Beamborla:

You really should have stopped at the first sentence...the insult attached to it is highly unnecessary.

The fact that I support what the OP is agitating for does not mean I support what she has made up her mind to do should her man be found wanting.

Oh! You saw where she was agitating for men to keep fit but you turned a blind eye to the part where she said she would cheat and you came here to ask why some guys are throwing stones at her like you don't know why.

If the dumb Op had come out to clearly state her agitations and then give solutions I'm very sure this thread will not turn out this way.

So if you came here to question why guys are against her instead of cautioning her against the aspect of cheating she made then it very well means you support the Op's dumb and lopsided mentality.

And when you support a dumb mentality you know what that makes you to be automatically.

LuvU2:
I need to fall in love over and over again. If his beauty crashes, as a result of neglect, I will look elsewhere

LuvU2:
*musing-* For real i cant stand a pot-bellied man for long
I cant stand a scruffy looking man for long
I cant stand a smelly man
I cant stand a man who is wealthy but looks messy.

Why would a man be wealthy and erm unappealing to look at? If anything, he should look the best.

He can afford to gym. He has time too. He is in the best position to always eat healthy and stay fit.

Why would he want to look like my dad after 2,3 years of marriage?

If ive planned to look good even after having kids. Why not him?
Yes i plan looking good like my mum.

I remember my dad started to grow belly fat in his early 40s and my mum wasnt pleased. She didnt voice it bt my dad sensed her displeasure and hit the gym asap, continuously, until he trimmed completely. Till today, he still visits...

Well, if my hubby would be insensitive, I will try to caution him, if nothing works, its not i may cheat, i would cheat on him.

*How a man looks matters a lot*

SalomonKane:
Well it's probably the same reason why your husband will cheat on you for being an empty headed girl.

LuvU2:
*musing-* For real i cant stand a pot-bellied man for long
I cant stand a scruffy looking man for long
I cant stand a smelly man
I cant stand a man who is wealthy but looks messy.

Why would a man be wealthy and erm unappealing to look at? If anything, he should look the best.

He can afford to gym. He has time too. He is in the best position to always eat healthy and stay fit.

Why would he want to look like my dad after 2,3 years of marriage?

If ive planned to look good even after having kids. Why not him?
Yes i plan looking good like my mum.

I remember my dad started to grow belly fat in his early 40s and my mum wasnt pleased. She didnt voice it bt my dad sensed her displeasure and hit the gym asap, continuously, until he trimmed completely. Till today, he still visits...

Well, if my hubby would be insensitive, I will try to caution him, if nothing works, its not i may cheat, i would cheat on him.

*How a man looks matters a lot*

naijaboiy:

Brainless kidults like you will just settle down to form a word that has no meaning, not even in your own messed up head.

I'm very sure if we check your family very well, your dad is no way near that perfect man you are looking for, yet your mother still stayed with him. Although i won't be surprised if she actually cheated on him though cos it's the same thing you learnt from her you are trying to emulate.
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And to think this wasted mgbeke prides herself of having a boyfriend abroad is even more sickening! Like what's so special in dating a guy abroad?

May God save you from poverty mentality!

There's a clog in your cerebral cortex and it would take much more than a neurosurgeon to save you.

Brainless, feather-brained vegetable with the IQ of a mole.


GTFOH! [/i]

Fabulocity:
Don Benjamin

Op trust me, if you indeed are in love with him and not just his physical body, you'd never want to cheat.

Trina0936:
Kai! OP I feel like kissing you even if I am not a lesbian

Abeg keep on firing these hypocritical men jare! Nothing does you!
The fact still remains that as long as you aren't having sex in exchange for money,you aren't an olosho!
Its not a crime for a woman to demand what she needs in a relationship. What is good for the goose is good for the gander!
Thank God my boyfriend is based outside this dump called Nigeria filled with hypocrites.
The ones shouting prayers are even those who cheat most! Stupid things!!
Quote me and get burnt badly! I so much detest hypocrisy!
BTW OP na u biko,take am

PushPlay:


i KNOW SOMEONE WHO NEEDS TO SEE THIS SHII, I SWEAR....

AS IF NOBODY EVER TRAVELED OUT OF THE COUNTRY IN THEIR FAMILY. SMH!

It's very obvious!

When people like trina0936 have never travelled abroad or don't even have a relative that has left the shores of Nigeria they begin to pride themselves and boast about simply because of one drug pusher they met on Facebook who is promising marriage and they've never met.

It's very baffling!

The dumb girl says men in abroad are not hypocrites and we Nigerian men are cave men. If it's not the media that tries to cover up for the people over there those who have actually travelled will know there's no much difference.

Na poverty mentality dey worry am!

naijaboiy:

Brainless kidults like you will just settle down to form a word that has no meaning, not even in your own messed up head.
I'm very sure if we check your family very well, your dad is no way near that perfect man you are looking for, yet your mother still stayed with him. Although i won't be surprised if she actually cheated on him though cos it's the same thing you learnt from her you are trying to emulate.
And to think this wasted mgbeke prides herself of having a boyfriend abroad is even more sickening! Like what's so special in dating a guy abroad?
May God save you from poverty mentality!
There's a clog in your cerebral cortex and it would take much more than a neurosurgeon to save you.
Brainless, feather-brained vegetable with the IQ of a mole.
GTFOH!

LuvU2:
Helo, its a man's world? wow i am just knowing. U mind showing me where it was stamped? That the world belongs to David Emeka and Kola?

Lol, honey i am free to have my say in this new world where women are becoming more assertive
.
Its no one's world. If there are rules, everyone shd keep them. If there are none stay off my Vg.

If these rules are biased, someone has to straighten them. If feminism can, then well, it should.

But in my my world, i hve a choice. I have desires. If my man fails to meet all, i would peep to see who has the rest. If he doesnt want no peeping, he has to give me his best.

naijaboiy:

Oh! You saw where she was agitating for men to keep fit but you turned a blind eye to the part where she said she would cheat and you came here to ask why some guys are throwing stones at her like you don't know why.

If the dumb Op had come out to clearly state her agitations and then give solutions I'm very sure this thread will not turn out this way.

So if you came here to question why guys are against her instead of cautioning her against the aspect of cheating she made then it very well means you support the Op's dumb and lopsided mentality.

And when you support a dumb mentality you know what that makes you to be automatically.

3rdlegxxx:


I hardly quote and reply peeps on here, reason being most Nigerians are htpocrites no offence, they lead a fake life, they all pray and call God for every single thing on every single thread yet they do the worse, we are the most corrupt, eye service is an infection which has eaten into most people's brain cells, a lot of people would say one thing on here and do the exact opposite in the real world, the OP made some points, she was blunt about it, probably went a bit extreme but i guess it worked and hit enough nerves, one funny guy said maybe she didn't grow up from around here, that's how messed up most people low iq mind set are in Nigeria, you think so low about yourselves that when someone makes a sensible observation, worse if that someone is a female, you find an excuse to define her, maybe she is an olosho, maybe she is not from around here, maybe this, maybe that, so you guys main points are that MOST NIGERIAN GIRLS SHOULD BE DUMB, NEVER REQUIRE HAPPINESS, NEVER WANT A GOOD LOOKING GUY TO STAY GOOD LOOKING, the way we guys love and lust after good looking girls even tho u all have have one girlfriend or wife so when she stops looking that good, your eyes turn outwards, a girl attempts to want same and everyone wants to eat her alive, true she took the cheating part a bit too far, there is more to love, marriage than good looks but i got her point and it makes perfect sense, guys world wide try to stay fit and good looking for their self, your mental state as it gives off confidence and fitness and also for their girlfriends and wives, nothing wrong with it at all. my piece and nice comment dear....

0ubenji:

I must commend u on the ability to stir up a controversy against urself...it takes a smart mind to concoct such successfully.
That's the beauty in media stunts and publicity. Kudos mehn

firstking01:
Smh, she's already giving excuses why she 'll cheat on her husband…May God deliver us from every adulterous wife IJN...AMEN.

Beamborla:

My stand was clear in my initial post. You were just too eagerto dish out insults and you still are.

I addressed exactly what I was concerned about. Those who see no reason why men should keep their body in good shape.

Enough with the insults already. If you can't do without it, mentioning me has got no consequential effect on your e-life...you can do without it.

Thank you!

kayfx2:


Lool..IndecentStar alert!!!! Handle says it all...

3rdlegxxx:


Funny i just noticed both your replies, bro naijaboi u need to chill, it's messed up when a guy can't handle an argument when a girl raises a point without referring to insults rather than intelligently drive home punch lines packed with easy but real and true words, i am not a fan of taking sides until i have an idea of the state of minds of the people having a go at each other or when one starts a topic like this.

Laveda:


Oh Dee

What I do?

3rdlegxxx:


Funny i just noticed both your replies, bro naijaboi u need to chill, it's messed up when a guy can't handle an argument when a girl raises a point without referring to insults rather than intelligently drive home punch lines packed with easy but real and true words, i am not a fan of taking sides until i have an idea of the state of minds of the people having a go at each other or when one starts a topic like this.

Hey! Püssy nigga, I see you.

I know you want to asslick every girl on this thread but you can do that without mentioning my handle.

Do that and we are cool.

Beamborla:

My stand was clear in my initial post. You were just too eagerto dish out insults and you still are.

I addressed exactly what I was concerned about. Those who see no reason why men should keep their body in good shape.

Enough with the insults already. If you can't do without it, mentioning me has got no consequential effect on your e-life...you can do without it.

Thank you!

I'm sorry if I may have come off too blunt in passing my message but we have to call a spade a spade.

Everybody has the right to whatever opinion he/she pleases, but a dumb opinion will forever remain a dumb opinion. I just couldn't look at it and pass. surely everyone cannot be passive, some of us just cannot overlook bullshyte when we see one.

You're welcome.

Laveda:


I don't think a lady who's really ready to settle down will be out there looking for a man with six packs.
Let her come back when she's 30.

naijaboiy:

What I do?

3rdlegxxx:


U know Laveda, not taking sides with the OP or anything, this is one of the problems killing lots of African and Nigerian marriages, people are forced to settle for less because the society, family expect this from you, friends, peer and the entire country already has a mindset of manage him as long as he has money and is ok then u guys get married and u start wishing later on you had a guy who cared about a few things about his looks and all that, she went abit too far with the cheating thing, that part made no sense at all but ur points makes me sad, maybe because i know what it feels like to have a sister, cousin, friends grow up in a different climate and see how they reason, they live life to the fullest, chase dreams, seek their ideal guy, break up if necessary, don't see marriage as the ultimate goal that a woman's time is not on her side like we say here and u have to admire them for that because they show you that a girl that want, dream, like and not have to settle for less, we here are the opposite, we really don't want happiness, we just want to feel fulfilled, i have finished school, i have a job and now i am married, yes i am now normal like everyone else, it makes sense but wanting more is also normal, i feel the OP used the cheating part to get traffic and it sure did work, a lot of people are here bashing, swearing and dying over what could be just some words to force a reaction and might not really reflect the OP's ideal man or honest opinions... but what do i know, it's none of my business.

Laveda:


Dee don't mind some of these girls here..
Its either they are still in their early teens or they just choose to be stup!d

Trust me with time their sense of reasoning will change

I honestly believe you. I do.

But last I checked being a teenager is not an excuse for failed reasoning. Most times it's what you are groomed with as a young person that you'll carry as you grow.

People like this Op often have to learn the hard way before they change their mentality.

Filmdirect:
Read almost all the comments. Very interesting. I also deduce that a lot of men here are responding from a hurt ego. The fact is men don't want to imagine that women think like them and have expectations. They can complain about a fat woman or wife, and cheat with a young fit thing but it is shocking a woman can see them the same way. That is hypocrisy, but egos are hurt, I understand.

Bottom line cheating is wrong but being pot bellied, round puffy face is unattractive. It just is. I don't understand why a lot of Nigerian men let themselves go. Working out is not a chore, if anything it lowers cholesterol, high blood pressure and other medical ailments.

In my home we are fit. The whole family. I go to the gym three times a week with a personal trainer and run twice in addition. I don't live in the gym. These moments are 45mins a day. My hubby thrice a week for an hour and he is a very busy man, but most of it is we eat very healthy.

So egos and insults aside, the fact is letting oneself go is unattractive and so off the times we live in.

Op I know you will not cheat but if you prefer a healthy man date someone who has a lifestyle of fitness. There are men like that.