get funny at any time so you tends to keep more than one.

5. Any lady you date after that heartbreak complains about some many things, you think you need to treat her a bit right but you struggle to do that.

Only few experience heartbreak and went back being the nice guy/lady they were. Speaking from experience

At the moment, myself, family and job over any lady. I love my job, it takes my time and thought away from a lady.

When I was jobless, a little misbehavior from her or quarrel breaks me down, and I think about it for a long time. This depress me, made me lost appetite and sleep. Today, my job takes everything, would be too tired to think about a lady. Will just sleep off. Very early next day, you're gone. Lagos kinda work

A good life it is but it doesn't make you a very romantic and caring guy but who cares?

amaraedec:
forgive my nativity brother, we all learn each day

foolinlove:


I disagree. I don't think people are commodities and can just be "replaced". Example: my parents can't be replaced. And I feel sorry for anyone who keeps such a detachment from others that you really don't get to know what makes a person UNIQUELY THEM. An irreplaceable individual who is special.

I'm not saying be over-expressive, I'm saying be honest - you don't want someone to get the wrong idea about how you feel. If you are not honest then you intentionally hurt someone that doesn't deserve to be hurt.

iamlimo:

Excuse me, is the translation necessary? the same way you eulogise Muhammad; the eulogy sounds violent atymz (SAW) like that horror movie... and if you don't put it, well I guess it's punishable by hanging and FYI you should learn to be consistent- its either God or Allah. Stand for what you believe in...

Irishrena1:

Okay can you tell me my own? How I will treat a relationship and respond to a breakup? My birth month is February, 14th precisely

amaraedec:
forgive my nativity brother, we all learn each day

olu77:


Bro, I don't understand your signature They threw one overboard how did that light up the boat??

savydo:
This is no advice. How can you tell someone in pains this?
@Op, you'll find other girls, some will still take you for granted but never take women personal.
NEVER TAKE WOMEN PERSONAL.
Always evaluate a woman's interest in you;if low interest, break up with her first and quickly.
A woman who cheats obviously doesn't like you,can kill you. That's disloyalty.

Take lessons on how to be a player -Google is your friend. Players don't take anything,including women, personal.
Incorporate the player mindset into your attitude, and you'll see success.
Learn to laugh more about everything.
Never contact that demonic girl ever again.

qualityalone:
Really understand how u feel. sometimes u are like a prisoner when it comes to love. I v been there. but one thing u should know is that u can forget her if u want to. U might think she's the best and only one for u. naa lie. like u said "posterity rewards fidelity". ( dnt be surprised some gals here on nairaland have fallen for u already cos of ur genuity & gentlemaness.lol) just give it time, u will find out that wat its in stock for u its far better than wat u v now. mind u, although u v two eyes, u can't look up and down at dsame time. Just let her go. focus more on God. His love is the best.

savydo:
This is no advice. How can you tell someone in pains this?
@Op, you'll find other girls, some will still take you for granted but never take women personal.
NEVER TAKE WOMEN PERSONAL.
Always evaluate a woman's interest in you;if low interest, break up with her first and quickly.
A woman who cheats obviously doesn't like you,can kill you. That's disloyalty .

Take lessons on how to be a player -Google is your friend. Players don't take anything,including women, personal.
Incorporate the player mindset into your attitude, and you'll see success.
Learn to laugh more about everything.
Never contact that demonic girl ever again.

redgem:


Seriously, what's your p?

yommen:

You are beautiful, externally and most of all, internally.

Harvigh:


WOW! Seems you were just talking to me. Thanks for this piece of advice babe

Heineken:
bro I love your comment but your nos 7 no too make sense sorry to say. This same thing happened to me during my nysc but what helped me then sharply was that I got another girl the following week and I forgot that rubbi.sh one. Getting a new girl sharply is better but he shouldn't love anyhow.

foolinlove:
You only have two choices.

1. Stay with her.
On the knowledge that she's a cheater and will do it again and again.

2. Move on.
Knowing that you will sleep easy as no one is cheating on you.

It is not an easy choice. She is your true love. No on can make that choice for you. Unfortunately, sometimes your true love doesn't love you back. I am testament to that. I have also tried to end my life over mu true love.

But if you choose option 2, you need to cut her off. The longer you have no contact with her the stronger you will be. Otherwise, she will be like a drug to you. You will crave her attention, when you get it you'll be high. So the best way is to cut off the "drug supply". Over time without her, the cravings will fade. You will move on.

Also, be honest in yout next relationship if you have one. Let the lady know that your ex is your true love. You need to be honest in everything, so that you don't pass on the hurt that has been done to you.

Bless and good luck.