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henrylowe:
It's not like I'm dull or something, since I aim at marrying her, I felt there was no need to rush sex

nnamdiokere45:
collect ur share n disembark

lagosflexcamp:
smh just listen to yourself. You be amateur sha that haven't understood how the mind of an average naija girl works. Look, if you have a gf and you are not bang**g her right, trust me, she will never appreciate you nor respect you as her man. If you like buy the entire world for her, her cold and cheating attitude won't change towards you. She will always *cheat* on u with another sharp guy.

Most naija girls don't want love( well they don't even understand what love means). What they mostly want is goodsex, your money and your bad boy behavior. I really pity amateurish guys like you sha. Na una dey show our naija girls love pass and na bad boys dey enjoy una girlfriends pass. lol

Op take heart sha bcuz na you fuckup, so don't blame ur gal

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand the fuss, you guys broke up, so why do you feel cheated? Its not like its your property, and she can give it to who ever she likes. She didn't sleep with him while you were dating, besides what's the probability you guys will end up married if you had been her first?

karryn:
everything abt my profile is real e suppose fke before?

Lavedaa:
So what's wrong with forgiving her?

If you didn't read well, I said if she's really sincere about the whole ish

hw would da op knw dat the gal is sincere



If da table turn around in dis case,tell me would u stil beg for the man to be forgiven?

cruzita:
my tongue is under lock

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand the fuss, you guys broke up, so why do you feel cheated? Its not like its your property, and she can give it to who ever she likes. She didn't sleep with him while you were dating, besides what's the probability you guys will end up married if you had been her first?

ITbomb:
If there are people I would really buy a beer for on nairaland, you are one. This is reality. Nigerian girls don't even know what they want

Adasun:
hw would da op knw dat the gal is sincere



If da table turn around in dis case,tell me would u stil beg for the man to be forgiven?

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

sben2308:
Bro av once been in ur shoe and I will ask u these questions

1. Do u love her ?

2. Y do u love her ?

3. R u dating her because is a virgin or cuz u love her ?

If u can answer these questions wit all honesty and u now discover u love her. I assure u that she will forever love u cuz am a living testimony.

Date woman cuz u love her not cuz she is a virgin .There is a difference

Smileprince:
Very interesting comments so far.

All I'll say is, that girl have started cheating on you OP before you guys broke up. That her behaviour of not responding well to you before you guys parted ways was as a result of her seeing someone else. And she probably wait for you to break up with her, when you did she was happy and moved on with her life.
Now after months she realised that the guy she went after doesn't love him. You'll definitely be the best person in her life and hence coming back to you. But the truth is she doesn't deserve you and if you don't leave her now you'll be tied down by having sex with her.

Sex would make you think she loves you. Please just let her go now before its too late.

lagosflexcamp:
smh just listen to yourself. You be amateur sha that haven't understood how the mind of an average naija girl works. Look, if you have a gf and you are not bang**g her right, trust me, she will never appreciate you nor respect you as her man. If you like buy the entire world for her, her cold and cheating attitude won't change towards you. She will always *cheat* on u with another sharp guy.

Most naija girls don't want love( well they don't even understand what love means). What they mostly want is goodsex, your money and your bad boy behavior. I really pity amateurish guys like you sha. Na una dey show our naija girls love pass and na bad boys dey enjoy una girlfriends pass. lol

Op take heart sha bcuz na you fuckup, so don't blame ur gal

nnamdiokere45:
collect ur share n disembark

leahcimzil:
son, you have my like

OlafenwaMoses:
wicked Soul!!!!!!

aduje:
You are a MAFIA...may be a sea man

manuel80:
lol..you're mean

Laveda:
Eiyaa

Please forgive her if she's really sincere about the whole thing, shít happens, that's if you really love her as you claim..

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

henrylowe:
I used to love her but not anymore... My love her was not attached to virginity... My only worry is that the trust is gone, which made me seek advice if it is risky or not to still embark on the relationship