sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.

Lightening:


I am only teaching you life lessons. You desperately need it going by your posts which make you strike me as one of such carefree entities that pay little attention to the principles of life but will start screaming the devil when the evil consequences of their actions come calling.

Babzilla:


Slow down nah
Im not saying what they did is right.
But I understand why they are treating the man like that
As to your other opinion on me well thats your opinion and youre entitled to it

stunningjudy:
Free me

stunningjudy:
Free me

KevinDein:
understatement of the century.
According to Baby124, treating one's father like trash, is a small thing simply because he erred at some point in his life.
Nothing surprises me on nairaland anymore. Any kind of evil, no matter how grave, will have one or two posters trying to justify or rationalize it. I now understand that some people's conscience is dead. Those are the kind of people one needs to stay as far away as possible from.

sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.


That's exactly how u will be treated by ur her, very domineering and slavity.

sammily:
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.

baby124:

Look, no man can mistreat me and my children and even find my address when he is desperate ok? Her mother even tried giving him shelter. So after he must have abandoned them for ashawo and the mother did anything to raise her kids, she should now accept the cursed being into her life to keep eating her food and living from her sweat so he can resume carrying ashawo. Such things can never even happen in my home because my husband after messing up knows he cannot come back to tell me any story. Don't change your ways, continue... The one wey go meet you for front de wait you? E no go beta for the man we go do me or my daughters this kind thing. Thunder, lightening, brimstone! Sangoooo!!!

andyanders:


Were you there to confirm that the man did what you just stated herein? You should be reasonable enough not to take side when the story is one sided. That was the allegation made by the girl on her father. Even if the man did all that, does it warrant sending him to buy fuel in the presence of such a visitor? You must be heartless too as a human being. Note that the said lady would wanna paint the man black in the eyes of other people. Too bad for your comment. Your comment does not have any justification to the subject herein.

baby124:

Look, no man can mistreat me and my children and even find my address when he is desperate ok? Her mother even tried giving him shelter. So after he must have abandoned them for ashawo and the mother did anything to raise her kids, she should now accept the cursed being into her life to keep eating her food and living from her sweat so he can resume carrying ashawo. Such things can never even happen in my home because my husband after messing up knows he cannot come back to tell me any story.

Don't change your ways, continue... The one wey go meet you for front de wait you? Small mistake you say? You call abandoning your family for another woman a small mistake Why did he go back to who he treated badly? Are his girlfriends all dead?

Some of you talk of conscience but do things to other's you cannot take. This man is reaping the fruits of his wickedness and you are talking to me about someone's conscience being dead? Is it not your conscience that is dead? For you to call such a big issue a mistake? Women should fear you! Leave your name, date of birth, photo and address so women can run from you!

E no go beta for the man we go do me or my daughters this kind thing. Thunder, lightening, brimstone! Sangoooo!!!

KevinDein:
Baby124, trust me I didn't read this shiiiiit. The first line simply showed you were just gonna try and justify treating one's father with disdain since he erred at some point in his life. I will be wasting my time reading cos I ain't buying.
Sorry

baby124:

Good. I am disgusted by you discarding a very big transgression as a mistake. It shows your maturity level. Pls don't quote me again since you can't read.

baby124:

Opinions are like ass holes, everyone has them. How many women will forgive such an act? You ask him to run? But let me tell you, 90% of women will do worse. The man is obviously a shameless man to come back to a place where he has desecrated. Any man with honor will never go back to a wife he mistreated. Forgiveness you say? Let me tell you now that most people may forgive, but will never forget. So factor that into all the rubbish you do, thinking people will always forgive and forget your bad behavior. Being an adult comes with responsibility and not messing up purposely and hoping people will accept you back with open arms.
You ask that be be treated with respect in front of a visitor? Did he ever treat the mother with respect? You say I am judging by one side of the story, but you asked the OP to run based on one side of the story too?! After discussing my point you say it has no basis. Wtf are you on about? You are confusing yourself.

baby124:

Opinions are like ass holes, everyone has them. How many women will forgive such an act? You ask him to run? But let me tell you, 90% of women will do worse. The man is obviously a shameless man to come back to a place where he has desecrated. Any man with honor will never go back to a wife he mistreated. Forgiveness you say? Let me tell you now that most people may forgive, but will never forget. So factor that into all the rubbish you do, thinking people will always forgive and forget your bad behavior. Being an adult comes with responsibility and not messing up purposely and hoping people will accept you back with open arms.
You ask that be be treated with respect in front of a visitor? Did he ever treat the mother with respect? You say I am judging by one side of the story, but you asked the OP to run based on one side of the story too?! After discussing my point you say it has no basis. Wtf are you on about? You are confusing yourself.

Subtlelad:
have seen cases like this, but in that case, the husband was terribly sick after misusing his money on another woman and left his original wife, now he's down with sickness and the wife don pack out so the original wife had to take him in when he's had no one.
Men can be like that sometimes, dont be shocked cause you never know what led the mom and her daughter to act that way...although i aint supporting their action.

A lesson for you when you get married, stick with your wife, stop doing 'olojukomolo'

bet9ja:
This is very interesting and it a real lesson to all to learn from, most especially the ladies who will surely become mother tomorrow, Whatever you do to your husband or people around you, always think about the consequences because if you don't reap it today, your offspring will reap it tomorrow. Now the innocent young lady will be loosing her relationship due to her mother's predicament.

KevinDein:
Baby124, trust me I didn't read this shiiiiit. The first line simply showed you were just gonna try and justify treating one's father with disdain since he erred at some point in his life. I will be wasting my time reading cos I ain't buying.
Sorry

KevinDein:
understatement of the century.
According to Baby124, treating one's father like trash, is a small thing simply because he erred at some point in his life.
Nothing surprises me on nairaland anymore. Any kind of evil, no matter how grave, will have one or two posters trying to justify or rationalize it. I now understand that some people's conscience is dead. Those are the kind of people one needs to stay as far away as possible from.

Godmother:
OP,

You've been to that house just once and even though you saw a lot, most times things are not always as they seem. I won't support your fiancee and her mom's attitude but at the same time I wouldn't advice you to take hasty decisions. Take out time to investigate the situation some more. Spend more time with the family and subtly dig for information before drawing your conclusions.