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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Mzflow(f): 9:29am On Jul 13, 2016
My brother,can you please run?from the story she narrated to you(if it is true though) her mother would not want her daughter to go through what she went through,hence teaching her daughter how to "deal" with men...that can be really bad for you

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 9:47am On Jul 13, 2016
sammily, run away from such a family! They may have CHARMED that that man. Or 'humbled' and oppressed him with their money! Save ur own life ooo

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Desdemona(f): 9:55am On Jul 13, 2016
Subtlelad:
have seen cases like this, but in that case, the husband was terribly sick after misusing his money on another woman and left his original wife, now he's down with sickness and the wife don pack out so the original wife had to take him in when he's had no one.
Men can be like that sometimes, dont be shocked cause you never know what led the mom and her daughter to act that way...although i aint supporting their action.

A lesson for you when you get married, stick with your wife, stop doing 'olojukomolo'
A woman capable of such is capable of even worse. This is just the babe's side of the story. But whatever it is that happened, nobody deserves to be mistreated in such a manner; much less by ones own immediate family members. That is cruel! Op, u sef, how can you be in a relationship for 8months and not inquire about your partner's family? What do you guys talk about at meetings? All these you should have known even before having a formal meeting.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Godmother(f): 9:58am On Jul 13, 2016
OP,

You've been to that house just once and even though you saw a lot, most times things are not always as they seem. I won't support your fiancee and her mom's attitude but at the same time I wouldn't advice you to take hasty decisions. Take out time to investigate the situation some more. Spend more time with the family and subtly dig for information before drawing your conclusions.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by jashar(f): 10:21am On Jul 13, 2016
chiefolododo:
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

As in, run far;run wild.
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by tomquest: 12:19pm On Jul 13, 2016
Godmother:
OP,
Take out time to investigate the situation some more. Spend more time with the family and subtly dig for information before drawing your conclusions.

Spend more time to dig for information... to justify the ill treatment a father is getting in his own house from his wife and daughter? Is there any justification for a human being to be treated like scum by his own family? Even in the presence of a complete stranger? What should Op dig for again? His own grave?

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 3:25pm On Jul 13, 2016
tomquest:


Spend more time to dig for unformation... to justify the ill treatment a father is getting in his own house from his wife and daughter? Is there any justification for a human being to be treated like scum by his own family? Even in the presence of a complete stranger?

Are you high on Super Glue or what?

What should Op dig for again? His own grave?

The guy may be a CIA operative. Let's not be so hasty to discard the suggestions of others. grin
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Artistree: 3:55pm On Jul 13, 2016
Op, I'm a woman but I'd advice you get additional legs, add to what you have and do an Usain Bolt.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 4:14pm On Jul 13, 2016
My brother pls I beg you in the name of what ever you believe don't even think of marrying from that family. Ha some people can be so wicked oh, ha,


Abeg. Leave her . God will bring your own wife to you. But if you know you wold not mind becoming a slave later on to your wife, pls quckily go and pay her brideprice.
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by crackhaus: 4:27pm On Jul 13, 2016
Godmother:
OP,
Take out time to investigate the situation some more. Spend more time with the family and subtly dig for information before drawing your conclusions.
You mean am? shocked

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 4:33pm On Jul 13, 2016
Keep calm Bro, keep calm... and run for your life.
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by ADUNOKIKI(f): 4:54pm On Jul 13, 2016
OP,
I have £1,000,000 for you which is.

Pick her calls oooo. Act like nothing happened!!!!

Please any time you want to visit them don't eat in their house oooo.
Why? You may ask.....
The day a member of my mum church told my mum that her in laws before they married her children, she make sure they eat in house for a minimum of 3 times to complete a formality (all is inside the food Un knowingly to the would be husband or wife) of which pupu and some juju is in the food eaten by them. The charm work ooo and it's still working, except God liberate them.
My mum stopped eaten in anybody house, including parties..

The truth is you gf will fear any man that marry her can do what her Dad did. So your own case will be settled earlier by giving you the necessary charm to prevent you repeat what her Dad did.

Why? Because your gf is in support of her mum.

There is no point hearing the side of the Father, because he is already charmed. His conversation with you will be influenced by the charm.

I don't know your religion, but go into some days of fasting and prayer...you already know your prayer points!!!!!!


Also, do not sleep with her again since you are not married, She can finish you because you already have a sexual relation even though you are not married.

I fear diabolical people!!!!

Don't marry her ooooo. Except you hear go ahead from God, and you can pray very well.
But I can tell you God is not an author of confusion.
Marry her if you can pray very well...I mean very well... because that home is a battle ground.

When you marry her be rest assured you just kissed your own family good bye....cos they did that to her father family...who ought to liberate him...

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Ranchhoddas: 5:18pm On Jul 13, 2016
Godmother:
OP,

You've been to that house just once and even though you saw a lot, most times things are not always as they seem. I won't support your fiancee and her mom's attitude but at the same time I wouldn't advice you to take hasty decisions. Take out time to investigate the situation some more. Spend more time with the family and subtly dig for information before drawing your conclusions.
If na your brother na wetin you go talk be this? You fit get any justification for sending your papa fuel abi, turn am to zombie for house? OP if you like no run. Na you go still come open thread say your life don turn upside down after marriage. That time your problem go don big pass Nairaland. Na Mountain of Fire we go refer you to.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by RiloKiley: 6:06pm On Jul 13, 2016
@sammily,
In case you haven't heard the first 10 to 20 people telling you to run, let me add my own now.


RUN!


This is the exact same thing that happened to me, I was always meeting and hearing about the mother. Two weeks to my wedding I finally met my father in law to be. You should have seen the way they treated him with disdain! Even to the point of shouting in him in my presence. And I was wondering what I was getting myself into. But I decided to go ahead with the wedding none the less. My brother, I have been paying for the sins of the father in no small way. Just that I don't want to say much on social media. Even to the point of preparing my food Na wahala cos thier father used to boss them around when he was a somebody and now she doesn't want to serve my food cos she doesn't want to be bossed around. You will have to carry the baggage and insecurity your fiancee feels towards her father. Anything you do as a husband, your wife and her mother will compare to what the father did and will come at you with full force and you find yourself defending yourself at every turn. Even offences you are yet to commit you will find yourself paying for it.

My brother unless you feel u can shoulder such responsibility for the rest of your life I will advice you to pick race oh! My 2cents.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by freecocoa(f): 7:08pm On Jul 13, 2016
OP, while I don't support anyone being maltreated, you can't rule out everything your woman said because believe me you, I know a family like that back in the uni.

The man used to maltreat his wife and kids when he had some change, when things changed, the woman didn't forgive him, ergo did things to show him she was bitter at him, blah blah blah.

It's not news that some men are worse than the mythical devil when they have money, so you need to be sure before taking any decision, it's hard to know that your father maltreated your mum and still be nice to him.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by byvan03: 7:09pm On Jul 13, 2016
I don't care about the women not forgiving the past sins of their so called head of house hold. The unbridled hatred and disdain in the presence of a stranger is what's worrying. OP run!

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Deen77: 8:25pm On Jul 13, 2016
chiefolododo:
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

After this comment, I have nothing to say or add.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by IMASTEX: 8:26pm On Jul 13, 2016
chiefolododo:
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE
That is an under statement. He should vanish, disappear, wind, etc

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by fireforfire: 8:27pm On Jul 13, 2016
Only 8 months and ur proposing??
Biko run like u mean it.
By d time dey finish with u,d man will b better Dan u

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 8:28pm On Jul 13, 2016
Run or u will b the next. If possible, try aving a discusion with the man and knw wot s actual wrong.
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Kgdavid(m): 8:28pm On Jul 13, 2016
sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.


This piece is well written and meticulously edited. The story is strange and lacks salient facts. You took the time to upload a picture to add visual appeal.

I suspect that you, Mr. Op, are a writer testing your skills on the readily available sample.

Nice job though.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by nastyesco(m): 8:28pm On Jul 13, 2016
A since advise for You....RUN and never look back. If her father can get such terrible treatment. ...she will definitely do the same to you for a minute issue
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by misscall247: 8:31pm On Jul 13, 2016
sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.

Bros just thank god 4reviewin DAT 2u
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by YINKS89(m): 8:32pm On Jul 13, 2016
if a gurl could b comfortable like dat den imagine wah wld happen to ur parent wen dey kom visitin nd u re away.
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Enrichlee(m): 8:32pm On Jul 13, 2016
sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.

IMO, u got it all wrong from the start. U dated a lady for eight months to the point u proposed to her and u didn't for once ask about her background(Parents for that matter). U just assumed the dad was late. Broken engagement is better than future stories that touch the heart. The lady already has a mindset of men are not trustworthy and she will lack the forgiving spirit. Obviously not the marriage type!

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by nellyelitz(m): 8:32pm On Jul 13, 2016
Bros na God helped u exposed this o now call Usain Bolt or Asafa Powell for advice

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by oyejideogunjumo: 8:32pm On Jul 13, 2016
sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.

That was an eye opener for u , take or leave it
God has just spoken to you what you should expect at old age
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 8:33pm On Jul 13, 2016
What are you pple saying?
the man is is only reapibg the fruits of his bullshit
Its a simple case of payback.
Pls if she is caring go ahead and marry her

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Adesiji77: 8:35pm On Jul 13, 2016
chiefolododo:
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

Run baby, run cheesy grin
Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 8:37pm On Jul 13, 2016
freecocoa:
OP, while I don't support anyone being maltreated, you can't rule out everything your woman said because believe me you, I know a family like that back in the uni.

The man used to maltreat his wife and kids when he had some change, when things changed, the woman didn't forgive him, ergo did things to show him she was bitter at him, blah blah blah.

It's not news that some men are worse than the mythical devil when they have money, so you need to be sure before taking any decision, it's hard to know that your father maltreated your mum and still be nice to him.
God bless U
Someone who is willing to discuss the root cause of the wahala. I dont always agree with your posts
but on this one me and U are like

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by MsGlobalwonder(f): 8:37pm On Jul 13, 2016
Subtlelad:
have seen cases like this, but in that case, the husband was terribly sick after misusing his money on another woman and left his original wife, now he's down with sickness and the wife don pack out so the original wife had to take him in when he's had no one.
Men can be like that sometimes, dont be shocked cause you never know what led the mom and her daughter to act that way...although i aint supporting their action.

A lesson for you when you get married, stick with your wife, stop doing 'olojukomolo'

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